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There’s nothing wrong with sleeping in the middle of the bed, blankets and pillows making a fortress around you. There’s nothing wrong with cooking meals for two, but saving the second half for yourself, later. There’s nothing wrong with going on solo gym dates, dinner dates, or shopping dates and spending all the time you need moseying about the store or sweating your little butt off. There’s nothing wrong with spending the afternoon curled up with a good book, a journal and not having to be responsible for anyone but yourself.
We’ve been conditioned to see ‘singleness’ as negative. If you’re single, you’re unlovable, right? There’s something wrong with you if you’re not in a relationship—you’re not pretty enough, handsome enough, fun enough, crazy enough, happy enough? …Right? (Wrong.)
We view being single as disappointing, like the person just isn’t where he/she needs to be yet. Maybe they’re still trying to figure themselves out. Maybe they aren’t ready. Maybe they’re just hard to love. How many times have we heard that phrase before?
We see being single as a phase—a step to where we’re meant to be (aka finding ‘the one’). But being single isn’t a stepping stone to something greater. It isn’t just a passage, a segue, a transition to the life we’re supposed to live.
We see being single as a phase—a step to where we’re meant to be (aka finding ‘the one’). But being single isn’t a stepping stone to something greater. It isn’t just a passage, a segue, a transition to the life we’re supposed to live.
All of this is okay. It’s okay to want to be on your own for a little while. It’s okay to want to spend your time selfishly, or to put your needs and wants before anyone else’s. It’s okay to be lazy, to be active, to over-work, to veg out in bed all weekend, to hang with friends, or to spend your nights doing whatever the hell you want to do – this is your life, and no one can tell you how to live it.

We have such a negative perception of being alone, like ‘aloneness’ equates to loneliness. But it doesn’t have to. Being alone means being independent. It means knowing what you deserve and not settling. It means knowing what you want and not wasting time pursuing something that doesn’t grow you. It means finding your way in a world that’s chaotic and crazy and ever-changing.
There’s nothing wrong with being alone. With waking up and making breakfast for one, with third-wheeling alongside your favorite couple friends, with going on long runs with only music and sunshine to keep you company.

Stop worrying about when and where and how you’ll find your person. Stop feeling like you’re running out of time. Stop comparing your journey to everyone else’s and be happy where you are, right now.

You’re doing just fine.
And independence looks good on you.

to be single no easy o...
#ur small bed suddenly feels so big!

Who still goes about looking for gf?

firstking01:
Who still goes about looking for gf?

She don break your heart?.

thanks op being single rocks

Single-hood is good, but it's bad to be single for too long.

Every lady needs a man.

Benita27:
She don break your heart?.

If only you know what my heart is made of

firstking01:
If only you know what my heart is made of

Rock right?.

Benita27:
Rock right?.

You are there .

is any lady really single? wat of those ladies that have up to 50 friendzoned male friends..they can easily pick just one to be thier val partner.or what of those ladies that have up to 3000 likes frm their male followers on facebook when they upload a picture.such a lady cant be single.it will be easy just to pick a val mate among those men and no doubt one of them is dying for ur love if not all .so technically no lady can be single.