There is nothing wrong with the man whatsoever after all he fathered two kids. The truth is that some women kill a man's libido unknowingly.

When that happens the man develops psychological problems which may affect his sex life. They do this in so many ways. Some of them are as follows. When they are no longer attractive and sexy, when they don't measure up to standard, when they are not sexually adventurous. When they don't mix up with the right crowd. When they cannot support the man instead they work clandestinely to bring down the man.

The woman should check herself.

buygala:
There are two possibilities here:

He just developed the sex issues recently and is yet to come to terms with that fact..

Or

He has always had those sex inadequacies. ..but he arranged himself with some sex enhancers in the early stages of the marriage, because he wanted to take your virginity like a boss, and enjoy the tight ermmmm...ermmm while the tightness lasted

And there is the possibility that having used all those burantashi on you, and kids having been produced and your vagina having expanded significantly, he no longer sees any reason to continue risking his overall health just to satisfy you ... in any case, he may think since he married you a virgin, you wouldn't know any better and will see his 2-minute sex stunts or no stunt except kids are needed as normal for married peeps

My advice:

Please cheat on him so that your sanity can be maintained .... being starved of sex is worse than being starved of food...it messes up the mind in a million ways... ..... and no, hoping and praying won't help you ... You have to take the bull by the horn and help yourself ...at your age, your sex hormones are still pretty strong. ..it would be courting disaster to unreasonably resist them.

Ignore him, get some good sex outside since he doesn't even want to acknowledge there is a problem with his abuna, much less take steps towards solving the problem and fulfilling his conjugal duty towards you

And no..getting some good sex outside won't make you a worse mum...as for being a worse wife to your hubby, he deserves it anyway....but if You can help it, still be a good wife ...but please find a way to cheat incognito. ..many are doing it and still have functional families who have no idea of what is going on

U are just a good writer however for u advice I can't say d same of u

Don't cheat pls abeg you because is not good at all. Your husband does not have enough stamina. I believe you notice he breathe heavily during expulsion/ejaculations. Tell him to do exercises very to regain his strength. But alternatively, pending when things gets better, after first round let him baths then TRY to make him go for second round. Please give me your reply

Life sha ooo. Life no get solution. Me and my babe are having serious problem cos she always complain I love sex too much. She has curtailed how she visits me. Almost sick and weak now cos I've not had sex for one week here. If I don't have sex for two weeks, I don't think I can cope let alone six months. You want to kill me? Truth be told. Monday fasting and prayer starts. that's only when I will hold on for three weeks. The last night of the fast, I can't wait. I love sex even when I'm hungry. Gift

Catalin:
Men love sex, for you husband to suddenly lose interest in having sex with you means that he might be cheating.

You need to confirm if your husband is cheating.

And women doesn't love it abi...

Or Is it not women who turned cassava and cucumber to unclean fruits..

oh shitt!!! gurl hit reverse

Women stop allowing your husband's be present when you're giving birth cos 80% of them will loose interest on you after that.

Na so I go make mouth for one girl say I go finish work on top her,amoye the girl na karashika.the girl knack knack me sotay I pick quarrel with her just to chase her away,na my landlady separate fight that night.. girls too like fcvk

- Some women will create a home situation where sex is not even possible and turn around to complain about lack of sex.
We need to understand that for the man, an erection is due to signals sent from the brain to the organs.
- When the man is preoccupied with issues of getting by and then having to deal with an impossible partner, then the last thing that comes to mind is sex. A single word can drive away the hardest erection nagging with certainly kill one.
- It's is easy when you only have a hole and you don't need to get anything up before you have sex.
- On the flip side, most of us men that have to work our buts off destroy our body system, the prick is one of the first victims of an unhealthy lifestyle. Lack of exercise is a major cause, you don't have to be a hunk, just be healthy and your prick go respond.
- Those ones making the unfair comments about women being fat, I say it is a silly infatuation driven reasoning. If the woman fat, shey the toto fat ni?
- Occupations that require long sitting hours certainly weaken the pvc muscle, which is the engine room of sex for men.
A troubled mind is a sex killer.
- I am not blaming any single party here, it's just that these things need to be worked on... marriage no easy ooo.
When woman bellyful na prick be the next need wey you must provide, chai man don suffer.
- I don see woman for my church wey burst cry for church marriage seminar because of lack of prick... it is that bad!!
- And women of nowadays, prick no dey reach dem... you Bleep tire them go still dey ask for more without knowing that you are loosing a lot of energy in the sexual process.some expectations are just not realistic as everything deteriorates with age.

