kaziblake:
I hope it's isn't another story forged to get sympathy or likes..

I am always extremely irked by comments like this. I wonder why many people on this forum on first impression feel someone is out to decieve, Even if you think so, keep it to your self and don't ruin someone's chance and don't be petty
Most times, let's try and keep to the scope of the original post and not feel the need to add variables.

Your wife obviously has fundamental brainwash about igbos [maybe it's just your family alone] but am curious why she decided to marry you regardless.

mysticgal:

Who igbo or yoruba epp I am Nigerian before igbo.
But sincerely i have thought seriously about this, so i have resolved to use my father's name even after marriage. Like mysticgal mazi-kola

Wen Nigeria park up, wat will be left of ur identity? U are an Igbo girl with a yoruba mum.

Nigeria is just ur nationality not ur ethnicity. Ethnicity comes first before nationality.

Make i dey school u, dey go. I fit marry u sef and save u from urself. U women can be self destructive atimes.

hammerT:


Wen Nigeria park up, wat will be left of ur identity? U are a Igbo girl with a yoruba mum.

Nigeria is just ur nationality not ur ethnicity. Ethnicity comes first before nationality.

Make i dey school u, dey go. I fit marry u sef and save u from urself. U women can be self destructive atimes.

Yeepa, self destructive ke?
So you mean marrying from another tribe is self destructive? Hmmm, let me just say that is an ancient thought.
And Let me correct you, whenever a feat or defeat is achieved outside Nigeria, the Nigerian identity clicks not the tribal identity. Just that the name tells where the person originates from.... So Nationality before ethnicity.

Finally, do you really believe Nigeria would park up? Like you really think that would happen?

mysticgal:


Yeepa, self destructive ke?
So you mean marrying from another tribe is self destructive? Hmmm, let me just say that is an ancient thought.
And Let me correct you, whenever a feat or defeat is achieved outside Nigeria, the Nigerian identity clicks not the tribal identity. Just that the name tells where the person originates from.... So Nationality before ethnicity.

Finally, do you really believe Nigeria would park up? Like you really think that would happen?

Nationality + Country= Nation, Ethnicity +People = Origin, do the maths.

u know which comes first, origin of course.

hammerT:


Nationality = Nation, Ethnicity = Origin, do the maths.

u know which comes first, origin of course.

You do not see, chiamaka ogbonna; from anambra state, graduates with a first class from MIT.
Rather you see, mbok uduak, a Nigerian, graduates with a first class from MIT

mysticgal:

You do not see, chiamaka ogbonna; from anambra state, graduates with a first class from MIT.
Rather you see, mbok uduak, a Nigerian, graduates with a first class from MIT

When u hear Mbok Uduak, wat comes to ur mind? Nigeria or Calabar?


Nation + Country= Nationality, Origin +People =Ethnicity , do the maths.

mysticgal:

You do not see, chiamaka ogbonna; from anambra state, graduates with a first class from MIT.
Rather you see, mbok uduak, a Nigerian, graduates with a first class from MIT

That's my state. We are lots of intellectuals.

mysticgal:


Finally, do you really believe Nigeria would park up? Like you really think that would happen?

Nigeria is a geographical expression for lines drawn on a piece of land in Africa in the German conference by European Imperialist.

Like all geographical expression, in time, they return to their natural state.

It happend with USSR (Old Soviet Union), it is happening in the EU, It is being talked about in America and China is threatening to go to war if Taiwan dare leave China becos of Trump.

Nigeria started in 1914 and legitimized in 1960 and broke up briefly between 1963 to 1967 during the Biafra War.

Nigeria has not always been here and we cannot say that it will last forever. Can u?

Ayoolajumoke:


Sorry oo, do you have it in mind to marry off your sister to the op before now? Because the way you are everywhere on this thread with so much bitterness baffles me.

But why are u yoruba gals so disrespectful
And used to verbal abuse

Cherlene:

Lol.. Why dat face

mysticgal:

Who igbo or yoruba epp I am Nigerian before igbo.
But sincerely i have thought seriously about this, so i have resolved to use my father's name even after marriage. Like mysticgal mazi-kola

Lol.

