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I met this lady on facebook who I fell in love with. She was having some emotional problems I helped talk her out of. She is a working class and we both reside in port-harcourt. I am 22 and december will make me 23. She graduated 3 years before me as I just graduated from the university last year. She told me how matured and nice I always sounded that she always drew strength from my words of wisdom and asked me of my age which I foolishly told her without lying or declining to tell her. It was then she found out she was older than me since we haven't met each other. since I have already professed my love for her, she was trying to talk me out of loving her that it won't work because of the age gap she gave me. I am into crypto currency, forex and online trade. since she wouldn't tell me her age I guessed with her physique and other factors that she would be in her late 20s or early 30s. Ever since then our relationship has not been too rosy as before. she has been all about saying my family won't agree and all those stuff like I don't have a job yet and my age just looking for something to hold on to why she won't date me. Funny enough I already told my mum about her and was able to convince her she's the one I wanted to marry and of a truth I meant it to marry her regardless of anything. she rarely picks my calls and never returns them. last 2 weeks we both had a heated argument that made her block me on facebook for over a week. we got back again and this time I decided to take the bold step by asking her out which she accepted and we booked friday been tomoro as the day but for over 3 days now talking to her has been a big problem, I even doubt if she would still show up for the dinner date. when I call she wouldn't pick even in the night and when I ask why she doesnt pick she feigns am calling her during her work hours. I have tried so many times to erase her from my mind but it won't just work. just tonight I have called her for over 6 times but no answer. please my dear brothers and sisters is it a crime to love and moreso someone above my age? How do overcome this pain I feel within? I truly love this lady how do I forget about her before I hurt more deeper than I already am. Please I truly need your advice as I feel so powerless over these

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You Fell In Love




Are You for real. Who does that.?

Always Thread With Caution.

What you need to do. Is

BLOCK THE GIRL
DELETE HER NUMBER.
BLOCK THE GIRL,
DELETE HER PHOTOS,
DELETE FACEBOOK FROM YOUR PHONE.
DELETE ANY PREVIOUS CHAT YOU HAD WITH HER.

START MAKING NEW MEMORIES.

Thank me later.

op pls wake up from the fantasy world you are living in, i go with the girl on this. obviously she is facing reality which you can't see cus your emotions have been Clouded by love.

truth is in the Africa sense, age gap between the girl n the guy matters alot, especially if the girl is way older. you don't have a job yet or a steady income, so tell me how do you intend to start up a family or you think marriage is child's play.

just be good friends with her rather than turning the relationship to a toxic one, not everyone is meant for you, there is always that special person meant for you and in this case is not her.

wake up from your dream world and face reality.

As long as she is not ok with the age issue, move on to prevent your heart from breaking into smaller pieces.

You haven't met her yet but you are in love and planning to marry her already ? You obviously still have a lot of growing up to do .

Bro is it not obvious to you that you're forcing a relationship into existence? Which Is absolutely wrong

Say no to one sided relationships!

Delete everything And her brother.

All what you need now is to erase her feelings from your heart bcz I can guess that she had already erased yours


Don't be deceived my guy she can't continue with you anymore , just try to understand what is going on


But afterall age it's not matter in love

Eyaa.. Young g like you dat is suppose to be thinking and planning his future, u are der falling in love.. No go find work and be a man

I found a family in you guys... thanks alot for the advice and rebuke. I know you all mean me well. God bless you all for me. please bring it coming.... your instructions are well noted

22 is too young hun... chalk this down to experience and move on. The heartache and pain is a natural process and the healthy thing is to allow yourself to feel it but if you can't be strong enough to ride the pain until it subsides (it will ) then start a rebound relationship just to keep you busy.

op your wife wrote jamb yesterday

Just chill you guys are meeting soonest

It's good to dream big but at 22, I'll suggest you focus on improving your career for now.

You are too young for a very serious relationship but can keep a girlfriend so as to get acquainted with this crafty being called WOMAN. Trust me, if you don't study them as book now as a young man, you will open a similar thread here at 42.

@op.... in straight terms, this is a major red flag. stop the infatuation, because she does not love you. thanks

I assure you that if you finally meet that woman, you will regret the day ever setting your eyes on her...

They way some guys are losing their Balls now all in the name of Love (emotion/infatuation) is alarming. Try and get a Job bro and make friends with them... Because that girl is already in her Prime...

J3RK:
how is your life going?? Have you gotten a life yet??

Sorry bro, I have always had a life. Thanks!

ImaIma1:
As long as she is not ok with the age issue, move on to prevent your heart from breaking into smaller pieces.

Lmao @smaller pieces.