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| Relationship Advice Needed by eazybabe(op): 10:42pm On Mar 10, 2017 |
Im a lady in my late twenties and still in the University and I still have a year to finish school. I met this guy online and we got talking, {let me call him S} we fell in love so fast and we started dating but there was a guy I was dating before I knew him, {let me give him T} that one only call me when he needs sex and he will just come to cool himself up but most times he gives me money after the sex. I told my new boyfriend one day that he was calling me and told him everything about about T, how he calls only whenever he needs me and that was what prompted the question how many guys have I slept with? I told him 3 and gave him all the stories about them but I omitted one person not because I didn't remember oh but I just felt it's not relevant and what will he do about it if he knows the number of guys who has has sex with me. Fast-forward to yesterday as we were talking I mistakenly mentioned the guy I didn't tell him about and since then life has not been the same for me. He said he can't continue with me anymore cos I'm not trustworthy and he can't date me anymore but we can just remain as friends. Please guys I need your advice on how to make him trust me again. OR do you think he's just using that as an excuse for him to leave me? Please I need advice cos I've been crying since last night and I'm having headache now. Note:he only has sex once and he was seduced so I'm like the first girlfriend he will have sex with. |
| Re: Relationship Advice Needed by mazizitonene(m): 10:46pm On Mar 10, 2017 |
hmm...the person below me has something to say... |
| Re: Relationship Advice Needed by obiorathesubtle: 10:48pm On Mar 10, 2017 |
Oh good, you're dating a kidult.. Uh, tell him to grow some balls or beat some balls out of him.. 1 Like |
| Re: Relationship Advice Needed by dacblogger: 10:49pm On Mar 10, 2017 |
The lies are just too much....both you and the new b.f are liars.  1 Like |
| Re: Relationship Advice Needed by REIIGN(m): 10:49pm On Mar 10, 2017 |
I solemnly swear... I didn't read that. 1 Like |
| Re: Relationship Advice Needed by stevealibi: 10:49pm On Mar 10, 2017 |
Girls una way no jst pure |
| Re: Relationship Advice Needed by Nobody: 10:49pm On Mar 10, 2017 |
Just give us a break and really define what you seek in your relationship. It is not everyone you tell about your past. Some can forgive and stick with you because they understand that the past is pass while others will judge you as if they are perfect. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: Relationship Advice Needed by Gflat: 10:49pm On Mar 10, 2017 |
I paused when I noticed you were dating someone else before you met "S" I really don't have anything to say to cheaters. spits. 3 Likes |
| Re: Relationship Advice Needed by Nobody: 10:50pm On Mar 10, 2017 |
Mr S don bail |
| Re: Relationship Advice Needed by McBrooklyn(m): 10:50pm On Mar 10, 2017 |
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| Re: Relationship Advice Needed by Twaci(f): 10:52pm On Mar 10, 2017 |
You shouldn't have lied to him. Now something that's meant to be nothing is now a problem. But if he really loves you, he'll forgive you in time. Just explain all to him, let him vex and cool off in his own time. Wait patiently through this, as a loving girlfriend. But if he decides to move on, learn from your mistake. 1 Like |
| Re: Relationship Advice Needed by eazybabe(op): 10:53pm On Mar 10, 2017 |
Gflat:The supposed person doesn't call or text, even if I call he won't pick it but only call me when he needs sex. I've left him but just that I didn't tell him about it |
| Re: Relationship Advice Needed by Nobody: 10:55pm On Mar 10, 2017 |
Dude has literally broken up with you. How do you intend to rebuild the trust when you're no longer in a relationship with him? Just forget already. |
| Re: Relationship Advice Needed by Nobody: 10:56pm On Mar 10, 2017 |
This is why fuccking too many guys before marriage is not good, your self-worth has reduced in his eyes and he sees you as a borehole. Sorry dear, try again. He ain't coming back to you. 1 Like |
| Re: Relationship Advice Needed by Gflat: 11:00pm On Mar 10, 2017 |
eazybabe:People fail whenever they try to handle two things at a time. You have alot to learn at this age if yours I will advise you to ignore both guys are start afresh. You should emend your relationship life |
| Re: Relationship Advice Needed by Apina(m): 11:09pm On Mar 10, 2017 |
eazybabe:Who senior who outta two of una? |
| Re: Relationship Advice Needed by eazybabe(op): 11:14pm On Mar 10, 2017 |
Apina:he seniors me with two years |
