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This is a serious matter to me. I don't even know what to do right now. I met this guy some months back through my elder sister, he looked a cool guy so i decided to give him a chance. Few months later, he started talking marriage on a serious note. I asked he slow things down as i don't even know much about him...things were all sweet and i decided to visit with him. We spent the weekend and i returned to base. By feb, he popped the question and i said yes. Then i noticed something unpleasantly weird in his behaviour. He started talking more about sex, party, orgy, his cravings, his fantasies etc. Boy! Was i scared? Ofcourse i was. I shunned him and made it clear that i can't partake in any of that. As a matter of fact i told him to pause paying of dowry as we already fixed a date then. He apologised and said he was just testing me. Testing me? As per soup on fire or what? Lol. Well he begged and begged and begged. I decided to forgive him.

Dowry was paid and I am now a married woman. Now my problem just grew wings Mandy. My supposedly husband want me to sleep with girls in his presence. Said he wants to sleep with my bestie. He wants to turn me to a lesbian. He wants me to have orgy with him. He sent me pictures of his friend's cassava and told me how he's friend is a stallion in bed and will make me scream. Mandy? He's always on pornhub watching lesbian videos. And will look me in the eyes and say...baby i'll like you to find a girl that'll grind you like this. My "husband" told me he'll like us to travel to a nearby state, go to their campus, i pick any guy i want while he'll pick any girl of his choice and we go to the hotel room and have fun. My "husband" is always sending me sex videos of his friends sleeping with different girls. Mandy? I don't even know what i'm typing o. I can't even make a proper sentence as my hands are shaking as am typing this.

Long story short, two weeks ago, we were in the bedroom. He stood up and went to the living room and started chatting me up on WhatsApp. My "husband" told me he'll like us to have orgy with his neighbour, his neighbour's friend and a call girl. He want his neighbour to sleep with me in his presence and in our apartment. He'll be sleeping with the girl while his neighbour and the other guy will sleep with me. Told me that i'll enjoy it. I don't know how to write all these things Mandy. But will attach our chat here. I am weak. I asked him if he was joking he said no. I tried to play along in the chat to know whether he was joking but he wasn't. Did i mention he told me to open the door for the guys when they knock. Did i also mention he told me to wear only pantie while opening the door? Did i also mention we stayed up all night waiting for the guys to come in? Around 1am, he decided to go out and pick a random girl for a party since the guys said they'll come in around 3am. Jesus Christ. Is this marriage? I was shocked to my bones. I couldn't cry, i couldn't move. To think that our trad/white is in august. Thank goodness the guys couldn't make it back. He was soooo angry and unsettled that night. He left in the morning for work and i made him food and quietly took my bag and left. He has been apologising since then. Said he was just testing me.

The annoying part of this whole drama is he'll always apologise. And repeat exactly the same thing. This is not the first, second, or third time. I'm thinking of calling off the trad/white. But i'm scared. My dad will not find it funny. He'll want me to work on my marriage. It's barely two months old. I've not been able to share this with them. I don't know what to do. Please men in this platform, is there a possibility he might change? Is there any woman who's going through same traumatic experience? I need advice. I don't want to make a life time mistake. Please help a sister. I've told him let's see a therapist. He said he's not sick. I've prayed, i've fasted. I don't know what else to do. Please help me. Please..

*sorry I could not share the whole discussion. Just this.the story is self explanatory.

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John 19:30

martyns303:
John 19:30

Bros why na

*yawns loudly n looks at the post again...n starts laughing in murderfvcka*

This ya story sounds abiit akward i mean are you for real. But if this is true then congratulation you just married a demon.

Someone please, tell me more of this wonderful work of fiction.

Wishing u a merry nd prosperous married life.

