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why is it so damn hard to find an awesome guy who’s going to treat you right and not bail the first time temptation comes his way? Here are nine reasons.


HOOKUP CULTURE HAS TAKEN OVER.
Although I would never knock hooking up, it has replaced dating and even relationships. Men don’t want to be with one woman only, if they have an entire buffet at their disposal.

PEOPLE HAVE TOO MANY OPTIONS.
While it’s good to have options, it can be bad when there are too many options. At any given moment a guy can sit down at a dating app and immediately have endless options of women from which to choose. Because of that, it’s hard for them to give one woman a shot for more than a hot minute.

LOTS OF GUYS ARE HOLDING OUT FOR SOMETHING “BETTER.”
It’s a sad thought, but in a world with so many options, people can become immersed in the idea that something better might be just around the corner. Because that’s the case, it’s hard to find a man who wants to commit when they’re thinking that the next woman they meet could be perfect ― whatever perfect is.

MARRIAGE IS BECOMING OBSOLETE.
Once upon a time, people couldn’t wait to get married. Although it was likely due to the fact that they would finally be able to do the deed the reality is that these days people are in no rush to get married, so therefore, they’re in no rush to get into a relationship or settle down. And if a guy’s friends aren’t married, he sure as won’t be the first one to do it.


SOME MEN ARE INTIMIDATED BY POWER.
In comparison to the past few decades, women are more independent than ever. This success and power, for some reason, can be intimidating for some men who, perhaps, realize that they’ll never be the “man” his female partner is.

TECHNOLOGY HAS CREATED DISTANCE.
How can anyone possibly find a good man or anyone at all when we live in a world where technology rules and our most intimate relationships are with our iPhones? We can’t.
More at http://www.akelicious.com/2016/11/9-reasons-its-so-damn-hard-to-find-good.html#more

wondering why this is in the politics section

is a mistake pls

Really?

Dnt say dat. Good "mens" are out there. U only attract people like ur type Meaning if u are gud,God will gv u a good guy definately and if it is the other way round toor....

Thought girls prefer the "bad guy persona"??
Apparently the "good guys" are now the much celebrated "bad guys"

Who told you??

There are good guys out there but they are mostly broke. Guys who don't have money are not prone to cheating. The problem is with you women who would rather go for successful men who are powerful enough to have any woman they want. If u go for a broke guy and hold him down he will think twice before hurting u ones he becomes succesful.

briandaman:
There are good guys out there but they are mostly broke. Guys who don't have money are not prone to cheating. The problem is with you women who would rather go for successful men who are powerful enough to have any woman they want. If u go for a broke guy and hold him down he will think twice before hurting u ones he becomes succesful.

Lool in a way that might be true (actually in most cases it is).

My partner doesnt work not because he cant find work but because when he had work any lady he dates always ask him for money and usual stuff so he decided to stop working and since he is a University student he is not really affected that much.

Then I came into the picture and I didnt care that he wasnt working because at his age I never expected him to be working maybe doing something on the side etc since we are only in our early 20's. It doesnt matter what job a guy is doing as long as he is hustling to make ends meet that is all that matters really. I am not much to banter over what a guy earns or whether he is broke or not. As long as he isnt lazy and he is caring, understanding, honest and trusworthy and God fearing then that is fine. Plus I work as an engineer myself so I dont see no reason why a lady should be after a guy for money. A woman's role is to help her future partner to bring up a home not to destroy it and misuse it. Your meant to help your partner and likewise.

A lot of girls fail to realise this that yes Money is important but not that important (i.e to survive yes but not to live a lavish and expensive lifestyle. You must first work hard and later on you can enjoy all you have worked hard for).

Ladies my age (22) dont really see this its only when they reach maybe around 30 or so they start to re-think but by that time its too late.

I learnt this from a very young age (9) from my God mother. Mama mi eseun oo (without her I dont even want to think what I would have become today and also thank God)

Lol I know its off topic but just wanted to share my two scents

their are good men everywhere, but its your duty as a woman to bring out that good nature in him, secondly.. the way women present thier self to us makes us treat them bad in most occasion e.g..




i met a girl on thur, slept with her thesame day, on friday she started asking me money for hair, tell me how on earth can i ever be good to such cheap girl?