Ladies often times make statements like he's not ready for marriage or he's not a serious guy,and one often wonder what they mean.The truth is some of these so called unserious guys are actually serious about getting married but are not [i]well positioned or prepared to actually get married.So,there's always a misconception, misinterpretation and generalization when some guys are referred to as unserious or not ready.

Below are some of the reasons for such statements;


1.When a guy doesn't have a reliable source of income

A jobless man is considered unfit for marriage and is viewed as unserious even when he's actually serious in the real sense of it.This poses a big question...why would a jobless man want to get married?Ladies do not take this type of men serious as they automatically disqualify them from their list of prospective[i] husband[/i].

2.A guy who stays in a one room apartment

It is assumed that a serious minded guy who has plans for marriage and wants to raise kids in the nearest future should be able to rent at least a 2 bedroom flat as ladies expectation regarding this is quite high.While a guy who stays in a 3 bedroom is considered as suitable,he might not really be ready for marriage but most ladies see such guys as ready and suitable for marriage.

3.A guy who stays with friend or family

Most ladies cherish privacy with their supposed partner as it avails them the opportunity to spend quality time together,but when a guy still shares an apartment with friends or stay with his parents,it often sends wrong signals to the lady and she wouldn't hesitate to go for a guy who stays alone.

4.A guy with low income

Some ladies do not find these category of men attractive and cannot weather the storm with low income earners.They have a strong appetite for men with six figure salary e.g Bankers,oil and gas workers,medical doctors etc and would do anything to have them as husbands even when it's glaring that such men are not interested in them.

if the guy is truly ready he will show he is otherwise the lady is right

One room apartment in good areas in Lagos is nothing less than 200k excluding agency fees.

Except you are talking of Face me I slap you.

Omo of she's not Ok with one room apartment or low income in this recession, she shouldn't bother marrying sef.

truthsayer007:
One room apartment in good areas in Lagos is nothing less than 200k excluding agency fees.

Except you are talking of Face me I slap you.

Omo of she's not Ok with one room apartment or low income in this recession, she shouldn't bother marrying sef.

Bros, that's the thing with some ladies, they want everything set for comfort.Only few are willing to manage.

freakthingz:
if the guy is truly ready he will show he is otherwise the lady is right

what if she doesn't give you the chance to show that u're serious and she dismisses you already based on your current situation?

Olubi15:
what if she doesn't give you the chance to show that u're serious and she dismisses you already based on your current situation?

Where there a will there is a way but if you've tried your best to show her your commitment then theres nothing else you can do

Either she herself is not ready, she doesn't love you or she wants an easy life and is not prepared to grow/hustle with you and therefore is not worth your time move on and keep working hard to better your situation

you don't know the future wahala you might have escaped

freakthingz:


Where there a will there is a way but if you've tried your best to show her your commitment then theres nothing else you can do

Either she herself is not ready, she doesn't love you or she wants an easy life and is not prepared to grow/hustle with you and therefore is not worth your time move on and keep working hard to better your situation

you don't know the future wahala you might have escaped

you're right bro.

Olubi15:
you're right bro.

Trust me if she puts in the effort you're putting in yall can survive in one room. If your hustling you should be out of the house by six a.m home by six, spend time with with wifey, have dinner, relax and sleep.
You don't need a mansion to survive

I know of family of live seven living in one room and hustling...the place is clean the children are neat, healthy and well educated na team effort

freakthingz:


Trust me if she puts in the effort you're putting in yall can survive in one room. If your hustling you should be out of the house by six a.m home by six, spend time with with wifey, have dinner, relax and sleep.
You don't need a mansion to survive

I know of family of live seven living in one room and hustling...the place is clean the children are neat, healthy and well educated na team effort

Yea, there are ladies who would gladly stay with you in a single room, It's jst that they are few of them who would do that.

A lady and HE'S not ready. Smh. Add illiteracy to that list too.

Olubi15:
Yea, there are ladies who would gladly stay with you in a single room, It's jst that they are few of them who would do that.

Hehe a lot are just really materialistic and stuck up but hopefully the humble and real one are still out there.

AngelSweetLips:
A lady and HE'S not ready. Smh. Add illiteracy to that list too.

Guess how I know you rushed to comment without reading?

Abusing person when na you fuc up

lol how girls jump to conclusion

freakthingz:


Guess how I know you rushed to comment without reading?

Abusing person when na you fuc up

lol how girls jump to conclusion

Don't make me read all that

AngelSweetLips:


Don't make me read all that

U're funny.

AngelSweetLips:


Don't make me read all that

Oya let me gist you

Basically o.p meant what women say when they think their bf aint serious about marriage.....

