My own sister blocked me on facebook years ago because I was dating someone she and my mom never liked. A girl who I footed her bills at UNI. 5 years on they are all dependent on me. Live with it bro, it happens. If I explain what I have gone through in this life you will be amazed but I am here going through and becoming a better person.

Just take the situation as it is.

He doesn't hate you,,those people out there always face this begging culture of some peeps down here, he probably might have thought you've join them to disturb his life esp the fact that we always think they have it all over there and simply don't want to give, not knowing how they work so hard to make it abroad,,again chatting him is not enough,call him time to time and ask his well being and stuff like that,they do appreciate it so much,,u begged at the wrong time period

This isn't suppose to be funny but I can't help laughing. Am sorry

Pluto16:
My brother blocked me on WhatsApp just because i asked him to send me money jockingly (because i know he would never send it) .I've never disturb him with anything before or have any quarrel with him.
He is living abroad and he has never send me money or anything before.He always ignored my messages on bbm, whatsapp and facebook. So I asked him money jokingly today, then He replied with just 'lol' then blocked me afterward. Like i have nothing to offer like i can't add any value to his life. Though he is an half-brother, same father different mother. After he blocked me i feel very sad, like i am nobody.
I can't keep it to myself anymore so i decided to share it on Nairaland.

Sometimes, to succeed in life you need ENEMIES.... Yes!!!

You need people who will mock you, so that you can run to God.

You need people who will try to intimidate you, so that you can be courageous.

You need people who will say "NO" so that you can learn how to be independent...I mean how to do it yourself.

You need people who will disappoint you so that you can put all your trust in God alone.

You need people who will work towards you loosing that job, so that you can start your own big business.

You need people who will sell your 'Joseph' so that 'you' can get to Egypt and be a Prime Minister in a strange land of captivity.

You need a cruel landlord, so that you won't be too comfortable in someone else's house, then you can build your own house on time.

But sometimes, when we are disappointed, we feel very bad and we tend to remain on that spot. Not knowing that the end-point of disappointment is the beginning of your accomplishments.

Understand this, "that every disappointment you once had came with a blessing!" However, it is not everyone that partakes in this blessing that I'm talking about.

You cannot see a new OPEN door while you are still putting all your attention, time and energy in trying to force the closed one to open.

And again I say, "No disappointment can ever come without an attached blessing!"

So, when the disappointment come, thank God for it and tell "HIM" to open your eyes to see the new blessing that HE has for you!

Disappointment is PHASE 1 while accomplishment is PHASE 2. I doubt if one can jump the protocols.

That is why it is called BREAKTHROUGH Something must BREAK so that you can go THROUGH!

Though he is an half-brother, same father different mother.

@op, he is your step-brother not half-brother.

Half-brother will be same mother different father. Step goes with paternity while half goes with maternity.

All the same, sorry about his attitude, may be derived from preconceived view of things, just move on with ur life, do good, and never let that influenced ur treatment to others cos if it doesn't bother you then it's never a problem. Cheers.

Well, you have just learnt one of life's important lessons...No one owes you anything! Just because he's abroad does not mean you should expect anything from him. He's just living his life just as you are living yours here, different is geography.


Anyways don't feel so bad. Shake it off. If it weighs so much on your mind, then write him a lengthy mail. Apologize for asking for anything in the first place and let him know just how sad his act made you. It is well. Your real family consist of those you care about and feel same for you.

Somebody upthread used the word 'entitlement' but I wouldn't go that far.

From the point of view of your brother, 'send me money' out of the blue could be an 'oh oh, here we go again' moment - a sign of things to come. He may have therefore felt your previous attempts at relating to him was leading down this path. Understand that I said 'from his point of view'.

Many Nigerians abroad have experienced this over and over again - that old school buddy, the Aunty that used to change your nappies ... so that they've become much more wary since these have all led to the one thing ie, request for money. It can be overwhelming and they cannot have 'normal' conversations or relationships again given everyone seems to see you as a walking, talking ATM. Yes, they may be more privileged but these people work really, really hard for their money too, life's not easy abroad.

The other point is that 'send me money' in a vacuum is assumed to be throwing money away. This is my Childrens' inheritance and my pension we are talking about. What if they're using it to buy 'Aso-Ebi', or worse, to play MMM (I have direct experience of this one)?

'Uncle, I have been thinking of this business idea and wanted to get your advice' ... is the best way to prove you are a serious young person and ingratiate yourself to a relative abroad, again from my experience. Trust me, you might most likely get the money without asking.

All IMO, of course.

