My father left us 4 children , since 2008
Leaving behind only Mum
Who took care of Us, send 3 children to school. By God's grace gave her own house.

Now father is back, bt still won't accept the fact dat he left us, all to avoid responsibility

Then talk to him to apologise na. Because his wife accepted him back doesn't mean his children have to accept him.
If you feel so strongly about his abandonment, then let him know your grievances. I guess your siblings also feel the same way, so you guys should say your mind.
There's a proverb that says when you remove dirt from your eye, and you look at it, you're just showing your eyes what a mess its made.
Otherwise, you'll just allow resentment to build if you don't address the elephant in the room.
At least you've learnt an important lesson from him, - "how not to be a father."

Can the apology change what happened? Men can be cocky at times so better let bygones be.

- Why did he leave?
- Why do YOU voice concern about that apologies, and not mum?
- Why should someone apologize if they are NOT remorseful?
- What would an apology solve exactly?

You want an apology before even knowing why he left?! Better talk to your mum 1st, yeah!

eyinjuege:
Then talk to him to apologise na. Because his wife accepted him back doesn't mean his children have to accept him.
If you feel so strongly about his abandonment, then let him know your grievances. I guess your siblings also feel the same way, so you guys should say your mind.
There's a proverb that says when you remove dirt from your eye, and you look at it, you're just showing your eyes what a mess its made.
Otherwise, you'll just allow resentment to build if you don't address the elephant in the room.
At least you've learnt an important lesson from him, - "how not to be a father."

Na so some useless father be. I have this aunt who took care of her children alone. I even used to think that they had no father.

One of her son is so rich now and all of sudden, this man has abandoned his house and now stay with my aunt all in the name of trying to help her cos no one is around. The son doesn't give him much, just enough to get by.

He is back and your mum just accepted him like that?You need to discuss with your mom first.Your mom's reasons may not go well with you but nevertheless,hear her out.
You need to speak with your dad too and ask him what his disappearance was about.It is left to you to forgive him even though he may still not apologise.

If he doesn't want to apologize, then let him not. I understand the need for apologies but I need you to come to terms with the situation and proceed with your life.

Remember, who you are and what you become should not be determined by your family background. You have a lot to accomplish so just get on with other things.

olorunwa90:
My father left us 4 children , since 2008
Leaving behind only Mum
Who took care of Us, send 3 children to school. By God's grace gave her own house.

Now father is back, bt still won't accept the fact dat he left us, all to avoid responsibility

Did Mum welcome him back with open arms ?

Just thank God that he came back alive! pressure might kill the man if he stayed . ask ur mum why he left. I don't know if u 're male or female, but if male pray to God not to give u a bad woman cos if u get that u'll understand.

They will keep fooling around because family members will still throw their doors open. You accepted him without terms, move on.

Whatever happened between Man and Wife is for God to judge them both justly.

However, your father owes you and your siblings an apology. He brought you into this world and is personally responsible for you. He had no right to abandon you guys for 8 solid years and swan in, expecting Unconditional Love and Filial Affection and Respect. He most certainly didn't give his children that love, so why should they reciprocate what was not taught to them??

Nigerian society is already so broken that we cannot afford to keep ignoring people abandoning their personal responsibility and demanding we forgive without them paying for their crimes/bad judgements.

He owes you and your siblings an explanation or an apology or he owes you nothing and you owe him absolutely nothing.

Later on, you will see them crying upandan in their old age about neglectful children, instead of them to admit they brought their troubles on their own head, it is never their fault. Mschewwww.

Nutase:
Can the apology change what happened? Men can be cocky at times so better let bygones be.

Na so, let it go as of it's so easy

Nutase:
Can the apology change what happened? Men can be cocky at times so better let bygones be.

The man should light to apologise this is where I always let my mum know that she is d one who sign for better for worse if my dad should be wrong he must be ready to apologise to me and my siblings..... let us be fair no matter what he should apologise

olorunwa90:
My father left us 4 children , since 2008
Leaving behind only Mum
Who took care of Us, send 3 children to school. By God's grace gave her own house.

Now father is back, bt still won't accept the fact dat he left us, all to avoid responsibility

just ignore him that is how some parents are. my own father left me since 1990 only to see him about a month ago.