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Lihyunpark:
We live in a world that is doing everything it can to
deny the gifts that God has given to man. And I don’t
mean mankind, but male human beings. For several
decades it was politically incorrect even to discuss these differences between men and women. But we
do not need a scientific study to show what has
always been right before our very eyes. It is great though that with new MRI technology we
can now verify differences in how men’s brains work
from women’s. Not only can we see and observe the
differences from the outside, but now we can see
them on the inside as well in the most complex organ
of the human body, the brain. There are many non-Christian scientists and
psychologists today that can no longer follow the
politically correct agenda of feminists and
egalitarians. More and more scientists and studies are
verifying the vastly different physiological and
psychological differences between the sexes. Men are different from women. They are equal only in
their common membership in the same species,
humankind. To maintain that they are the same in
aptitude, skill or behavior is to build a society based
on a biological and scientific lie. As Christians we applaud and agree with the finding
of these differences. Our only disagreements come
when we talk about the source of these differences,
evolution versus the intelligent design of our God and
creator. Superior, inferior or just different? Before I go further into this I want to say a few more
things about what has become a controversial topic –
mainly the FACT that men have some superior
abilities to women in many areas. If you give this post a fair reading, you will see I do
not hate women. I do hate, and I believe God also
hates, the 'IDEOLOGY' of feminism. It seems today like
every time some study comes out that women are
better at this or that than men – everybody is
applauding it from the rooftops. But in our society we are not allowed to say men are
better than women at anything and anytime it is
brought up excuses are made and it is simply a
“cultural” thing, otherwise women will always be
equal to or excel past men – or so we are told.
There is a difference in saying “men are awesome,
and women stink” and saying “men are superior to
women in certain ways”. The fact is, in many ways
women are inferior to men, but so too men are also inferior to women in some ways. To say so is not
rude, or mean, it is simply a Biblical fact that is backed
up by science. I don’t think we are being fully truthful when we
say that a man having 50% more strength than a
woman is just a “difference”. No way! It’s a superior
capability. When I talk about how woman is superior
to man I will gladly acknowledge that women have
superior hearing and color-perception to men; again, it is not a difference, it is a superiority! Let me begin how God made man superior to woman
with this verse: 14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully
made; your works are wonderful, I know that full
well. – Psalm 139:14 (NIV) Men are superior to women in strength, endurance
and athletics God made man taller and stronger than woman. In
the United States men are typically 6 inches taller than
women. Men on average have 40% more upper body
strength and 33% more lower body strength than
women. Men are much leaner than women with
typically 50% less body fat than the average woman carries in her body. Of course there are exceptions
where a man may have very little muscle mass and a
woman has more muscle mass, but these are just that
– exceptions. Both science and general observation
show that men are typically larger and more muscular
than women without working out or doing anything artificially to change their bodies. There is a popular misconception that women have a
higher tolerance to pain than men because of the
horrendous pain they endure before, during and
sometimes even after childbirth. But that is actually a
myth. “This study has serious implications about how we
treat women after surgery as well as women who
experience chronic pain…. Because women have more
nerve receptors, they may experience pain more
powerfully than men, requiring different surgical
techniques, treatments or medicine dosages to help manage their pain and make them feel comfortable.” Men also have
stronger bones, tendons and ligaments. Men are more aggressive and competitive than
women A male’s major sex hormone, testosterone, impacts
his behavior…testosterone is the hormone most
associated with male aggressiveness,
competitiveness, and assertiveness…. Furthermore
competitiont raises testosterone levels and rivalry
fuels aggression. For example, the testosterone levels among athletes are actually highest at the end of a
competition rather than at the beginning… Testosterone also helps a man focus on a project,
competition, mission or venture….When we take into account that men have superior
strength, stamina and sensory motor skills along with
a built-in desire to compete and be aggressive, it is no
surprise that the vast majority of the best athletes in
the world are men. The likes of Usain Bolt, Tyson Gay, Yohan Blake, Asafa Powell. Just to mention a few Professional sports is an area in which we want to
see nothing but the best. Again, this is the primary reason why
even today, generations after the rise of feminism,
men still heavily dominate the entrepreneurial and management aspects of the business world. The state of our military today is a sad story. We have
allowed the politicians to force the military
commanders to allow women in combat. A man’s body is vastly
superior when it comes to combat. You put that woman on the front lines in battle and you are going
to get a lot of men killed when they go out of their
way to protect her, or she is just going to get killed.
This is yet another common sense thing, which any
person, educated or otherwise can see with their own
eyes. It would be funny if it were not so sad and pathetic. In summing up, we can see the fact that
God has designed man larger, stronger and tougher
than woman to naturally equip him for the protection
and provision roles he has assigned to man. If only
our world would regain some of the common sense it
used to have and acknowledge what is right in front of their very eyes. There are more highly intelligent men than highly
intelligent women While men and women have about the same average
IQ (according to intelligence testing), men vary much
more than women do. What that means is there are
more men at each spectrum of intelligence than
women (below average and above average).
However, after crossing the average intelligence threshold the amount of men who have above
average IQs begins to dominate the women, bringing
us to the point where there are eight genius-level IQ
men to every one woman genius. When we accept the strengths that God has given
man in his brain, then we are not shocked to discover
that there are eight male geniuses to every one
female genius. I don’t say “the survey must be
wrong”, or “it’s just a cultural thing” – We accept
it is how God made man. The first question a man usually asks another man
when they meet for the first time is, “What do you
do?” …most men identify themselves by their work.
God created men to “do” something in the field.
Watch young boys as they pick up sticks and turn
them into imaginary guns or tools. Recently a mother told us she had prevented her son from having any
toy guns or using sticks as pretend rifles, but when he
made his cheese sandwich into the form of a pistol
and was shooting a friend, she cried out in
exasperation, “I give up!” this is simply
part of a boy’s nature. He is called to be a hunter, a
worker, a doer. He wants to make his conquest in the
field of life. The academic term for this is the
“instrumentality of the male.” From childhood there is
something in a male that makes him like adventure and conquest. He wants to go into the field to hunt or
to work some way. Men are built to conquer the world around them. They
are built to lead. I believe it is Biblical that a woman’s place is in the
home: not saying she can never go out, but that
caring for the needs of her husband, her children and
her home should be the focus of her life. However, it would be Biblically, and even biologically
correct to say that a man is the polar opposite in this
area. A man’s place is outside the home – hunting,
working, achieving, exploring, building and yes, even
fighting. Some men are built to be warriors, whether
on the athletic field or on the battlefield. Mothers need to respect and help channel their boys’
God-given need for conquest and not try to make
their sons more like their daughters! Wives need to
respect their husbands’ need for achievement, to
work, and to make his mark on the world. Men have a deep need for respect A man’s need for conquest, to work and to achieve is
also directly related to his need for respect. I really
appreciated when Dr. Emerson Eggerichs came out
with his book “Love and Respect”. He may not have
been the first author in recent decades to talk about a
man’s need for respect, but the fact that he focused basically half a book to it was great. Men and women both need love and respect, but God
has wired man so that respect is his first need and the
emotional side of love is secondary to that. If a man
feels disrespected by his colleagues or especially his
