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Re: I Am In Love With An Older Lady by Nobody: 11:11am On Jan 04, 2017

Pluto16:
Hi everyone, I'm madly in love with this lady she is like (lemme guess) roughly 26 years while i'm just 22...she's working in a place beside the company i work with. We do talk sometimes, greet each other and some other stuffs...

But I'm scared to ask her out because of the age difference. She might took it wrong or embarrass me or something like that...

As a young man i dress well, look cute and behave well also but I dnt think all that count. I know it works in foreign countries or lemme say western countries especially, You know Africans and culture! Whats is the con and pro and Please share any similar experience you've had or saw and Your advice is needed also...

This is a a Randy freckled faced lad swooning over a mother figure lady. Hahahahahahahaha... Lemme guess you have mummy issues? You love your mum to death right and she dotes over you?

Seriously though, spend your time focused on self discovery, as you clearly have no clue.

How do you think you know what love is when you don't even know yourself yet?
Dude move out of your parents house first build you yourself financially , grow your career... By the time you do all these you would probably be 27/28 with girls throwing thselves at your feet.

You aren't in love your are just in lust
Hahahahahaha

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Re: I Am In Love With An Older Lady by Nobody: 11:12am On Jan 04, 2017

Pluto16:
Hi everyone, I'm madly in love with this lady she is like (lemme guess) roughly 26 years while i'm just 22...she's working in a place beside the company i work with. We do talk sometimes, greet each other and some other stuffs...

But I'm scared to ask her out because of the age difference. She might took it wrong or embarrass me or something like that...

As a young man i dress well, look cute and behave well also but I dnt think all that count. I know it works in foreign countries or lemme say western countries especially, You know Africans and culture! Whats is the con and pro and Please share any similar experience you've had or saw and Your advice is needed also...

Re: I Am In Love With An Older Lady by hayzed1090: 11:14am On Jan 04, 2017

lestat:
This is a a Randy freckled faced lad swooning over a mother figure lady. Hahahahahahahaha... Lemme guess you have mummy issues? You love your mum to death right and she dotes over you?

Seriously though, spend your time focused on self discovery, as you clearly have no clue.

How do you think you know what love is when you don't even know yourself yet?
Dude move out of your parents house first build you yourself financially , grow your career... By the time you do all these you would probably be 27/28 with girls throwing thselves at your feet.

You aren't in love your are just in lust
Hahahahahaha...

Re: I Am In Love With An Older Lady by Nobody: 11:14am On Jan 04, 2017

Intrepid01:
When you see comments from a PRO you'll know.....@ Op, this is the best advise for you.....please note , a lady needs you to show your love through care not through words of mouth. Show care and watch the flow.

i don't know why y'all is so hooked about showing love and care to get a lady. Some ladies can take you for a fool if you show them you love them angry

Re: I Am In Love With An Older Lady by Nobody: 11:17am On Jan 04, 2017

op is in a dreamland, dude babe might not be thinking all u thinking. so because a lady talks with u, u already start liking her? seriously so that means u'll like and probably crush on every lady u talk to. baba give ursef brain. there's more to liking someone than just having small talks.

Re: I Am In Love With An Older Lady by Barigaboy(m): 11:17am On Jan 04, 2017

Pluto16:
Hi everyone, I'm madly in love with this lady she is like (lemme guess) roughly 26 years while i'm just 22...she's working in a place beside the company i work with. We do talk sometimes, greet each other and some other stuffs...

But I'm scared to ask her out because of the age difference. She might took it wrong or embarrass me or something like that...

As a young man i dress well, look cute and behave well also but I dnt think all that count. I know it works in foreign countries or lemme say western countries especially, You know Africans and culture! Whats is the con and pro and Please share any similar experience you've had or saw and Your advice is needed also...

Nothing bad with d way u feel. Feeling comes when u admire something u like in a woman regardless of the age but u need to identify first if what u feel is love or lust depending on your type of person n what makes u admire her. My own school of thought believes that if u love a woman becos of her big boobs or big back in most cases will be lust. Anything u like in her body that big is attach to.
Most time I wouldn't advice u to date a girl of your age or above your age especially at your age. At 25 some ladies 22 they want to get married u r 22 n she is 26. Can u see that it wouldn't work. U now u wish to date her she might want marriage to put yourself as a scape goat and u don't even know her yet. My advice for u is this, if u really feel u admire her whenever she is passing just stay for admire n leave. U might not like my advice. Have tried that before but it never favour me. I ran for my life at last when my account was always Zero. m so bad that if I m d one when I have not started thinking mature like this I would have gotten that lady before u finish posting for advice. In my ss2 I was dating a student teacher I also take her home when my parent her out but now I don wise. All those tin no pay. U r 22 date a girl of 18 or 17 self. From 16 girls r mature. Befor u turn 25 she would be 20 or more. That one does not even mean that at 30 people wouldn't feel she is your mom meaning that lady older than u now will look like your grandma. Am 6years older than my girl but if u see her or when she talks u will think she is older. She knows a lot that I don't no but no be for book o. In next few minute from now she would be taking me on a 6 hours journey n I must follow her leaving my work. shey u c d stress .

