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5 Reasons Why Women Jump Into Relationship With Men 12yrs+ Older Than Them by ireneony(f): 1:46pm On Jan 07, 2017
Dating is good but dating a man far older is some how "eww". Ladies who date older men do so for different reasons.....
I will be ditching out why ladies date men older than them with 12years+

Poverty
When someone have no money, they have no sense of reasoning. Many women who jump into relationship with older men do it because they can't feed themselves. When a woman in the university, and she finds it hard to feed or support herself because her parents cannot keep up, she has no other options than to date an older man.

Low self esteem
Some women believe that older guys are more caring and the less older guys are not caring. This set of women deliberately choose to date older men because they want men that can control them. Also, they have this belief that older men shower money on ladies.

Circumstances
Circumstances can sometimes render some women helpless, they have no choice than to fall into the trap of older men. When a lady find herself in a new environment with one to support her, she quickly start a relationship with an older man cos she believes that will be her meal ticket in escaping hardship.

No father figure
having a father figure in a woman's life is very important, and when there's no such thing, this means she will likely date an older man. Women who date older men do so to fill the void they lack in their life. They see older men as guardians, support, advisor, provider e.t.c. some of these women call their boyfriend "daddy". So now you know

Marriage pressure
Marriage pressure sometimes plays a huge role why young ladies date older men, all because they want to get married because their friends are getting married every weekend. They claim age is just a number and love is the most important thing, but their motive of starting a relationship with older men was of course marriage. They know men at this age are ready to settle down.

Note: The post above is from my own observations and theory. This does not go against people's preference.

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Re: 5 Reasons Why Women Jump Into Relationship With Men 12yrs+ Older Than Them by Nobody: 1:48pm On Jan 07, 2017
Trash and more trash.

I prefer dating a matured guy older than me to all these small small boys with no sense of responsibility.

You expect me to date my agemate who is still suffering from youthful exuberance.

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Re: 5 Reasons Why Women Jump Into Relationship With Men 12yrs+ Older Than Them by Timelezz: 1:49pm On Jan 07, 2017
Op, what's your ideal age gap for couples?

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Re: 5 Reasons Why Women Jump Into Relationship With Men 12yrs+ Older Than Them by TeeFeh(f): 1:53pm On Jan 07, 2017
Yes,what's your ideal age gap for a relationship!

Y'all talk too much here grin does age actually matter?

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Re: 5 Reasons Why Women Jump Into Relationship With Men 12yrs+ Older Than Them by bigybanty10(m): 1:54pm On Jan 07, 2017
Op u do well,but the people who have a fuvck to give are coming.
Re: 5 Reasons Why Women Jump Into Relationship With Men 12yrs+ Older Than Them by Afriifa(m): 1:55pm On Jan 07, 2017
Catalin:
Trash and more trash.

I prefer dating a matured guy older than me to all these small small boys with no sense of responsibility.

You expect me to date my agemate who is still suffering from youthful exuberance.
Literally are you saying, you don't date because you are inlove but becuase of some random features possesed by a guy?

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Re: 5 Reasons Why Women Jump Into Relationship With Men 12yrs+ Older Than Them by Nobody: 1:55pm On Jan 07, 2017
Who all these pencil trousers boys epp? undecided


Op some date them for the love of it tho, plus you omitted arranged marriages too. grin

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Re: 5 Reasons Why Women Jump Into Relationship With Men 12yrs+ Older Than Them by Nobody: 1:58pm On Jan 07, 2017
Afriifa:
Literally are you saying, you don't date because you are inlove but becuase of some random features possesed by a guy?
I don't fall in love anyhow, I take my time before I fall in love. Mind you, love is a gradual process. Character, age, grammatical expression, educational qualification makes me fall in love with someone.

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Re: 5 Reasons Why Women Jump Into Relationship With Men 12yrs+ Older Than Them by kaziblake(f): 1:59pm On Jan 07, 2017
I date guys far older than me but not for these reasons...just prefer them older
The oldest ones are more sensible than the chewing gum set..
There is a future ahead with them and they can stay in in a relationship without sex
Eg mine and he dosen't bug me about it

The older ones are mentally matured and can pamper a woman without coming to social media to lament

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Re: 5 Reasons Why Women Jump Into Relationship With Men 12yrs+ Older Than Them by pocohantas(f): 1:59pm On Jan 07, 2017
Very very true though. These points apply at one point or the other.

That aside, most young boys don't know what they want, they are on a mission to increase your vagina mileage.
Very few of them can stay in a relationship without sex, but they will be the first to ask what you're bringing to the table.
This isn't the fault of young guys, because men generally love to explore every option before they tie the knot.

Older men on their part know what they want. Most of them are looking towards a stable relationship at that point in their lives.
Their discussions and decisions are mature. Age isn't maturity, I know...but experience helps form maturity, something young guys lack.

Young struggling guys feel they owe you nothing for sticking to them when the going was bad...saying you did them no favour, I wonder why they still complain when you don't stick to them. Allow babes stick to successful men na...