My friend's friend was in a marriage like that. In her case, she succumbed to her husband's crazy requests of threesomes especially with ladies that the husband brought.
After some years she decided to leave the marriage. She couldn't tell the family her reason for leaving because she condoned and allowed the nonsense at first. She ended up citing domestic violence as the reason.
If this post is real, i will advise the poster not to proceed with the wedding. These are signs

He is not turning you into a lesbian, no one turns anyone gay. If men did not get any grief about watching any pornographic videos they would not have to hide the fact that they do. He has unconventional tastes regarding sex. is he abnormal? Not at all. You both have different views on sex. He is trying to turn you into something you are not. He is being asked to be someone's he is not. This is not a good combination. If you had misgivings about him and his whole personas it was best to have not got married instead your concern was what everyone would say. If things don't feel right from the start it's not going to get better later.

I can't believe you are still considering marrying this guy till you are even looking for advice...I have non to give o before you'll blame nairalanders for the outcome tomorrow

#Biafra, #FreeBiafra, #Lib4Biafra.

U husband is just a sex addict.. Not really an addict.. but I will say he may not have had enough of sex b4 seeing u and also d constant porn he watch gives him this crazy imaginations about sex and believe me he wants to act wot he has been watching.. he is not even seeing u as a wife but a typical sex partner.. and don't be surprise he might even video u and him having sex and share with his fwds..
The truth is that he needs deliverance and u will be d one to lead him to that. he can still change. don't accept to please him by doing all dos things but if he will be d one that will hit u or forcefully make u to accept his intentions plss end the marriage but if he is d type dat does not beat a lady or u find out he can't beat u den be hopeful he will change with serious prayers.

#my opinion

This one weak me

I don't understand how women can let men do these kind of stuff to them. Independent or nah? Pack your belongings and leave him

But where is lalasticlala and Mynd44 sef.

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As open minded and liberal as I am, I would certainly not be comfortable allowing my wife/girl friend to have sex with another man. But I could ok the lesbian sex

Nonsense. You ignored the red flags because you wanted to get married and now you're crying wolf? Wetin you want make we do now? Divorce him for you?

I don't think there's anything wrong with either of them,they just aren't sexually compatible. She should leave and stop dramatising the whole issue. There-s nothing terrible about the man's sexual preference,it actually sounds like fun.
I know couples who sleep with other people and love it. Yes,I am a Feminist and I believe in owning your sexuality.
Tell him you can't do that and leave,the lady who loves to be shared will come his way

Hannysmilez:
I don't think there's anything wrong with either of them,they just aren't sexually compatible. She should leave and stop dramatising the whole issue. There-s nothing terrible about the man's sexual preference,it actually sounds like fun.
I know couples who sleep with other people and love it. Yes,I am a Feminist and I believe in owning your sexuality.
Tell him you can't do that and leave,the lady who loves to be shared will come his way

Mama the mama.."IT SOUNDS LIKE FUN"....u mean u don't mind this kinda parole?? ..i envy ur boyfriend die....

This one reminds me of Dr. Aiyelari handout

Hannysmilez:
I don't think there's anything wrong with either of them,they just aren't sexually compatible. She should leave and stop dramatising the whole issue. There-s nothing terrible about the man's sexual preference,it actually sounds like fun.
I know couples who sleep with other people and love it. Yes,I am a Feminist and I believe in owning your sexuality.
Tell him you can't do that and leave,the lady who loves to be shared will come his way

Nawaooo.

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ImaIma1:
My friend's friend was in a marriage like that. In her case, she succumbed to her husband's crazy requests of threesomes especially with ladies that the husband brought.
After some years she decided to leave the marriage. She couldn't tell the family her reason for leaving because she condoned and allowed the nonsense at first. She ended up citing domestic violence as the reason.
If this post is real, i will advise the poster not to proceed with the wedding. These are signs

my fine fine lady, hope you didn't join in the groove though?

subtlemee:
I can't believe you are still considering marrying this guy till you are even looking for advice...I have non to give o before you'll blame nairalanders for the outcome tomorrow

my iyawo with the magic smile, just say your mind and leave the rest, it is just a case of a guy that is looking for unbridled nacking!!

he told you what he wanted and you left. why did you return? women know the truth but still lie to themselves. RUN WHILE YOU STILL CAN.