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Dear My Ladies, Stop Giving The Honey Up for Free!

Even though the media teaches women that they need to be skinny, desperate and aggressive to get a guy- but as mature women of God, we have to work hard to reject those views and remember who we are. Our body is the temple of the Lord. Our “Honey” stands for our bodies but it can also stand for our time, money, heart, affection, hopes/dreams etc.
When we give our honey up too fast (before marriage), we are no longer pleasing God and the men no longer get the thrill of the chase.

If a man wants something bad enough, he will work hard to obtain it, no matter how long he has to wait. You don’t have to worry about needing to give him you're all in the beginning to keep him. I believe the opposite is true. Most times when we as women give in and open our legs, hearts and dreams to men too fast, they quickly leave as fast as they came. The thrill of the chase is over, we’ve made it too easy and their excitement or respect for us has diminished.

If you’re not married, PLEASE don’t give your man money! Your boyfriend could be your potential husband, provider and leader of your home. How can he prepare to be those things for you if you're always giving him money and supporting him? Let the man be the man. You all can help each other out but don’t carry him, be wise enough to recognise a gold digger!

If your man isn’t your husband, then: sex, being available to him 24/7, cooking and doing laundry on a daily basis and sharing bills or bank accounts is OFF LIMITS!! Stop giving the honey up for free!! If you don’t have a wedding ring and official marriage papers, stop playing a housewife and get your life back.

These things should be reserved for married folks only. Marriage is forever, it is a life long commitment. Marriage is about serving, giving, loving and so much more. If we aren’t married yet and I’m giving you everything I have, what is your motivation to marry me? What do we have to look forward to?

Single ladies giving up their “honey” is by wearing really tight, short and low cut clothes. It’s a blessing to have a good body and we all know what assets we have that we are really proud of BUT please be classy and leave room for the imagination!

If he gets to see EVERYTHING your working with before the relationship is even established, let alone before you get married, he may not want to purchase your honey because he’s seen and have it all and ready to move on to the next sexy bee. I know in the summer, ladies like to wear cute outfits but try not to wear a free honey sign on your back.

Let them wonder, let them work for it, if they want it, let them put a ring on it! Do not give up your honey for free!


Source: http://www.rapportnaija.com/2016/04/stop-giving-up-honey-for-free-ladies.html

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SirMichael1:

y u dey vex

Work hard ke... Since when did sex become a means of survival... Na people like you wey dem suppose whip for golgotha

With what i've seen recently, most ladies needs the sex morethan guys ooh. that's why they are advertising nudity all in the name of fashion.

NONSENSE!!!
If a babe feels she is ready, let her give whatever she possess to her man, and vice versa... Let dating be the blueprint of what marriage life would be (give it all) and certainly not blackmail men by making marriage some type of reward.

dingbang:
Work hard ke... Since when did sex become a means of survival... Na people like you wey dem suppose whip for golgotha

I wonder, ah no know when pussy don turn to sometin wey person go dey look forward to, wen no be say i dey search for greener pasture.

If this was 1822 yes that would apply. You sleep with a guy on the first meeting you end marrying that guy. You wait years and years nothing but mofos come your way. How is that explained by your post? There is no set hard and fast rule here. Be your own person and stop being/acting desperate that is what gets your where you want to be. Standing on your own two feet and being a woman who is open minded and recognises the potential in the man she is with. Oh and read a book and watch the news no man one wants a dumb woman to be the mother of his children. You belong to a certain era not this one.