The biological clock doesn't favour ladies, and society is always quick to remind us. There are ladies that would love to wait for their hustling guy, then they remember their ages, remember he owes them nothing and can easily remember she is now old thus not 'marriageable'... she quickly hooks up with an older man.

It's a cycle...

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Re: 5 Reasons Why Women Jump Into Relationship With Men 12yrs+ Older Than Them by ireneony(f): 1:59pm On Jan 07, 2017
DuchessDee:
Who all these pencil trousers boys epp? undecided


Op some date them for the love of it tho, plus you omitted arranged marriages too. grin
yes i did because i want to stick to the message. Arranged marriage most times has to do with forcing someone against their wish.
What i wrote above is for women who deliberately wants to get involved with older men. It's like an act they do to gain something.

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Re: 5 Reasons Why Women Jump Into Relationship With Men 12yrs+ Older Than Them by CentaurXXV: 1:59pm On Jan 07, 2017
Catalin:
Trash and more trash.

I prefer dating a matured guy older than me to all these small small boys with no sense of responsibility.

You expect me to date my agemate who is still suffering from youthful exuberance.


Sure. Women like you like to be pampered.
You don't date for love rather you date em for the money.
Gold diggers.

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Re: 5 Reasons Why Women Jump Into Relationship With Men 12yrs+ Older Than Them by Nobody: 2:02pm On Jan 07, 2017
CentaurXXV:



Sure. Women like you like to be pampered.
You don't date for love rather you date em for the money.
Gold diggers.
Story for the gods. I love maturity and I love dating matured guys, I learn a lot from them, they get to correct me when I act childishly. Its not always about the money dude.

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Re: 5 Reasons Why Women Jump Into Relationship With Men 12yrs+ Older Than Them by Nobody: 2:02pm On Jan 07, 2017
ireneony:
yes i did because i want to stick to the message. Arranged marriage most times has to do with forcing someone against their wish.
What i wrote above is for women who deliberately wants to get involved with older men. It's like an act they do to again something.
If you are looking at it from the negative reasons then use 'some'. Generalizing is kind of faulty.

Or better still use the title: Selfish reasons ladies date older men.

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Re: 5 Reasons Why Women Jump Into Relationship With Men 12yrs+ Older Than Them by kaziblake(f): 2:04pm On Jan 07, 2017
Catalin:
Story for the gods. I love maturity ad I love dating matured guys, I learn a lot from them, they get to correct me when I act childishly. Its not always about the money dude.
Gbam!
Who age mate epp?

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Re: 5 Reasons Why Women Jump Into Relationship With Men 12yrs+ Older Than Them by CentaurXXV: 2:04pm On Jan 07, 2017
Catalin:
Story for the gods. I love maturity ad I love dating matured guys, I learn a lot from them, they get to correct me when I act childishly. Its not always about the money dude.


Yea, Right. Age does not determine maturity anyway.
Plus if its not about the money, Why are you not married to one?

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Re: 5 Reasons Why Women Jump Into Relationship With Men 12yrs+ Older Than Them by NOC1(m): 2:04pm On Jan 07, 2017
I've landed with my F+u+c+k unfortunately I don't give any

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Re: 5 Reasons Why Women Jump Into Relationship With Men 12yrs+ Older Than Them by Cholls(m): 2:05pm On Jan 07, 2017
my sister you're in dangerous trouble for these write-up.

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Re: 5 Reasons Why Women Jump Into Relationship With Men 12yrs+ Older Than Them by Nobody: 2:07pm On Jan 07, 2017
CentaurXXV:



Yea, Right. Age does not determine maturity anyway.
Plus if its not about the money, Why are you not married to one?
I'm getting married this year for your info. Meet me in 2017 bride thread.

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Re: 5 Reasons Why Women Jump Into Relationship With Men 12yrs+ Older Than Them by Afriifa(m): 2:08pm On Jan 07, 2017
Catalin:
I don't fall in love anyhow, I take my time before I fall in love. Mind you, love is a gradual process. Character, age, grammatical expression, educational qualification makes me fall in love with someone.
hmmm. Breath taking. Sorry to say this, but you are not inlove yet, because LOVE has no condition attached to it.

Maybe you are datting someone you like. A true lover doesn't attach reasons to fall inlove, it just happens

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Re: 5 Reasons Why Women Jump Into Relationship With Men 12yrs+ Older Than Them by Splinz(m): 2:08pm On Jan 07, 2017
Catalin:
Trash and more trash.

I prefer dating a matured guy older than me to all these small small boys with no sense of responsibility.

You expect me to date my agemate who is still suffering from youthful exuberance.

Am I not man enough for you?

