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It will always be a lie from the pit of wherever you get it from when you think you can get a perfect woman or a complete man.

Like i once said that don't look for Mr. Right, drag the Mr. Wrong to right, so also you shouldn't expect a woman that has all the attributes of a queen as the crown queens don't even have the completeness of a queen.

There is even limit to what you can correct in your partner as change is a personal decision when it comes to relationship.

And at times, it depends on how emotionally strong you are when you can say and be firm to say if your partner doesn't do what you want from them then you are no more interested, this will only work when you have an emotionally weak partner who thinks he or she cannot cope when you say you are off which you hardly get this days as everyone want to make their point count.

But most times your partner decides willingly to do what you want because of the feelings and not by being compelled
You cannot be perfect and neither can he be complete, there will always be a gallop somewhere.

The only fact is that we all can tolerate different things as tolerance is the key to successful relationship or marriage, this is the reason why there is a man for every woman and vice versa no matter how bad or good you might think you are.

With the spirit of tolerance in collaboration with the affection there is no limit to what you can accept from your spouse.

When you have it at the back of your mind that your lover is also a human who is bound to make mistakes, who is not expected to be complete as he or she isn't Jesus, there is no way you will be disappointed by their errors.

You cannot get a perfect partner, there will be something that makes him/her look odd at times which the world might not know about, they don't even need to know as we are the coverer of each other's secrets in a marriage and not just relationship.

Before you start looking for a perfect partner, you need to ask yourself if you are perfect, if not, then you need to really be beaten.

Most times we even think we are perfect but only our spouse can point out the center of dissatisfaction in us which we are not aware of.

Just learn to tolerate, you should have leant the strength and weaknesses of your partner while dating so as not to have issues with identifying them in your marriage as you cannot really condemn at that point.

Don't get me wrong, many lessons are in marriage we will need to adjust to but some tactical errors may not be corrected when relationship has turned to marriage, this is why you should have done the test running and panel beating while courting.

When you start looking for a complete perfect partner is when you become old and still in the street searching till all those imperfect ladies or men that are available have all been taken and you start visiting one spiritual man to another in search of the evil one using your life to play kite, then you will start praying to get just a child by any means.

You better learn fast now.

Source: http://bamisepeters..com/2017/06/you-are-not-perfect-woman-neither-is-he.html

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TSOM:
I'd be blunt. Screw subtlety!

The oddly ironic thing about you know-it-all, self-styled 'relationship doctors' is that aren't even in functional relationships.
You logon to peddle sanctimonious, mushy hogwash yet you're being sucked in by your vortex of lies and deceit -an alternate reality.

BamisePeters, can your swear on your life and on everything sacred on earth and in the universe that:

-You're in a relationship?
-You have never cheated on the woman you're currently in a relationship with physically and emotionally?
-You have never abused her physically and psychologically?
-You practise what you preach?
-You intend to go long-term with her as against ditching her for the next girl you fancy?

Answer each question individually. Not answering all is an answer in itself.

you no need to vex reach this one now
I prefer blunt people sef.

I will answer you one by one.

I am in a relationship since 8 years ago and about to be sealed.

I have never cheated whatsoever, but as human, anything can happen in the future, i don't pray to do against what i preach though.

No abuse at all.

Not just practice, i read what i preach like am also a keen follower.

I am already in it for long and still want to do it more so as to be a good example instead of what many know people of my type( relationship writers/speakers) for.

Thanks for those questions, i am happy to answer.

TSOM:
Premised on the assumption that your assertions are true and not you playing to the gallery , you have earned my respect and readership.
Hopefully, other internet 'relationship know-it-alls' can truthfully answer the questions.
Keep being different.

Thank you so much.