You're Igbo first before a Nigerian.

But I'll rather you say you're a Nigerian from the Eastern Part of the country

kaboninc:


Lol.

You're Igbo first before a Nigerian.

But I'll rather you say you're a Nigerian from the Eastern Part of the country

wen u say Nigerian, there is no eastern part.

Nigeria refers to ur nationality. So a simple Nigerian will suffice.

Eastern part means nothing, becos Efik, Ibibio, Igbo, Ijaw and many more are geographically in the south east.

Ethnicity is simply Igbo. This denotes the distinct language and culture of a particular people u identify with and as such ur identity.

The two important aspect are Nationality and Ethincity unless u wants to learn geography, then u start with North, South, West and East.

hammerT:


wen u say Nigerian, their is no eastern part.

Nigeria refers to ur nationality. So a simple Nigerian will suffice.

Let us stop complicating things with geopolitical zone.

Eastern part means nothing becos Efik, Ibibio, Igbo, Ijaw and many more are geographically in the south east.

Ethnicity is simply Igbo.

The two important aspect are Nationality and Ethincity unless u wants to learn geography, then u start with North, South, West and East.

Hmmmm.. .

Okay

waternogetememy:



Marriage is more than love . It's compatibility..Cultural, psychological,linguistic and others
@ bolded is on Point!


Marriage is really more than love.

Feelings are unreliable and can always change. Hence u have divorce cases.

Love is not the most important thing in marriage. Though among the most important.

The bible command to Love ur Neighbor as urself. Love is also the most common thing to man.

If u think u love ur wife or husband more than their parents or siblings or children, then u are mad.

There is always someone who loves them more.

Love is not the most important factor to marriage.

In arrange marriages couple just meet on their wedding dey and still find love for one another and the love grows through out their marriage.

So, i love u is not the main factor or reason to marry a person.

Tell them....


There are a lot of things to consider in marriage not even love

Arranged marriages last longer than I love you marriages


They arranged marriages ,they grow in love but they lay emphasis on compatibility and lots more

hammerT:



Nigeria is a geographical expression for lines drawn on a piece of land in Africa in the German conference by European Imperialist.

Like all geographical expression, in time, they return to their natural state.

It happend with USSR (Old Soviet Union), it is happening in the EU, It is being talked about in America and China is threatening to go to war if Taiwan dare leave China becos of Trump.

Nigeria started in 1914 and legitimized in 1960 and broke up briefly between 1963 to 1967 during the Biafra War.

Nigeria has not always been here and we cannot say that it will last forever. Can u?

Nothing last forever

mysticgal:

Who igbo or yoruba epp I am Nigerian before igbo.
But sincerely i have thought seriously about this, so i have resolved to use my father's name even after marriage. Like mysticgal mazi-kola

Well. Me I am Igbo first before Nigeria...Nigeria is a man made creation and can pack up and Igbo has been there before Nigeria


Charity begins at home ....Is your parents both Igbo ..I doubt

mysticgal:

If you say so..... You do sports journalism, that's great.
How are you doing this splendid morning?

Yes i do sports journalism. Its my passion. I am saying so cos its true nah. sure u had a good day,

Ayoolajumoke:


Your Igbo nairaland friends will insult and kill themselves when they see this...lmao

I respect you sir, please don't divorce your wife.

I don't support divorce either coz I won't pit assunder wat God joined.
I'm only sayin is his wife should learn to respect him or he teach her in a hard way... Yes!!


Why are u Yoruba gals so disrspectful that's my question.

DarkRebel101:
I find it a tad hypocritical, risible even, that the self-same man who labelled his wife a cantankerous she-devil with a tongue notorious for its bombs of filth, would so overtly insult the Yorubas in his imputing of all tendencies of abusiveness to the tribe - as if to say all Yorubas are naturally predisposed to being ornery.

Going by that logic of yours, can we also say all Moslems are born terrorists, simply because a fraction of them have, by their murderous and misguided deeds, painted Islam as a religion of violence?

