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i have a big fear of rejection and a very quick temper! i only wish i wasnt so admirable in the eyes of girls,over the years of being admired and complimented i have formed a personality disorder that has made my ego too big to approach any girl and also i have a very quick temper. the secret behind dating is u must be ready to put up with bullshit, but how do i start..dunno wat to do. pls advice

you're not feeling too big it's a fear of rejection. just man up and ask that girl out.

It's a good thing u aware of it.

Why not work on it and give reltnshp a try.

As for fear of rejection, what makes u think u will b rejected?

Eglobalma:
i have a big fear of rejection and a very quick temper! i only wish i wasnt so admirable in the eyes of girls,over the years of being admired and complimented i have formed a personality disorder that has made my ego too big to approach any girl and also i have a very quick temper. the secret behind dating is u must be ready to put up with bullshit, but how do i start..dunno wat to do. pls advice

Bro seriously we a on same page on d tnkin of rejection. Dat makes me single till dat.

Aldo am still young movn toward mid 20.

olihilistic:
you're not feeling too big it's a fear of rejection.
just man up and ask that girl out.

Nice advice bro. Tnks

shams040:
Nice advice bro. Tnks

checked my siggy??

sinaj:
It's a good thing u aware of it.
Why not work on it and give reltnshp a try.
As for fear of rejection, what makes u think u will b rejected?

had it been you're a boy. you would understand what the Op is saying. girls are so crazy they like playing with somebody's emotions. like a girl I greeted when I was in library that day. I stretched my hands for her she rejected it in front of a big crowd. I felt like the earth should open and swallow.me. I go still pay her back sha.

Eglobalma:
i have a big fear of rejection and a very quick temper! i only wish i wasnt so admirable in the eyes of girls,over the years of being admired and complimented i have formed a personality disorder that has made my ego too big to approach any girl and also i have a very quick temper. the secret behind dating is u must be ready to put up with bullshit, but how do i start..dunno wat to do. pls advice

I know that feeling.. I guess you have read books on how to become an Alpha male and bad boy? I must admit, I had and still have the same problem.. I feel it's not worth it complimenting, wooing a girl. since girls want to be treated like a Queen. I have got no time playing the mind games. I feel weak telling a girl she's beautiful, does she worth it?
I took this online personality test and the result as having "fear of rejection" funny tho.. I don't know how to be very nice. I have got to be the Alpha.

...And na so gáy life take dey start

sinaj:
It's a good thing u aware of it.
Why not work on it and give reltnshp a try.
As for fear of rejection, what makes u think u will b rejected?

well every girl have her specs..u cant know if ur her spec

its lik ur talking about me here

mine be say, when the girl finally accepts
within one week , we will separate

If I can ask a guy out, you can

Eglobalma:
i have a big fear of rejection and a very quick temper! i only wish i wasnt so admirable in the eyes of girls,over the years of being admired and complimented i have formed a personality disorder that has made my ego too big to approach any girl and also i have a very quick temper. the secret behind dating is u must be ready to put up with bullshit, but how do i start..dunno wat to do. pls advice

You can't be so admirable and complimented by girls and yet suffers from low self-esteem. Or how does one explain your fear of rejection?

If you were a prince charming as claimed, then you should know that girls will be dying to hear you say "hello", not nursing the fear of rejecting your sorry arse.

However, I'd advice you to work on your temper. Dude, be a gentleman, and shake off your low self-esteem.

Captainbells:
If I can ask a guy out, you can

my sis ur ugliness no be here, how u do it


#idonbilivit#

Captainbells:
If I can ask a guy out, you can

It is very easy over there but not in Nigeria. People often forget the cultural chasm between the west and Africa. Telling a bimbo to approach a guy in Nigeria is counterproductive and self-defeating. She will get used and dumped. The best she can do is to offer a green light to the would-be-guy.

Captainbells:
If I can ask a guy out, you can

It is very easy over there but not in Nigeria. People often forget the cultural chasm between the west and Africa. Telling a bimbo to approach a guy in Nigeria is counterproductive and self-defeating. She will get used and dumped. The best she can do is to offer a green light to the guy. Africa men are like the lion, we don't value what we didn't suffer for. It is a somewhat masochist mentally whereby stress or suffering brings joy and fulfilment.

Captainbells:
If I can ask a guy out, you can

please ask me out

Splinz:
You can't be so admirable and complimented by girls and yet suffers from low self-esteem. Or how does one explain your fear of rejection?

If you were a prince charming as claimed, then you should know that girls will be dying to hear you say "hello", not nursing the fear of rejecting your sorry arse.