wife and children, this will cause him a great deal of
pain and he will most likely react in very negative ways towards disrespect. When a woman accepts and appreciates her
husband’s need for respect, she will most likely see a
transformation in her marriage. Women who take the
attitude that “I wILL RESPECT HIM WHEN I THINK HE HA EARNED IT” will never experience the full happiness in
marriage that is possible if they would just show him the respect that he needs. Men are wired to be the primary provider for the
home God has made man with a built-in desire to be the
primary provider for his family. If his wife has a more
successful career than him, in many marriages it
eventually destroys the marriage. His self-respect, as
well as his wife’s self-respect is tied to his ability to
be the primary provider (the one who makes the most money). It is not uncommon for men who become
disabled (and their wives are forced to support the
family) to become very depressed; it violates the
man’s nature down to his very core. This is not some simple pride thing as some feminists
have tried to say, but a built-in desire given by God in
men. Well into feminism’s second generation, there are
finally a significant number of women reaching parity
with the men in their fields–not to mention
surpassing them–and winning the salary, bonuses,
and perks that signify their arrival… Yet this proud
professional achievement often seems to have unhappy consequences at home. … Neither the newly liberated alpha women nor their
shell-shocked beta spouses seem comfortable with
the role reversal. … According to psychologists (and divorce lawyers) who
see couples struggling with such changes, many
relationships follow the same patter. First, the wife
starts to lose respect for her husband, then he begins
to feel emasculated, and then sex dwindles to a full
stop. Suppose that both men and women are happier – all
else being equal – the more money their spouse
makes. In such a world, couples wouldn’t care
whether the man or woman earns more, so the
population of couples would have what we call a
“normal distribution,” and would be captured in a bell-shaped curve. But that’s not what we see in the
real-world data. Instead, there is a sharp drop in the number of male-
female couples at exactly the point where the woman
starts to earn more than half of household income. This finding supports earlier research from speed-
dating sessions, which found that while women prefer men to be intelligent and ambitious, men have these preferences for women only to the point where women threaten to earn more than they do. Aversion to wives earning more than husbands could
be leading to fewer weddings and more divorces,
according to a National Bureau of Economic Research
working paper Marianne
Bertrand and Emir Kamenica, University of Chicago
. Compiling results from surveys taken by the U.S.
Census Bureau and by the Labor Department, the
reserachers came to several conclusions. One was that
marriage rates decline as the probability that a
woman earns more than a man increases. Even people that are in favor of feminist changes in
our society see the problems. We just disagree about
the causes and the solution. Both sides agree that
men are generally not attracted to women who are
smarter or make more money than them, and when
they do get with a woman who becomes more successful it usually takes a terrible toll on the
marriage. Feminist advocates just argue it’s caused by a culture
that says men need to be the primary breadwinner. In
their view it is just about changing hearts and minds
and then men and women will all live together in a
wonderful utopia. Those of us who oppose these
feminist changes will maintain that it is something that is wired biologically into men, and if it is
biological, no amount of social brain-washing of men
will change this. Marriage rates are declining, while divorce rates stay
close to 50 percent. Divorce rates have slightly
declined from their high in the 1980s. But what is not
mentioned is that one of the contributing factors to
the divorce-rate decline is that people are just not
marrying as much as they used to. Couples are just cohabitng much more. I would argue that if we could
get good studies on the breakup rate of long-term
cohabiting couples and then combine that with
divorce rates, we would go well beyond the 50-
percent divorce rate we had in the 1980s. Either way you slice it, most relationships between
men and women do not work well when the wife is
more intelligent and makes more money than the
husband. In the rare instances where it does work, I
guarantee you will find a feminine man who is low on
testosterone, or a man who had a domineering and aggressive mother who beat his father down. Even in
relationships where a man is forced to stay home
because he is disabled, if he is honest he will tell you
it drives him nuts that his wife has to support the
family. It does not just go against our cultural values,
but it goes against male biology itself. Men are built to compartmentalize None of us will ever agree with everything in a
marriage book. But the book “Men Are Like Waffles –
Women Are Like Spaghetti” is still a great book and I
highly recommend it. The very title of the book, as
well as their other descriptions in the book, gives a
great picture of the different ways a man’s brain works from a woman’s brain. If you look down at a waffle, you see a collection of
boxes separated by walls. The boxes are all separate
from each other and make convenient holding places.
That is typically how a man processes life. Our
thinking is divided up into boxes that have room for
one issue and one issue only…. The typical man lives in one box at a time and one box only. When a man is
at work, he is at work. When he is in the garage
tinkering around, he is in the garage tinkering. When
he is watching TV, he is simply watching TV. That is
why he looks as though he is in a trance and can
ignore everything else going on around him. Social scientists call this “compartmentalizing”–that is,
putting life and responsibilities into different
compartments. As a result, men are problem solvers by nature. They
enter a box, size up the “problem,” and formulate a
solution…. In contrast to men’s waffle-like approach, women
process life more like a plate of pasta. If you look at a
plate of spaghetti, you notice that there are lots of
individual noodles that all touch one another. If you
attempted to follow one noodle around the plate, you
would intersect a lot of other noodles, and you might even switch to another noodle seamlessly. That is
how women face life. Every thought and issue is
connected to every other thought and issue in some
way. Life is much more of a process for women than
it is for men. This is why women are typically better at
multitasking than men. She can talk on the phone,
prepare a meal, make a shopping list, work on the
agenda for tomorrow’s business meeting, give
instructions to her children as they are going out to
play, and close the door with her foot without skipping a beat. Because all her thoughts, emotions,
and convictions are connected, she is able to process
more information and keep track of more activites. But
the vast majority (I would safely say 90%) of men are
exactly as Bill and Pam describe. We will cover God’s design for women in a separate paper, but their
description of how women process the world is spot
on as well. Conclusion and Application Whether you are a Christian reading this, or a non-
Christian I invite you to examine the evidence both
from biology as well as your own general
observations of human behavior. Will there be
exceptions? Yes. There are some men who have
behaviors and abilities that more mimic the typical woman, and there are some women who have
behaviors and abilities that more mirror the typical
man. But these are rare. As believers we have a source of truth that not only
confirms the differences we see in biology and typical
gender behaviors, but it also gives a reason for the
differences. It gives us a purpose, if we will only
believe and accept it. To the men I say, will you accept how God has made
you? Will you accept the purpose for your differences
and use them in accordance with his plan? Will you
lead your families, protect your families and provide
for your families even if your abilities are not as
strong as other men in various areas? Will you pray to God to strengthen your weaknesses? To the women I say, will you accept how God has
made men? Moms – will you accept that it is ok that your boys are
more aggressive than your girls? Will you accept your
little boy’s need to compete, his need to conquer the
world around him? Will you resist the ungodly world’s
call to feminize him, to soften him or to emasculate
him? Wives – will you accept your husband’s God-given
need to lead you, protect you and provide for you?
Will you stop trying to compete with him, and just
complete him with the unique gifts God has given you
as a woman? We must all accept that God has built man to
systemize, to compartmentalize, to conquer and to
compete. Accept that a man needs to be respected,
even before his need for love. Accept the differences
God has made, and do not try to minimize them or
ignore them. Our world is doing that now, to our own destruction. Finally let me end this with Corinthians 11:8-9: For man did not come from woman, but woman from man; neither
was man created for woman, but woman for
man.