And to the woman, I know women do exergerate... the man dey Bleep am pass the number way she count na just say eno dey reach am.

gracetie:
I am 25 years old and my husband is 32. We have two kids together. our sex life was perfect until after our first baby. My husband doesnt touch me anymore. I always have to initiate sex each time im in dare need of it. He has the problem of weak erection and premature ejaculation too.on one occasion I mentioned to him that we really need to see a doctor he said "are you now saying im not a man again"

I said "'no babe you are a man but in the last 6months we've had sex only once and you didnt last up to a minute, there s no need to blame anyone lets just see a doctor. He cut out the idea and we have been staying like that. I give him good and healthy meals. I dress sexy in the house. I doubt if he s cheating cos i have access to his phone and we are always together. he doesnt keep late nights and doesnts answer starnge calls. I think its a health issue but his ego wont allow him sort out issues.

I have reminded him many times that i am only 25 and he married me a virgin. How can i proudly say that in 5 years of married we have had sex not more than 10 times and lucky two of the times resulted in pregnancies. Please advice on what I should do. I am soo tempted to cheat and satisfy myself. But I love my husband. I wish our sex life can go back to what it used to be.

Madam is sex food? Go and buy yourself a big cucumber,and free the man jor,is it by force to do?

You need a very good and hot sex, and you also need a psychiatrist..

.. Pm me if you need a good psychiatrist or therapist..

Note: two wrongs can never make a right, a word is enough for a wise.

Don't Cheat.

In the course of a marriage, guys are bound to experience a low libido at some point, ignorance and pride would not allow African guys to seek the proper treatment hence women it's up to you! I know of a girl back in school that went to her village in Osun to find correct herbs for her boyfriend because he was experiencing the same issue. Needless to say, they are married now and couldn't be happier. WOMAN if your husband treats you right financially, emotionally and spiritually and his shortcoming is the sexual aspect then you owe it to him to be there in his time of need. Stop thinking only about yourself and start looking at the bigger picture. Cheating will have devastating consequences on not only you but your children. It's time to earn the title of WIFEY and do what must be done to get him back on track, if he does not want to seek MODERN medical help then try TRADITIONAL, if he is not willing to try anything then involve your pastor or someone he respects!

bolivnnaija:
There are two possibilities here:

He just developed the sex issues recently and is yet to come to terms with that fact..

Or

He has always had those sex inadequacies. ..but he arranged himself with some sex enhancers in the early stages of the marriage, because he wanted to take your virginity like a boss, and enjoy the tight ermmmm...ermmm while the tightness lasted

And there is the possibility that having used all those burantashi on you, and kids having been produced and your vagina having expanded significantly, he no longer sees any reason to continue risking his overall health just to satisfy you ... in any case, he may think since he married you a virgin, you wouldn't know any better and will see his 2-minute sex stunts or no stunt except kids are needed as normal for married peeps

My advice:

Please cheat on him so that your sanity can be maintained .... being starved of sex is worse than being starved of food...it messes up the mind in a million ways... ..... and no, hoping and praying won't help you ... You have to take the bull by the horn and help yourself ...at your age, your sex hormones are still pretty strong. ..it would be courting disaster to unreasonably resist them.

Ignore him, get some good sex outside since he doesn't even want to acknowledge there is a problem with his abuna, much less take steps towards solving the problem and fulfilling his conjugal duty towards you

And no..getting some good sex outside won't make you a worse mum...as for being a worse wife to your hubby, he deserves it anyway....but if You can help it, still be a good wife ...but please find a way to cheat incognito. ..many are doing it and still have functional families who have no idea of what is going on
Are you for real?
Back to the issue- just see a psychologist. I belief is a mind thing but if it's not, an expert will avail you relevant steps to take.

What an advise evil dwells in the land.

buygala:
There are two possibilities here:

He just developed the sex issues recently and is yet to come to terms with that fact..

Or

He has always had those sex inadequacies. ..but he arranged himself with some sex enhancers in the early stages of the marriage, because he wanted to take your virginity like a boss, and enjoy the tight ermmmm...ermmm while the tightness lasted

And there is the possibility that having used all those burantashi on you, and kids having been produced and your vagina having expanded significantly, he no longer sees any reason to continue risking his overall health just to satisfy you ... in any case, he may think since he married you a virgin, you wouldn't know any better and will see his 2-minute sex stunts or no stunt except kids are needed as normal for married peeps

My advice:

Please cheat on him so that your sanity can be maintained .... being starved of sex is worse than being starved of food...it messes up the mind in a million ways... ..... and no, hoping and praying won't help you ... You have to take the bull by the horn and help yourself ...at your age, your sex hormones are still pretty strong. ..it would be courting disaster to unreasonably resist them.

