₦airaland Forum

TheSonOfMark:
Easy with the stereotyping. Being "Calabar" isn't the basic requisite to be sexually liberal.

kimbra:
Did you later confirm the soot stuff from your mum?.

Gflat:
The original poster has become one of the respected persons on nairaland to me.She typed incontrovertibly and flawlessly one of the rare mental capacity associated to the average girl on romance section.

obiorathesubtle:
I visited and experienced it myself..


Really messy.. Damn the government for not doing anything about it!

Dextology:
Hehehehe, see the link

https://www.nairaland.com/3674827/counter-thread-lies-women-tell#54455598

kimbra:
It has reduced. I think they don't even know where it emanates from.

ZoneBslayer:
chaii..such unwavering trust...my colleague's wife Also says the same thing..but we his friends know better.

obiorathesubtle:
Many people will not know, but it has caused a lot of harm..


Any rain that falls in Rivers state is probably more acidic than normal..

placeofallure:
Yes! That's your friend or colleague but when I say I trust my hubby, trust me, I really do trust him. He is a rare breed.

freecocoa:
How does cheating with women change anything? And how is it justified that your hubby sleeps with someone else, when you didn't even know you were with a married man?

TheSonOfMark:
Everywhere! People cheat everywhere and aren't shamed for it in most supposedly developed countries of the world.

Jhene Aiko cheated with Big Sean even though she is married to someone else. She's moved in with him even though she is still legally married..and she's not being slut-shamed.

Will and Jada Smith are reportedly in an open relationship where each is free to sleep with others.

It's not uncommon to see "In An Open Relationship" on the social media profiles of Americans and Brits. Folks act like it's normal but even I - for all of my supposed liberality- am still culturally shocked by it.

Justifying cheating isn't peculiar to Nigerians.

Twaci:
O_o


Lemme read again.

*modified*

Well that's a looonnnngggg read.

So what you are trying to say is; we should learn to forget/forgive/ignore when our man cheat. We should actually expect it (putting in mind they are imperfect and all).

And that men should learn how to cover up like grandpa did? Out of love, you say?


Did I read this article well?

Lawlahdey:
If not Timelezz... Long time, lezz?

Alesandese:
The write up is a wake to reality, a controversial one tho but a wise lady will learn from it. Those attacking the writer are either narrow minded or they have this fairytales view of life. If the ladies don't accept the probability of their men cheating how will they help their men not to cheat. The op just shared a fraction of a bigger problem.

Let the women read and learn, let the ladies/ girls read and rant. Time will tell

lefulefu:
yess oo..faithful guys are everywhere....its just that ladies need to look beyond a guy"s flashy car and fat wallet.no be dat one dey make a man a husband material .

Timelezz:
beauty with brains! Where have you been?

kimbra:
She's the one lying to herself. My Dad was never promiscuous and I know his likes are out there.

suzan404:
....this got me laughing hard....it can't be possible,you know?

handsam:
If I cheat on you, Will you die?

suzan404:
...I won't nah



But I will kill you........

How? With day long sex?

handsam:
How? With day long sex?

omowumeee:
it is very possible. . Why should they have all the fun

suzan404:
Gun

I have a confession to make...

















































Am bulletproof.

TrapHedges:
bro hope you good

freshvine:
freetoto, how are you?

refiner:
Lol...which guy?... By d way...longestime

Lawlahdey:
Meaning?

Fourwinds:
d guy dat is mentioning u...


yeah....how has it been.! seem u have been busy

AfroSamurai:
Nigerian men hardly divorce their wives because she cheated. I know some who are still married to women who cheated on them.

At the bolded. I'm curious, what if that imperfection is laziness, in bed? Are you willing to be married to a man who can't perform, yet he's faithful to you, doesn't cheat or even physically or emotionally abuse you?

Taiwo20:
People don't like the truth, I am a factual person and love factual people. This epistle according to miss lawlardey is not an endorsement of polygamy or unfaithfulness. I was taught essay writing. This may simple comprehension

Lawlahdey:
I decided to write this article as a result of the argument that erupted from my comment on the Tonto dike's failed marriage brouhaha thread.

Before I actually write on the topic gangan, Allow me to quickly share a real life story with you.

There is a grandpa. A rich grandpa, happily married to a beautiful woman with 7 very successful kids.
The wife of this grandpa is a very strict and prayerful woman who believes that being strict and prayerful helps you keep other women away from your husband. She has been successful and victorious so far. They have never had a cheating scandal in 50 years of their marriage(or,so she thinks).

Recently, the grandpa called his first son(prolly because he knows he is close to his grave) and narrated the story of how he got another woman pregnant and the woman gave birth to the child with an oath that she won't ever bring the child to disrupt his marital home.He has actually been feeding and financing thd child without the knowledge of any member of his family. He said he told his son so that they could know that they have a sibling out there somewhere and bring him home after his death. He also asked the son to promise not to tell his mother or any of his siblings the secret.
So, Faithful Grandpa with a perfect marriage(In people's mind)actually has a son ouside marriage and his wife of over 50 years of marriage doesn't know. She thinks that she was successful in her quest for a hundred percent faithful man. She is the type that throws jab at other women with problems in their marriages and tell them to come to her and ask her how she did it, how her prayers, strictness and everything weren't in vain afterall.
She still hasn't found out, right. I wonder what her reaction will be the day she finally finds out that her 'faithful' husband has not been faithful afterall.

Now to the koko oro..

It pains me when i see my fellow women bragging about how they cannot stay with a man that is not contented with staying faithful to only them for the rest of his life. They say they will leave the man, that there are plenty more men still out there in the world... "No time to check time".. LOL.

You think that every 'perfect' marriage that you see, that you envy, that you hope for has been able to stand gidigba without sacrifices??

You think that because Joke Silva and Olu Jacobs do not come out to wash their dirty linen in public, they haven't had their own shares of marriage trouble??
See, It takes a very very very patient and enduring woman to stay in any marriage.

You can't stay with a man that won't cheat at all?? Then, walk the fvck outta the relationship and don't ever go about saying "All men should be able to stay faithful to one woman for the rest of their life".

You think tonto dike didn't think churchhill would remain faithful to only her for the rest of his life because he loves her?

You think Tiwa Savage didn't think that Teebillz would remain faithful to her forever? What with all her money and the banging body and everything? Does edible catering have more money than Tiwa? Or a hotter body? What did edible catering have that tiwa doesn't?? Why wasn't tiwa able to keep Tee down, even with everything?

Even Beyonce suffered her own share of unfaithfulness from JayZ.. And you are here forming, "I can't stay with a man that isn't hundred percent faithful"?? , "I can't ever share my man"??

Fine. You can't. Then leave! Leave and go from one man to another in the quest for your model man.
If a man loves you, He will prolly cheat in the hope or fear that you don't find out but don' t ever believe there is a hundred percent faithful man, specially moulded for you somewhere.. Because you are miss perfect too ahbi?

I know some of you will come here to say that you are praying for the perfect men and God will answer it.
Well.. Reality check:90% of those with failed marriages also scouted and prayed for the perfect man. You ain't better than them.
STOP LYING TO YOURSELVES.

And for those of you men that will come here to say that they can't cheat on their woman, I don't even have anything to say to you. Just keep telling that to those who would believe.

Maybe some 10% of you(tryna be generous with the figure) can be faithful, but you all know nature, you can't stay faithful to one hole.

Explains why a man that has one curvy, beautiful babe at home will see another curvy babe on the streets and his dick will still rise.

PS: Ladies, don't hope for a totally faithful man, just pray for one that doesn't throw it in your face.