Baba no vex, Wetin you talk say waec give you again for english?

Lihyunpark:
We live in a world that is doing everything it can to
deny the gifts that God has given to man. And I don’t
mean mankind, but male human beings. For several
decades it was politically incorrect even to discuss these differences between men and women. But we
do not need a scientific study to show what has
always been right before our very eyes. It is great though that with new MRI technology we
can now verify differences in how men’s brains work
from women’s. Not only can we see and observe the
differences from the outside, but now we can see
them on the inside as well in the most complex organ
of the human body, the brain. There are many non-Christian scientists and
psychologists today that can no longer follow the
politically correct agenda of feminists and
egalitarians. More and more scientists and studies are
verifying the vastly different physiological and
psychological differences between the sexes. Men are different from women. They are equal only in
their common membership in the same species,
humankind. To maintain that they are the same in
aptitude, skill or behavior is to build a society based
on a biological and scientific lie. As Christians we applaud and agree with the finding
of these differences. Our only disagreements come
when we talk about the source of these differences,
evolution versus the intelligent design of our God and
creator. Superior, inferior or just different? Before I go further into this I want to say a few more
things about what has become a controversial topic –
mainly the FACT that men have some superior
abilities to women in many areas. If you give this post a fair reading, you will see I do
not hate women. I do hate, and I believe God also
hates, the 'IDEOLOGY' of feminism. It seems today like
every time some study comes out that women are
better at this or that than men – everybody is
applauding it from the rooftops. But in our society we are not allowed to say men are
better than women at anything and anytime it is
brought up excuses are made and it is simply a
“cultural” thing, otherwise women will always be
equal to or excel past men – or so we are told.
There is a difference in saying “men are awesome,
and women stink” and saying “men are superior to
women in certain ways”. The fact is, in many ways
women are inferior to men, but so too men are also inferior to women in some ways. To say so is not
rude, or mean, it is simply a Biblical fact that is backed
up by science. I don’t think we are being fully truthful when we
say that a man having 50% more strength than a
woman is just a “difference”. No way! It’s a superior
capability. When I talk about how woman is superior
to man I will gladly acknowledge that women have
superior hearing and color-perception to men; again, it is not a difference, it is a superiority! Let me begin how God made man superior to woman
with this verse: 14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully
made; your works are wonderful, I know that full
well. – Psalm 139:14 (NIV) Men are superior to women in strength, endurance
and athletics God made man taller and stronger than woman. In
the United States men are typically 6 inches taller than
women. Men on average have 40% more upper body
strength and 33% more lower body strength than
women. Men are much leaner than women with
typically 50% less body fat than the average woman carries in her body. Of course there are exceptions
where a man may have very little muscle mass and a
woman has more muscle mass, but these are just that
– exceptions. Both science and general observation
show that men are typically larger and more muscular
than women without working out or doing anything artificially to change their bodies. There is a popular misconception that women have a
higher tolerance to pain than men because of the
horrendous pain they endure before, during and
sometimes even after childbirth. But that is actually a
myth. “This study has serious implications about how we
treat women after surgery as well as women who
experience chronic pain…. Because women have more
nerve receptors, they may experience pain more
powerfully than men, requiring different surgical
techniques, treatments or medicine dosages to help manage their pain and make them feel comfortable.” Men also have
stronger bones, tendons and ligaments. Men are more aggressive and competitive than
women A male’s major sex hormone, testosterone, impacts
his behavior…testosterone is the hormone most
associated with male aggressiveness,
competitiveness, and assertiveness…. Furthermore
competitiont raises testosterone levels and rivalry
fuels aggression. For example, the testosterone levels among athletes are actually highest at the end of a
competition rather than at the beginning… Testosterone also helps a man focus on a project,
competition, mission or venture….When we take into account that men have superior
strength, stamina and sensory motor skills along with
a built-in desire to compete and be aggressive, it is no
surprise that the vast majority of the best athletes in
the world are men. The likes of Usain Bolt, Tyson Gay, Yohan Blake, Asafa Powell. Just to mention a few Professional sports is an area in which we want to
see nothing but the best. Again, this is the primary reason why
even today, generations after the rise of feminism,
men still heavily dominate the entrepreneurial and management aspects of the business world. The state of our military today is a sad story. We have
allowed the politicians to force the military
commanders to allow women in combat. A man’s body is vastly
superior when it comes to combat. You put that woman on the front lines in battle and you are going
to get a lot of men killed when they go out of their
way to protect her, or she is just going to get killed.
This is yet another common sense thing, which any
person, educated or otherwise can see with their own
eyes. It would be funny if it were not so sad and pathetic. In summing up, we can see the fact that
God has designed man larger, stronger and tougher
than woman to naturally equip him for the protection
and provision roles he has assigned to man. If only
our world would regain some of the common sense it