You say your wife throws trumpitantrums like an illiterate whenever you two have a war of words. Newsflash: you are the bigger illiterate for making such an insensitive statement about the Yorubas, and for tarring all the members of a tribe with the same brush simply because of the one isolated experience that you've had with a member of the said tribe.

It begs the question, if you could be so tactless in speech on a public forum, how then are we to be certain your utterances are not what fuels the strife in your home?

No one here can give you the ultimate formula, because no one here wears your shoes nor does anyone here know where it pinches you. To remedy the situation in your home, you are to sleuth deep into the very root of the problem.

Is she being saucy as a result of her childlessness? Is it a case of stress-rolling? Are the straitened financial circumstances the cause? Or perhaps, unbeknownst to you, are some of your actions and/or inactions what goads her untoward behavior?

These are questions only you can and must answer, for the subtleties and dynamics of your relationship are known to you alone—not Nlanders. Besides, it's incredibly difficult to pass judgement seeing as this is only one side of the story.
Who knows, your wife might have a different tale to tell.

If, for the sake of argument, we should assume all you've said are true, and that the fault truly lies with your wife, then just as Sisisioge has said, you brought it upon yourself when you failed to exercise due diligence before you tied the nuptial knot with her.

Surely some of these repugnant traits must have manifested while you were courting her. Perhaps you thought you could reroute her trajectory and change her when you both got married. No?

You've laid your bed, the least you can do is summon the cojones to lie on it. And if you find the bedding not adequately suited to your taste, you can always rearrange it to cater for your comfort, or better still, source for a better one to supplant the old one. The choice lies on the flat of your palm.

Lastly, it takes roughly a sum total of 10,000 hours for anyone – provided he/she suffers no imbecility of the mind – to learn any language to an appreciable degree.

Working on the assumption that your wife is not a fückwit and has no difficulty in learning the rudiments of your culture, I'd say the mild aversion she has for your culture stems not from an inability to grasp it, but from the inability to appreciate it.

Perhaps she's swayed by some stereotypes that give your culture a bad name.
Perhaps you and your people haven't made her feel at home—how do your relatives treat her? Do they eye her askance? Perhaps all you need do is to make her feel less insecure.

Now, I have a question for you:

Throughout your narrative you harped on about your wife's apathy to your Igbo culture, but never made mention of any attempts you've made to have yourself steeped into her own Yoruba culture. Am I missing something here? Isn't a marital union supposed to walk with the feet of mutuality? I believe if you show the zest to embrace her culture that she'll be more receptive to yours – you can't eat your cake and have it.

Inter-tribal marriages have and will always remain a thing of beauty, with the progenies of such unions reaping the benefits in manifold, for not only would they turn out to be a cross-pollination of two cultures and bi/multilingual, they'd also – since they are a product of two entirely different tribes/ideologies/weltanschauung – have broader horizons and would more likely than most have a two-, three-, or even four-pronged approach in inventing their way out of any problem.

The two persons coming together just have to work out the conflicts characteristic of an inter-tribal marriage during the time of their courtship, otherwise they are bound to make a horlicks of the union.

Illiterate is somebody that can't read more write . He write so he isn't an illiterate.


Find another her word

mysticgal:

Who igbo or yoruba epp I am Nigerian before igbo.
But sincerely i have thought seriously about this, so i have resolved to use my father's name even after marriage. Like mysticgal mazi-kola

U ARE A NIGERIAN BEFORE IGBO!.. I PITY U
LET ME TELL U WHAT UR LITTLE BRAIN DONT KNOW
U CAN ONLY BE NIGERIAN FIRST WHEN U ARE OUTSIDE THE COUNTRY..BUT SINCE U ARE STILL IN THE COUNTRY, THEN ITS UR NAME FIRST THEN UR TRIBE. ESPECIALLY IN NIGERIA THAT TRIBALISM IS THE ORDER OF THE DAY.
BLIV IT OR NOT AN HAUSA MAN OR YORUBA MAN CAN NOT FAVOR U FIRST AND GIV U A JOB WHEN U ARE STANDING THERE WITH HAUSA GAL OR YORUBA GAL.... UNLESS U ARE READY TO OFFER SOMETHING IN EXCHANGE THEN U MIGHT HAV A LITTLE ADVANTAGE OVER THEM.
SO KEEP ON DECEIVING URSELF.