Re: 5 Reasons Why Women Jump Into Relationship With Men 12yrs+ Older Than Them by Nobody: 2:08pm On Jan 07, 2017
kaziblake:
Gbam! Who age mate epp?
I guess it helped Ireneony Lmao cheesy
Re: 5 Reasons Why Women Jump Into Relationship With Men 12yrs+ Older Than Them by Nobody: 2:10pm On Jan 07, 2017
Afriifa:
hmmm. Breath taking. Sorry to say this, but you are not inlove yet, because LOVE has no condition attached to it.

Maybe you are datting someone you like. A true lover doesn't attach reasons to fall inlove, it just happens
What you are saying is that I will just see a guy ,then I fall for him just like that. You must be kidding me.

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Re: 5 Reasons Why Women Jump Into Relationship With Men 12yrs+ Older Than Them by Afriifa(m): 2:11pm On Jan 07, 2017
Catalin:
What you are saying is that I will just see a guy ,then I fall for him just like that. You must be kidding me.
you just don't get it.
Re: 5 Reasons Why Women Jump Into Relationship With Men 12yrs+ Older Than Them by CentaurXXV: 2:11pm On Jan 07, 2017
Catalin:
I'm getting married this year for your info. Meet me in 2017 bride thread.


And you call it love?

Btw, How many of these "Old Matured Men" did you date before arriving at this very "Old Mature Man"?
The age difference between you and this "Old Matured Man" is?

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Re: 5 Reasons Why Women Jump Into Relationship With Men 12yrs+ Older Than Them by Splinz(m): 2:14pm On Jan 07, 2017
pocohantas:
Very very true though. These points apply at one point or the other.

That aside, most young boys don't know what they want, they are on a mission to increase your vagina mileage.
Very few of them can stay in a relationship without sex, but they will be the first to ask what you're bringing to the table.
This isn't the fault of young guys, because men generally love to explore every option before they tie the knot.

Older men on their part know what they want. Most of them are looking towards a stable relationship at that point in their lives.
Their discussions and decisions are mature. Age isn't maturity, I know...but experience helps form maturity, something young guys lack.

Young struggling guys feel they owe you nothing for sticking to them when the going was bad...saying you did them no favour, I wonder why they still complain when you don't stick to them. Allow babes stick to successful men na...

The biological clock doesn't favour ladies, and society is always quick to remind us. There are ladies that would love to wait for their hustling guy, then they remember their ages, remember he owes them nothing and can easily remember she is now old thus not 'marriageable'... she quickly hooks up with an older man.

It's a cycle...

How did you know of this mission? undecided

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Re: 5 Reasons Why Women Jump Into Relationship With Men 12yrs+ Older Than Them by pocohantas(f): 2:15pm On Jan 07, 2017
Splinz:


How did you know of this mission? undecided
Go through Ireneony's topics, you'll see that thread on no sex relationships. Read your gender's comments.

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Re: 5 Reasons Why Women Jump Into Relationship With Men 12yrs+ Older Than Them by Nobody: 2:16pm On Jan 07, 2017
Whom to date and his age should be relative. It should be a matter of choice and what works well for you. Although you have valid points but they reek of negativity.

Older Men are matured, Experienced and knowledgeable. Women love to be guided, corrected with love and Listened too. Do you get this from someone who is still under training and probably have little knowledge about life?.

Older Men are patient. Ladies can be irrational and impatient.. Imagine them with their younger counterpart. How likely will the relationship come out? Failed!.

There are so many other points but I don't want to take over your thread.

I understand your perspective but then generalizing without proper evaluation is wrong. smiley

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Re: 5 Reasons Why Women Jump Into Relationship With Men 12yrs+ Older Than Them by Nobody: 2:18pm On Jan 07, 2017
CentaurXXV:



And you call it love?

Btw, How many of these "Old Matured Men" did you date before arriving at this very "Old Mature Man"?
The age difference between you and this "Old Matured Man" is?
That I refuse to date a 20+ age guy doesn't mean am dating an old Man.
In your own terms who is an old man?

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Re: 5 Reasons Why Women Jump Into Relationship With Men 12yrs+ Older Than Them by Nobody: 2:22pm On Jan 07, 2017
Catalin:
Trash and more trash.

I prefer dating a matured guy older than me to all these small small boys with no sense of responsibility.

You expect me to date my agemate who is still suffering from youthful exuberance
One of the major reasons we have increased failed relationships. When two partners have the same or just a little difference in level of reasoning, understanding, knowledge, experience and so on. Then it is the matter of two blinds walking a path. smiley

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Re: 5 Reasons Why Women Jump Into Relationship With Men 12yrs+ Older Than Them by Splinz(m): 2:24pm On Jan 07, 2017
pocohantas:

Go through Ireneony's topics, you'll see that thread on no sex relationships. Read your gender's comments.

Those are fuckboys.
Re: 5 Reasons Why Women Jump Into Relationship With Men 12yrs+ Older Than Them by Nobody: 2:26pm On Jan 07, 2017
Alondra:
One of the major reasons we have increased failed relationships. When two partners have the same or just a little difference in level of reasoning, understanding, knowledge, experience and so on. Then it is the matter of two blinds walking a path. smiley
Exactly.

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