Feanah:
But the truth is some women are taking the feminism thing too far....I don't support oppressing women at all,and I believe a woman should know and stand up for her rights....but some things being done in the name of feminism don't make sense at all.

Amicable24:

The bolded is the one I don't just gbadun at all.. It's a man's world they say, they are free to do anyhow. The woman on the other hand is not allowed the freedom.. There are some things I don't pray for sha

bitchcrafts:
While I'm in no way opposable to the prospects of Feminism , I don't see to the practicability of it. The odd feeling that it won't just work lingers... It's principles too simple and straight, promises too good and sweet to be true; ideals too perfect for an imperfect human. . . Equality is a false god ! I hope u grab?

joseph1832ng:
Some things like what and what?

Feanah:

So many things, I'm not an advocate of feminism when it comes to family.Like women not cooking for their husbands and taking care of their house like they should.They take these things too serious and it ends up affecting their marriage attimes.Doing these things doesn't make you look like a slave,it's only bad when he doesn't appreciate it.For me,I'd rather both parties retain their position in the family setting but respect each other.I remain the wife,and he remains the husband and breadwinner;two heads can't rule a family equally.What I can't take is you disrespecting me in anyway.
I come back late at times from work or I'm very tired when he's at home ,nothing wrong with him going into the kitchen to cook something for us.I need to tidy up the place or do the dishes,instead of him watching the television,he can help me out...and we do everything together while talking about how our day was.He's in a financially tight situation,I help him with what I can for the family.I think it's all about understanding though some men can be difficult.
Funny thing is some women who seem to support the equality thing , don't think it should be an 'equality' thing when it comes to providing for the family.
I don't know whether I'm the one who got the equality thing wrong or them.

Feanah:

So many things, I'm not an advocate of feminism when it comes to family.Like women not cooking for their husbands and taking care of their house like they should.They take these things too serious and it ends up affecting their marriage attimes.Doing these things doesn't make you look like a slave,it's only bad when he doesn't appreciate it.For me,I'd rather both parties retain their position in the family setting but respect each other.I remain the wife,and he remains the husband and breadwinner;two heads can't rule a family equally.What I can't take is you disrespecting me in anyway.
I come back late at times from work or I'm very tired when he's at home ,nothing wrong with him going into the kitchen to cook something for us.I need to tidy up the place or do the dishes,instead of him watching the television,he can help me out...and we do everything together while talking about how our day was.He's in a financially tight situation,I help him with what I can for the family.I think it's all about understanding though some men can be difficult.
Funny thing is some women who seem to support the equality thing , don't think it should be an 'equality' thing when it comes to providing for the family.
I don't know whether I'm the one who got the equality thing wrong or them.

oloyede252:
I agree with you that your parents marriage is nothing to write home about,but they are in the minority so no problem.

wait How many Nigerian states have you visited? later you will say it's bad to generalize.

raumdeuter:


Have the foreign ones been something to write home about? In the US the divorce rate is in the region of 50% Maybe they are copying the Nigeria marriages

Joy1706:

Where did I write about my parents marriage? You must be blind

Joy1706:

They are definitely happier wives abroad. It's not all about the length of a marriage

Feanah:

So many things, I'm not an advocate of feminism when it comes to family.Like women not cooking for their husbands and taking care of their house like they should.They take these things too serious and it ends up affecting their marriage attimes.Doing these things doesn't make you look like a slave,it's only bad when he doesn't appreciate it.For me,I'd rather both parties retain their position in the family setting but respect each other.I remain the wife,and he remains the husband and breadwinner;two heads can't rule a family equally.What I can't take is you disrespecting me in anyway.
I come back late at times from work or I'm very tired when he's at home ,nothing wrong with him going into the kitchen to cook something for us.I need to tidy up the place or do the dishes,instead of him watching the television,he can help me out...and we do everything together while talking about how our day was.He's in a financially tight situation,I help him with what I can for the family.I think it's all about understanding though some men can be difficult.
Funny thing is some women who seem to support the equality thing , don't think it should be an 'equality' thing when it comes to providing for the family.
I don't know whether I'm the one who got the equality thing wrong or them.

Joy1706:

They are definitely happier wives abroad. It's not all about the length of a marriage

pocohantas:



I don't know who is getting the definition of feminism wrong, but from my own understanding it simply means, treat me first as human, don't stereotype me because of my sex, give me a chance to prove myself.

Feminism didn't ask any woman to neglect her home o...
Some people are equating feminism to arrogance, probably because of the kinda feminist they have seen or their understanding of feminism...which is wrong. Feminists can have happy homes contrary to popular belief.

Any woman that does any of those things you mentioned is simply a bad example of a wife. She could be a feminist or not. There are women in the village who know nothing about feminism putting up worse attitude. It's all in the mind.

joseph1832ng:
Ah! The truth at last. Such women are liars and deceivers of themselves and other foolish women.

