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Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by Nobody: 12:16pm On Feb 15, 2017
Hello mamas, we are in our 23 weeks, God has bee n faithful so far, ante natal and regular ultrasound scan going on well.. Dw couldn't sleep last nite, she said lo is kicking and changing positions all though nite.. And she said she feel pain whenever she want to poo.. She now said it's jedi jedi.. And she want to take soda mint or get AGBO jedi, I asked her to wait and and call doctor first , and doc said she should Come over or if she can manage till tomorrow as tomorrow is her antenatal... Only for my Dw to say emm, she will get AGBO jedi, that if she complain tomorrow they will just inject her with something that will make lo calm down... What do I do mamas

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Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by forzarush(f): 12:21pm On Feb 15, 2017
Dear Lord,today isn't prayer monday but with tears in my eyes I have come to say thank you for this wonderful family of women helping, encouraging and building women and hence building generations. God,we speak different languages but you brought us together to speak the language of love,thank you for helping us to help each other grow. I'd love to ask for more but for now this is more than enough. Thank you lord!

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Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by nana228(f): 12:26pm On Feb 15, 2017
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Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by firstpregnancy: 12:44pm On Feb 15, 2017
Good afternoon house .
I think if anyone here has chanbaby's she should share with the house so we can know how she is faring.

may God keep her safe and may she deliver safely by God's Grace

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Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by MizMyColi(f): 12:59pm On Feb 15, 2017
I don't like that statement that "it is a woman's duty to keep the home"
Not everyone has the mental capacity to understand the spirituality behind that message, and it is usually at those times that someone is emotionally down that one (good intentioned) person will be reminding you that it is your duty to keep a home.
Keeping a home requires strength, it requires emotional well being, it requires cooperation. It is a two way thing.

What I can agree with, and subscribe to is that, due to our very blessed nature, it is very much easier for the woman to be expressive, empathetic and more loving. Therefore it is not out of place if one concludes that the onus is on the woman to create a peaceful and loving atmosphere in her home.

But hey, in the event that a woman out there has no idea how to go about taking this initiative or being a peacemaker, it should not be an excuse for her fellow women to pressure her into being the "dutiful home maker/keeping". The whole thing could just end up being disastrous. This should be a task you enjoy, yes there are times when it becomes overbearing, but ultimately, home making/keeping should be something that gives you joy, a sense of fulfillment and a calling to a higher purpose. Your husband and your children are gifts. Ideally, both husband and children choose to come to you because they believe in you, they know you as a nutrurer.

Your mind is the battlefield.

There will be times when he annoys you and you find it sooo hard to forgive and move on.
There are days when you just want peace to reign, but something in you keeps calling for war and you find that you tend to satisfy that part more. It's nothing to beat yourself up about, if you realize that it is a learning process and that you are not alone.

Please always learn to call on God, he is your ever present help in times of need. Things may not go as you expected, but just know that any time you pray and ask for something, you have received already. Try to calm yourself and put your guardian angels to use. say what you want, keep saying it till you believe it and it has become one with your spirit. It will only be a matter of time, and they will all manifest.

Personally, I think If we learn to make peace with things we cannot change, if we learn to become those things we desire to see in our partners, if we can learn to put on the garb of humility, if we can learn to decide to forgive them anyway...our homes would be better for it.
It is only hard when we are unwilling. But if you become willing to notice a change, you will see it manifest.

I remember a time, very early in my marriage, there was one mild altercation that just blew up like that...I kept receiving the nudge to forgive him, but I just told God pomp and plain that as I am now, I am not willing to forgive. I know I should forgive o, but I am not willing, I don't feel like it, so Abba, just help me feel like forgiving, you hear? (This was how I prayed). It wasn't long before I started feeling like offering forgiveness and so much love. infact, I could barely remember what brought the quarrel. I equally forgot all the lines of big big grammar I had arranged as a way of expressing my angst.

BritneyStacy, please forgive yourself and forgive your husband. I have spoken to you like I'm the one going through what you are going through. If I were in your shoes, I cannot assure you that I will follow what I wrote up there 50% sef, but then I would try to apply the ones I can because above all else, I really want my marriage to work.

I wish you well Sis.
I wish you peace and joy in your home. It is possible. Just believe.