However, I'd advice you to work on your temper. Dude, be a gentleman, and shake off your low self-esteem.

dude u dont know the full story. i cant take any pride from any gir after been adored for years by girls. i can beat her up..do u know how many girls i have insulted cuz they tried to form for me? its my anger issue. when girls tell u ur beautiful everytime u can either be a player that can tolerate anything to get daily pussiess or u will become a sociopath with an ego problem so yeah i wish i turned to a player.

mrblessed:
It is very easy over there but not in Nigeria. People often forget the cultural chasm between the west and Africa. Telling a bimbo to approach a guy in Nigeria is counterproductive and self-defeating. She will get used and dumped. The best she can do is to offer a green light to the would-be-guy.

Once met a Nigerian guy on IG
I sent a DM actually!
It went from DM to exchanging numbers and him finally paying me a visit!
There are still some guys in Nigeria who likes it straightforward as it comes!


Op identify what you want and why you want it.
Do not let fear influence your decisions and actions..

So let me understand something, you're so fine that it's gotten to your head. And then you also hit ladies? Well that's just weak.
The way I see it, if you can beat a lady then you're ugly inside and out. Do something about your temper, maybe after that you can have some self worth.

Captainbells:
Once met a Nigerian guy on IG
I sent a DM actually!
It went from DM to exchanging numbers and him finally paying me a visit!
There are still some guys in Nigeria who likes it straightforward as it comes!


Op identify what you want and why you want it.
Do not let fear influence your decisions and actions..

What you narrated mirrors a process, one involving caution and wary before intimacy. I think it is natural. In the dating game in Nigeria, women are at the receiving end. I think they need to play hard while discerning who a serious guy is. And for a guy who can't approach a woman, so many factors are involved. At the bottom of it, however, reeks inferiority complex. And to compound issue for this dude, our ladies won't make that move. They are waiting for you. Make it now!

ButterFrost212:
So let me understand something, you're so fine that it's gotten to your head. And then you also hit ladies? Well that's just weak.
The way I see it, if you can beat a lady then you're ugly inside and out. Do something about your temper, maybe after that you can have some self worth.

i never said i beat up anyone. this is why i just stay single in peace..abeg yall can go and die. dont need any bitchh. too much drama, see how u hv twisted wat i wrote to mk me look bad. u all are too much drama, if konji worry me i know where to go..cant habour yall dramatic asss

mrblessed:
What you narrated mirrors a process, one involving caution and wary before intimacy. I think it is natural. In the dating game in Nigeria, women are at the receiving end. I think they need to play hard while discerning who a serious guy is. And for a guy who can't approach a woman, so many factors are involved. At the bottom of it, however, reeks inferiority complex. And to compound issue for this dude, our ladies won't make that move. They are waiting for you. Make it now!

It one thing to not approach a woman and it's another thing to not "know" how to approach a woman.
From OP's comments, I think he still needs to sort himself out. Anger wise
Dude said he's likely to beat up a girl who turns him down? Really!
He's better off being single with his obnoxious self.

Eglobalma:
dude u dont know the full story. i cant take any pride from any gir after been adored for years by girls. [/b]i can beat her up[/b]..do u know how many girls i have insulted cuz they tried to form for me? its my anger issue. when girls tell u ur beautiful everytime u can either be a player that can tolerate anything to get daily pussiess or u will become a sociopath with an ego problem so yeah i wish i turned to a player.

Perhaps I jumped into conclusion wrongly. But still get down from your high horse and start appreciating ladies.

Eglobalma:
well every girl have her specs..u cant know if ur her spec

what happens to making her ur casual friend b4 jumping to dating?

olihilistic:
had it been you're a boy.
you would understand what the Op is saying.
girls are so crazy they like playing with somebody's emotions.
like a girl I greeted when I was in library that day.
I stretched my hands for her she rejected it in front of a big crowd.
I felt like the earth should open and swallow.me.
I go still pay her back sha.

it's an individual trait.

She didn't do dat to u coz u a guy but prolly do it other people too.

Just because she was rude to u doesn't mean other girls will b rude to u too.

Eglobalma:
i have a big fear of rejection and a very quick temper! i only wish i wasnt so admirable in the eyes of girls,over the years of being admired and complimented i have formed a personality disorder that has made my ego too big to approach any girl and also i have a very quick temper. the secret behind dating is u must be ready to put up with bullshit, but how do i start..dunno wat to do. pls advice

..huh??...juss .watch blue movies an you be fine!!

sorry o

sinaj:
it's an individual trait.
She didn't do dat to u coz u a guy but prolly do it other people too.
Just because she was rude to u doesn't mean other girls will b rude to u too.

OK sina thanks for throwing more lights. stay blessed.

olihilistic:
OK sina
thanks for throwing more lights.
stay blessed.

amen nd u too