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Need Advice Before Entering Marriage by oloyeagbaakin(m): 9:30pm On Jun 01, 2017
There is this girl i love and she also loves me but she is without a formal education for now she just have her o level result while am currently doing MSc program. My Mum has advised me to marry someone who is educated and have a good job at hand. And have also tried to break the heart of this girl which am not comfortable with had to reconcile with her and beg her now she is more in love with me than before but Mum advise is different she must not know am dating that kind of girl. What is your advise over there brothers and sisters?
Re: Need Advice Before Entering Marriage by Kondomatic(m): 9:39pm On Jun 01, 2017
You're not yet ready for marriage

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Re: Need Advice Before Entering Marriage by makydebbie(f): 9:46pm On Jun 01, 2017
You that can boast of MSc program, your write up is nothing to write home about. Una fit each other jare.

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Re: Need Advice Before Entering Marriage by Nobody: 9:54pm On Jun 01, 2017
makydebbie:
You that can boast of MSc program, your write up is nothing to write home about. Una fit each other jare.

Asin my sister. Even when I was school cert holder back in 2006. I could write better that this cheesy cheesy cheesy
Re: Need Advice Before Entering Marriage by chidozy15(m): 10:15pm On Jun 01, 2017
makydebbie:
You that can boast of MSc program, your write up is nothing to write home about. Una fit each other jare.


Must you troll? If you didn't have anything meaningful to contribute couldn't you have just shut the F up and slid away? Someone is asking for matured advice and this is all you could add, smh. At least Buhari isn't responsible for this one. Tell me what you gained now.

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Re: Need Advice Before Entering Marriage by smartanthony5: 10:57pm On Jun 01, 2017
makydebbie:
You that can boast of MSc program, your write up is nothing to write home about. Una fit each other jare.
nairaland women dey bad!
Re: Need Advice Before Entering Marriage by babythug(f): 11:28pm On Jun 01, 2017
Marriage can be quite a challenge! Different backgrounds and levels of exposure could make it more inundating! Even the most basic of things could cause conflict when the levels of reasoning aren't at par!

As such I can understand your mum's inhibitions as to the whole thing!

You ask yourself is the educational imbalance sch a big deal to YOU?

Would you mind terribly if she's unable to contribute intellectually to you, the children and in public gatherings?

Is she willing to upgrade academically? Are you able to upgrade her academically?

Why exactly do you want to Marry her? Do you feel convinced?

I feel with these few points of mine I should have been able to stir your thought patterns in the right direction as to making your decisions on the subject. good luck
Re: Need Advice Before Entering Marriage by baby124: 1:40am On Jun 02, 2017
In this day and age? If she doesn't have a skill that can bring in money, find someone else. Let her go and use some time to work on herself so she can be productive. Your mum is right, don't go and marry housewife o. Neither is it your job to educate anyone. You can educate her and her eye will open in uni. Then you come on NL threatening fire and brimstone. Find a girl that is at least 25 and has a job or working skill.

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Re: Need Advice Before Entering Marriage by Mimzyy(f): 5:12am On Jun 02, 2017
You didn't state if she's got a business and if she has plans to further her education, it makes a really big difference if your answer is yes to the two questions above.
Your mum will not be there for you when you marry that slay Queen with a doctorate degree and,in the end, your compatibility with her is zero. The richest woman in Africa didn't even attend a uni.

Follow your heart but take your brain with you.

#Mytwocents.

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Re: Need Advice Before Entering Marriage by Nobody: 6:06am On Jun 02, 2017
oloyeagbaakin:
There is this girl i love and she also loves me but she is without a formal education for now she just have her o level result while am currently doing MSc program. My Mum has advised me to marry someone who is educated and have a good job at hand. And have also tried to break the heart of this girl which am not comfortable with had to reconcile with her and beg her now she is more in love with me than before but Mum advise is different she must not know am dating that kind of girl. What is your advise over there brothers and sisters?

