hopefulLandlord:


women are moved by what they see, if they don't like what they see no matter how sweet talking you are you won't get there, that's why a guy that appears rich can get almost any girl and the girl can stick with him even when she later finds out he wasn't as rich as he appeared

believe me, experience can be totally different from theory

believe me size matters only superficially, what a man does with it is what really matters, a man can have a Mandingo size dick, if he can't use it properly it becomes ineffective

I'm 3 inches taller than Iker Casillas, that doesn't mean I'll make a better goalkeeper than him or even far shorter keeper in Guillermo Ochoa and that doesn't mean I'm better than Messi/Ronaldo outfield because SKILL is the main thing

Kanu is very tall but you'll be hard pressed to find 3 goals he scored with the head despite his height

I know you watch football, that's why I'm giving football analogy

skill is what puts off the woman not the size

CatfishBilly:


Kegel is for the pelvic floor, not the vagina.
The men have this erroneous belief that vagina gets loose after childbirth. It is not a proven medical fact, so many people sell tightening creams to prey on this false belief. Vagina tightening cream is not a thing in medicine.
They are all myths as far as medicine is concerned. The vagina is a muscle, it expands and contracts back.
An analogy is the womb, it is a muscle. At pregnancy, it expands, after delivery, it gradually goes back to size, of course there will be slight battle scars, but it doesn't become loose.

hopefulLandlord:


seems you promise everyone that challenges your wrong claims with the same lines but never call them up as you promise, seems to me like a tactic to deflect from the fact that you just made baseless claim

RighteousI:

Why should I tell you where your utterances make you suspect? I won't tell you so that you will not be able to use it as a defence in the future in case you happen to be a false christian.
You just admitted that your topic is against christian men, now why will a true christian woman create a post against christian men?
Do I love you? Lol. Do people love those they have not seen? Plus your utterances have given you away, I don't believe you are a true christian now.
You really think I will change my account just to contact you? Just who do you think you are? So you don't need me, right? Only the man needs you, right? Carry on with that philosophy and end up with an adulterer, paedophile and a wife brutalizer as a husband. You girls don't want to listen, right? You don't want to believe that a good man will not chase you much? The man who you believe is humble cos he kneels for you is the one that will brutalize you. He is only chasing you cos he has not married you yet, once he marries you, he will start giving you slaps just before he cheats on you. So you need to start respecting true christian men.
No one attacked you here, but I have the right to tell people here that a person can still be false even though she speaks of topics like the tribulation and the rapture.

bennyann:


It kind of scares me because the task of such wives aren't easy. If I know that to be my calling, then I will always pray ahead for grace. It isn't easy at that level at all. One has to be watchful and not even close their eye lids for a second.

KingEbukaNaija:


Why do women lay such much emphasis on love . Why does love matter so much to women ? Is it the oxytocin ?




It depends . Don't forget , Cleopatra is the kind of woman that meets the chimerical sexual fantasies of the man . The Spectacular Sirens are the perfect match for Rakes . If it is for the sex , then she is that type of woman .




You are not on Facebook , BBM even Whats App ? How do you receive male attention ? I mean everything is on social media before it graduates into something real .



Thanks



Has it been easy for you ?



I love studying human behavior - habits , social , love and sex life , humans and politics etc . I've got books that focus so much on human brain .



Looks like someone has read the book What's your best character ? Mine is the charmer (not for the sex but for the romantic adventure ) . I think I love the 'love story ' of Queen Victoria and Prime Minister Benjamin Disraeli

Tosinex:
unhnmnn, don't look at it as a job, just take it as a duty. No one prevail on his own strength, don't put it on your head, put it in your right hand, in your heart and commit it to God, remember you are human and always will be till he comes, and when you have run a little, retreat, gain strength, re-strategize, then launch back, remember the journey is far and you are still human!

bennyann:


You're a wonderful person Tosinex. God bless you.

bennyann:
All hopefulLandlord and CatfishBilly have said concerning sex issues seem strange to me because it contradicts nairaland stories related to it.

Which is which now?

Muafrika2:
RighteousI

Are you a pastor? I think bennyann hit pastors real hard Were now seeing the fallout. If you are not guilty, you should be angry because she was being truthful. Back off.

Speaking of which, bennyann, I have seen what you are talking about (pastors) with my two eyes Don't feel the need to apologize to any hypocrite (very intentionally selected word) who feels threatened! Shame the devil.