Lawlahdey:
I love you sis

Feanah:

So many things, I'm not an advocate of feminism when it comes to family.Like women not cooking for their husbands and taking care of their house like they should.They take these things too serious and it ends up affecting their marriage attimes. Doing these things doesn't make you look like a slave,it's only bad when he doesn't appreciate it.For me,I'd rather both parties retain their position in the family setting but respect each other.I remain the wife,and he remains the husband and breadwinner;two heads can't rule a family equally.What I can't take is you disrespecting me in anyway.
I come back late at times from work or I'm very tired when he's at home ,nothing wrong with him going into the kitchen to cook something for us.I need to tidy up the place or do the dishes,instead of him watching the television,he can help me out...and we do everything together while talking about how our day was.He's in a financially tight situation,I help him with what I can for the family.I think it's all about understanding though some men can be difficult.

Feanah:
they are

pocohantas:



I don't know who is getting the definition of feminism wrong, but from my own understanding it simply means, treat me first as human, don't stereotype me because of my sex, give me a chance to prove myself.

Feminism didn't ask any woman to neglect her home o...
Some people are equating feminism to arrogance, probably because of the kinda feminist they have seen or their understanding of feminism...which is wrong. Feminists can have happy homes contrary to popular belief.

Any woman that does any of those things you mentioned is simply a bad example of a wife. She could be a feminist or not. There are women in the village who know nothing about feminism putting up worse attitude. It's all in the mind.

armyofone:
The idea of husband and wife working and bringing home the bacon while teaming together to raise their kids and build a home is not feminism but teamwork in our present day marriages.
So African men would rather go hang out with friends, drinking beer to stupor, eat suya and toasting chics while their working wives do the homework and raise kids alone?

YourCoffin:
Me, I abhore feminists. I have always been anti feminism. If that makes me an oppressor, I wholeheartedly accept.

I think a new label should be invented. This feminism label no longer holds water

bukatyne:


Oya start

bukatyne:


Interesting

Why?

Feanah:

So many things, I'm not an advocate of feminism when it comes to family.Like women not cooking for their husbands and taking care of their house like they should.They take these things too serious and it ends up affecting their marriage attimes.Doing these things doesn't make you look like a slave,it's only bad when he doesn't appreciate it.For me,I'd rather both parties retain their position in the family setting but respect each other.I remain the wife,and he remains the husband and breadwinner;two heads can't rule a family equally.What I can't take is you disrespecting me in anyway.
I come back late at times from work or I'm very tired when he's at home ,nothing wrong with him going into the kitchen to cook something for us.I need to tidy up the place or do the dishes,instead of him watching the television,he can help me out...and we do everything together while talking about how our day was.He's in a financially tight situation,I help him with what I can for the family.I think it's all about understanding though some men can be difficult.
Funny thing is some women who seem to support the equality thing , don't think it should be an 'equality' thing when it comes to providing for the family.
I don't know whether I'm the one who got the equality thing wrong or them.

joseph1832ng:
Yes it's a man's world, so they say. But believe me, nobody if holding you back from living your life the way you want to live it.

Remember the saying "respect is reciprocal". I always tell people: "show people how you want to be treated".

Lemme borrow the signature of creme de la creme friend creamish: "one will be regarded as sh1t when one look and act like sh1t, and sh1t knows no class".

That's just the truth of it.

ElsonMorali:


While I agree that the man should man up and do whatever it takes to make the life of his woman a lot easier, which includes making dinner once a while, bathing the kids, changing their diapers (ewwww), rubbing her back and giving her a massage, generally treating her likehis queen that she is, yet I think we all know why men are reluctant to do these things.

You cook once, next thing she's gonna draw up a roaster of some sort sharing kitchen duties with you equally. And when you don't do it she gets miffed.

I'm not married, but from my interaction with married friends, that's the idea I got from them.

You bathe the baby once, then it becomes your life long duty and she'd be pissed at you if you fail at it.

Thank God we don't have breasts. We may end up sharing breastfeeding duty too.

Feanah:

It depends on the kind of woman and the man too - and the kind of family you come from.
My father is somehow like that,loves taking care of his kids himself & even himself (the little things he can do himself,he doesn't make anyone do them for him,) . Doesn't mind my mum travelling once in a while and leaving him with the kids. I'm not going to go into details,but he's different & it hasn't affected the way my mum performs her duties in any way,maybe it even made her act better.
Till date I'm conflicted about who I love more between him and my mum because he is unique, not like the usual dads you see in some homes.
I'm not telling you my family history o,but even if you can't do some things for your wife....do them for your kids, it will help shape your relationship with them & will make them love you more.
And yes,I've heard of instances where the husband tries to help and things go wrong; maybe these women grew up in an environment where they hardly come across such things.

If you think it's because my parents are old,I've friends too in their 20s whose husbands help them out a lot; and when we talk attimes, all they do is praise them (the husbands) . So nothing to worry about really,if you get a good woman.