uzolexis:



This afikpo chick is jobless sha, Linda explained her definition of rich as someone who is successful and does not stifle her and the fickle minded woman is saying which African man won't stifle his wife Like for real Is this how African women see themselves, that their men have the right to stifle their dreams, women, we are our own worse enemies I swear.

repogirl:
I must say I love your ideas. There is nothing wrong in being your own woman, a self made woman. A good man will encourage his woman to be the best she can be and not stifle or hold her down. Many problems in our society can be traced to domineering men who believe it should be their way or the high way.

When they see a woman who does not need their bullshit and wants to be her own person they get touchy.

Many say they don't want gold diggers who will latch onto them, take their shi.t and kiss their ass for material things but when a woman who has got her own says she has a certain standard, they get really pissed as if a woman can't have standards as they themselves have their own standards.

Although I believe the type of person Linda wants is fictional and she might be deluding herself, it's her choice to make. She will live with it afterall, so guys saying sh.it should back off. If Linda thinks this is what will make her have a happy marriage, abeg leave her and go and find the one that will conform to your own requirements. Simple.

Even when you enter market, you price what you like and what you can afford not what is above you or beneath you. Everyone is entitled to their choices, right or wrong.

mctowel01:

I couldn't help replying this. You re still a kid. When you grow up and learn that misfortunes can take one to bottom zero, and completely unplanned circumstances can raise one high, you won't be talking thrash... See her mouth *ayaff God and ayaff hands and legs* Like its how it happens.. Millions going to church everyday, with brain, hands and legs today ko. You are simply with a kid's brain. Anyone mentioning this lady is simply wasting his time, just a child behind the screen.

Beamborla:

I'm exhausted already. The amount of hate comments coming my way only shows that we still have a long way to go in this country.

And yes, 'it's good advice' from the good ole' lady.
Now ladies should see no wrong in being stifled and men sure have the right to do that.

...and hey, you have no right to decide what type of man you want.

repogirl:


Life is very real. No man can posses all those qualities she mentioned, even Tyler Perry sef has plenty issues. There are rumours he is gay and he isn't even married.

Certifiedboss:


She's just giving her opinion and not forcing it down her throat . The lady speaking is also successful even if she might not be as successful as Linda which I'm not certain about

Beamborla:

Then don't waste your time. How do you expect a kid like me to comprehend your highly matured and intelligent submission?

sirusX:

I am not against your opinion on a lady having her choice in a partner, cz I understood what you meant.
What others have been trying to make you understand is more about humility in a woman looking to become a wife.

What got me a little bit worried was the bolded statement you made...that mindset of you forcing your view on someone who hasn't said such would leave someone with the impression that this is how you think.

When you look down on others as less fortunate, that doesn't make you better than them.

@ bolded...I dunno why you keep saying this.
I am trying to get ur idea on this, but is that a general thought you have when it comes to marriage?

In a person, one should be looking out for the personality/character and how the person builds and complements you.
Rich or poor, no one knows who God has destined to be their partner. We just have to open our eyes and heart to see that diamond in the rough. That poor person might be the one that lifts you up beyond your imagination...it might not be the person's billion dollar idea, but maybe the peace the person brings to the home.

Weird enough, I have heard ladies make your last statement over and over, and many opting out cz they want a life of comfort...but only few good ones see the grace behind a hardworking man trying to make things better for his family.

wedeonline:
This has to be the best post from a feminist i have read in a long while..As a successful woman knowing how ro find the balance is key when relating to men.. Make them feel like the head and respected at the end its a win win for you. If she lives just as she as wrote she is definetely a 21st century wife material.

Onyiridike:

You are crazy and arrogant as well. If your mother and other mothers had refused to marry, where will the daughters come from? Out of wedlock? Obviously, you are not a true christian?

I am pitying any man that will marry your type. Even if you have a boyfriend, the boy should have his head examined.

truthsayer007:


But sista, you sef get time o, I was reading your replies from yesterday midnight till this morning..Chaii hehehe

Beamborla:


At least someone understands my concern.

Advice should be given not telling her she does not have the right to choose what she wants. Not telling a woman she can't have it both ways. Not telling her she can't escape being strifled in her marriage cos we are in Africa and African men are just good at that.