Ignore him, get some good sex outside since he doesn't even want to acknowledge there is a problem with his abuna, much less take steps towards solving the problem and fulfilling his conjugal duty towards you

And no..getting some good sex outside won't make you a worse mum...as for being a worse wife to your hubby, he deserves it anyway....but if You can help it, still be a good wife ...but please find a way to cheat incognito. ..many are doing it and still have functional families who have no idea of what is going on

u are an evil genius for giving such ungodly and wicked advice to a married woman..same way other men will have sex with your wife..foolish man !!! If u don't have any meaningful advice to give why not just shut the hell up..instead of talking rubbbish

emymeeky:


Hahaha hahaha ... But he could be right . Smell can be a turnoff

Abeg live that thing...which kind smell were no turn am off prior to dere first baby?? Is d smell also d reason for d quick explosion

buygala:
There are two possibilities here:

He just developed the sex issues recently and is yet to come to terms with that fact..

Or

He has always had those sex inadequacies. ..but he arranged himself with some sex enhancers in the early stages of the marriage, because he wanted to take your virginity like a boss, and enjoy the tight ermmmm...ermmm while the tightness lasted

And there is the possibility that having used all those burantashi on you, and kids having been produced and your vagina having expanded significantly, he no longer sees any reason to continue risking his overall health just to satisfy you ... in any case, he may think since he married you a virgin, you wouldn't know any better and will see his 2-minute sex stunts or no stunt except kids are needed as normal for married peeps

My advice:

Please cheat on him so that your sanity can be maintained .... being starved of sex is worse than being starved of food...it messes up the mind in a million ways... ..... and no, hoping and praying won't help you ... You have to take the bull by the horn and help yourself ...at your age, your sex hormones are still pretty strong. ..it would be courting disaster to unreasonably resist them.

Ignore him, get some good sex outside since he doesn't even want to acknowledge there is a problem with his abuna, much less take steps towards solving the problem and fulfilling his conjugal duty towards you

And no..getting some good sex outside won't make you a worse mum...as for being a worse wife to your hubby, he deserves it anyway....but if You can help it, still be a good wife ...but please find a way to cheat incognito. ..many are doing it and still have functional families who have no idea of what is going on

I can see d spirit of lunacy all over u... Would u give such senseless counsel to ur sister.. Smh

buygala:
There are two possibilities here:

He just developed the sex issues recently and is yet to come to terms with that fact..

Or

He has always had those sex inadequacies. ..but he arranged himself with some sex enhancers in the early stages of the marriage, because he wanted to take your virginity like a boss, and enjoy the tight ermmmm...ermmm while the tightness lasted

And there is the possibility that having used all those burantashi on you, and kids having been produced and your vagina having expanded significantly, he no longer sees any reason to continue risking his overall health just to satisfy you ... in any case, he may think since he married you a virgin, you wouldn't know any better and will see his 2-minute sex stunts or no stunt except kids are needed as normal for married peeps

My advice:

Please cheat on him so that your sanity can be maintained .... being starved of sex is worse than being starved of food...it messes up the mind in a million ways... ..... and no, hoping and praying won't help you ... You have to take the bull by the horn and help yourself ...at your age, your sex hormones are still pretty strong. ..it would be courting disaster to unreasonably resist them.

Ignore him, get some good sex outside since he doesn't even want to acknowledge there is a problem with his abuna, much less take steps towards solving the problem and fulfilling his conjugal duty towards you

And no..getting some good sex outside won't make you a worse mum...as for being a worse wife to your hubby, he deserves it anyway....but if You can help it, still be a good wife ...but please find a way to cheat incognito. ..many are doing it and still have functional families who have no idea of what is going on

For your mind you have advised her....Mr man sleep if u gat nothing meaningful to say..

sexymoma:
try watching some kamasutra with him
my sister jos download some in your phone, since you guys do stay together most times
relax on his chest then jos play it... if he says "what is this" tell him you are learning some skills
he s your hubby not a stranger... act anyhow.

tell him some sexy words even before night comes
like.. babe my nipples itches , my boobs looks fairer than my face
u go hear "let me see"

haa..some ladies and there strategy on how to track men ehn.nawa o.u bad..
(@let me see),haha

Catalin:
Men love sex, for you husband to suddenly lose interest in having sex with you means that he might be cheating.

You need to confirm if your husband is cheating.

hmmmm....
women!!!
try to improve on d way u think

Do not cheat for you may regret later in life.

Could he be gay? Just wondering.