used to have and acknowledge what is right in front of their very eyes. There are more highly intelligent men than highly
intelligent women While men and women have about the same average
IQ (according to intelligence testing), men vary much
more than women do. What that means is there are
more men at each spectrum of intelligence than
women (below average and above average).
However, after crossing the average intelligence threshold the amount of men who have above
average IQs begins to dominate the women, bringing
us to the point where there are eight genius-level IQ
men to every one woman genius. When we accept the strengths that God has given
man in his brain, then we are not shocked to discover
that there are eight male geniuses to every one
female genius. I don’t say “the survey must be
wrong”, or “it’s just a cultural thing” – We accept
it is how God made man. The first question a man usually asks another man
when they meet for the first time is, “What do you
do?” …most men identify themselves by their work.
God created men to “do” something in the field.
Watch young boys as they pick up sticks and turn
them into imaginary guns or tools. Recently a mother told us she had prevented her son from having any
toy guns or using sticks as pretend rifles, but when he
made his cheese sandwich into the form of a pistol
and was shooting a friend, she cried out in
exasperation, “I give up!” this is simply
part of a boy’s nature. He is called to be a hunter, a
worker, a doer. He wants to make his conquest in the
field of life. The academic term for this is the
“instrumentality of the male.” From childhood there is
something in a male that makes him like adventure and conquest. He wants to go into the field to hunt or
to work some way. Men are built to conquer the world around them. They
are built to lead. I believe it is Biblical that a woman’s place is in the
home: not saying she can never go out, but that
caring for the needs of her husband, her children and
her home should be the focus of her life. However, it would be Biblically, and even biologically
correct to say that a man is the polar opposite in this
area. A man’s place is outside the home – hunting,
working, achieving, exploring, building and yes, even
fighting. Some men are built to be warriors, whether
on the athletic field or on the battlefield. Mothers need to respect and help channel their boys’
God-given need for conquest and not try to make
their sons more like their daughters! Wives need to
respect their husbands’ need for achievement, to
work, and to make his mark on the world. Men have a deep need for respect A man’s need for conquest, to work and to achieve is
also directly related to his need for respect. I really
appreciated when Dr. Emerson Eggerichs came out
with his book “Love and Respect”. He may not have
been the first author in recent decades to talk about a
man’s need for respect, but the fact that he focused basically half a book to it was great. Men and women both need love and respect, but God
has wired man so that respect is his first need and the
emotional side of love is secondary to that. If a man
feels disrespected by his colleagues or especially his
wife and children, this will cause him a great deal of
pain and he will most likely react in very negative ways towards disrespect. When a woman accepts and appreciates her
husband’s need for respect, she will most likely see a
transformation in her marriage. Women who take the
attitude that “I wILL RESPECT HIM WHEN I THINK HE HA EARNED IT” will never experience the full happiness in
marriage that is possible if they would just show him the respect that he needs. Men are wired to be the primary provider for the
home God has made man with a built-in desire to be the
primary provider for his family. If his wife has a more
successful career than him, in many marriages it
eventually destroys the marriage. His self-respect, as
well as his wife’s self-respect is tied to his ability to
be the primary provider (the one who makes the most money). It is not uncommon for men who become
disabled (and their wives are forced to support the
family) to become very depressed; it violates the
man’s nature down to his very core. This is not some simple pride thing as some feminists
have tried to say, but a built-in desire given by God in
men. Well into feminism’s second generation, there are
finally a significant number of women reaching parity
with the men in their fields–not to mention
surpassing them–and winning the salary, bonuses,
and perks that signify their arrival… Yet this proud
professional achievement often seems to have unhappy consequences at home. … Neither the newly liberated alpha women nor their
shell-shocked beta spouses seem comfortable with
the role reversal. … According to psychologists (and divorce lawyers) who
see couples struggling with such changes, many
relationships follow the same patter. First, the wife
starts to lose respect for her husband, then he begins
to feel emasculated, and then sex dwindles to a full
stop. Suppose that both men and women are happier – all
else being equal – the more money their spouse
makes. In such a world, couples wouldn’t care
whether the man or woman earns more, so the
population of couples would have what we call a
“normal distribution,” and would be captured in a bell-shaped curve. But that’s not what we see in the
real-world data. Instead, there is a sharp drop in the number of male-
female couples at exactly the point where the woman
starts to earn more than half of household income. This finding supports earlier research from speed-
dating sessions, which found that while women prefer men to be intelligent and ambitious, men have these preferences for women only to the point where women threaten to earn more than they do. Aversion to wives earning more than husbands could
be leading to fewer weddings and more divorces,
according to a National Bureau of Economic Research
working paper Marianne
Bertrand and Emir Kamenica, University of Chicago
. Compiling results from surveys taken by the U.S.
Census Bureau and by the Labor Department, the
reserachers came to several conclusions. One was that
marriage rates decline as the probability that a
woman earns more than a man increases. Even people that are in favor of feminist changes in
our society see the problems. We just disagree about