I'm not a fan of Linda and she mentioned him being successful in his own way which I believe is smth you mentioned in your post. This is not just about Linda

You are righ, however and I do not dispute your stand.

What I'm just against is hushing a lady up for setting her own standard. A lady made me realize here that women do not have the right to make 'preference'...exact word she used.

Why

igboboy3:
Rubbish

This lawmaker had better hope she wins re-election, otherwise by 2019, she'll go back to penury.


Better to be single than to be in a bad marriage

Going back to Penury??
I don't think you have the pinch-salt of idea who that woman is]

Beamborla:

Some opinions are harmful. Linda alone won't read that. Thousands of young ladies would read the opinion and could come to believe that being stifled in marriage is proper and acceptable, that they can't be successful and still have a man of their dream.

Certifiedboss:


Linda can choose her man of her dreams quietly without dropping criteria like it's a job offer where qualified candidate come and apply. Even you have the choice of man you want but I don't believe you listed out the criteria on your social media so qualify candidate come for you . She's making her search for a man look like a big deal .

TonyeBarcanista:

I agree with you once again. Every woman have right to state their preference of the kind of man they want as husband/boyfriend. No woman should be vilified. If she end up not meeting a man of such a standard, she's left to either lower her taste or remain single. Whatever path she follows, she will bear the effects of it alone-maybe along with her family. Same applies to men.

On that lady, I think you miss her point, the lady was simply saying that women should set standard that is "realistic"(from the conventional perspective). How realistic is realistic? That's her own headache. What is realistic for Dangote's daughter may be unrealistic for the average girl on the street. What is realistic for an educated Bimbo may not be realistic for an uneducated paraga selling Bilikisu. Bimbo may say "my husband must be educated" but should the uneducated Bilikisu say that people will look at her like "you no serious o". It doesn't mean Biliki has no choice, it simply means she should be realistic. Like I do say, the word "realistic" is relative. THIS ALSO APPLIES TO MEN

I think you now understand the point your friend was trying to make? Both of you are right but only coming from different perspective.

Sunglow:
If Christ ain't the foundation, then that Union is in Soup.You build on Christ, the ONLY solid foundation, noting else.

bobo65:



How many rich young man, who is equally successful will wanna spend his life with a 36 years old lady?

See eh, I never get money o, but I can't marry someone like this cos on d long run, her pride will make me start looking out of the marriage

Plus Menopause sef

Abeg if u do talk to Linda, tell her Men dat are not rich (tho not church rat poor) think better and are more faithful than d rich

Beamborla:
She said she can't marry a poor man, let her be. She is successful and have the right to turn down a poor guy.

When men talk about the standard they want, they don't get hushed up.

martyns303:
She don't have to lower her standards, if she eventually didn't get married, its her decision.

dasparrow:
Maybe because life expectancy in Nigeria is so low (52 years according to the UN) that is why you people consider a lady in her mid thirties to be old. You people keep shouting menopause when you have women in their forties and even fifties bringing forth healthy babies. Is Janet Jackson not carrying her pregnancy gracefully at the age of 50? Did Singer Beyonce's mother not remarry at the age of 60? It is only in Nigeria that you people keep placing expiration dates on your women. In other parts of the world, women even in their 60s are getting married. My cousin right here in Nigeria gave birth to quadruplets - three boys one girl - at the age of 50 after over 15 years of marriage and trusting God for the fruit of the womb.

If God says Linda will someday become a mother, then it would happen. If God says Linda will someday become a wife, that will happen too because God's word is final. Personally, I don't see Linda Ikeji marrying a Nigerian or African man. I think she is better off with a westerner, you know, someone from a first world country. Same thing with Genevieve Nnaji, I also see her with a westerner as well not a Nigerian man. Nigerian men don't seem to cope too well with very successful women especially when they are not successful themselves. Allow Linda make her choice because at the end of the day, she would be the one to have to live with it. Thank God for the internet, Linda can snag herself a white hubby online or hook up with someone when next she travels out of Nigeria for vacation.

repogirl:
I must say I love your ideas. There is nothing wrong in being your own woman, a self made woman. A good man will encourage his woman to be the best she can be and not stifle or hold her down. Many problems in our society can be traced to domineering men who believe it should be their way or the high way.