Muafrika2:
You're welcome

I've got locks

That's enough, you can just braid or blow dry once in a while if you want it straight for a change. Long hair can easily be straightened with blow dry if you know the right guy,

hopefulLandlord:


those things are urban legends, just like everyone thought there was a time India defeated Nigeria 99-1, these are just stories that have caught on and handed down from generation to generation and people have believed it so much so that they religiously think its true even though their experience is challenging such, that's why I and catfishbilly look like we are confused or deceived

women these days are insecure about the appearance of their organ down there and think guys don't like it cuz they feel it needs to look "cute" this has give rise to vaginoplasty in which they make the organ look like porn actress's own (for those who haven't watched porn, a por.nstars' own looks like a 12 year old organ) BUT appearance of it has NEVER been a subject of discussion when guys gather and talk about sex, I've never heard a guy mention anything about the appearance except virgin guys who have a standard in their head

there are so many "truths" that you'll discover are myths as time goes on

Tosinex:
thank you bennyann (my cousin of benny hinn ) what more can I do, I've no other duty than to help the people of God in the way I can, His grace is sufficient for me and for you too, Amen!

bennyann:

Hmmm! I can't believe I'm taking such lessons from you.
I am not a shy. Why shall I shy

bennyann:


Dear Sis, I won't be surprised if he is.

I feel relieve knowing I'm not the only one who noticed the trend about most of them. I better not say more because enshy won't like this and I understand him and also respect him.

All of a sudden I'm now like the devil because I want us to learn to make each other happy but they don't see it.

There are times we tell each other to the face our wrongs and improve on them. We don't always have to face outside, we concentrate within as well especially on issues that's like a canker worm but it's being treated as a trivial issue.

God help us. Thank you sis. I really do appreciate.

bennyann:


Locks? Wow!

I will still endure it for a while. I won't forget the occasional blow dry. Don't be surprised when I pm you on natural hair issues someday. Thanks.

bennyann:


I don't understand all you said. I just wondered what could have happened to me if I had replied your pm.

If you are a Christian, then it hurts. And you are not stable with your accusations due to the bolded.

These are the people who misrepresent Christian men and make one have a bias judgment about them.

Nairalanders have taken heed to your advice. They will be careful of me.

I tried my best not to say the below but I guess I can't hold it in anymore.
Learn how to control your temper if it seems one doesn't give you attention. You don't in turn carry out this act of wickedness. Some commented on this thread before even sending a pm but you made no comment whatsoever but tried sending me a pm on the 13th. I tried scanning through your posts on nairaland and saw nothing to make me reply your mail. I was just waiting for something to encourage me replying your mail but I had none. Then I saw you eventually made a comment here on the 15th with some accusations you have no proof of. I was happy to see you comment so I decided to give myself the chance to have a chat with you directly from here. I tried to make sure there was no misunderstanding only for you to prove me wrong.

Shouldn't I then be grateful all ends here?

It's people like you that make ladies not to reply pms. People like you that call yourself Christians that's if you are and you can't man up to a lady. You feel rejected when no one has rejected you, then you reacted by giving false accusations.

You're free to do this to me over and over again as long as it's on nairaland only but be careful not to do it to others. Learn from this behind your phone screen. You're free to reply and vent more of your frustrations but I'm sorry if I indirectly caused it because seriously I never meant to.

Thanks for passing by and please do have a nice day.

Gosh! Today has been so bad chatting with strange nairaland guys out of nowhere. Whoever is using an alternate moniker to get to me, please be real, I prefer those I'm familiar with. At least I know their thoughts and can easily relate with them not with you I know nothing about. So please, reason with me and don't vent your frustrations on me whoever and wherever you guys are.

bennyann:
All hopefulLandlord and CatfishBilly have said concerning sex issues seem strange to me because it contradicts nairaland stories related to it.

Which is which now?

MZLady39:
Righteousi,
I told BennyAnn that I would be exiting this thread, but I must say this:
Brother, whatever my sister chose to "do" or "not do" is not my business.
I had no idea about you "pm-ing" her. That's you two's business.
But now it all makes sense.
You lashed out at me for what I thought was no reason....but now I see what it is all about.
You thought that I was indirectly influencing her to not chat with you privately.....(which I didn't even know about)!
You made an assumption about me (which was absolutely wrong)...accused me of being a member of and insulted a particular denomination.
And you still did it now.
I don't AND will never practice a Christianity that insults and degrades other denominations (even if some of the doctrine is incorrect), religions or folks who don't believe in anything.
That wasn't Christ' style nor will it be mine.
So you clearly haven't read ANY of my posts.....
However, I doubt that her decision to "not" reply you, had to do with me.
She may be young, but I think she's no puppet or pushover. However, if she was influenced in a positive manner, then that was good too.
Perhaps, you need some positive Christian male role models...(which I've seen a few in the Religion Section).
I read through all of your threads on your profile the day you decided to get "buck wild" with me & was appalled!
I can't imagine a guy calling a country "Zoogeria" being foul-mouthed & repeatedly insulting its people being a Christian? It would be even worse if you are Nigerian saying this stuff.
Maybe...perhaps maybe her discerning spirit saw you as a "deal-breaker".
Brother, in life you "win" some & you "lose" some.
I say this with all due respect...but you're not handling this correctly.
One of the main character traits of being a Christian is the act of humility......admitting when oneself is wrong....even if one feels justified.
I know Nigeria is patriarchal....men show no emotions...except anger. Men are in control...never apologizing etc.,
But your Christianity (if you are truly Christian) should transcend culture..
I've had to humble myself right here on NL in the Religion Section.
I hope you can humble yourself...let the pride go.