Its one thing to be educated and another to just not have ever graduated meaning she can speak and write properly is she into business that's all that matters.
Re: Need Advice Before Entering Marriage by Dyt(f): 6:14am On Jun 02, 2017
She's not educated don't mean she can't express herself or something

I have a cousin with just OND
But you will doubt she doesn't have phd
Reads and writes excellently
Speaks phonetic like she lived all her life abroad
She's everything in all

That aside
We all have what we look out for in relationships
She can't have all
You know what will work for you
If she doesn't fit in
Pls let her go
Bikonu

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Re: Need Advice Before Entering Marriage by skylowlow: 7:35am On Jun 02, 2017
Mimzyy:
You didn't state if she's got a business and if she has plans to further her education, it makes a really big difference if your answer is yes to the two questions above.
Your mum will not be there for you when you marry that slay Queen with a doctorate degree and,in the end, your compatibility with her is zero. The richest woman in Africa didn't even attend a uni.

Follow your heart but take your brain with you.

#Mytwocents.


Re: Need Advice Before Entering Marriage by makydebbie(f): 8:53am On Jun 02, 2017
cruchenuti:


Asin my sister. Even when I was school cert holder back in 2006. I could write better that this cheesy cheesy cheesy
LOL, the thing just weak me.
Re: Need Advice Before Entering Marriage by makydebbie(f): 8:55am On Jun 02, 2017
chidozy15:



Must you troll? If you didn't have anything meaningful to contribute couldn't you have just shut the F up and slid away? Someone is asking for matured advice and this is all you could add, smh. At least Buhari isn't responsible for this one. Tell me what you gained now.
I hope you've given op a mature advice? If not, just slid away.
Re: Need Advice Before Entering Marriage by TonyeBarcanista(m): 9:41am On Jun 02, 2017
She is not educated but she holds SSCE...?

OP, I think you are the uneducated one here. You simply can't define "who is educated and who isn't" despite the fact that you are pursuing a second degree. This is a big indictment on our education system and your teachers.

I will help you anyway..

Senior School Certificate is equivalent to American High School Certificate, and it is by any standard a level of educational attainment that is above the highest form of Basic Education (JSS). It also prepares one for tertiary education or employment.

One who holds SSCE is not only certified to be educated but is deemed to have gone above the attainment of Basic education. Referring to such person as an illiterate/uneducated is the highest form of intellectual incapacitation. This is one reason our laws specify that a public officeholder aspiring for ANY office, including the Presidency, should be educated to at least this level of education.

Tertiary educational attainment is not a statement of literacy. It is a statement that one is equipped with necessary skill for a specific field/profession. It include but not limited to; Law for the legal professionals, medicine for the physicians, Accountancy for the Accountants etc.

My brother, I am sure if your sister is hooked with Seun Osewa, the founder of NL, your family will term him "uneducated" and frown at the marriage prospect simply because he holds no degree.

It is a shame that a youngman who claims to be a student of Postgraduate school has this kind of reasoning.


Let me also chip in that Education could also be attained informally... Go Figure!!!

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Re: Need Advice Before Entering Marriage by Nobody: 9:50am On Jun 02, 2017
In my opinion,you shouldn't even be thinking or talking about marriage as it is because obviously you have an Msc but not a mind of your own.
Re: Need Advice Before Entering Marriage by austinereds(m): 9:54am On Jun 02, 2017
TonyeBarcanista:
She is not educated but she holds SSCE...?

OP, I think you are the uneducated one here. You simply can't define "who is educated and who isn't" despite the fact that you are pursuing a second degree. This is a big indictment on our education system and your teachers.

I will help you anyway..

Senior School Certificate is equivalent to American High School Certificate, and it is by any standard a level of educational attainment that is above the highest form of Basic Education (JSS). It also prepares one for tertiary education or employment.

