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cold:
In lay-mans term what the above jargons simply mean is that.
A hole once drilled, drilled properly even when closed up can always be found and can be drilled forever'
if u have been involved with a girl for a period of time and did a good job in and out of the bedroom (mostly in..), the belief is that u can always go to the girl at any given time and sleep with her again no matter what situation arises (breakups, different lover, etc[/b]..

Nickymezor:
Hmmm, re u frm Delta?

omooba969:
Joker!

yvelchstores:
there is no excuse for a married woman to cheat.

Lancelott:
How many times did your dad cheat?

repogirl:
this is not true and its not a good mindset to have.

Some people will never cheat their spouse. Never, they just have a strong sense of wrong and right and they are contented and committed to making what they have work. They enter marriage with the right values and the mindset of sticking to their spouse only.

So, anyone who cheats, man or woman, cheats because they want to and they didn't enter the marriage with the right values in mind. Anyone can get tempted, especially when you meet some very charming modafkers but a good person remembers their family and all that would be destroyed if they give into temptation.

Many will fall but there are some who value their vows and are committed to making their marriage work. Those types will never cheat, man or woman.

Also its a good thing to distance oneself from temptation. Thats the best way to not fall into it.

omooba969:
Like the one below.

PaperLace:
* Women are polygamous.
* Some men start tying wrapper and wearing oversize boxers.
* Their husbands don't service them well. Some men do wuruwuru sex. No pre-intimacy...etc.
* They are wicked and selfish.
* Young boys don't allow them rest.
* Lots of Nigerian men develop potbelly after sometime. She becomes less attracted to him. Women are visual beings too.
* Lots of Nigerian men neglect their wives. Look around you, too many absentee husbands. They prefer to go and sit at bar.
* Temptation.
Etc

In all, it's 85% the fault of the man...Nigerian men should take care of their wives well, so that side-bobos won't snatch her.


Do you know what's double standard at all?

The double standard here, is you thinking a woman's cheating doesn't have justification like the man's own. They're both human, capable of falling to temptation (aka) adultery.

tintingz:
Both men and women are polygamous.

The same way men cheats around is the same women cheats.

dsmooth1:
1.some of them marry out of self pity witout truly luving the guy
2.some find it very hard to forget thier ex
3.some marry cos of pressure here and there witout actually waiting for what they want
4.getting pregnant for the wrong guy and family insist that she must marry the guy
5.when the sex drive is very high and the guy very low or he is too busy
6.any lady that luv money too much will.cheat except she marries a very rich man

basic23111:
its still understandable when man cheat but for woman is total nonsense and unacceptable.....

kimbra:
Women are not polygamous. We should learn how to speak for ourselves. Because few silly ones cheat on their husband doesn't mean all cheat.

If a man is jobless they'd nag but few weeks or a month out of town isn't a reason for any woman to cheat on her husband. He's doing the both of you a favour by pulling the necessary resources needed to run a home, and such men shouldn't be repaid with cheating.

I can never cheat on whoever I marry, I rather do you the favour of not marring you.

If he has a potbelly, you could help him do stuffs to deflate it. That's if there's love in the first place.

Billyonaire:
Cheating will always continue until Man has learnt to master life before going into union of souls. Tribalism is a reflection of this secret. Every Soul has a source star system. As it is in Heaven so it is on Earth. If you are married to your town's girl, there is a great probability that she will love you and will not mess up because she considers the husband as her own root too. Dont let me wrong, this is just an illustration.

Soul mates are souls from same star system in the Cosmos. Before you get married, one is supposed to find out where the soul of his/her partner originate from, then almost always, you can work out the ego aspect of humans here which is a result of environment and experiential factors. This is not difficult to do. But any other love can only need a lot of efforts to be grow, but for soul mates. They already know each other on a soul level even though the ego is so naive. Soul mates connect like magnets and they fucck like rats and settle every fight with kiss and sex. Damn!

Guess what ? If you are married to woman or man who isnt your soul mate. Do a lot to keep her on your bed, yes do a lot. The moment she or meets a soul mate, not even your material possession will keep her from developing great feelings for a soul mate even when he or she has nothing else to offer except the smile and laughter and ofcourse a great moment. They wont care about your feelings when that time comes.

This is my input. Do not believe me.

robosky02:
top reasons why women cheat: if men can do the opposite the menace can be at least reduced


Reason 1. Lack of attention and intimacy:

How long can you go without receiving love and attention before you look somewhere else? Some can go for only days or weeks, and others can go for years. However, in general, women need and desire intimacy, physical touch, and mental and emotional attention.