My half-cousin (the same paternal grandfather but different paternal grandmother) did something similar... she was pestering me for money and I did the same thing, I blocked her on whatsapp and facebook.

The last time I saw her was in 1991 when she was a baby and I was still a young kid... all of a sudden last year she got my number and sent me a few messages on whatsapp and then wala... asked me to send her money... so I blocked her on all online channels!

Pluto16:
My brother blocked me on WhatsApp just because i asked him to send me money jockingly (because i know he would never send it) .I've never disturb him with anything before or have any quarrel with him.
He is living abroad and he has never send me money or anything before.He always ignored my messages on bbm, whatsapp and facebook. So I asked him money jokingly today, then He replied with just 'lol' then blocked me afterward. Like i have nothing to offer like i can't add any value to his life. Though he is an half-brother, same father different mother. After he blocked me i feel very sad, like i am nobody.
I can't keep it to myself anymore so i decided to share it on Nairaland.

you jokingly asked him for money..........the guy jokingly blocked you too...shikena!!

NEVER EXPECT ANYTHING FROM ANYBODY

Pluto16:
My brother blocked me on WhatsApp just because i asked him to send me money jockingly (because i know he would never send it) .I've never disturb him with anything before or have any quarrel with him.
He is living abroad and he has never send me money or anything before.He always ignored my messages on bbm, whatsapp and facebook. So I asked him money jokingly today, then He replied with just 'lol' then blocked me afterward. Like i have nothing to offer like i can't add any value to his life. Though he is an half-brother, same father different mother. After he blocked me i feel very sad, like i am nobody.
I can't keep it to myself anymore so i decided to share it on Nairaland.

Xcelinteriors:
Don't make any one feel less of yourself. Block him too and he will know you don't even care if he exist. Just forget him and let that also motivate you to work and strive hard to become very great tomorrow so that he will be the one begging you to send money to him.

two wrongs can't mk a right...use ur head nt ur heart

The best form of revenge is success. When you're successful, no one will ignore u. But don't grudge, just be motivated.

Such is life bro so don't feel bad please,everyone has got a bad story to tell but we all pretend it's fine because rain does not fall on only one person's roof.
If everyone should tell his story you would be thanking God that yours is mild.
Half brother or whole brother he is your brother.Don't hate him and don't pay him back.someday he would come to his senses.should he not, beyond the confines of here lies another life even if we believe it or not,we would all receive a reward proportional to our lives here.

troitgurl:
Though he is an half-brother, same father different mother.

@op, he is your step-brother not half-brother.

Half-brother will be same mother different father. Step goes with paternity while half goes with maternity.

All the same, sorry about his attitude, may be derived from preconceived view of things, just move on with ur life, do good, and never let that influenced ur treatment to others cos if it doesn't bother you then it's never a problem. Cheers.

Over sabi! The op is right and you are so wrong. Step brother is when he is not your blood brother but the son of your father's wife through another man.

[quote author=Pluto16 post=54154421]My brother blocked me on WhatsApp just because i asked him to send me money jockingly (because i know he would never send it) .I've never disturb him with anything before or have any quarrel with him.
He is living abroad and he has never send me money or anything before.He always ignored my messages on bbm, whatsapp and facebook. So I asked him money jokingly today, then He replied with just 'lol' then blocked me afterward. Like i have nothing to offer like i can't add any value to his life. Though he is an half-brother, same father different mother. After he blocked me i feel very sad, like i am nobody.
I can't keep it to myself anymore so i decided to share it on Nairaland.

[/quote his own way of telling you to work hard....for your own benefit

Op don't be sad. That's how most behave. I have an elder step sis abroad but I hardly ask for anything. I don't even ask her sef . I do send goodwill messages whenever I remember but I will never ask her for a pin. Cause initially she didn't wish to give anyone her number except her own brother from the same mum and the rest of is , she shunned . And it's her brother that even gave me her number. So I just calculate. For her to Dodge giving others like me, her step sis and others her number ,it means she feels we will beg her for money.
Thank God am working and by God's grace I will manage the little I have. She sees my fresh pics every time as I always change my dp. And one day she asked lil sis, tell me what do u use to look this good and fresh.. I just smiled in my mind. I said well I eat right and I think right. And I must shower twice a day morning and night. That's all. She then said ,just that? I said yea... I just dey smile for. My mind.. I know she's shocked someone living in nija will look this good. But who cares? At least I didn't use her money 2 look clean
So pls Don't beg anyone jokingly for. Money except u are in a critical situation. It's not worth the stress.
Any of your siblings that feels u won't be useful in life. Don't worry God will surprise them as always. Let no one put you down, cos u are bigger than what u think. Peace.