I no go lie I bin think the same thing before I read am


Really cute lips btw.

Olubi15:
U're funny.

Oya I'm sorry for jumping

freakthingz:


Oya let me gist you

Basically o.p meant what women say when they think their bf aint serious about marriage.....

I no go lie I bin think the same thing before I read am


Really cute lips btw.

Thank you lovely

OK. I'm gonna read it right now and see what all the fuss is about. Although I'm not the type to judge a man by financial means. I'm blessed to be able to look after myself. However I could understand in a land where women have the odds stacked up against them that they will need a man more than want one.

Marriage and bride price and all that wahala is tough on the women as well as the men because society and family put the pressure on them to aim high. If a Ladies value is summed up in £&$&N# why should a man get away with not meeting his end of the bargain.

See me chat before I read ok brb. Modified : yep just as I thought. Men must play their role since women are commodities to you guys ie virginity, bride price, polgmy, bearing Sons etc...

A guy with no reliable source of income should never think of getting married.

LaCruzz:
A guy with no reliable source of income should never think of getting married.

Interesting.

So she shud marry one of those eeeehn, op if she is ur sister will u agree??

Bubblewitch:
So she shud marry one of those eeeehn, op if she is ur sister will u agree??

I'm not suggesting she marries any of them but is it wrong for her to marry a low income earner? Is the guy going to remain on that level forever?And where's the place of love?

naijaboiy:
Well it's not compulsory to be married is it? So it's very obvious that some people don't ever want to be ready for marriage.

True.Some wants to get married but are financially incapacitated.

AngelSweetLips:


Thank you lovely

OK. I'm gonna read it right now and see what all the fuss is about. Although I'm not the type to judge a man by financial means. I'm blessed to be able to look after myself. However I could understand in a land where women have the odds stacked up against them that they will need a man more than want one.

Marriage and bride price and all that wahala is tough on the women as well as the men because society and family put the pressure on them to aim high. If a Ladies value is summed up in £&$&N# why should a man get away with not meeting his end of the bargain.

See me chat before I read ok brb. Modified : yep just as I thought. Men must play their role since women are commodities to you guys ie virginity, bride price, polgmy, bearing Sons etc...

Perhaps you should, unless you want to live in a Hut or a Face me i slap you kinda house ! You should also ask yourself if you can marry a guy without a Car cuz lets not lie women luv comfort like crazy !!!

truthsayer007:


Perhaps you should, unless you want to live in a Hut or a Face me i slap you kinda house ! You should also ask yourself if you can marry a guy without a Car cuz lets not lie women luv comfort like crazy !!!

I'm not like that. I live in a different part of the world and I have my own home. I love comforts just as much as the next person but it's not be and all.

AngelSweetLips:


I'm not like that. I live in a different part of the world and I have my own home. I love comforts just as much as the next person but it's not be and all.

I see, you are not a Nigerian lady. Your realities is far different from ladies in here.

This are hard in Nigeria to say the least, so a lady also has to choose a spouse who could give her some comfort to reduce the hardship for her.

And comfort comes with finance. Even the basic things in Nigeria requires money.

I see a lot of women who wait for years for their lovers to get financially stable before getting married. They are usually mocked as Lord of the rings, because the men refuse to commit till they can afford the basic necessities or at least get a stable job.

We have face me I slap you houses inhabited by young couples. Are the women in question not also Nigerian?

If a woman you like doesn't like you, why not just move on already and look for one that'll like you whether you're rich or not?
Low income earners are living their lives and getting married with no issues .
Ugly men with little money in their pockets are also successful in finding wife to marry.

OP, please, go and look for a woman that likes you. She will marry you and stay with you in the face ma I slap you.

eyinjuege:
I see a lot of women who wait for years for their lovers to get financially stable before getting married. They are usually mocked as Lord of the rings, because the men refuse to commit till they can afford the basic necessities or at least get a stable job.

We have face me I slap you houses inhabited by young couples. Are the women in question not also Nigerian?

If a woman you like doesn't like you, why not just move on already and look for one that'll like you whether you're rich or not?
Low income earners are living their lives and getting married with no issues .
Ugly men with little money in their pockets are also successful in finding wife to marry.

OP, please, go and look for a woman that likes you. She will marry you and stay with you in the face ma I slap you.

The points you raised are quite true.However, such cases are few as most ladies these days see marriage as a source of income and an avenue to escape from unemployment.

In fairness to the few ones who still marry for love and companionship,some can still manage and endure with a guy but are most times discouraged by friends who are dating or married to richer guys.Again, the issue of social comparison comes to play, ladies compare their fiance' s financial status with their friends' and take marital decisions that conforms to social demands.

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