If you are not receiving this from your husband or boyfriend, it will only be a matter of time and you may seek it from another i.e. a caring guy friend, the attentive guy who feeds your emotional needs at your workplace, or the hot trainer at the gym. Women deprived of attention, compliments, and compassion; usually, have emotional affairs. That doesn't mean it won't lead to sex, but initially, they crave the attention and compassion that has been absent from their relationship.

Reason 2. Revenge:

Being cheated on is a very difficult act to forgive. For those of you who have been cheated on, you know how awful it feels. You feel deceived, hurt, angry, sad, numb and even violated. It also affects your self-esteem. At the moment, you find out your man cheated, your whole body begins to shake, you begin to sweat, your stomach drops, and you feel nauseated.

Clearly, it negatively affects your relationship, your mood, behavior, and your ability to trust the cheater ever again. When you have been cheated on, some of you may want to get revenge by making them feel the way you felt. This can lead you, to do the cheating next. The biggest truth is that cheating never solves a relationship problem. Communication, assertiveness and increasing passion and romance in your relationship are a much better solution.

Reason 3. Bad sex:

Women need to feel desired and experience REAL orgasms during sex. If women are getting bad sex, not enough sex, non-emotional sex, or "wham-bam-thank-you-mam" sex, you may eventually lose interest in the relationship and look elsewhere for GOOD sex! This creates a temptation to seek sexual or emotional satisfaction elsewhere. In my opinion, it's best to communicate your needs to your man with the hopes that he will step it up a notch. You can do this on your own or with the help of a sex therapist.

Reason 4. Weight loss/plastic surgery:

Male attention increases quickly after a boob job, a butt implant or weight loss, and so does your self-confidence. With all this male attention, your temptation to cheat rises, and it takes more self-control to resist some of those male offers. Once you realize other guys want you, your desire to act on it may have you feeling euphoric. However, be careful, act wisely and make your pros and cons list.

Reason 5. Financial independence:

When you feel financially dependent on your husband or boyfriend, it's more difficult to speak up in arguments or leave the relationship. The fear of being alone and financially unstable keeps you in a one-down position. Now that women make their own money, enjoy working, and are good at it, the need to stay in an unhappy relationship is not necessary. That feeling of power and independence can be like seeing the red carpet laid out for you; all the way to those other fish in the sea.

Reason 6. Low self-esteem:

When you feel insecure about yourself, you have a need to seek validation from others. This can be in the form of sexual, emotional, or intellectual attention. When you don't love or value yourself, you may project that onto the person you are in a relationship with, and believe they don't love or value you. Even if your husband or boyfriend loves you greatly, you still may cheat because you find it hard to accept their unconditional love. I suggest reading one of the many self-help books out there on building your self-esteem, or get some counseling to help improve self-confidence.

Reason 7. Feeling under-appreciated:

When you are in a relationship, you like to please your man. Cooking a romantic dinner, buying sexy lingerie, and listening with your heart, are just a few ways you may show your love and appreciation. So what happens when you don't hear "thank you, please or I love you.” Holidays and birthdays come and you don't receive anything meaningful, nothing at all, not even a verbal acknowledgment. We all have thresholds, and once yours is reached, you may decide to act on a "thank you, please, or I love you" coming from another direction. Let your man know he may lose you if he continues to take you for granted.

Reason 8. Bored:

He doesn't spray on that good smelling cologne anymore, his clothing is wrinkled, stained or way out-of- date. When he comes home from work (assuming he has a job), it's the same old thing; "what's for dinner"? When the weekend comes, he says he's tired and just wants to relax at home, or go out to the same sports bar you go every weekend.

The routine is the same over and over again. You are no longer on the same page. You barely have anything in common. You are feeling emotionally distant from him. You find yourself looking at other prospects and fantasize about being with someone else. You begin to feel excited (something you haven't felt in "forever" just thinking about it.

There are many ways to spice up an old, tired relationship. Boredom is something that can be resolved with a little, or sometimes a moderate amount of effort. It requires both of you introducing new ideas and behaviors, and some spontaneity. Be sure of what you want.

kimbra:
Women are not polygamous. We should learn how to speak for ourselves. Because few silly ones cheat on their husband doesn't mean all cheat.

If a man is jobless they'd nag but few weeks or a month out of town isn't a reason for any woman to cheat on her husband. He's doing the both of you a favour by pulling the necessary resources needed to run a home, and such men shouldn't be repaid with cheating.

I can never cheat on whoever I marry, I rather do you the favour of not marring you.

If he has a potbelly, you could help him do stuffs to deflate it. That's if there's love in the first place.

emusmithy:
Most times, it's just old flames.

I had a girl who couldn't talk for 5 mins without mentioning her ex.

I picked race and ran away.
That type is Emotionally tied down.

She would cheat tomorrow.