Skyfornia:
This Afikpo Chic is talking rubbish...you are almost 40 without husband yet you are giving another lady tips for a successful marriage? Which kain irony be this? Free Linda joor...she said she want someone who is successful, the problem is many people don't know the meaning of being successful...they think someone having too much money is being successful. A guy who manages a 10 thousand naira business very well is successful. A student who passed his exams is successful, if I put my mind to do anything and I achieve positive result at the end, I'm successful!

PeridotBelle:


Babe chill, so long as Linda is still a woman, she earned no right, you know why? Because it's the man that marries a woman not the other way round! she can only wish and those might never come to pass!

Like I told you early the creator of mankind who made the woman from the rib of a man did so for a purpose, it was never a mistake. God could have easily molded another human in form of a woman for Adam, but he went to the great stress to causing Adam to sleep and taking his rib.

Society is destroying the foundation of marriage and relationships and the results are what we hear eve ryday, divorce and men beating their spouses.

uzolexis:


correcting is not the same thing as putting to order, my man can correct me if i'm wrong and i can correct him as well if he id wrong...simple

LesbianBoy:


Rubbish! She has no right to turn down a poor guy! Who made her rich in the first place? No be guys? Rich MUMU guys!

PeridotBelle:


No one is talking about correction here your man must once in a while put you to order if you tend to go astray, you know why?...because he is the MAN who you have to be under and submit to. There can never be two captains in a boat

Men have ego and that's why they are Men and even if he does not like it or want to, if you try to over spread your wings, your man will put you to order, but it's left for you to take it, remain in your home and seek an understanding with him or you simply walk out and finally spread the wings to its fullest width and length

Sunglow:
Who told you that her wishes can't come to pass, are you God, she has the right to chose what she wants.

And been poor is not just IN MONEY TERMS, but also mentally. Poor is not attractive at all, if it were EVERYONE will aspire to be poor!

zeribe4real:
this woman just said the whole truth like a mother,
But that z nature, women find it difficult to marry a man in the same level with them, not to talk of the ones below them, and if it happens that a woman makes money/fame b4 marriage, it will constitute a problem for her, that z d problem with female celebrities and highly educated women, they find it difficult to compromise and that z why men are leaving them to marry other submissive women.

zeribe4real:
this woman just said the whole truth like a mother,
But that z nature, women find it difficult to marry a man in the same level with them, not to talk of the ones below them, and if it happens that a woman makes money/fame b4 marriage, it will constitute a problem for her, that z d problem with female celebrities and highly educated women, they find it difficult to compromise and that z why men are leaving them to marry other submissive women.

PeridotBelle:


It just amazes me how you all are not concerned that Linda did not even mention love, rather she went about wealth and picking qualities her man must possess.

Sunglow:
My dear i am married, and with time you would discover is not only love that sustains a marriage.

truthsayer007:


Lol, abeg let us hear word. For Your Info, Linda ikeji is having a lot of suitors coming her way that are doing financially well but not just extremely rich. She is a Billionaire, (not millionaire But Billionaire) , How will she ever be humble to any man?

She's very arrogant to every guy coming her way. Her problem is arrogance Not Poor man.

If she wan talk now, She go dey mention Tyler perry. Mtchew !!! Na another person husband dey hungry am

Annalise:


Who is the feminist here? Afipko chick that was deported from the US for running a prostitution ring abi? This woman is the igbo version of Kemi Olunloyo.

uzolexis:



except we are both reading a different article, the bold says he doesn't have to be rich but successful in his own way meaning her measure of success is not riches. I want a successful man cos i'm a successful woman as well and still climbing the ladder of success, i'm not rich but I can confidently say I am successful. my measure of success is someone who knows what he wants and goes after it and excels in it...that's success for me, nobody wants a failure, failure is unattractive.

warmachine:



Lol....u make me laugh....ladies this days...I smell mental bankruptcy (no offence intended)..but Sha kontinue...nna eh I wonder what my son will get married to?....

TonyeBarcanista:

Been following the conversation from page 1, and I have to admit that ...

Anyway, if I get you correctly, you are saying that the choice of Linda should be respected and she shouldn't be vilified for setting her own standard because she is a woman. Am I correct?

The problem with your position is that you are yet to realise that the Nigeria society is one that gives advice to our neighbours. If Linda wish for her opinion to be private, it is best she keep it to herself.

My Dear, the worst poverty is not lack of money, it is having a poor mindset/ideology about money. Money is good but setting standard for "rich man" showed that Linda is still mentally poor. Success is relative, Bill Gate is richer than Dangote but both are successful. Anybody can be rich, it is matter of luck, grace and hard work (for some). A determined person with vision will be rich in no time. I think Linda (and women generally) should look out for guys that are successful or potentially successful or guys with right attitude towards money.