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Re: I Am In Love With An Older Lady by princejr(m): 11:20am On Jan 04, 2017

Pluto16:
Hi everyone, I'm madly in love with this lady she is like (lemme guess) roughly 26 years while i'm just 22...she's working in a place beside the company i work with. We do talk sometimes, greet each other and some other stuffs...

But I'm scared to ask her out because of the age difference. She might took it wrong or embarrass me or something like that...

As a young man i dress well, look cute and behave well also but I dnt think all that count. I know it works in foreign countries or lemme say western countries especially, You know Africans and culture! Whats is the con and pro and Please share any similar experience you've had or saw and Your advice is needed also...

Normally I won't comment on a topic like this, but I sense a bit of sincerity in ur write up and that's why I would give u my piece of advice.

1. There is nothing wrong in a younger man falling in love with a lady older than he is. Slight gap in age difference is considerable, but in cases where huge gap like 15 - 20 years is found, societies such as ours tend to frown at it. But, nevertheless, if it's genuine love what can we do but accept.

2. For a younger guy to date a girl older than him, certain things would make it work well. You must be well matured in ur way of reasoning and way of life. You are financially independent. You are ready to settle down, as in get married. One would think that at 22 years old, are you ready to settle down? If not ditch d idea and move along. A single elderly girl can't be seen fooling around with a younger guy unless she herself has no plans of settling down.

3. There are lots of pple I know in this country that the wives are older than the husband. And they are doing very well. One of such is Dare art Alade and his wife. So it is possible to date and marry an elderly lady and be happy in the relationship.

On a closing note, do not be in a rush to ask her out. Be a very good friend to her first. Sometimes you can be carried away and be in lust rather than being in love. Take ur time. And eventually when it's time to ask her out you both will know it's d right step of direction to take.

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Re: I Am In Love With An Older Lady by DrogoG(m): 11:24am On Jan 04, 2017*

Pluto16:
Hi everyone, I'm madly in love with this lady she is like (lemme guess) roughly 26 years while i'm just 22...she's working in a place beside the company i work with. We do talk sometimes, greet each other and some other stuffs...

But I'm scared to ask her out because of the age difference. She might took it wrong or embarrass me or something like that...

As a young man i dress well, look cute and behave well also but I dnt think all that count. I know it works in foreign countries or lemme say western countries especially, You know Africans and culture! Whats is the con and pro and Please share any similar experience you've had or saw and Your advice is needed also...

How could you be in love with a lady you're not even dating? Most Nigerians can't differentiate between Love and Crush. I believe you have a crush on her.

There's absolutely nothing wrong in dating a woman who's four years older than you. As long as she your type, f*uck tradition! We're in 2017 not 1917. Both of you are young.

Dating a younger lady doesn't guarantee anything in a relationship and the same applies to virgins. What matters is love.

My wife is one year older than me but I look 5 yrs older than her. My marriage is wonderful. We have been married for more than 10yrs (married young). Two of my friends who married younger women (7 yrs and 5 yrs younger) are single today.

Go toast her now before she's taken. Who knows? She may be your future wife.

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Re: I Am In Love With An Older Lady by udysweet(f): 11:31am On Jan 04, 2017

May the heavens bless you! Especially for No 6. Tell them and you're quickly reminded age is nothing but a number. Fine no one is disputing,ju prove to her beyond reasonable doubt that you're in not for fun but for smtn serios. because the next thing they are quick to abuse u and insult u and all. No time hanging arnd time wasters mbok,lol

greatnaija01:
maybe i should first clear your MIND and EYES on the differences that exist apart from age

1- I.Q difference... even at the same age... Ladies have more I.Q than guys cos they have alot going on already from a tender age of their first menstral cycle flow...

2. CAREER difference young dude if u have no HIGH PAYING Job simply snap her pics n use it to fantasize cos she may like your face but will never be PROUD OF YOU.

