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"All I needed to learn in life I have learnt since I was a child" says a noble motivational writer in one of his classic motivational books.

While this may be accepted for our Mr. Motivational, same cannot be said of everyone else: every human being is distinctively distinctive that is, there can only be one Mr. Motivational. This said, it wont be arrogant to live with the humble assumption that we all, irrespective, still have reserved chairs at the table of learning in life. Especially relationships.


1.Taking No For An Answer: Daniel is your friend and he is wow. He has got them cute face and nice swag. You have checked it no doubt, it is no joke. You like him, maybe love so you muscle up the courage and tell him, but cute Daniel sees no future in it: he said no. So you say, ‘if it ain't me, then is no one.'

Taking no for an answer can come in handy; I mean really tough. Theoretically easy, practically tough. Most especially if you have this kind of protected pride (I wouldn't call it ego), but then it's always the best shot you have got in such scenario. Humans you know, are not machines with a remote button you press, so you can't always have yes for everything, even the deepest desire. Learning to take a no for an answer helps avoid unforseen danger to self, and to friends.

2. Learn To Understand: And so it's Valentine. You have got this list on your to do, quite expensive list I must say. Told boo about it, and you noticed him playing McMahon. Didn't go cool with you because you felt you deserve it: the movies, beach party, the trip, shopping and all that. But boo is trying to explain why it's not the best option, and you wouldn't take that. It's Philosophically unconvincing.

One important aspect of life that makes itself applicable to humanity as an entity is the spirit of understanding. And one dangerous still delicate aspect of life that needs that most is relationship. Understanding your partner when it comes to decision making is really, really crucial. No one is stupid in life: everyone has reasons for action they take, whether sensible or not. But then what is commonsensical is defined by our sense of judgement. Take it from me friend, everyday is not Christmas: learn to understand. It makes things a lot easier.

3. Learning To Say Sorry: So I have got this friend. He had this misunderstanding with bae. Quite not nasty but draggling. Squash it with pal, can't you just get over with this, just say sorry and that will be it for it I said. Not quite easy, my friend grinned, would have done that if it is. He has the protected pride.

Saying sorry again, can come in handy. I guess that makes it two. My friend cared more about himself, his protected pride. He is a man I know, but being a man it's more than be recalcitrant. It doesn't hurt to say sorry people say, so if it doesn't why are you finding it difficult to say sorry to save the relationship for the sake of love?

Life they say is not a bed of roses, but I say what if you plant those roses, will life still not be a bed of roses? The fact that it's not working for some, doesn't mean it can't work for you. Like I do say, it all depends on you.

Well, no one is an island of knowledge: we live to learn and we learn to live. There will be always this thing, this experience you have had. You may want to share with Nairalanders, you know, can't tell, it may be just that hint needed to save that trying relationship.

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