nonsense!!... u igbo girls in diaspora should keep on fooling urselves..
this rubbish comment of urs is what a yoruba gal or hausa gal can neva make nomatter where they found themselves.
u carry one nigeria for head yet igbos are the most segregated and hated in ur so called one nigeria.

and u went ahead to think igbos cant go .. hahaha i laff u.
it will dawn on u when when it happens.
it may not be now but it must surely happen.... Because Nigeria was forced on them unwillingly.
people were killed raped and were forced upon them identity they dont want., and u think God will keep quiet forever
and the last i checked anything that didnt happen naturally doesn't last Nature made it so.
the earlier u start telling urself the truth the better for u... U DISAPPOINTED ME

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NIGHTMAREOO7:


U ARE A NIGERIAN BEFORE IGBO!.. I PITY U
LET ME TELL U WHAT UR LITTLE BRAIN DONT KNOW
U CAN ONLY BE NIGERIAN FIRST WHEN U ARE OUTSIDE THE COUNTRY..BUT SINCE U ARE STILL IN THE COUNTRY, THEN ITS UR NAME FIRST THEN UR TRIBE. ESPECIALLY IN NIGERIA THAT TRIBALISM IS THE ORDER OF THE DAY.
BLIV IT OR NOT AN HAUSA MAN OR YORUBA MAN CAN NOT FAVOR U FIRST AND GIV U A JOB WHEN U ARE STANDING THERE WITH HAUSA GAL OR YORUBA GAL.... UNLESS U ARE READY TO OFFER SOMETHING IN EXCHANGE THEN U MIGHT HAV A LITTLE ADVANTAGE OVER THEM.
SO KEEP ON DECEIVING URSELF.

nonsense!!... u igbo girls in diaspora should keep on fooling urselves..
this rubbish comment of urs is what a yoruba gal or hausa gal can neva make nomatter where they found themselves.
u carry one nigeria for head yet igbos are the most segregated and hated in ur so called one nigeria.

and u went ahead to think igbos cant go .. hahaha i laff u.
it will dawn on u when when it happens.
it may not be now but it must surely happen.... Because Nigeria was forced on them unwillingly.
people were killed raped and were forced upon them identity they dont want., and u think God will keep quiet forever
and the last i checked anything that didnt happen naturally doesn't last Nature made it so.
the earlier u start telling urself the truth the better for u... U DISAPPOINTED ME

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Just pass across your message

MizMyColi:


We're fine fine.
I believe you are too

Very well maám

kaboninc:
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Just pass across your message

Inconsequential

ariesbull:


Well. Me I am Igbo first before Nigeria...Nigeria is a man made creation and can pack up and Igbo has been there before Nigeria
Charity begins at home ....Is your parents both Igbo ..I doubt

The gal has an efik mum.
No real igbo blood can say dat

NIGHTMAREOO7:


The gal has an efik mum.
No real igbo blood can say dat

Noted

NIGHTMAREOO7:


I don't support divorce either coz I won't pit assunder wat God joined.
I'm only sayin is his wife should learn to respect him or he teach her in a hard way... Yes!!


Why are u Yoruba gals so disrspectful that's my question.

If you marry any girl with this your behaviour, she's gonna abuse and disrespect the hell out of you, you command no respect so this is not a matter of tribe or anything... You also know we are respectful in our tribe, but this your hatred can ruin you.

Ayoolajumoke:


If you marry any girl with this your behaviour, she's gonna abuse and disrespect the hell out of you, you command no respect so this is not a [b]matter of tribe or anything... You also know we are respectful in our tribe, but this your hatred [/b]can ruin you.

Hahahahha that bolded is a scam!..
U yorubad decieved people in the past.
Which respect do u have. Is prostration respect?
Nop.. That's an eyes service respect.