Girl, I don't have what to tell you o ..... It's really not fair the way you are neglected. Keep pleading with him to get medical help sha and beg him to give you permission to have an intimacy gadget. It's great oooo but there's still that need for skin to skin.

The gadget will give you satisfaction in a way and it's better than cheating but whatever you do, please, don't ever cheat on your husband. That's just so wrong.

gracetie:
I am 25 years old and my husband is 32. We have two kids together. our sex life was perfect until after our first baby. My husband doesnt touch me anymore. I always have to initiate sex each time im in dare need of it. He has the problem of weak erection and premature ejaculation too.on one occasion I mentioned to him that we really need to see a doctor he said "are you now saying im not a man again"

I said "'no babe you are a man but in the last 6months we've had sex only once and you didnt last up to a minute, there s no need to blame anyone lets just see a doctor. He cut out the idea and we have been staying like that. I give him good and healthy meals. I dress sexy in the house. I doubt if he s cheating cos i have access to his phone and we are always together. he doesnt keep late nights and doesnts answer starnge calls. I think its a health issue but his ego wont allow him sort out issues.

I have reminded him many times that i am only 25 and he married me a virgin. How can i proudly say that in 5 years of married we have had sex not more than 10 times and lucky two of the times resulted in pregnancies. Please advice on what I should do. I am soo tempted to cheat and satisfy myself. But I love my husband. I wish our sex life can go back to what it used to be.

now you got all the advice you wanted, now make a decision. But I pray you don't end up having a broken home and been a disgrace. This folks advising you to cheat on your husband are not wishing you well, probably there are not married, they have no ideal on how to run a matrimonial home. Most of them are at forty and have no husband and jealous on a young lady who is successfully married with two kids at 25. Do you ever think of what will be his reactions if he caught you cheating on him, probably he his not cheating on you then you take the first step he may send you away. Think of that, you are too you with two child to leave alone without a man, you may not be lucky the second time to get another man. Think about the shame you will bring to yourself and your family. No one will care to listen to this story you brought to Nairaland all the blame will be on you. Internet is a social place remember demons are also on the chat; be very careful on matters you bring to the social media for contributions this is a brand new year, wish yourself what is good.
On the issue of your husband i think his sexual hormones are not erecting you have to meet a doctor on his behalf explain the situation to him/her, they are the only one who can help you with the situation.
Get some active pills for him. If he still behalves a thomas then secretly add it in his meal till he wakes up from his slumber.
Drag him to the doctor. Do everything positively possible to boss his sex life

There is nothing wrong with the man whatsoever after all he fathered two kids. The truth is that some women kill a man's libido unknowingly.

When that happens the develops psychological problems which may affect his sex life. They do this in so many ways. Some of them are as follows. When they are no longer attractive and sexy, when they don't measure up to standard, when they are not sexually adventurous. When they don't mix up with the right crowd. When they cannot support the man instead they work clandestinely to bring down the man.

The woman should check herself.

fathomberry:




What specie of fool are you.

I can bet you're not even married.

I blame married folks that come here to ask advice from single mofos like you.

don't mind d brainless slowpoke... Another specie of eve... Corporate LovePeddler..

Never allow your hubby in the labour room. No man will have the same urge for you after experiencing such. This advice is for unmarried ladies here. As for you the op, change your bra and pants, go for more sexy ones and with time, things will improve.

SirJeffry:
Never allow your hubby in the labour room. No man will have the same urge for you after experiencing such. This advice is for unmarried ladies here. As for you the op, change your bra and pants, go for more sexy ones and with time, things will improve.

what does labour room have to do with anything now?

FYI, my husband was present for the delivery of our three kids and the guy could not even wait till the six weeks post partum period was over sef. Abeg stop peddling falsities.

hmmm.

Gracetie holla at ur boy ok


Hahaha


Ok seriusly.... Dont knw wat to say....

this issue is not perculiar to your husband alone. have you tried to know what bothers him most like finances, business issues, offices issues and others because issues like affect sexual performance a lot. this same issue often happens to carrier ladies too. this happens to me too after marriage especially when I have financial issues.

thelish:



So without perfume, pricckk nor fit stand? every problem in marriage is really from d woman. I forgot.

Exactly

You are damn sexy! I know that you are a boo. But can you still be my boo?...Lol

sexymoma:
try watching some kamasutra with him
my sister jos download some in your phone, since you guys do stay together most times
relax on his chest then jos play it... if he says "what is this" tell him you are learning some skills
he s your hubby not a stranger... act anyhow.

tell him some sexy words even before night comes
like.. babe my nipples itches , my boobs looks fairer than my face
u go hear "let me see"

Hmmmm...Just passing with my d***