One who holds SSCE is not only certified to be educated but is deemed to have gone above the attainment of Basic education. Referring to such person as an illiterate/uneducated is the highest form of intellectual incapacitation. This is one reason our laws specify that a public officeholder aspiring for ANY office, including the Presidency, should be educated to at least this level of education.

Tertiary educational attainment is not a statement of literacy. It is a statement that one is equipped with necessary skill for a specific field/profession. It include but not limited to; Law for the legal professionals, medicine for the physicians, Accountancy for the Accountants etc.

My brother, I am sure if your sister is hooked with Seun Osewa, the founder of NL, your family will term him "uneducated" and frown at the marriage prospect simply because he holds no degree.

It is a shame that a youngman who claims to be a student of Postgraduate school has this kind of reasoning.


Let me also chip in that Education could also be attained informally... Go Figure!!!


dude you nailed it. Am sure OP will be reconsidering. I still can't believe he's trying to please mummy.
Re: Need Advice Before Entering Marriage by TonyeBarcanista(m): 10:15am On Jun 02, 2017
austinereds:


dude you nailed it. Am sure OP will be reconsidering. I still can't believe he's trying to please mummy.
Don't blame OP, blame the mentality of the average Nigerian.

A Nigeria man with Bsc will give you 10 million reasons why HND and OND is inferior, and why SSCE meet up.

The man with HND will strive to get BSC at all cost. Not because he really want it but because he also want to parade Bsc degree.

To the medical doctor, the Pharmacist and nurse are inferior...

To the Pharmacist, the nurse is yet to meet up to standard...

To the Engineers, those with even a degree in Psychology and Marketing took the cheap way out...

Na so the cycle continue...

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Re: Need Advice Before Entering Marriage by bukatyne(f): 10:32am On Jun 02, 2017
Kondomatic:
You're not yet ready for marriage

I agree
Re: Need Advice Before Entering Marriage by austinereds(m): 2:11pm On Jun 02, 2017
TonyeBarcanista:

Don't blame OP, blame the mentality of the average Nigerian.

A Nigeria man with Bsc will give you 10 million reasons why HND and OND is inferior, and why SSCE meet up.

The man with HND will strive to get BSC at all cost. Not because he really want it but because he also want to parade Bsc degree.

To the medical doctor, the Pharmacist and nurse are inferior...

To the Pharmacist, the nurse is yet to meet up to standard...

To the Engineers, those with even a degree in Psychology and Marketing took the cheap way out...

Na so the cycle continue...

well said. that mentality needs to fade fast if we want to develop Nigeria.
Re: Need Advice Before Entering Marriage by bigcp(m): 4:23pm On Jun 02, 2017
makydebbie:
You that can boast of MSc program, your write up is nothing to write home about. Una fit each other jare.
my sister pls be easy on him naaaw, what did he do 2 u to deserve this hrt brkn words...may be he made few mistakes while composing the write up...but that ain't enough reason 2 back lash him..common dear...
Re: Need Advice Before Entering Marriage by Dlionsheart: 4:39pm On Jun 02, 2017
Kondomatic:
You're not yet ready for marriage


SIMPLE!!!

I TOTALLY CONCUR
Re: Need Advice Before Entering Marriage by jmoore(m): 5:11pm On Jun 02, 2017
The lady has her O'level result, and you said she doesn't have any formal education.

And you call yourself a graduate? Bros, go back to school biko. undecided

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Re: Need Advice Before Entering Marriage by Nobody: 5:58pm On Jun 02, 2017
oloyeagbaakin:
There is this girl i love and she also loves me but she is without a formal education for now she just have her o level result while am currently doing MSc program. My Mum has advised me to marry someone who is educated and have a good job at hand. And have also tried to break the heart of this girl which am not comfortable with had to reconcile with her and beg her now she is more in love with me than before but Mum advise is different she must not know am dating that kind of girl. What is your advise over there brothers and sisters?
Your MUM has good plans for you.
She has achieved her milestones..
She doesn't want you to drag the family's name in the mud.
Your Mum will not always be there forever but she wants to make sure you are positioned.
FORGET, the love you have for this LADY..,u need a pillar u can like, appreciate and rely on.
BY the WAY, with your Level of education you have achieved so far, your mum shouldn't be advising you to settle for something that has QUALITY.....your common sense should tell you, you need a SKYSCRAPER..

