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Sooo...nobody gave us a Valentine baby ehn? #Issok

Lol. There is still time in America so let's hope Chanbaby will bail us.

realdentist:
Sooo...nobody gave us a Valentine baby ehn? #Issok

Liftedhands:
Thanks for understanding! I just wish I have enough to go round.

U re welcome. U mah Thanks for sharing e no easy to share.... Thank ma.

NOBODY SHOULD QUOTE ME!!!!!!!!


What on earth do I do? I have cried enough!

Liftedhands:
I've picked two people already, first that sent a pm and first that mentioned me here.

Thanks for the suggestion

i hope its me #peeping#

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E-hugs darling, nobody will laugh at you, if they laugh at you do the same to them. Let them talk. That baby in your womb is a blessing please don't feel depressed. This storm will soon be over and you'll sail through. BritneyStacy

@britneystacy


awwww..... this is so touching
I wish I was with you to just hug you cos I don't even know what advice to give you myself...
I have faced this too but my baby was just 41days infact I threw my wedding ring in his face and told him it was over, but guess what, we are good now... I don't know how I did it but I know I was so so patient and I focused on myself and my son(now 5yrs)

Dear the Lord is your strength, pls be patient ehnnn
all the experienced mama will come to your aid and advice you tooo

biko, just take it easy

@britney it is well with your soul.
This is a tough situation but you've got a decision to make, i don't know what your stance is concerning keeping or letting go of preg., whatever decision you take, you could take a leave to regain composure for some weeks and then call the attention of both families to intervene and help solve the issues in the marriage itself. Not forgetting that no matter who is right or wrong, you both have to work on yourselves.
And don't keep this to yourself, let your mom and aunties and sisters in on the situation, they might chasten or anger at you but it is all for the solution to what is on ground.
Be strong sis, for your self, your baby and marriage.

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Mamas above, please let's respect her wish of not wanting to be quoted, you can unquote her and just mention her name.
Thanks.

@iyomomoreloaded n @liftedhands i believe your wise words would help @britneystacy

My own take is this: first its hard to give advice when you haven't really been in a similar situation. Second, what works for pne person might not work for the other person n lastly, its hard to draw up the real perspective of things based on just one person's info as im of the opinion there are three sides to a story: he said, she said and the truth: which only God knows.

All said, please note a baby changes things. This is something people don't really know and perhaps hardly discussed by women and their siblings or girlfriends. Yes we probably all dream about how the wedding should be (forgetting the marriage), we dream of being a mother (not thinking of the hardwork it entails) dream of the kind of household we want (forgetting its alsp hardwork and loads of prayers plus patience), we dream of being the best thing since slice bread to our partner/husbands/offsprings (forgetting we are not perfect). Why do I say all these? Honestly, I am unsure but the truth is IMO, everything i have mentioned is hardwork and we need to keep at it and also be prayerful (or if not prayerful, worship). Worship God like no other.

I said earlier baby changes things. For first time mum, you are navigating this new phase in your life where I dare to say; the lo demands constant attention from you. You want to protect them constantly and do all you can for a helpless tiny you tiny dh so much so you are constantly tired.

Ive been told your hormones are just settling back down at this time too. But guess what. Reality sets in. Baby is not what you thought/dreamt about. The constant attention is quickly draining your batteries and its worse when we feel that the closest person to you, your dh isnt helping out.

Tell you one thing: men unlike women are not wired to gear baby crying in the middle of the night. Some women asks kindly or even meanly wake up the husband to also help take care of baby so they can rest a bit. If you are EBF, pump and ask him to feed baby so you can take a shower (a long one) because with a baby to look after, shower is like the last thing on your mind sometimes (because you perhaps dont want to leave baby for 5 mins).

A man might promise everything before baby arrives but when baby arrives they might change or keep to their promise. If they change, you feel you are the only one who is constantly doing everything and then resentment sets in, you fight and fight and yoh know what silly words are said. If its a person whp hardly forgives or takes long to forgive then na Gobe.

What to do in this situation is think before you speak (say it to your self and if it would hurt, do not say to your partner/husb).