3. VALUES.. Its so obvious you are only FALLING for looks and you barely know what it takes to HOLD a TRUE relationship thru thick n thin... MY YOUNG BOSS... LADY LOOKS DECEIVE o

4. FINANCES. CAN YOU HANDLE HER NEEDS? DO YOU EVEN KNOW WHAT SHE NEEDS? CAN YOU TAKE CARE OF A BABY? ALL IN THIS RECESSION... if you are not financially BUOYANT kindly walk away.... oops if you are WALKING meaning you gat no ride then don't consider it.

5. SPIRITUALLY SAFE: In these new year... no matter what you do.. secure your destiny.. no matter how good your game is.. she will always be ahead of you mentally...if not experientally... DO NOT START WHAT YOU CAN NOT FINISH... DO NOT JUMP UNLESS YOU HAVE SEEN WHERE U WILL LAND ON BOTH FEET. THIS LIFE IS MYSTERIOUSLY SPIRITUAL.

6. ARE YOU READY TO MARRY? at her age she aint looking for a dude to get laid... she wants commitment and marriage... and if you HURT her she can place a CURSE you will never be able to break. do not underestimate the power of words release from BITTER HURTS.

GO FOR A LADY THAT WILL LOOK UP TO YOU IN EVERY WAY... NOT ONE THAT IS NOT EVEN LOOKING AT YOU. YOU ARE TOO YOUNG TO BE TESTING WATERS IN THESE DAYS WHERE KNOWLEDGE IS EVERYWHERE. BE WISE O... ELSE WHEN IT HAPPENS YOU MAY NOT HAVE THE ENERGY TO TYPE YOUR STORY ONLINE.

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Re: I Am In Love With An Older Lady by Gfish: 11:34am On Jan 04, 2017

Dude, just walk up to her and express yourself. Show her this thread just to show how crazily desperate you have become. she will definately not still date you but least she go give you the kpekus........afterall thats all you really want. You will realise when your body calms down.

Re: I Am In Love With An Older Lady by Sunnybabe(m): 11:43am On Jan 04, 2017

haibe:
90% of the ladies i have loved are older than me.. i don't know why

serious u need prayer,

oya KNEEL DOWN AND LET PRAY

Re: I Am In Love With An Older Lady by Nobody: 11:47am On Jan 04, 2017

some people funny sha... I swear its not lust but love. This is not the first i would be falling in love so I know the different....I thank you all for the advice..Blessing!

Re: I Am In Love With An Older Lady by Intrepid01(m): 11:51am On Jan 04, 2017

ucsparks:
i don't know why y'all is so hooked about showing love and care to get a lady. Some ladies can take you for a fool if you show them you love them

That can only happen to a learner....you can only take a willing heart for a fool. Guy, the moment it becomes obvious she's in it for the wrong reasons, I'll be long gone . I wish I could share some experiences that would show you crazy decisions have taken about ladies.

Omo your brain must be involved always....as in always always.

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Re: I Am In Love With An Older Lady by PrettySleek(f): 11:51am On Jan 04, 2017

greatnaija01:
maybe i should first clear your MIND and EYES on the differences that exist apart from age

1- I.Q difference... even at the same age... Ladies have more I.Q than guys cos they have alot going on already from a tender age of their first menstral cycle flow...

2. CAREER difference young dude if u have no HIGH PAYING Job simply snap her pics n use it to fantasize cos she may like your face but will never be PROUD OF YOU.

3. VALUES.. Its so obvious you are only FALLING for looks and you barely know what it takes to HOLD a TRUE relationship thru thick n thin... MY YOUNG BOSS... LADY LOOKS DECEIVE o

4. FINANCES. CAN YOU HANDLE HER NEEDS? DO YOU EVEN KNOW WHAT SHE NEEDS? CAN YOU TAKE CARE OF A BABY? ALL IN THIS RECESSION... if you are not financially BUOYANT kindly walk away.... oops if you are WALKING meaning you gat no ride then don't consider it.

5. SPIRITUALLY SAFE: In these new year... no matter what you do.. secure your destiny.. no matter how good your game is.. she will always be ahead of you mentally...if not experientally... DO NOT START WHAT YOU CAN NOT FINISH... DO NOT JUMP UNLESS YOU HAVE SEEN WHERE U WILL LAND ON BOTH FEET. THIS LIFE IS MYSTERIOUSLY SPIRITUAL.

6. ARE YOU READY TO MARRY? at her age she aint looking for a dude to get laid... she wants commitment and marriage... and if you HURT her she can place a CURSE you will never be able to break. do not underestimate the power of words release from BITTER HURTS.

GO FOR A LADY THAT WILL LOOK UP TO YOU IN EVERY WAY... NOT ONE THAT IS NOT EVEN LOOKING AT YOU. YOU ARE TOO YOUNG TO BE TESTING WATERS IN THESE DAYS WHERE KNOWLEDGE IS EVERYWHERE. BE WISE O... ELSE WHEN IT HAPPENS YOU MAY NOT HAVE THE ENERGY TO TYPE YOUR STORY ONLINE.