the causes and the solution. Both sides agree that
men are generally not attracted to women who are
smarter or make more money than them, and when
they do get with a woman who becomes more successful it usually takes a terrible toll on the
marriage. Feminist advocates just argue it’s caused by a culture
that says men need to be the primary breadwinner. In
their view it is just about changing hearts and minds
and then men and women will all live together in a
wonderful utopia. Those of us who oppose these
feminist changes will maintain that it is something that is wired biologically into men, and if it is
biological, no amount of social brain-washing of men
will change this. Marriage rates are declining, while divorce rates stay
close to 50 percent. Divorce rates have slightly
declined from their high in the 1980s. But what is not
mentioned is that one of the contributing factors to
the divorce-rate decline is that people are just not
marrying as much as they used to. Couples are just cohabitng much more. I would argue that if we could
get good studies on the breakup rate of long-term
cohabiting couples and then combine that with
divorce rates, we would go well beyond the 50-
percent divorce rate we had in the 1980s. Either way you slice it, most relationships between
men and women do not work well when the wife is
more intelligent and makes more money than the
husband. In the rare instances where it does work, I
guarantee you will find a feminine man who is low on
testosterone, or a man who had a domineering and aggressive mother who beat his father down. Even in
relationships where a man is forced to stay home
because he is disabled, if he is honest he will tell you
it drives him nuts that his wife has to support the
family. It does not just go against our cultural values,
but it goes against male biology itself. Men are built to compartmentalize None of us will ever agree with everything in a
marriage book. But the book “Men Are Like Waffles –
Women Are Like Spaghetti” is still a great book and I
highly recommend it. The very title of the book, as
well as their other descriptions in the book, gives a
great picture of the different ways a man’s brain works from a woman’s brain. If you look down at a waffle, you see a collection of
boxes separated by walls. The boxes are all separate
from each other and make convenient holding places.
That is typically how a man processes life. Our
thinking is divided up into boxes that have room for
one issue and one issue only…. The typical man lives in one box at a time and one box only. When a man is
at work, he is at work. When he is in the garage
tinkering around, he is in the garage tinkering. When
he is watching TV, he is simply watching TV. That is
why he looks as though he is in a trance and can
ignore everything else going on around him. Social scientists call this “compartmentalizing”–that is,
putting life and responsibilities into different
compartments. As a result, men are problem solvers by nature. They
enter a box, size up the “problem,” and formulate a
solution…. In contrast to men’s waffle-like approach, women
process life more like a plate of pasta. If you look at a
plate of spaghetti, you notice that there are lots of
individual noodles that all touch one another. If you
attempted to follow one noodle around the plate, you
would intersect a lot of other noodles, and you might even switch to another noodle seamlessly. That is
how women face life. Every thought and issue is
connected to every other thought and issue in some
way. Life is much more of a process for women than
it is for men. This is why women are typically better at
multitasking than men. She can talk on the phone,
prepare a meal, make a shopping list, work on the
agenda for tomorrow’s business meeting, give
instructions to her children as they are going out to
play, and close the door with her foot without skipping a beat. Because all her thoughts, emotions,
and convictions are connected, she is able to process
more information and keep track of more activites. But
the vast majority (I would safely say 90%) of men are
exactly as Bill and Pam describe. We will cover God’s design for women in a separate paper, but their
description of how women process the world is spot
on as well. Conclusion and Application Whether you are a Christian reading this, or a non-
Christian I invite you to examine the evidence both
from biology as well as your own general
observations of human behavior. Will there be
exceptions? Yes. There are some men who have
behaviors and abilities that more mimic the typical woman, and there are some women who have
behaviors and abilities that more mirror the typical
man. But these are rare. As believers we have a source of truth that not only
confirms the differences we see in biology and typical
gender behaviors, but it also gives a reason for the
differences. It gives us a purpose, if we will only
believe and accept it. To the men I say, will you accept how God has made
you? Will you accept the purpose for your differences
and use them in accordance with his plan? Will you
lead your families, protect your families and provide
for your families even if your abilities are not as
strong as other men in various areas? Will you pray to God to strengthen your weaknesses? To the women I say, will you accept how God has
made men? Moms – will you accept that it is ok that your boys are
more aggressive than your girls? Will you accept your
little boy’s need to compete, his need to conquer the
world around him? Will you resist the ungodly world’s
call to feminize him, to soften him or to emasculate
him? Wives – will you accept your husband’s God-given
need to lead you, protect you and provide for you?
Will you stop trying to compete with him, and just
complete him with the unique gifts God has given you
as a woman? We must all accept that God has built man to
systemize, to compartmentalize, to conquer and to
compete. Accept that a man needs to be respected,
even before his need for love. Accept the differences
God has made, and do not try to minimize them or
ignore them. Our world is doing that now, to our own destruction. Finally let me end this with Corinthians 11:8-9: For man did not come from woman, but woman from man; neither
was man created for woman, but woman for
man.