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Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by Yesitsme(f): 12:59pm On Feb 15, 2017
Please honour my wishes and edit this
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by ksstroud: 1:06pm On Feb 15, 2017
Onegai:



Wow...

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Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by Chanbaby: 1:09pm On Feb 15, 2017
My mamas join us praise "onise iyanu". My bundle of joy just arrived like 1hr 3omins ago weighing 3.7kg after 27hrs labor. God is faithful. Thanks for all ur . Teamie februaryi hail oh. BS coming soon. . Make i sleep small no food no sleep for the past 32hrs.

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Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by Yesitsme(f): 1:11pm On Feb 15, 2017
Am sorry BritneyStacy.... didn't know how this nairaland things work sometimes. wasn't intentional

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Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by Iyomomoreloaded: 1:13pm On Feb 15, 2017
Chanbaby:
My mamas join us praise "onise iyanu". My bundle of joy just arrived like 1hr 3omins ago weighing 3.7kg after 27hrs labor. God is faithful. Thanks for all ur . Teamie februaryi hail oh. BS coming soon. . Make i sleep small no food no sleep for the past 32hrs.
Yeeeeah congrats mama!
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by Akorkor(f): 1:23pm On Feb 15, 2017
@chanbaby,congrats
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by Liftedhands(f): 1:42pm On Feb 15, 2017
Yesitsme:
Am sorry BritneyStacy.... didn't know how this nairaland things work sometimes. wasn't intentional
Go to that post click on modify and delete everything! You may write done or modified on the blank page then click submit.
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by AlphaHandMaiden(f): 1:43pm On Feb 15, 2017
mooretes:
@iyomomoreloaded n @liftedhands i believe your wise words would help @britneystacy



This mama has said it all, I couldn't have put it better

It is frustrating but it is not the end of the world. PLEASE, PLEASE DO NOT MAKE ANY RASH DECISIONS.

You are made for so much more, so do not let the devil deceive you into ending your life, or doing something that could back fire with complications that you will live to regret.

What if you do an abortion and you have issues that will leave you unable to concieve naturally.

The Job, is just a job. I can understand you may need the money and the added convenience of an extra income, but if you make a decision to end a pregnancy because of a job, and the if the company decides to make staff cuts due to recession, they will not say x or y did an abortion for our sake so lets keep them.................... IT IS JUST A JOB.

You are ashamed, what will people say? people will always say what people will say: You no born, them go talk, you born one and give 5 years spacing, them go talk; You born one, get pregnant after one month them go talk, you born girl, them go talk, you born boy, them go talk. people will always talk. so filter out all the talk and focus on you. there is no reason to be ashamed my dear.


As for the friction in your marriage:
What i will say is try and identify is what is causing it:

stress usually is a big part, you feel overwhelmed and sometimes do not know what you are doing as a new mom. I personally cannot be a loving wife if i am a stressed out mother, and my husband is fully aware of that.

Dont expect me to look after a baby full-time, and do the housework and cook efficiently, with dinner right on the dot of 7pm and the toilet washed every 2 days and then you want me to welcome you with a kiss and regal you in how much of a proverbs 31 woman i have been....... Oga , biko go back to sleep and keep dreaming.

we nigerian women like to appear we are in control all the time, trying to maintain status and show the world that we are on top of our game, the truth is we are not and cannot be in control of everything. _Sod what anyone says or expects from you. If you need help, need to vent, need some time out! please let us speak out and not suffer unnecessarily

another part is Finances - which can put a huge strain on a relationship. they say love is blind but believe me hunger they clear eye well well. if finances are tight is aggravates every other stress you are experiencing exponentially . worrying inside an airconditioned bently with a full stomach is more comfortable than in a hot keke not knowing where your next meal will come from.

and lack of communication : Assumption is the mother of all f*^k-ups. many a relationships have been lost, because one person says something and the other person mis-interpretes and assumes what the first person has said. and each assuming and making up fictional meanings of what the other says or does.


Perhaps, you and hubby should take some solo time out. if you baby is 5 month and can stay with Grandma for a while, leave him with her and you and hubby go an check into a guest house or hotel for a week. if you cannot do a whole week, do a long weekend.

