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I understand what it feels like to desperately want someone to get better, but they won't want the same.

I am so sorry it happened this way.

But you see, you got to move on with your life. Is this the kinda person you wanna spend your life with? Would you want him to father your kids? I doubt.

I know it can hurt, betrayals like this, but after the darkness, light emerges.

It is well with you.

northvietnam:
lolzzzzzzzzzzzzzz.

Stupid bitches..

u will be friend zoning Decent guys around you and u want to Date C Ronaldo's twin online..

God will punish all of u one by one

Lunagirl:
I understand what it feels like to desperately want someone to get better, but they won't want the same.

I am so sorry it happened this way.

But you see, you got to move on with your life. Is this the kinda person you wanna spend your life with? Would you want him to father your kids? I doubt.

I know it can hurt, betrayals like this, but after the darkness, light emerges.

It is well with you.

Thanks. And your right, were not together anymore and I see things much clearer now. He's not a good person. And I'm embarrassed that I allowed things to get so bad when I knew better. But I learned a lot about myself in this process and I'm working through it.

Anonymous1234:
Thanks. And your right, were not together anymore and I see things much clearer now. He's not a good person. And I'm embarrassed that I allowed things to get so bad when I knew better. But I learned a lot about myself in this process and I'm working through it.

No need to be embarrassed. I had similar experience, just on a smaller scale. So I genuinely know how far we can get carried away.

Thing is you dodged a bullet.

. omo see gobe,gobe!!!!(in bisola's voice)

northvietnam:
OK I didn't read before I Comment..
I have gone through ya write up and I want to advise u now...


Men don't like possessive women...

If he's a scammer, which obviously he is..
try and get him a decent job.. that will occupy his time..

lady don't you know he has a family in Nigeria to take care of
and he can't do that from the peanut he gets from you.

if u love him, support his Scamming ministry..
but always advise him with love and respect...

Most G boys in naija and Malay.. their girl friends gives them that support they need
go to South Africa, Vietnam, Cambodia, Indo, their ladies even go to jail cuz they are dating Nigerian Drug pushers... and they know but will hardly snitch on the nigga or bad mouth him...

I know of a guy that spent so much money just to get his Vietnam girl friend out of jail..
cuz he said the girl was too supportive...

She's in Lagos now with two kids, yes a Vietnamese...

it got to a point in my life and I stopped going to church...
My girl begged me like for ever to start going to church... now na me dey wake her up every Sunday... after ironing her clothes Oooo...

I know of a guy that stopped smoking cuz any time he lights a cigarette, the girl will also light hers... if he stops, the girl will also stop..

she said any day I catch you smoke, I will light my own and smoke too..
the nigga no longer smokes again..

my point is

support him no matter what, with time he will change

I supported him. I was there for him. I encouraged him to do better. Be better. But there comes a time where a person CAN NOT continue to love and support someone who isn't doing the same for you or themselves. I gave him all of me. My love, my loyalty, affection, EVERYTHING and he took it all, used me up until he couldn't use me anymore and walked away without a care in the world. I loved him and was there for him at his lowest point and even THAT wasn't enough for him to be honest and loyal to me. Enough is enough. Now I'm left to pick up the pieces by myself.

The both...scam and unfaithful man

my friend, go have yourself checked to be sure you are free from any kinda venereal disease. if you are, raise your hands to the heavens and give thanks to God for good riddance to a rotten rubbish... you played the script of a fool all along, but the show is over. move on and don't look back!

Problem

U have a problem and tht is ure simply in love.

back to back scamming

@Anonymous1234 do you see his attitude ideal for a long term partner?

You have the answer, listen to your soul. dnt wait for validation for whats within your own soul.


Wish u all d best, my lady.

No he dey play with u ode

The person above me pls summarize i am not understanding this

hmm ayam not understanding

For the first time since joining nairaland in the year 2014 AD, I took a look at the first 3 lines and blah blah blahed to the end......
Op whatever the guy did to you, I came to tell you its your fault, for not been smart enough.... Mtchwww

Wetin...

You have been scammed! It happens all the time. A nice you would drop his details with the police anonymously... think about the lives the moroon is ruining. Amen.

Anonymous1234:
I want to start this post by saying PLEASE do not judge my situation. (I'll try to be brief. Please ask questions if you have any)

So almost 2 years ago I met a guy online. He was from Nigeria but he was here in the states. No green card. He had a job but lost it later in our relationship. Super sweet. Very attentive. We hit it off immediately, talked and text on the phone all day everyday for about a month.