Phew! That was long, it is obvious you were trying to discourage me from responding to you.
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@ lihyunpark

Eph 5:21 says submit one to another. Please respond to that part since you wanted to use the Scripture to assert your 'authority' as a man. You have deliberately quoted a portion my post. You have twisted the scripture to make your oints valid. Dishonesty and manipulation still does make a lie to be true. You see All human were created equal. Just as God has created the man uniquely, he has created the woman too. There is no inequality among human being just delusion of people like you. The man is incomplete without a woman. That is why he needs her help because she has what he doesn't have. Technically, the male is inefficient without the female folk. The female folk is the mother of all living things including you male. I guess our mothers are unequal with their sons they nurtured because he has a peni.s. Submit one to another is what the bible says, you want to avoid that part but conveniently quote the next verse. Your physical body is a means of transportation to your soul and spirit. See you see with your mind, ear with your mind, you see all those physical features aren't different from speakers and microphone. They also interpret for your soul what you think in your mind. This our discussion alone confirm that human are equal because you seriously unenlightened.

dealslip:
@ lihyunpark

Eph 5:21 says submit one to another. Please respond to that part since you wanted to use the Scripture to assert your 'authority' as a man. You have deliberately quoted a portion my post. You have twisted the scripture to make your oints valid. Dishonesty and manipulation still does make a lie to be true. You see All human were created equal. Just as God has created the man uniquely, he has created the woman too. There is no inequality among human being just delusion of people like you. The man is incomplete without a woman. That is why he needs her help because she has what he doesn't have. Technically, the male is inefficient without the female folk. The female folk is the mother of all living things including you male. I guess our mothers are unequal with their sons they nurtured because he has a peni.s. Submit one to another is what the bible says, you want to avoid that part but conveniently quote the next verse. Your physical body is a means of transportation to your soul and spirit. See you see with your mind, ear with your mind, you see all those physical features aren't different from speakers and microphone. They also interpret for your soul what you think in your mind. This our discussion alone confirm that human are equal because you seriously unenlightened.

lol and thank you for enlightening me....why are you finding it so difficult to accept it truth.. Anyway you believing or not believing male and female are not equal doesnt change the fact...it something you will always have to deal with God created so manythings and he created some equally and some higher than some..look at your fingers for example...lol...they are not equal...but does that makes the shortest less effective or the tallest more useful? NO! It's just how God wants it and same with human being....a woman can hold the highest post in the woman but still she is not equal to a man...the earlier you realize this the better for you! Happy new year dear.

Lihyunpark:
lol and thank you for enlightening me....why are you finding it so difficult to accept it truth.. Anyway you believing or not believing male and female are not equal doesnt change the fact...it something you will always have to deal with God created so manythings and he created some equally and some higher than some..look at your fingers for example...lol...they are not equal...but does that makes the shortest less effective or the tallest more useful? NO! It's just how God wants it and same with human being....a woman can hold the highest post in the woman but still she is not equal to a man...the earlier you realize this the better for you! Happy new year dear.