NO BABY, NO HOUSEWORK, NO RELATIVES, NO DISTRACTIONS.


It will just be you and him, and you guys talk. heart to heart, them no force una marry so there must still be some underlying affection.
eat out, take it as a mini holiday for both of you, and just do random thing to reconnect.

tell him the things you feel he is doing that is annoying you, and he will tell you what he feels You are doing that is annoying him. if you feel you cannot talk without getting emotional - both of you write it down, but also write down what each of you feel that the other needs to do more of or what help you may need.
Do not only write down the negatives, write down the positives in each other as well. if you are feeling angry and cannot be objectibe, think bavk to when una dey do lovey, lovey, boy friend/ girlfirend or newly wed things and write down what it was that you liked aabout each other, and also where you want your marriage and relationship to be.

exchange your notes, read and discuss with no harsh words. and also disusss the other worries you have, finances, housekeeping, health, buhari economy.... etc. you will find out that your husband also has his own worries that as a man he is trying to bottle up and deal with in a manly way. which is internally stressing him out too.

at the end of this session you will find out that more than half of what you guys think are issues are just misconceptions. and the core issues may be one or two which can be dealt with if only you talk and come togeher to solve your issues.

Pele.

All the best.

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Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by Liftedhands(f): 1:49pm On Feb 15, 2017
Mooretes you have spoken wisely kiss
Mama Ekene junior @ britneystacy check your mail sis.
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by Roseey0(f): 2:03pm On Feb 15, 2017
When you have tried everything humanly possible and nothing seems to work.



PRAY
PRAY
PRAY


Don't stop praying.

Congrats to mama that gave birth.

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Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by Nobody: 2:13pm On Feb 15, 2017
Liftedhands:
Mooretes you have spoken wisely kiss
Mama Ekene junior @ britneystacy check your mail sis.
Afternoon dear,saw your mention but don't knw how to go abt dis nairaland PM of a thing!

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Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by kuhuz(f): 2:15pm On Feb 15, 2017
Chanbaby:
My mamas join us praise "onise iyanu". My bundle of joy just arrived like 1hr 3omins ago weighing 3.7kg after 27hrs labor. God is faithful. Thanks for all ur . Teamie februaryi hail oh. BS coming soon. . Make i sleep small no food no sleep for the past 32hrs.

congratulations ma.. God b praised!!
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by Yesitsme(f): 2:16pm On Feb 15, 2017
Liftedhands help me check if it's done pls.
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by jazzyjazz: 2:23pm On Feb 15, 2017
Oga, please tell your wife not to joke with the life of that precious baby she's carrying!!!
Her antenatal is just 2mrw! Let her be patient and wait! If she can't wait, take her to the hospital today!
She should forget all this agbo things abeg
burticious:
Hello mamas, we are in our 23 weeks, God has bee n faithful so far, ante natal and regular ultrasound scan going on well.. Dw couldn't sleep last nite, she said lo is kicking and changing positions all though nite.. And she said she feel pain whenever she want to poo.. She now said it's jedi jedi.. And she want to take soda mint or get AGBO jedi, I asked her to wait and and call doctor first , and doc said she should Come over or if she can manage till tomorrow as tomorrow is her antenatal... Only for my Dw to say emm, she will get AGBO jedi, that if she complain tomorrow they will just inject her with something that will make lo calm down... What do I do mamas
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by jazzyjazz: 2:27pm On Feb 15, 2017
Ma'am britneystacy, please read and take the advice of the following mamas : Alphahandmaiden, mooretes, iyamomoreloaded, liftedhands, mizmycoli, onegai,
They have said it all!
Most of us here can't say anything cos we may not have the right words. But we are with you in prayers. 

May God bless every mama that has offered one word of comfort or another to our fellow mama in need. 

It is well with you and your home.

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Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by jazzyjazz: 2:27pm On Feb 15, 2017
Congratulations Chanbaby on the birth of your baby
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by Nobody: 2:47pm On Feb 15, 2017
Chanbaby:
My mamas join us praise "onise iyanu". My bundle of joy just arrived like 1hr 3omins ago weighing 3.7kg after 27hrs labor. God is faithful. Thanks for all ur . Teamie februaryi hail oh. BS coming soon. . Make i sleep small no food no sleep for the past 32hrs.
Congrats

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Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by gurlnext2u: 2:54pm On Feb 15, 2017
Congrats @Chanbaby God bless the little one.
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by nifeseun(f): 2:57pm On Feb 15, 2017
@ britneystacy, am soo sorry, all will be well n am sure God is in control already, just call upon him n he will ans.. just take the mama's advise n I know it is well already.