Then out of the blue he starts acting shady then I came to find out he had a girlfriend. We stopped talking for maybe 2 weeks but started back up again as friends (he told me that he wasn't with her anymore, I believed him) and eventually we became "exclusive" we moved in together.

Since we've been together he has cheated on me several times with multiple different women. I would find him on dating sites messaging women I've found Facebook messages, if messages, text messages. Most of them the women never responded to. Some of them did. Some of them he revealed his real name to and some he gave a fake name. Every time I would out information he would apologize cry, beg, plead for me to forgive him and take him back and I did every time.

I later found out that he was a scammer. He pretended to be other people online. Sometimes men sometimes women to get them to send him money. He would scam people on eBay making up fake PayPal invoices and taking the product and never giving them the money for it.

His friends also have taken people's credit cards and swiped them. He somehow got a hold of people's bank info etc. (I've now come to understand this to be 419 scamming) I never saw any of the money, meanwhile I was working and taking care of us.

Whenever we went out I paid for everything. Vacations. Birthdays. Literally everything. He never pressured me to marry him or asked me for large sums of money. He would ask for money for his bus card or phone bill. Small things like that. I loved him. I supported him. I wanted to help him. I wanted him to do better and be better. I wanted him to change so badly but he never did.

Cut to 2 months ago. I find out he's been cheating again. And in my house. I kick him out, we break up. He's apologizing he's crying he seems genuinely sorry promises to change the whole bit..

The minute I have him another chance he flipped the script. Started acting shady. Was telling me one thing and doing the complete opposite. He would tell me he still loves me and still wants to be with me etc.

cut to 2 days ago I find out on Snapchat that he's in a new relationship and "in love" and taking trips with this girl.

Mind you just last week he wanted to still work things out with me. I'm completely over it now. My question is was I apart of the scam? Or was this just a typical case of dealing with an unfaithful man? I knew he was a scammer. I begged him to stop but he wouldn't but for whatever reasons I never thought he would scam me.

I dont understnd what exactly ur question is because u have been scammed already!

Anonymous1234:
I wish it was fake. But it's the 100% truth. It sounds like a movie. I feel like I'm living in the twilight zone but believe me there is NOTHING fake about this story. Nothing.

prove it one way or the other

Aunty Walk.

Before the feds come knocking on your door.

Just two words for you, Move On!!! His not loyal and he will never be loyal. Dont waste your time, effort and money. He will only take advantage of you when he can, cos he knows your in love with him. A candid advice.

yes.

Anonymous1234:
I want to start this post by saying PLEASE do not judge my situation. (I'll try to be brief. Please ask questions if you have any)

So almost 2 years ago I met a guy online. He was from Nigeria but he was here in the states. No green card. He had a job but lost it later in our relationship. Super sweet. Very attentive. We hit it off immediately, talked and text on the phone all day everyday for about a month.

Then out of the blue he starts acting shady then I came to find out he had a girlfriend. We stopped talking for maybe 2 weeks but started back up again as friends (he told me that he wasn't with her anymore, I believed him) and eventually we became "exclusive" we moved in together.

Since we've been together he has cheated on me several times with multiple different women. I would find him on dating sites messaging women I've found Facebook messages, if messages, text messages. Most of them the women never responded to. Some of them did. Some of them he revealed his real name to and some he gave a fake name. Every time I would out information he would apologize cry, beg, plead for me to forgive him and take him back and I did every time.

I later found out that he was a scammer. He pretended to be other people online. Sometimes men sometimes women to get them to send him money. He would scam people on eBay making up fake PayPal invoices and taking the product and never giving them the money for it.

His friends also have taken people's credit cards and swiped them. He somehow got a hold of people's bank info etc. (I've now come to understand this to be 419 scamming) I never saw any of the money, meanwhile I was working and taking care of us.

Whenever we went out I paid for everything. Vacations. Birthdays. Literally everything. He never pressured me to marry him or asked me for large sums of money. He would ask for money for his bus card or phone bill. Small things like that. I loved him. I supported him. I wanted to help him. I wanted him to do better and be better. I wanted him to change so badly but he never did.

Cut to 2 months ago. I find out he's been cheating again. And in my house. I kick him out, we break up. He's apologizing he's crying he seems genuinely sorry promises to change the whole bit..

The minute I have him another chance he flipped the script. Started acting shady. Was telling me one thing and doing the complete opposite. He would tell me he still loves me and still wants to be with me etc.

cut to 2 days ago I find out on Snapchat that he's in a new relationship and "in love" and taking trips with this girl.