Ranchhoddas:
No teacher like experience...

Howdy?

RighteousI:

Yes I did try to send you a pm some days ago mainly cos I saw your post about tribulation so I wanted to support a fellow christian and this was why I tried sending you a pm. Only for me to detect in your utterances that you could be a false christian.
With the way you are throwing the fact that I sent you a pm and you didn't reply around here as if to suggest that you are a princess that should be sought by men makes me to believe that you have not learnt to respect men. How many times have we heard stories of brutalized wives coming out to say that their now wive beating and adulterous husband was very humble and nice when they were dating? You need to realise that a good man will not chase you much. You claimed that nothing in my profile gave you a reason to reply my pm as if I stand to gain the most if we had discussed via pm. In regards to my post here, I mainly comment on how nigeria is a zoo filled with evil people and at times I try to be sarcastic. But that doesn't mean I'm not a christian so leave my posts aside and face the accusation of falsehood which I have made against you. You didn't reply my pm probably because of the fact that I criticized your friend 'mzlady' of being catholic which made you scared of me since you know that a man that knows that the catholic church is false will probably detect that you are a false christian.
You claimed that your brother, oh sorry! You claimed that I can't man up to a lady. First of all what do you mean by man up? I sent you a pm before I detected that you could be false, you chose not to reply and I then advised people here not to automatically believe that anyone who throws the debate about topics like the tribulation and rapture is a true christian. how does that prove that your brother, oh sorry, that I can't man up to a lady?
You think I value such things like 'maning up to a lady'? Am I a hipop rapper that I will cherish such things like bouncing up to some 'cool chick' and chatting her up? Or are we in high school? Instead we pick out the true christian modest woman from the multitude of false christian women like you cos we are professional christian men.
My advice to people here is that you should watchout for false christians that speak of topics like the rapture in order to deceive and get themselves true christian husbands or wives.

MZLady39:
Righteousi,
I told BennyAnn that I would be exiting this thread, but I must say this:
Brother, whatever my sister chose to "do" or "not do" is not my business.
I had no idea about you "pm-ing" her. That's you two's business.
But now it all makes sense.
You lashed out at me for what I thought was no reason....but now I see what it is all about.
You thought that I was indirectly influencing her to not chat with you privately.....(which I didn't even know about)!
You made an assumption about me (which was absolutely wrong)...accused me of being a member of and insulted a particular denomination.
And you still did it now.
I don't AND will never practice a Christianity that insults and degrades other denominations (even if some of the doctrine is incorrect), religions or folks who don't believe in anything.
That wasn't Christ' style nor will it be mine.
So you clearly haven't read ANY of my posts.....
However, I doubt that her decision to "not" reply you, had to do with me.
She may be young, but I think she's no puppet or pushover. However, if she was influenced in a positive manner, then that was good too.
Perhaps, you need some positive Christian male role models...(which I've seen a few in the Religion Section).
I read through all of your threads on your profile the day you decided to get "buck wild" with me & was appalled!
I can't imagine a guy calling a country "Zoogeria" being foul-mouthed & repeatedly insulting its people being a Christian? It would be even worse if you are Nigerian saying this stuff.
Maybe...perhaps maybe her discerning spirit saw you as a "deal-breaker".
Brother, in life you "win" some & you "lose" some.
I say this with all due respect...but you're not handling this correctly.
One of the main character traits of being a Christian is the act of humility......admitting when oneself is wrong....even if one feels justified.
I know Nigeria is patriarchal....men show no emotions...except anger. Men are in control...never apologizing etc.,
But your Christianity (if you are truly Christian) should transcend culture..
I've had to humble myself right here on NL in the Religion Section.
I hope you can humble yourself...let the pride go.