You are still avoiding the verse of the Bible that said submit one to another. You know the truth but you have deliberately ignored it. A dog is a dog you can turn and twist it as you like. He created man male and female and he called them man and he blessed them he never said anywhere that anyone is less. You can continue to believe the lie you have in your mind but a female is equal to a male. They are both human being God gave mandate to be fruitful and multiply and rule the earth. Your use of fingers as examples defeat your own arguement already. You use of examples that men are taller than women is even more childish. I am taller many men. That mustake them lower than me. Low self esteemed and unenlightened minds like yours need some claim to importance and relevance hence your continuous delusions. Your pen.is and hairy chest doesn't make you superior to the female specie. Deal with the truth. Have an enlightened new year.

emperormossad:
Bwawawawawa. You just killed the whole thing. Go and sidon joor. How will you say such a thing? Lwkmdfh

hehehehe, happy new year

2dugged:
hehehehe, happy new year

Same to you dearie. Hope my rice and goat meat is on the way...

emperormossad:
Same to you dearie. Hope my rice and goat meat is on the way...

it's rice and chicken and if you want it,come and collect it

Hmmmn. Men cannot do without women. I agree but please remind me again why God created Eve for Adam? Also, the bible also says that men were not created from women but women from men. 1 Corinthians 11 vs 8-9. Does that signify equality? You can read that bible passage.

Have an enlightened New Year

dealslip:
You are still avoiding the verse of the Bible that said submit one to another. You know the truth but you have deliberately ignored it. A dog is a dog you can turn and twist it as you like. He created man male and female and he called them man and he blessed them he never said anywhere that anyone is less. You can continue to believe the lie you have in your mind but a female is equal to a male. They are both human being God gave mandate to be fruitful and multiply and rule the earth. Your use of fingers as examples defeat your own arguement already. You use of examples that men are taller than women is even more childish. I am taller many men. That mustake them lower than me. Low self esteemed and unenlightened minds like yours need some claim to importance and relevance hence your continuous delusions. Your pen.is and hairy chest doesn't make you superior to the female specie. Deal with the truth. Have an enlightened new year.

dabraska:
Hmmmn. Men cannot do without women. I agree but please remind me again why God created Eve for Adam? Also, the bible also says that men were not created from women but women from men. 1 Corinthians 11 vs 8-9. Does that signify equality? You can read that bible passage.

Have an enlightened New Year

There is no where in my post where i wrote men cant do without women. Stop twisting words. Btw Can you give a comment on Ephesians 5:21 - that has been the centre of this debate, I am not sure you have been following our debate or you are lihyunpark using another profile name.

2dugged:
it's rice and chicken and if you want it,come and collect it

Chicken ke...isorryt. Where you dey?

emperormossad:
Chicken ke...isorryt. Where you dey?

upper

dealslip:
You are still avoiding the verse of the Bible that said submit one to another. You know the truth but you have deliberately ignored it. A dog is a dog you can turn and twist it as you like. He created man male and female and he called them man and he blessed them he never said anywhere that anyone is less. You can continue to believe the lie you have in your mind but a female is equal to a male. They are both human being God gave mandate to be fruitful and multiply and rule the earth. Your use of fingers as examples defeat your own arguement already. You use of examples that men are taller than women is even more childish. I am taller many men. That mustake them lower than me. Low self esteemed and unenlightened minds like yours need some claim to importance and relevance hence your continuous delusions. Your pen.is and hairy chest doesn't make you superior to the female specie. Deal with the truth. Have an enlightened new year.

dealslip:
You are still avoiding the verse of the Bible that said submit one to another. You know the truth but you have deliberately ignored it. A dog is a dog you can turn and twist it as you like. He created man male and female and he called them man and he blessed them he never said anywhere that anyone is less. You can continue to believe the lie you have in your mind but a female is equal to a male. They are both human being God gave mandate to be fruitful and multiply and rule the earth. Your use of fingers as examples defeat your own arguement already. You use of examples that men are taller than women is even more childish. I am taller many men. That mustake them lower than me. Low self esteemed and unenlightened minds like yours need some claim to importance and relevance hence your continuous delusions. Your pen.is and hairy chest doesn't make you superior to the female specie. Deal with the truth. Have an enlightened new year.

dealslip:
You are still avoiding the verse of the Bible that said submit one to another. You know the truth but you have deliberately ignored it. A dog is a dog you can turn and twist it as you like. He created man male and female and he called them man and he blessed them he never said anywhere that anyone is less. You can continue to believe the lie you have in your mind but a female is equal to a male. They are both human being God gave mandate to be fruitful and multiply and rule the earth. Your use of fingers as examples defeat your own arguement already. You use of examples that men are taller than women is even more childish. I am taller many men. That mustake them lower than me. Low self esteemed and unenlightened minds like yours need some claim to importance and relevance hence your continuous delusions. Your pen.is and hairy chest doesn't make you superior to the female specie. Deal with the truth. Have an enlightened new year.