I don't need prostration... I don't want eye service respct..
Infact don't prostrate for me stand where u are ur even wear ur cap if u like and greet me I dnt care.
Way matters is wen I say something as ur elder or husband just rsprct it.. Dats way respect is.

HAHAHAHA YORUBAS ARE RSPECTFUL INDEED
YET
DAVIDO INSULTS DELE MODOMODU ANYHOW
OLAMIDE INSULTED DON JAZZY AND HIS MUM.
WIZKID INSULTS EVERYBODY.
ABEGII... UR RESPECT IS A SCAM!

CHECK EVERY ALL CELEBRITY WEDDING BTN YORUBA WOMEN AND IGBO MEN.. ITS A ONE PRROBERM OR THE OTHER.

UR PARENTS NEED TO DO SOMETHING ABOUt UR UPBRINGING ANd STOP TELLING U LIES ABOUT IGBOS... ITS VERY BAD!

NIGHTMAREOO7:


Hahahahha that bolded is a scam!..
U yorubad decieved people in the past.
Which respect do u have. Is prostration respect?
Nop.. That's an eyes service respect.

I don't need prostration... I don't want eye service respct..
Infact don't prostrate for me stand where u are ur even wear ur cap if u like and greet me I dnt care.
Way matters is wen I say something as ur elder or husband just rsprct it.. Dats way respect is.

HAHAHAHA YORUBAS ARE RSPECTFUL INDEED
YET
DAVIDO INSULTS DELE MODOMODU ANYHOW
OLAMIDE INSULTED DON JAZZY AND HIS MUM.
WIZKID INSULTS EVERYBODY.
ABEGII... UR RESPECT IS A SCAM!

CHECK EVERY ALL CELEBRITY WEDDING BTN YORUBA WOMEN AND IGBO MEN.. ITS A ONE PRROBERM OR THE OTHER.

UR PARENTS NEED TO DO SOMETHING ABOUY UR UPBRINGING ANF STOP TELLING U LIES ABOUT IGBOS... ITS VERY BAD!

The way you're telling your children lies about Yoruba, so those examples up there represent the whole of Yoruba race? just take a chil pill these your rant won't stop us from being Yoruba and we're proud of that. Abi na we force your people to come marry us ni? Hell no, so deal with it.

Thank goodness u have no children. How would she bring them up with emotional abuse and am sure physical. WITH OUT WAITING WORDS DRVORCE HER WHAT EVER SHE THREATNS, GO SHEY AND DRVORCE her. Get a lawyer first to analyze her chances of taking your hard earned money as America can be unfair. IF U DON'T DRVORCE HER U WILL MORE THE REGRET IT

Ayoolajumoke:


The way you're telling your children lies about Yoruba, so those examples up there represent the whole of Yoruba race? just take a chil pill these your rant won't stop us from being Yoruba and we're proud of that. Abi na we force your people to come marry us ni? Hell no, so deal with it.

who is telling who not be proud abt u being yoruba ?.. Hahahha
I'm only saying ur parents using hateful upbringing and brainwashing is evil.
Any marriage with a yoruba gal is always problem... Even it brother OAP freeze and few others have testified.
So deal with that too

NIGHTMAREOO7:


who is telling who not be proud abt u being yoruba ?.. Hahahha
I'm only saying ur parents using hateful upbringing and brainwashing is evil.
Any marriage with a yoruba gal is always problem... Even it brother OAP freeze and few others have testified.
So deal with that too

Your parents using hateful upbringing and brainwashing you guys is evil too, you brainwashing your children is also evil BTW, tell your people to stay away from us, it is not a must to associate with us.

Ayoolajumoke:


Your parents using hateful upbringing and brainwashing you guys is evil too, you brainwashing your children is also evil BTW, tell your people to stay away from us, it is not a must to associate with us.

Hahahahahaha yoruba hate hearing the truth.
Who want associate with u...
Rather its ur men u who are dumping ur ugly asses and going for igbo women.
Coz them no want trouble