As per being pregnant again 5months into your los life, its not the end of the world. We are all different. I have a friend who has been looking for this samething forever because after so many miscarriage she had her girl and hoped to God she wld be pregnant again asap technically age is also something she was looking at.

I know people who fell pregnant 3 weeks after baby they didnt wait for 6 weeks clearance and some 3 months after. I suspect it is hard but you know what, some of these people claim that its always nice seeing their kids grow up together. I suspect you would be happy when they grow up.

Walking away doesnt help anything, suicide well yes it all ends but what happens to your soul? Think about the lo... do you want him/her being raised by someone else? Or not having a loving mum around? Do you think he/she would be haply knowing mum committed suicide? God forbid he/she gets told a different story, would they forgive you? Abortion? I can't judge anyone but would you feel better for it? Have you thought of how you would feel? Have you thought about it enough to count as an option?

All I am saying is and im sorry its long: we shouldnt cloud our judgement by thinking all we dreamt of about great wedding, happy home, pregnancy or being pregnant is enough to cover up all those challenges that we will face.

Dont let people lie to you that its easy (have you being to their house and seen how they live?). God will direct your steps and send helpers to you. If you need help ask.

I dunno how mothers with more children do it but compromise is a big thing which we probably need to start doing more of.

I guess ive digressed a lot now but i hope you understand that baby changes everything and that adjusting can be difficult for both men and women. Moreso when men believe you actually know everything not knowing you both are learning at the sametime.

BritneyStacy, I think i understand ur concerns about ur son watching u two fight. I remember fragments of this growing up and it still hurts me till today that my parents never had that happiness and blissful marriage they so desired for themselves until death did them part. So be strong my sister, it is a woman's duty to keep her home no matter what, dont leave, try to mend that which has bin broken starting from that little issue that caused the first fight, because its these little negligible issues that accumulate to form big problems. You are pregnant again because God wants you to stay and mend the bond, weda you are at fault or not, start by going on ur knees and begging your dh for forgiveness and peace then lets see if hes so inhuman not to melt for that humble gesture. And please seal out all third party interference after your reconciliation weda it works or not, pray, confess the positive in ur marriage and God will help you.

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katchycouture:
Hello mothers in the house. .. abeg I learnt or rather I heard something today... my 4yrs old son has been running temperature since Saturday, went to the hospital today and I was told my pregnancy is the reason for the sickness..I was told to stop sleeping on the same bed with him, to have my bath with him so tht water from my body will pour on him.. sabi mamas abeg how true is this myth. ..for those that have had more than 2children Did u experience this with ur child??:

CONGRATS To all the mamas that gave Birth recently...

Matter like this they always tire me, at this age & time? Pls don't mind that rubbish talk at all. I'm currently on my third jony, I sleep on the same bed with my boys, infact n.a. me n dem no help & there's nothing of such. Pls treat the young lad well, may God grant him speedy recovery.

Britneystacy,

Calm down! Calm down!! Calm down!!!

Take a deep breathe darling!

Check ur mail and get back to me ASAP

katchycouture:
Hello mothers in the house. .. abeg I learnt or rather I heard something today... my 4yrs old son has been running temperature since Saturday, went to the hospital today and I was told my pregnancy is the reason for the sickness..I was told to stop sleeping on the same bed with him, to have my bath with him so tht water from my body will pour on him.. sabi mamas abeg how true is this myth. ..for those that have had more than 2children Did u experience this with ur child??:

CONGRATS To all the mamas that gave Birth recently...

So sorry about your son's health.

Very fake info they gave you...lol

I sleep wit my son on the same bed, breastfed him all thru I was pregnant; infact I still breastfeed both him and his baby sis and he's perfectly fine!
Check his hygiene level. Your pregnancy has nothing to do with his health

feddy27:


So sorry about your son's health.

Very fake info they gave you...lol

I sleep wit my son on the same bed, breastfed him all thru I was pregnant; infact I still breastfeed both him and his baby sis and he's perfectly fine!
Check his hygiene level. Your pregnancy has nothing to do with his health

Thanks a lot..I feel relieved

Congrats to the latest mama

Chanbaby you are in our prayers all, success it is for you.

