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Many that are into relationship or in married keep making some mistakes that makes their spouse start suspecting them, not because they have forgotten that trust is attached to many things in the relationship.

This topic is centered around the mobile device. This device, as small as it is, it can destroy a trust no matter how gigantic you have built it. This is why we must be careful with it.

When you are dealing with your calls, chats and what have you on this device you need to thread with utmost caution.

If you don't want your spouse to start doubting your trust don't do any of these:

1. Don't ignore call

Yes, it might be that the caller is one pain in your neck that you are trying to ignore. It might also be that the caller's issue cannot be resolved at that point in time, possibly because you are with your spouse or something else.

Whatever the case may be, you must try all your best to give explanation, it might even be brief but you need to let your spouse know why you refused to answer the call even if he/she did not ask.

2. Don't go private to answer your calls

Because you don't want your spouse to hear your conversation you go private with all excuses such as; there is noise here, the network is not so good here etc. meanwhile you just picked another call before that came in and it was perfect.

The truth is that it might be ladies talk or men's talk you wish to discuss, but going private will make your spouse curious with other thoughts in mind which might even be different from the aim of that call especially when he/she is not familiar with the caller.

3. Don't set security codes on device

What i mean here is that even if you set security codes on your device your spouse must be able to open them. You shouldn't set restrictions to what your spouse can do on your device, you are meant to know everything about each other.

The moment your spouse is unable to access something on your device, some other thoughts starts ringing.

If you do any of the above, don't blame your spouse for doubting your trust because you have set boundaries.

Human beings are not spirit to know what you are doing behind them, neither are we woods that curiosity isn't part of our attributes.

Those three things might look small but very powerful and the moment you give a space for your spouse to start doubting your trust, that same moment you start seeing things you have not been seeing in him/her.


Source: http://bamisepeters..com.ng/2016/12/your-spouse-will-not-doubt-your-trust-if.html

Honestly, I've never understood the need to tread carefully when it comes to married couples and phones. What could be more personal than you and your spouse?

People get up to no good, knowing for a fact that when no good backfires they'll have to act sorry. There's suppose to be nothing more personal than you and your spouse....unfortunately..

jagugu88li:
Honestly, I've never understood the need to thread carefully when it comes to married couples and phones. What could be more personal than you and your spouse?

People get up to no good, knowing for a fact that when no good backfires they'll have to act sorry. There's suppose to be nothing more personal than you and your spouse....unfortunately..

you are right though, but that is what life has turned into, the more we advance the more the trouble we attract.

Na to kukuma give her the phone na and have her answer my calls.

I wan do soapie

first timer here

No entiendo

Don't lie to your spouse and do not hide anything from your spouse.

Mchew

Ok. We haff heard you

Let him doubt....mstcheeewww....

It's not my fault he has a very low esteem

rship experts everywhere you go

I don tire to read relationship matters.

Can we talk about money?

And dnt deny him sex......cos he might think you are getting it somewhere else

Chai, this one will be hard o!
But its doable so far she does the same.

Laveda:
I don tire to read relationship matters.

Can we talk about money?

Will u do ritual? I have one hot babalawo.. Sango always pick his call

Even if you do all these things, stay under their watch for 24 hours, trust me women will still doubt you.

mikkypel:
Will u do ritual? I have one hot babalawo.. Sango always pick his call

Apart from babalawo, no other legit means?

Then again, money is money.

that list is totally parochial , Text msges,

How true ?

Nice one op but i disagree with point 3.

you can always open ur device for her if she really want to make use of it, but saying one shouldn't set security code is a no no...


what if the owner misplace his phone? that's they essence of setting security code.

The points seem to me valid

jagugu88li:
Honestly, I've never understood the need to thread carefully when it comes to married couples and phones. What could be more personal than you and your spouse?

People get up to no good, knowing for a fact that when no good backfires they'll have to act sorry. There's suppose to be nothing more personal than you and your spouse....unfortunately..

pussy it is tread carefully.

Laveda:
Apart from babalawo, no other legit means?

Then again, money is money.

Since u know money is money.. Are u in?

steppin:
Na to kukuma give her the phone na and have her answer my calls.

Before nko?