It is a shame that Linda is still suffering from mental poverty despite being a billionaire.

@Your Bold: Spot On! God give you your own man!

amanikondo:


But a rich man can marry a poor girl.

saintandsinnerz:


No, we are not reading a different article and I perfectly understand what Linda meant! She made it clear that she can't marry a poor man but a rich guy. What she meant (judging by her insinuations) in saying "he doesn't have to be rich" is that he is not expecting him to be rich like Ifeanyi Uba or Tony Elumelu, but he should be rich all the same! Do you regard a man who earns a monthly income of N100000 rich and successful? Is he a poor man? I asked this because a man who earns such amount cannot be regarded as a poor man neither will he be seen as super rich. The question now is judging by what Linda said, can you honestly say she can marry such a man? Don't get me wrong, I'm not against Linda's choice of wanting a rich dude to marry,what I'm against is you people trying to obscure the meaning and intentions behind what she said.

Vanillaskin:

You say that it is better happily single than tearfully married
My dear, who told you that single people don't cry again or have difficult moments? That it is all fun and games begin single? There is pain and joy in every part of life, that's just a fact of life
You say marriage or childbearing is not the peak or the purpose of a woman's existence
But to Auntie Linda it seems to be because of the way she keeps talking about it like she is running some sort of subtle marriage campaign for herself
You say mothers start teaching their girl child that becoming a Mrs. is not what your life is all about
But the Bible which we all love so much and always like to make reference to by saying "is it in the Bible" says that it is not good for (man/woman) to be alone
You say the male spicie is not doing us any favour by marrying us
Hate it or love it, a man must marry a woman, a woman can't marry a man

uzolexis:


you know, she said successful in "his own way". Someone who earns 100k/month is definitely not poor and can't be called rich as well but he is doing ok. My understanding of that word [b]in his own way [/b]means the person should be confident and proud of what he is doing and not feel intimidated by her own wealth, not feel less of a man cos his wife earns more than him. If you are confident with what you do and always striving to be better, no matter how little that is, you are already successful.

bobo65:



How many rich young man, who is equally successful will wanna spend his life with a 36 years old lady?

See eh, I never get money o, but I can't marry someone like this cos on d long run, her pride will make me start looking out of the marriage

Plus Menopause sef

Abeg if u do talk to Linda, tell her Men dat are not rich (tho not church rat poor) think better and are more faithful than d rich

uzolexis:


you know, she said successful in "his own way". Someone who earns 100k/month is definitely not poor and can't be called rich as well but he is doing ok. My understanding of that word [b]in his own way [/b]means the person should be confident and proud of what he is doing and not feel intimidated by her own wealth, not feel less of a man cos his wife earns more than him. If you are confident with what you do and always striving to be better, no matter how little that is, you are already successful.

igboboy3:
Rubbish

This lawmaker had better hope she wins re-election, otherwise by 2019, she'll go back to penury.


Better to be single than to be in a bad marriage

PeridotBelle:


Agreed, but what is the foundation?

Beamborla:

Oh puhleeze! Spare me that.

Because she's a woman she's not free to have standard? Because she's a woman she should settle for anything. When your spicie rant about what they want, it's perfectly okay, isn't? But a woman is suppose to lower her standard.

There are better way to pass across your message without resulting to insult. You however, do not even have a message to pass across.

She has earned the right to reject a poor guy. And yes, she won't be the last woman to have standards. If it was a rich dude who made such statement, you lot would come up with a zillion reasons to affirm his claim.

Suck it up... Poor is not attractive especially to the rich even to the poor.

saintandsinnerz:

Well, what I understand by her comment is that the person must be successful both materially and career wise, hence she gave an example of Tyler Perry as being the kind of man she dreams of having. We all know that Tyler Perry is a rich and successful songwriter, actor, playwright and so on. Well, you may be right I may be wrong, but I really do read meanings into people's statements to be able to make inferences or conclusions on what they like or dislike. We all do this!

superstarDikk:
Lets be sincere to ourselves, Linda has plenty money but age is not on her side. in other words, she is old. What if all the rich guys say they won't marry an old mama? The lady said ' no condition is permanent' and she is right. Go ABJ go see as hitherto big and wealthy boys de sell their houses. you think say dem build am to sell am?

Fourwinds:
according to d writer., her marriage has failed before it started... I tell u d truth....it will be so.. u cannt serve devil and God at same time

Beamborla:


That's the problem. Quit threatening women with menopause... It's better to be happily single than tearfully married.

Marriage or childbearing is not the peak or the purpose of a woman's existence. It's time mothers start teaching their girl child that becoming a Mrs. is not what your life is all about.

If it happens beautifully, fine! The male spicie is not doing us any favour by marrying us.