Britneystacy Maama, calm down. Ur bfp is a gift from God and he will see you through. Many only wish they could have even 1 to hold in their hands and call theirs. You are blessed.
I pray for peace, love and harmony in your home. Ameeen

BritneyStacy

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feddy27:
Britneystacy,

Calm down! Calm down!! Calm down!!!

Take a deep breathe darling!

Check ur mail and get back to me ASAP

Done Sis

britneystacy, wanna talk?

BritneyStacy:

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britneystacy, wanna talk?

I don't mind. ..am loosing my mind...maybe venting may help! God. ..am ashamed of myself!

Babes there is nothing to b ashamed of
Not asking for help is worse than anything else

Glad some people are there to talk whilst others are there to listen.

Like someone pointed out earlier about giving marriage advice, i guess im also like that. I can't honestly advise you on what to do but can only give generalised info.

I pray people who have better knowledge and understanding offer you something on which you can build upon.

@Abbynhummy i was meant to respond to you. Thank you so much for your words re: my BS. Pls note, i am not a writer

Mooretes I wouldnt remove anything from what u have said, but just to add a little!

BritneyStacy please take a deep breath, calm down!
No marriage is a bed of roses including that of most of us here.
I can't imagine what you're going through neither can I say I understand, but one thing I am certain of is that "There's nothing too hard for God"! Only if we surrender it all.
Psalm 46:10(a) says "BE STILL, and know that I am God "!
You are not a loser! You can't give up now, it seems really tough but what is ur resolve? What is it going to be? Is it by ur power ? Or you want to let go and let God step in?
It's a good thing you've spoken up, you'll feel a little bit relieved, but know that you have began winning as of now , nothing to be ashamed of my dear sister, God is going to win this battle for you! Amen!

Please try and watch the movies WAR ROOM
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BritneyStacy:

I don't mind. ..am loosing my mind...maybe venting may help! God. ..am ashamed of myself!

Of course you are losing your mind! You keep fighting with your husband like he speaks Igbo and you understand Hausa, you have a child and expecting another one and the economy has crashed. you should totally buy a gun.

Now imagine how he feels.

You know one of the worst pieces of advice ever given? "A woman builds her home" and "Men are not wired to take care of kids". Seriously.

Imagine if I put you in a box and labelled it "Strong, macho and head of the house" and no matter how you felt, I insisted that was your role and you should do nothing else but it. Won't you hate it because sometimes, you just want to be britneystacy who makes mistakes and feels scared and is unsure of the future from time to time? Especially when everything on the outside is messing and you certainly cannot fix the economy, you come home and you feel there is no space for you to just be you (and not be the Head of The House) and every time you make a suggestion (you probably said it in an annoying manner ), your wife loses her shi.t because she said she wanted answers but not those answers. And the resentment keeps piling up and building inside. So the fights come easier...

Take your husband out of the box.

If he comes home at night and the baby needs to take a bath and you have to make dinner, give him to his dad and do NOT look back. Don't worry he will be fine. (and I say this as someone whose brothers and husband are more understanding of babies than sisters with kids and my mum). If he comes home, let him know it's his house and he may be feeling terrified of what is out there, I mean, sardine just jumped from N220 to N300 in a week, where will money for 2 kids and a wife come from?? And it is OKAY to feel scared and to tell you he doesn't have answers and to just be a dude. And it is perfectly okay for you to stop telling yourself "I am a wife, this is the list of expectations from me in this marriage".

Be his friend in the sh.itstorm and stop trying to fix things because it just makes it worse. After all, you and society gave him title "Head of The House" and told him his responsibilities and he may be struggling with them, so he turns to the one place he thinks he can fulfill a role and you are there doing Superwoman and not giving him space to help you and even your most sensible suggestion, he reacts to like you are bossing him around and he acts up and oh look, there's another fight.

Let him fix you. And you fix him. As friends. Friends don't have too many expectations, husbands and wives do.

I know this seems like weird advice but take it from someone who did it and stopped wanting to otapiapia her husband

Liftedhands:
I've picked two people already, first that sent a pm and first that mentioned me here.

Thanks for the suggestion

you are welcome God bless u