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Who is to blame for abusive marriage? I know many will be quick to say the men. Sometimes it good to look back. Bottom truth is that when many ladies are in love, you can never advise them. As long love has covered their face, they are too blind to see beyond reality. Too many romantic movies and novels fuel their brains. A lot of public display of affection seen on social media trickles their fantasy.

How can you tell me, a man suddenly becomes abusive after marriage. Does marriage make people better or make them worst person?

Because of been scared of remaining single, women will deliberately or blindly overlook certain traits in a man just because he is Mr handsome, rich, ............................. and they define God-fearing to their lifestyle. You can't tell me a truly God-fearing man will suddenly become bad and abusive after marriage.

So many women believe they can change any man..This is very laughable. If you can't change him before marriage, why do you believe you can change him after marriage when he has full authority.

A man you are dating constantly yells at you during misunderstandings, he sends you hurtful messages when both of you have little quarrels.You say it's normal.I am used to it. When he is angry, he displays uncontrollable rage and you say all men are like that. You choose not to look at the future because, at present, you are with Mr handsome, Mr rich ................He takes you on shopping, foreign trips etc. But you forget that too yahoo yahoo boys, arm robbers, and ritualists also take good care of people they love. After marriage, he starts beating you and you come out to say, this was not the man I once dated.

Sensible women look out for warning signs and quit at that moment. They respect the sanctity of marriage, that it's a lifetime commitment and that adultery is the only ground for divorce. The bitter truth many don't accept these days and they claimed to fear God who is the Originator of marriage.

When a woman doesn't respect the sanctity of marriage, she gives every relationship a chance, if it works; fine. If it doesn't work I quit. People don't die from being single. It is better to be single and then be once married. Marriage is not an achievement and doesn't guarantee happiness. In fact, the Holy Book stated that married people will face tribulations.

Back to the question, who do you blame for abusive marriage? For me, wrong decisions are the cause of abusive marriage.
No man suddenly become violent after marriage. That is how he has been from time. Same goes for men who cheat and vice versa.


cc, Seun Lalasticlala mynd44

A man can turn abusive when things are going bad for him in his work place or business...


As a woman, it is very much important to be wary of such situations .. Money issues can make a man to become a beast . always try to find out what really bothers him instead of nagging.

talk2alabama:
A man can turn abusive when things are going bad for him in his work place or business...


As a woman, it is very much important to be wary of such situations .. Money issues can make a man to become a beast . always try to find out what really bothers him instead of nagging.

So because of money issue a man should start beating a woman? na wa for you o..

Tonto Dikeh and Mercy Aigbe is as result business or money issues?

Flirtyjane:
So because of money issue a man should start beating a woman? na wa for you o..

Tonto Dikeh and Mercy Aigbe is as result business or money issues?

I mentioned one point na... Wats your problem... Why can't u post your own point

I remember one gal saying my boyfriend beat me, we end up having good sex...Whereas her body dey suffer battering...
A wise woman will not allow handsome, money, sex or whatever to overlook abusive trait in a man...Only foolish women does.

talk2alabama:
I mentioned one point na... Wats your problem... Why can't u post your own point

My point is you are wrong.

Flirtyjane:
My point is you are wrong.

so u come be man now abi? U see wetin itk dey cause....

Why the quarrel?