RighteousI:

Yes I did try to send you a pm some days ago mainly cos I saw your post about tribulation so I wanted to support a fellow christian and this was why I tried sending you a pm. Only for me to detect in your utterances that you could be a false christian.
With the way you are throwing the fact that I sent you a pm and you didn't reply around here as if to suggest that you are a princess that should be sought by men makes me to believe that you have not learnt to respect men. How many times have we heard stories of brutalized wives coming out to say that their now wive beating and adulterous husband was very humble and nice when they were dating? You need to realise that a good man will not chase you much. You claimed that nothing in my profile gave you a reason to reply my pm as if I stand to gain the most if we had discussed via pm. In regards to my post here, I mainly comment on how nigeria is a zoo filled with evil people and at times I try to be sarcastic. But that doesn't mean I'm not a christian so leave my posts aside and face the accusation of falsehood which I have made against you. You didn't reply my pm probably because of the fact that I criticized your friend 'mzlady' of being catholic which made you scared of me since you know that a man that knows that the catholic church is false will probably detect that you are a false christian.
You claimed that your brother, oh sorry! You claimed that I can't man up to a lady. First of all what do you mean by man up? I sent you a pm before I detected that you could be false, you chose not to reply and I then advised people here not to automatically believe that anyone who throws the debate about topics like the tribulation and rapture is a true christian . how does that prove that your brother, oh sorry, that I can't man up to a lady?
You think I value such things like 'maning up to a lady'? Am I a hipop rapper that I will cherish such things like bouncing up to some 'cool chick' and chatting her up? Or are we in high school? Instead we pick out the true christian modest woman from the multitude of false christian women like you cos we are professional christian men.
My advice to people here is that you should watchout for false christians that speak of topics like the rapture in order to deceive and get themselves true christian husbands or wives.

bennyann:


Do you know I just got to know he was the one who was accusing you that I quoted? I never knew he was the one. My bad.

And sis, you have nothing to do with me not replying his pm. I went through his posts but I couldn't get anything to encourage me replying him. How can a Christian insults Nigeria and Nigerians with such passion. And this is one who sees himself as one of the top Christians.

You know yesterday was kind of bad for me because of this 'pm' issues and I'm not encouraged to reply pms anymore. That was why I never wanted my gender known but I'm not a kind of person who desire to have an alternate moniker and I hope I won't get to that point.

I'm now so scared of knowing people outside here. There are different types of human beings with behaviors I've never seen, Christians who think they're still Christians not knowing they've derailed because of their baggages and my God they keep proving me right especially about the 'pride' aspect. I only pray I won't miss true friends because of this few ones but I'm not encouraged at all.

God help me.

bennyann:


First of all I just want to tell you that I only realized now you were the one who accused my friend wrongly.

I realized men who is worthy of respect don't beg for it, they just earn it and they don't scream 'respect' anywhere they find a lady. Please 'Professional Christian man' , learn that. It's a simple lesson

You called me a 419 and a fraud and you still maintained it.

May you be called a 419, a fraud and a false Christian henceforth. People will call you all those names online and offline till you correct your statement. These pronunciations are straight from an innocent, hurt, fragile and blackmailed heart to you. That's your portion henceforth till you change your statement. And may they come true for you if I'm not a 419, a fraud and a true Christian.
The same measure of name callings you've given to me, will be given back to you in multiple folds.

I think I'm done with you.

KingEbukaNaija:


So its more like placebo ? The women believe it tightens their vaginas and it just happens . No medical proof ?

enshy:

Bennyann, you wouldnt do this, would you?
Do you think we believe him? No we dont.
Dont be dragged into a goats fight...You are a sheep!
Move ahead...We are with you and God is with you.
God be with you! Amen!!

bennyann:


My dear, I'm so trying my best to have a good time right now. I've learnt a lot of positive lessons here from the ladies and guys that have commented to motivate me, lessons that have helped to shape my short time negative mindset about an idea and I don't want to trade those lessons for anything. Sighs

My emphasis on love is because without love for someone, I can't have a romantic relationship with such a person. Especially for someone like me that hardly falls in love. And it's important the person loves me cos I don't want to feel sad all through. And you know what men can do once they love their ladies. I want to be a part of that experience.

bennyann:

Do you prefer romance before love? You seem to hammer on that

bennyann:

I've not read much on the book, just the summary. the title scared me so I ran away but when I see the book now I will read it because of you.

bennyann:

I'm on Whatsapp.

bennyann:

And about having it easy, maybe it's a yes because blood doesn't flow in my veins as it does in yours.

bennyann:

The issues I've had is to struggle it out with men physically with my very small stature ooo. I don't know how I'm able to fight off big bodied guys especially when they want to take what's not theirs by force. God's been faithful bro, it could have been a very different story occasionally.

bennyann:

I'm sure I may not find it easy after I've given my heart to someone. But His grace is sufficient.