| Re: Relationship Advice Needed by Nobody: 11:20pm On Mar 10, 2017 |
The number of guys you sex just increased by 1, keep it up! Welcome development. Help me advice the guy S to run far away from you. |
| Re: Relationship Advice Needed by Nobody: 11:21pm On Mar 10, 2017 |
Sex in relationship is wrong....you slept with four different guys,  eazybabe: |
| Re: Relationship Advice Needed by Apina(m): 11:27pm On Mar 10, 2017 |
eazybabe:OK...... Ur bf is likely a descendant of Mr Linus MBA. U lied, he lied and it would be best for both of u to go ur separate ways. Ur emotions smirks of desperation, perhaps u feel being in ur late twenties comes with some expectations to be met such as having a man. Just concentrate on ur studies and things will fall in place with time. 1 Like |
| Re: Relationship Advice Needed by eazybabe(op): 11:39pm On Mar 10, 2017 |
Not that sleeping with guys is my hobby but just that I've not been lucky with some good committed ones. 1 Like |
| Re: Relationship Advice Needed by eazybabe(op): 11:40pm On Mar 10, 2017 |
Apina:if say I'm desperate you're not far from the truth but I love him so much 1 Like |
| Re: Relationship Advice Needed by Gentlevin: 11:43pm On Mar 10, 2017 |
its easy to say "...if he loves u he wil come back..." hmmmm u kept on havin sex wit all d guys u are dating and after tellin him about 3 of d guys, u kept 1 away. why? He was even managing wit d 3 guys u told him about. My dear ; from now on u better have a policy NOT TO BANG any other guy again til u marry unless d number wil keep counting...... 1 Like |
| Re: Relationship Advice Needed by Nobody: 11:43pm On Mar 10, 2017 |
Pray for right one. The one that will love you the way you're not judge u based on your past eazybabe: |
| Re: Relationship Advice Needed by Apina(m): 11:48pm On Mar 10, 2017 |
eazybabe:He most likely ain't gonna trust u again cos he might feel that there are stuffs u ain't saying after giving u d opportunity to open up and u blew it. He's not ur husband, just a bf who no longer wants to have a relationship with u. Bottle it up and face ur primary purpose of being in school. |
| Re: Relationship Advice Needed by Senipapa(m): 11:49pm On Mar 10, 2017 |
One advice I always give to people is never start what you can't finish, when you decide to share your past life with your partner it's always better to spill it all out, because when he or she finds out you held some back it becomes a huge problem. Another thing is before sharing a dirty past life with a guy, make sure you have ascertained his level of maturity to be much above average, average and below will always say it's OK but it's never OK. |
| Re: Relationship Advice Needed by spencerlouis(m): 11:49pm On Mar 10, 2017 |
sm people seff  its not really easy 2 move in som cases! people will jst b sayin crap! jst xplain evry evry 2 him! if possible lie ur way out/in! jst do wat u hav 2! he is jst disappointed nd not looking 4 a way out! he will get 2 trust u but wit time nd ur act in general!!! peace 1 Like |
| Re: Relationship Advice Needed by Cutehector(m): 12:15am On Mar 11, 2017 |
Oh gosh am tired..... Yawns... So how many guys do u intend to fvck before u get married? Be sincere 1 Like |
| Re: Relationship Advice Needed by publicenemy(m): 12:22am On Mar 11, 2017 |
eazybabe:Even if you are in your 50s don't ever be scared of any guy leaving you. Secondly you made a mistake,but if he isn't gonna forgive you then let go. Focus on graduating with fantastic grades and your future.most university relationship don't lead to marriage. Don't remain friends with him just end things and move on. And try pulling your self together no man is worth it. Any body that's too quick to say "its over" isn't worth crying for. |
| Re: Relationship Advice Needed by Nobody: 10:22am On Mar 11, 2017 |
I think it wouldn't be a bad idea if an award for MOST SEXED LADY be invented because the way girls are having numerous sex partners this days beats my imagination. All I know is that, after fearing God, the next person to fear is a woman. Trust me. |
| Re: Relationship Advice Needed by NemzySeries(m): 1:39pm On Mar 11, 2017 |
@ ur age Fvckbois shd b outta ya league.... u shd b seeing husbands not xchanging fone calls & cash for pv55y 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: Relationship Advice Needed by Nobody: 1:48pm On Mar 11, 2017 |
Baby he has already left you! From when you told him 3+ he don dump u already You just pushed him to sayit when you added number 4 to list.... take heart Plenty more fish in the sea... try more mature and open minded guy who wont judge you for your past but for who you are now '  |
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