Beware, things are hard now and will get harder..
Go for ladies made of stuffs, Ladies with JOBS, sense and humility.

QUESTION OF the DAY::;
have you ever seen a LADY'S HEART and Blood Vessels destroyed or Broken into pieces because of failed relationship...??
Such lady should be resuscitated in the mortuary...
Re: Need Advice Before Entering Marriage by TonyeBarcanista(m): 6:46pm On Jun 02, 2017
EVILFOREST:

Your MUM has good plans for you.
She has achieved her milestones..
She doesn't want you to drag the family's name in the mud.
Your Mum will not always be there forever but she wants to make sure you are positioned.
FORGET, the love you have for this LADY..,u need a pillar u can like, appreciate and rely on.
BY the WAY, with your Level of education you have achieved so far, your mum shouldn't be advising you to settle for something that has QUALITY.....your common sense should tell you, you need a SKYSCRAPER..

Beware, things are hard now and will get harder..
Go for ladies made of stuffs, Ladies with JOBS, sense and humility.

QUESTION OF the DAY::;
have you ever seen a LADY'S HEART and Blood Vessels destroyed or Broken into pieces because of failed relationship...??
Such lady should be resuscitated in the mortuary...
Your point is??

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Re: Need Advice Before Entering Marriage by blessedqueen(f): 6:58pm On Jun 02, 2017
TonyeBarcanista:
Your point is??

I think he is being sacarstic or he is trying to tell d op to dump d girl and follow a working class chick. Just my thoughts though
Re: Need Advice Before Entering Marriage by blessedqueen(f): 6:59pm On Jun 02, 2017
TonyeBarcanista:
She is not educated but she holds SSCE...?

OP, I think you are the uneducated one here. You simply can't define "who is educated and who isn't" despite the fact that you are pursuing a second degree. This is a big indictment on our education system and your teachers.

I will help you anyway..

Senior School Certificate is equivalent to American High School Certificate, and it is by any standard a level of educational attainment that is above the highest form of Basic Education (JSS). It also prepares one for tertiary education or employment.

One who holds SSCE is not only certified to be educated but is deemed to have gone above the attainment of Basic education. Referring to such person as an illiterate/uneducated is the highest form of intellectual incapacitation. This is one reason our laws specify that a public officeholder aspiring for ANY office, including the Presidency, should be educated to at least this level of education.

Tertiary educational attainment is not a statement of literacy. It is a statement that one is equipped with necessary skill for a specific field/profession. It include but not limited to; Law for the legal professionals, medicine for the physicians, Accountancy for the Accountants etc.

My brother, I am sure if your sister is hooked with Seun Osewa, the founder of NL, your family will term him "uneducated" and frown at the marriage prospect simply because he holds no degree.

It is a shame that a youngman who claims to be a student of Postgraduate school has this kind of reasoning.


Let me also chip in that Education could also be attained informally... Go Figure!!!


I really like your comment, I think dis shud enlighten d dude.
Re: Need Advice Before Entering Marriage by luminouz(m): 7:00pm On Jun 02, 2017
makydebbie:
You that can boast of MSc program, your write up is nothing to write home about. Una fit each other jare.
So.someone cannot abbreviate in peace again?
Re: Need Advice Before Entering Marriage by luminouz(m): 7:01pm On Jun 02, 2017
jmoore:
The lady has her O'level result, and you said she doesn't have any formal education.

And you call yourself a graduate? Bros, go back to school biko. undecided
Do I smell jealousy
Re: Need Advice Before Entering Marriage by jmoore(m): 7:30pm On Jun 02, 2017
luminouz:

Do I smell jealousy
Jealous of what? His ignorance?

smh

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