When they see a woman who does not need their bullshit and wants to be her own person they get touchy.

Many say they don't want gold diggers who will latch onto them, take their shi.t and kiss their ass for material things but when a woman who has got her own says she has a certain standard, they get really pissed as if a woman can't have standards as they themselves have their own standards.

Although I believe the type of person Linda wants is fictional and she might be deluding herself, it's her choice to make. She will live with it afterall, so guys saying sh.it should back off. If Linda thinks this is what will make her have a happy marriage, abeg leave her and go and find the one that will conform to your own requirements. Simple.

Even when you enter market, you price what you like and what you can afford not what is above you or beneath you. Everyone is entitled to their choices, right or wrong.

dasparrow:


Maybe because life expectancy in Nigeria is so low (52 years according to the UN) that is why you people consider a lady in her mid thirties to be old. You people keep shouting menopause when you have women in their forties and even fifties bringing forth healthy babies. Is Janet Jackson not carrying her pregnancy gracefully at the age of 50? Did Singer Beyonce's mother not remarry at the age of 60? It is only in Nigeria that you people keep placing expiration dates on your women. In other parts of the world, women even in their 60s are getting married. My cousin right here in Nigeria gave birth to quadruplets - three boys one girl - at the age of 50 after over 15 years of marriage and trusting God for the fruit of the womb.

If God says Linda will someday become a mother, then it would happen. If God says Linda will someday become a wife, that will happen too because God's word is final. Personally, I don't see Linda Ikeji marrying a Nigerian or African man. I think she is better off with a westerner, you know, someone from a first world country. Same thing with Genevieve Nnaji, I also see her with a westerner as well not a Nigerian man. Nigerian men don't seem to cope too well with very successful women especially when they are not successful themselves. Allow Linda make her choice because at the end of the day, she would be the one to have to live with it. Thank God for the internet, Linda can snag herself a white hubby online or hook up with someone when next she travels out of Nigeria for vacation.

laudate:


Well said!! In fact, I dash you 10,000 likes for this post. But you can never tell.... Linda Ikeji and Genevieve Nnaji might end up getting married to Nigerian men who do not have the hang-ups & biases that you just mentioned up there. No one knows tomorrow!



Another great submission. I love your take on this, especially the part where you said: "A good man will encourage his woman to be the best she can be and not stifle or hold her down." May more men become such good models of exemplary behaviour.

PeridotBelle:


You don't get it do you? She never said that Linda can't have her dreams but like she said, Linda can't have it both ways and she gave a good explanation to that.

Linda should be ashamed of herself for making that statement, she has already even threatened divorce when she is not even married yet!

Which man on this earth will not try to even if it's once in a while stifle the wife, huh?

My dear, women empowerment is a good thing, but if it's not checked and the foundation properly built, the next generation is going to be horrible.

demzylahot:
Beamborla, I hrt you...
I love you submissions, you've not lost your temper despite the barrage of insults hurled at you

Testerfuze:

No offense ma, you should stop trying to argue out your points because they are too contradictory. One moment its A and the next second its B, i tried comprehending your piece but its just not sinking in my brain.
And where you really knocked me off was when you played the equality card, i shaperly gave up.
Take for instance, funke akindele is a very successful lady with lots of accolades and there-in yet still single at 38. I never heard funke bitching about her man should be this or that or be a certain "Tyler perry", instead she just focused and the right man came at the right time.
You are entitled to your opinion anyway, stay safe ma.

MizzD:


I love all your submissions.

I wonder why men get all touchy when women state their standards. Inferiority complex maybe? And then the next thing is to start threatening with menopause, etc . Same people will gladly criticise you if you rush in and out of marriage out of societal pressure. This lady has worked her ass off whether legally or illegaly to get to where she is. She has every right to 'choose'.. Heck every human being has every right to his or her choice of partner.
By the wa with the insecurity displayed by Nigerian men, I don't even think she can have it peaceful with a poor /lazy man. Few months into the Marriage, he'll probably be on twitter accusing Linda of sleeping around or her mum of using his head..

warmachine:


I smell lack of wisdom...mtchww...u are one of those crazy women hu thinks a man is another woman...well...I don't blame you...its obvious u don't understand marriage... Thank God it was a woman that gave her that advice...you too...learn and be wise