U just earned my respect!! Good advice.

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Re: I Am In Love With An Older Lady by skylane: 12:03pm On Jan 04, 2017

Brother,age is just a number when it comes to socialization as well love affairs,I started dating a girl of 24 yrs wen I was 16,the love was perfect till she got married off,I continued dating a girl of 25 while I was 19,It went well too,I dated another lady of 31 while I was just 21, now am presently with my final destination(an angel,I love you famelo)and she's 3yrs older than me,it all depends on how you comport yourself,while I was dating all these ladies I was not rich,I rarely spend on them,the understanding is there,so brother go for her,just be a friend,a brother,a father and a master to her,and watch how it(love) comes naturally from both of you,gudluck bro

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Re: I Am In Love With An Older Lady by press005: 12:06pm On Jan 04, 2017

2sexynet:
That notion that ladies mature more than men is complete fallacy. Most of them are dunce. I could agree that she wants marriage at that age which the OP might not be able to cater for and also she might not be 26 as the OP postulated, reason being that some girls look older and bigger than their age.

nt dunce anyway . Some ladies actually has wat it takes duo very few bt might nt av d worldly qualities most men want.

Re: I Am In Love With An Older Lady by unphilaz(m): 12:11pm On Jan 04, 2017

alex81:
so u woke up 2:05 am just to type ds hmmm

oya post her pishure.

pishure is directly proportional to quality advice!

like comments mwanwhile @gloworld has banned themselves from giving me data services.

Re: I Am In Love With An Older Lady by Jazmiynne: 12:26pm On Jan 04, 2017

greatnaija01:
GO FOR A LADY THAT WILL LOOK UP TO YOU IN EVERY WAY... NOT ONE THAT IS NOT EVEN LOOKING AT YOU.

I have one word for this: *Epic* cool

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Re: I Am In Love With An Older Lady by samsam2019: 12:26pm On Jan 04, 2017

1stladdy:
when you eventually get married, you'll pay the role of the wife while she, the husband

liar. Winsh like u angry

Re: I Am In Love With An Older Lady by 1stladdy(f): 12:29pm On Jan 04, 2017

samsam2019:
liar. Winsh like u

lwkm!

Re: I Am In Love With An Older Lady by Mskrisx(f): 12:30pm On Jan 04, 2017

raylord:
my gf is 30 and am 24. very serious relationship. she has introduced me to her mother and her siblings. she wants us to get married this year

I pity u

Re: I Am In Love With An Older Lady by greatnaija01: 12:30pm On Jan 04, 2017

THE GUY FORGETS THAT EVEN ALADIN had to make Jasmine Look up to him... to make up for the wealth he didnt have to impress her. grin

Jazmiynne:
I have one word for this: *Epic*

Re: I Am In Love With An Older Lady by Nobody: 12:31pm On Jan 04, 2017

Take a step and stop sulking...

Re: I Am In Love With An Older Lady by FreeSpirited: 12:33pm On Jan 04, 2017

.....As a guy, I don't believe there's any lady I can't date or fvck, especially when it comes to I.q and age difference.......I'm naturally attracted to older ladies cos of the challenge and opportunity to behave and get more matured. I have had more affairs with older ladies than younger ones. its a beautiful experience to date an older lady cos of the maturity and understanding they display and in return, u get more mature

Re: I Am In Love With An Older Lady by Jazmiynne: 12:39pm On Jan 04, 2017

greatnaija01:
THE GUY FORGETS THAT EVEN ALADIN had to make Jasmine Look up to him... to make up for the wealth he didnt have to impress her.

Lolz true talk cheesy

It mustn't be a financial 'looking up', but there has to be a looking-up shaaaa

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Re: I Am In Love With An Older Lady by ginggerxy: 12:44pm On Jan 04, 2017

crotonite:
a = k * p

Where p = picture, a = quality of advice, and k = the vector sum of her assets.

physicist i sight you

Re: I Am In Love With An Older Lady by Jammiiee(m): 12:45pm On Jan 04, 2017

That should tell u how intoxicating the love he is talking about, it's obvious he's stuck with insomnia. Reminds me of those days when I was in love with Cynthia, I could hardly sleep, eat nor drink . I could hardly breathe without thinking twice abt her, I can relate with the Op's situ. But I'm fast fallen head over heels in love with someone on this platform, Ishilove by name angry

, pls any one got a lil info bt her huh

So love this lady, the burgeoning growth of my love for her is quite abstruse. angry

oh! Poor me angry

alex81:
so u woke up 2:05 am just to type ds hmmm

oya post her pishure.

pishure is directly proportional to quality advice!