22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 FOR THE HUSBAND IS THE HEAD OF THE WIFE even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.
You've been so keen on this verse as if the bible stated it crystal clear that Man is equal to woman....please be dialectical for a moment and reason deeply on this verse. Bible stated that 'for the husbad is the head of the wife'.... Pls what else do you want the bible to say? you are just so deluded that you cant even understand what the bible means by "THE HEAD" women can hold the highest post in this world but that doesnt put them above men. In the marriage drama the players are
husband and wife. Each has a role to
depict. The husband portrays Christ and
the wife represents the church.
Nothing could be clearer than this in
Scripture: for husband is incharge of his wife the same way in the same christ is in charge of the body the church. But its pitiable that women sees being submissive and obeying their husband as a state of being imbroglio.
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“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she rrespects her husband.
Well, you will wanna say since the bible said man should come together with woman and become one flesh justify the fact that they are equal what the bible is trying to elusidate is that they should bound together in love and live together peacefully even though the bible expansiate futher more about the wife showing respect to husband..why do you think the bible emphasises more about husband being the head and women showing respect to them? Why did God created Adam first and later eve from his rib?...why did the bible say we created women from men not men from women...why is most the prophets in the bible men? Do you think all this happen for No reason? All this is enough for you to know men are not equall to women but that doesnt makes women slaves to men....

Lihyunpark:
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22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 FOR THE HUSBAND IS THE HEAD OF THE WIFE even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.
You've been so keen on this verse as if the bible stated it crystal clear that Man is equal to woman....please be dialectical for a moment and reason deeply on this verse. Bible stated that 'for the husbad is the head of the wife'.... Pls what else do you want the bible to say? you are just so deluded that you cant even understand what the bible means by "THE HEAD" women can hold the highest post in this world but that doesnt put them above men. In the marriage drama the players are
husband and wife. Each has a role to
depict. The husband portrays Christ and
the wife represents the church.
Nothing could be clearer than this in
Scripture: for husband is incharge of his wife the same way in the same christ is in charge of the body the church. But its pitiable that women sees being submissive and obeying their husband as a state of being imbroglio.
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“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she rrespects her husband.
Well, you will wanna say since the bible said man should come together with woman and become one flesh justify the fact that they are equal what the bible is trying to elusidate is that they should bound together in love and live together peacefully even though the bible expansiate futher more about the wife showing respect to husband..why do you think the bible emphasises more about husband being the head and women showing respect to them? Why did God created Adam first and later eve from his rib?...why did the bible said we created women from men not men from women...why is most the prophets in the bible men? Do you think all this happen for No reason? All this is enough for you to know men are not equall to women but that doesnt makes women slaves to men....

You are mxing up information. Because you baked a triangle cake before the square doesn't make the square cake inferior but they serve same purpose. For eating and celebrating. They are both made from same materials and both will decompose into dust. The features are different but the mandate is the same. The fact that someone heads a place, an organization or group doesn't make those led unequal to him/her. L What you are saying is that you are superior to your mum, sisters etc. Human being is human being, the joint name God gave was man, then he further described them by their sexes. No where is it written that a woman is in equal. If your head of dept is a woman does that make you unequal with her. Being head doesn't mean superiority. You are still avoiding the verse preceding the one you are clinging to for validating your stand. That is dishonest. Let me help you further, Paul speaking to the Ephesians Christian husbands advices them on relationship matter. To love unconditionally means bending your will, emotions and laying down your life. Read what kind of love is expected from the husband in 1 cor 13. This is submitting to your wives. now to submit to your husband in the Lord is same thing, bending your will, emotions to your husband. I have an option not to. It takes strong minded people to carryout this instruction. Both husband and wives are thus made to submit to each other. The man has been made to respect the woman by charging him to love her with his life and unconditionally. remember she was taken out of him, if I take your fingers and return it back to you. Does it mean that finger becomes inferior to the others. Also remember Paul admonishes men not to beat their wives, that such men are beating themselves. Do you see God's wisdom. If you are beating yourself does it mean you are inferior to yourself. That is why they are called better halves. Thanks

If my wife preaches feminism to me... I kick her silly ass back to her father's house... And d old man is gonna return my godamn bride price....

safarigirl:
lol..wash and iron for him. give him salt even f it's inches away...

Kuku tell me I'm marrying a toddler let me prepare my mind. Is that one still a man when he can't even perform basic things by himself?

please if I must do all these, I hope I'm also not expected to get a job and pay any bills. Lemme just sit home and get pregnant, since everyone should do what is conventionally accepted

Some people don't even understand how feminism works.

If a woman must get a job and pay bills, which are things otherwise done by men, then a mam should also be expected to pull his weight around the house as well. Feminists only seek assistance in the home because they have assisted men financially. There are no jobless feminists sitting around and waiting to feed off any man.

Nigerians will never calm down long enough to understand the concept of feminism.

Its a tad late but I couldn't resist...
So the "concept of feminism" is how housework is shared? BUHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
You're the real MVP lady! I swear it!
Modified... I hope I didnt break your rule. This is 11 months after. Not 2 days
BUHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH

Nice makeup job btw

dealslip:
Oga, it is very obvious you are pained that women have started debunking and shrugging off those lies, implanted into your mind. All I see is a guy with low self esteem trying to force yourself on women. People like you are so afraid of women taking a position of leadership. Oga, being a leader doesn't make you superior to others. Leadership is not forced, it is earned. You also have to qualify to be leader. It is not your third leg that makes you a leader, it is quality of your value. Sadly, a lot of women have been trainedto be leaders because they are lot smarter than men like you because their penis is not their tool for direction but their wisdom, so get of my back with all those lines of men are wired to be leader because you have no idea of who you are your penis is your definition of yourself. Good morning

indeed you are really intelligent and i like you for that. But please answer this simple question. In your marriage, who is the leader ?