Mind you just last week he wanted to still work things out with me. I'm completely over it now. My question is was I apart of the scam? Or was this just a typical case of dealing with an unfaithful man? I knew he was a scammer. I begged him to stop but he wouldn't but for whatever reasons I never thought he would scam me.

He z a scammer, original one for that matter and you as the "maye" you played right into his game Because of blinded lust



Op

when a lady loves a man till she becomes stupid, she gets bashed.......
when a Lady doesn't like a man and shows only interest in his money...she's called all sort of names....
sister leave that guy a beg

Anonymous1234:
I want to start this post by saying PLEASE do not judge my situation. (I'll try to be brief. Please ask questions if you have any)

So almost 2 years ago I met a guy online. He was from Nigeria but he was here in the states. No green card. He had a job but lost it later in our relationship. Super sweet. Very attentive. We hit it off immediately, talked and text on the phone all day everyday for about a month.

Then out of the blue he starts acting shady then I came to find out he had a girlfriend. We stopped talking for maybe 2 weeks but started back up again as friends (he told me that he wasn't with her anymore, I believed him) and eventually we became "exclusive" we moved in together.

Since we've been together he has cheated on me several times with multiple different women. I would find him on dating sites messaging women I've found Facebook messages, if messages, text messages. Most of them the women never responded to. Some of them did. Some of them he revealed his real name to and some he gave a fake name. Every time I would out information he would apologize cry, beg, plead for me to forgive him and take him back and I did every time.

I later found out that he was a scammer. He pretended to be other people online. Sometimes men sometimes women to get them to send him money. He would scam people on eBay making up fake PayPal invoices and taking the product and never giving them the money for it.

His friends also have taken people's credit cards and swiped them. He somehow got a hold of people's bank info etc. (I've now come to understand this to be 419 scamming) I never saw any of the money, meanwhile I was working and taking care of us.

Whenever we went out I paid for everything. Vacations. Birthdays. Literally everything. He never pressured me to marry him or asked me for large sums of money. He would ask for money for his bus card or phone bill. Small things like that. I loved him. I supported him. I wanted to help him. I wanted him to do better and be better. I wanted him to change so badly but he never did.

Cut to 2 months ago. I find out he's been cheating again. And in my house. I kick him out, we break up. He's apologizing he's crying he seems genuinely sorry promises to change the whole bit..

The minute I have him another chance he flipped the script. Started acting shady. Was telling me one thing and doing the complete opposite. He would tell me he still loves me and still wants to be with me etc.

cut to 2 days ago I find out on Snapchat that he's in a new relationship and "in love" and taking trips with this girl.

Mind you just last week he wanted to still work things out with me. I'm completely over it now. My question is was I apart of the scam? Or was this just a typical case of dealing with an unfaithful man? I knew he was a scammer. I begged him to stop but he wouldn't but for whatever reasons I never thought he would scam me.

go read up the personality type called the rake in Robert Greene's book themed "The art of seduction". He exhibits all the traits of the rake. Good tin ure free from his hold, please enjoy your freedom and release him into his destiny.

northvietnam:
OK I didn't read before I Comment..
I have gone through ya write up and I want to advise u now...


Men don't like possessive women...

If he's a scammer, which obviously he is..
try and get him a decent job.. that will occupy his time..

lady don't you know he has a family in Nigeria to take care of
and he can't do that from the peanut he gets from you.

if u love him, support his Scamming ministry..
but always advise him with love and respect...

Most G boys in naija and Malay.. their girl friends gives them that support they need
go to South Africa, Vietnam, Cambodia, Indo, their ladies even go to jail cuz they are dating Nigerian Drug pushers... and they know but will hardly snitch on the nigga or bad mouth him...

I know of a guy that spent so much money just to get his Vietnam girl friend out of jail..
cuz he said the girl was too supportive...

She's in Lagos now with two kids, yes a Vietnamese...

it got to a point in my life and I stopped going to church...
My girl begged me like for ever to start going to church... now na me dey wake her up every Sunday... after ironing her clothes Oooo...

I know of a guy that stopped smoking cuz any time he lights a cigarette, the girl will also light hers... if he stops, the girl will also stop..

she said any day I catch you smoke, I will light my own and smoke too..
the nigga no longer smokes again..

my point is

support him no matter what, with time he will change

Wtf op follow this and die

Actually that dude isn't serious if that's how the story is.
Fake guy!