Pluto16:
My brother blocked me on WhatsApp just because i asked him to send me money jockingly (because i know he would never send it) .I've never disturb him with anything before or have any quarrel with him.
He is living abroad and he has never send me money or anything before.He always ignored my messages on bbm, whatsapp and facebook. So I asked him money jokingly today, then He replied with just 'lol' then blocked me afterward. Like i have nothing to offer like i can't add any value to his life. Though he is an half-brother, same father different mother. After he blocked me i feel very sad, like i am nobody.
I can't keep it to myself anymore so i decided to share it on Nairaland.

jokingly indeed. like say if he send the money, you for no take. Anyway, maybe he block you because you never ask am how things dey with am over there. On the other hand, it was wrong of him to block you, if he doesn´t have, then he should just say it. No big deal afterall, no be by force to give.

Ighoga898:

Bad adviser..would u do desame with ur brother?

....i tire o...block him ke?....blood is blood...let the guy get sometin doing too so he wont have to beg his bro for money...jokingly or not....people should learn to respect themselves.

Forget dude. Your brother is broke

coollabman:


get over it and move on with your life

just like dat? it ain't dat easy bro...
Pluto16 pls visit pathwaytohappiness.com by Gary Van Wilmmerdam. hope it helps.

coollabman:


get over it and move on with your life

just like dat? it ain't dat easy bro...
Pluto16 pls visit pathwaytohappiness.com by Gary Van Wilmmerdam. hope it helps.

snowblaq:
....i tire o...block him ke?....blood is blood...let the guy get sometin doing too so he wont have to beg his bro for money...jokingly or not....people should learn to respect themselves.

exactly d kind of comment I was expecting from a girl.
I'm still surprised at dat girl dat said he should block him in return.

The main issue is that some home-based people believe money is easy abroad. You do not know his current circumstances abroad. Many people go through periods of difficulty, without family members to run to as people can do in Nigeria.

Relatives/friends in Nigeria waste/embezzle probably over 25% of the 10 to 12 billion dollars Nigerians in Diaspora remit home yearly. Some inflate building material prices by up to 200%. If not for things like NL property section where you can now glean information. In the days before GSM and easy internet access is was hell. Literally. Many returnees have even been killed in 9ja when they asked relatives for the houses allegedly built for them, or money saved in banks.

Yet they are the first to mock hardworking diaspora people as washing dead bodies, sweeping streets, etc.

Just mind your business and not broadcast his matter to witches & wizards in the village & neighbourhood.

troitgurl:
Though he is an half-brother, same father different mother.

@op, he is your step-brother not half-brother.

Half-brother will be same mother different father. Step goes with paternity while half goes with maternity.

All the same, sorry about his attitude, may be derived from preconceived view of things, just move on with ur life, do good, and never let that influenced ur treatment to others cos if it doesn't bother you then it's never a problem. Cheers.

OP is right.
Half-brothers have a biological parent in common. For example, if after the death of Peter's mother, Peter's father marries again; and has another male child with his second wife, then that child will be Peter's half-brother.

Unlike half-brothers, stepbrothers do not have a biological parent in common. In the earlier example, if the woman Peter's father married already had another son from a previous marriage, then that individual would be Peter's stepbrother.

FuckBuhari:
because of ordinary 'BLOCK' u create topic? So wetin u want make we tell u now?

His feelings have been hurt. No one to share with except 'us'. Be human at times. Not every one has it easy.

Your supposed brother could be broke and there's nothing wrong in his blocking you if he was being defensive. You just have to let it go and move on; he doesn't owe you any thing neither do you.

Bros go an work abeg.

My brother, that is life. Forget about him and move on with your life.

Pluto16:
My brother blocked me on WhatsApp just because i asked him to send me money jockingly (because i know he would never send it) .I've never disturb him with anything before or have any quarrel with him.
He is living abroad and he has never send me money or anything before.He always ignored my messages on bbm, whatsapp and facebook. So I asked him money jokingly today, then He replied with just 'lol' then blocked me afterward. Like i have nothing to offer like i can't add any value to his life. Though he is an half-brother, same father different mother. After he blocked me i feel very sad, like i am nobody.
I can't keep it to myself anymore so i decided to share it on Nairaland.

what should we do about it?

Xcelinteriors:
Don't make any one feel less of yourself. Block him too and he will know you don't even care if he exist. Just forget him and let that also motivate you to work and strive hard to become very great tomorrow so that he will be the one begging you to send money to him.

I read the last part like it was a prayer. So I'll say AMEN!