@ onegai n HalphaHandmaiden love ur advise, am sure ur messages have touched not just britneystacy but other mama's in such situations too n that re enduring.. I also learnt too.. God bless una plenty plenty, may God keep our homes o, marriage no be joke o.

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Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by nifeseun(f): 2:58pm On Feb 15, 2017
@ chanbaby Congratulations!!! May God bless ur Lo, ur baby will be a source of joy to the family IJN..
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by queensnow: 3:00pm On Feb 15, 2017
burticious:
Hello mamas, we are in our 23 weeks, God has bee n faithful so far, ante natal and regular ultrasound scan going on well.. Dw couldn't sleep last nite, she said lo is kicking and changing positions all though nite.. And she said she feel pain whenever she want to poo.. She now said it's jedi jedi.. And she want to take soda mint or get AGBO jedi, I asked her to wait and and call doctor first , and doc said she should Come over or if she can manage till tomorrow as tomorrow is her antenatal... Only for my Dw to say emm, she will get AGBO jedi, that if she complain tomorrow they will just inject her with something that will make lo calm down... What do I do mamas
i don't think it's jedi jedi oo I think its part of the process I also experience it at that stage infact more in sec semester and it stopped without taking anything she should just endure it it happens only wen she wants to poo from waist to anus and difficult to sit on closet easily u have to sit with cautio sometimes the poo won't come out sef.. make she no use agbo jedi oooo
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by queensnow: 3:06pm On Feb 15, 2017
Congratulations @Chanbaby God bless your little one
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by Ignitereaders: 3:19pm On Feb 15, 2017
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Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by hunniesuzie: 3:27pm On Feb 15, 2017
See ehn....

I had typed a reply before I remembered to calm down. Just tell her to stop rough play biko. Agbo ke?


burticious:
Hello mamas, we are in our 23 weeks, God has bee n faithful so far, ante natal and regular ultrasound scan going on well.. Dw couldn't sleep last nite, she said lo is kicking and changing positions all though nite.. And she said she feel pain whenever she want to poo.. She now said it's jedi jedi.. And she want to take soda mint or get AGBO jedi, I asked her to wait and and call doctor first , and doc said she should Come over or if she can manage till tomorrow as tomorrow is her antenatal... Only for my Dw to say emm, she will get AGBO jedi, that if she complain tomorrow they will just inject her with something that will make lo calm down... What do I do mamas
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by Liftedhands(f): 3:28pm On Feb 15, 2017
Yesitsme:
Lifted.hands help me check if it's done pls.
it's still there. You can send me your password for me to log in as you edit it log out then you change your password? Or the mod @dominique can help delete/hide the post.
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by realdentist(f): 3:38pm On Feb 15, 2017
Britneystacey I think pregnancy hormones are contributing to the way u're feeling presently. Please take a deep breath...be calm..don't do anything u'll regret. U can take some time away to clear your head, pray and plan how to make your marriage work.
I know right now u feel u only have 2 options- stay in the marriage n suffer or leave. But there is a third option. U and ur husband can make it work. With determination, perseverance and prayers I know this third option is possible. Pls don't throw in the towel.
This 2nd child coming was put there deliberately by God even though u may think it was a mistake on ur part. Pls don't take a life u didn't create. I believe this child will bring d needed peace in ur home.
In summary, u can take a short time away, but let d purpose be to return with a plan on making ur marriage work because even though u don't want them growing up in a hostile environment, u also don't want them growing up in a single parent home. Pls and pls still give ur marriage another chance

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Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by Chanbaby: 3:38pm On Feb 15, 2017
My mamas join us praise "onise iyanu". My bundle of joy just arrived today 3:55am weighing 3.7kg after 27hrs labor. God is faithful. Thanks for all ur prayers. Teamie february i hail oh. BS coming soon. . Make i sleep small no food no sleep for the past 32hrs.

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