Re: I Am In Love With An Older Lady by skylane: 12:48pm On Jan 04, 2017

FreeSpirited:
.....As a guy, I don't believe there's any lady I can't date or fvck, especially when it comes to I.q and age difference.......I'm naturally attracted to older ladies cos of the challenge and opportunity to behave and get more matured. I have had more affairs with older ladies than younger ones. its a beautiful experience to date an older lady cos of the maturity and understanding they display and in return, u get more mature

u right bro,I can remember the funny experience I had a 36 yrs old nurse while I was 22,I learnt alot

Re: I Am In Love With An Older Lady by Jammiiee(m): 12:59pm On Jan 04, 2017

Hmm she wants us to get married this year ? She's indeed apprehensive of her age I can fathom, but do u want to marry this year or are u ready should be ur concern, of course she is nubile, hence ready. And hope it's a requited love angry

raylord:
my gf is 30 and am 24. very serious relationship. she has introduced me to her mother and her siblings. she wants us to get married this year

Re: I Am In Love With An Older Lady by Jammiiee(m): 1:21pm On Jan 04, 2017

Bro, u'l have to keep an open mind. God might have a yoruba or Hausa girl for u, even a tapa. But your monolithic propensity for tribalism, married with gargantuan 'parapoism' could debar you from getting your missing rib.

Keep an open mind and jettison your cumbrus circumlocution of tribal proclivity then you'll find out she might just be around you but you've hardly noticed.

obataokenwa:
truth be told... older ladies are not easy to avoid. I've dated lots of them and can even marry one... but I took a new Year resolution to cut all off for now and focus to find that miss for me. I must marry this year... but where the hell is my wife? all the game I played, I wasn't serious now that I'm serious, it's like the hardest thing on earth right now. Where and how do people find theirs. God answers me quickly on other things but not on where my wife is... I'm scared

Re: I Am In Love With An Older Lady by vislabraye(m): 1:25pm On Jan 04, 2017

greatnaija01:
maybe i should first clear your MIND and EYES on the differences that exist apart from age

1- I.Q difference... even at the same age... Ladies have more I.Q than guys cos they have alot going on already from a tender age of their first menstral cycle flow...

2. CAREER difference young dude if u have no HIGH PAYING Job simply snap her pics n use it to fantasize cos she may like your face but will never be PROUD OF YOU.

3. VALUES.. Its so obvious you are only FALLING for looks and you barely know what it takes to HOLD a TRUE relationship thru thick n thin... MY YOUNG BOSS... LADY LOOKS DECEIVE o

4. FINANCES. CAN YOU HANDLE HER NEEDS? DO YOU EVEN KNOW WHAT SHE NEEDS? CAN YOU TAKE CARE OF A BABY? ALL IN THIS RECESSION... if you are not financially BUOYANT kindly walk away.... oops if you are WALKING meaning you gat no ride then don't consider it.

5. SPIRITUALLY SAFE: In these new year... no matter what you do.. secure your destiny.. no matter how good your game is.. she will always be ahead of you mentally...if not experientally... DO NOT START WHAT YOU CAN NOT FINISH... DO NOT JUMP UNLESS YOU HAVE SEEN WHERE U WILL LAND ON BOTH FEET. THIS LIFE IS MYSTERIOUSLY SPIRITUAL.

6. ARE YOU READY TO MARRY? at her age she aint looking for a dude to get laid... she wants commitment and marriage... and if you HURT her she can place a CURSE you will never be able to break. do not underestimate the power of words release from BITTER HURTS.

GO FOR A LADY THAT WILL LOOK UP TO YOU IN EVERY WAY... NOT ONE THAT IS NOT EVEN LOOKING AT YOU. YOU ARE TOO YOUNG TO BE TESTING WATERS IN THESE DAYS WHERE KNOWLEDGE IS EVERYWHERE. BE WISE O... ELSE WHEN IT HAPPENS YOU MAY NOT HAVE THE ENERGY TO TYPE YOUR STORY ONLINE.

How do you know what she's looking for huh

Op, proceed with your feelings, but keep an open mind. Don't put your expectations too high.

Re: I Am In Love With An Older Lady by dejavuh0007(m): 1:42pm On Jan 04, 2017

hehe. am 21 and all my life have had relationships wit ladies that r older dan me and till we called it quits none of dem av any idea watsoever dat dey were my senior even till dis moment. 4 of dem to b precise and d least one was my senior by a year +. Even my current gf is 24 and am 21 and she doesn't know.

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