FortuneTeller:


Have we reached this level Even if you don't believe in God, did you give yourself life? What of your parents? Please do not take your life or encourage others to do so. Seek counseling if you are depressed. Find the good in your situation. How many people are able to freely use the internet like you are doing at this moment. There is always something positive to look forward to in life.

Thanks for your advice.

They've said it all. let your son be the reason you live now. Draw strength from your son, draw strength from the love and tiny kisses your son gives you. Suicide isn't an escape, but a betrayal to everyone out there who loves you. I can promise you your son will hate you and curse your memory if you take the suicide route.
Your husband.. pretend he doesn't exist. find love In the eyes of your son. I don't want to talk about God because I do not know your religious orientation, though God can still help you.

Go out..meet people. Remember those things that used to make you laugh. Believe me or not, people do have it much worse.Just know your trying times will certainly end soon.

Your son is your world like you said, don't betray him.

justwant2bhappy:
Hmmmmm. I realized I made the worst and gravest mistake of my life by marrying a man who neither care or value me. To him am just one of his acquired property. He doesn't share opinions with me. I am just married but living a lonely and miserable life, honestly I have been good to this man but I discovered recently that he's after other women(not one but plenty) I wouldn't mind if he's showing my own affection and respect but he don't just care if I exist. I already have a son for him so I can't leave my son and walk away. That's the only thing holding me back. My son is my world, he's the only thing I have on Earth. But am dying slowly each day, thinking to finish off the life. What is life without affection, what is life without who you can share your thought with, what is life with living with the wrong man, what is life if all I do everyday is cry myself to sleep, what is life with a serial cheating husband who don't care about me? What is life with a man who only come to me any time he need sex and will just raise my gown and dip his di.ck like he's fvcking a prostitute? Does the life really worth it? No it doesn't. I will end it soon
If this is what marriage is all about then in my next world I want to remain single forever

If you want to walk away, please walk away. Some women are crying as a result of domestic violence, you are whining that some other women are fuccking your husband's diick. NONSENSICAL NONSENSE!! Please don't waste your life by committing suicide. You can be very useful even at death. So, kindly walk up to any big politician around your area and tell him that you are ready to be sacrificed. Most of these politicians are looking for human beings to use for rituals. Alternatively, check the yahoo boys around your area, they are looking for human beings to use for sacrifice to boost their cyber crime. Goodluck.

Why are you still married to him, just end the relationship and move on with your life.
Been in an abusive relationship is not worth it.

justwant2bhappy:
Hmmmmm. I realized I made the worst and gravest mistake of my life by marrying a man who neither care or value me. To him am just one of his acquired property. He doesn't share opinions with me. I am just married but living a lonely and miserable life, honestly I have been good to this man but I discovered recently that he's after other women(not one but plenty) I wouldn't mind if he's showing my own affection and respect but he don't just care if I exist. I already have a son for him so I can't leave my son and walk away. That's the only thing holding me back. My son is my world, he's the only thing I have on Earth. But am dying slowly each day, thinking to finish off the life. What is life without affection, what is life without who you can share your thought with, what is life with living with the wrong man, what is life if all I do everyday is cry myself to sleep, what is life with a serial cheating husband who don't care about me? What is life with a man who only come to me any time he need sex and will just raise my gown and dip his di.ck like he's fvcking a prostitute? Does the life really worth it? No it doesn't. I will end it soon
If this is what marriage is all about then in my next world I want to remain single forever

instead of ending it Leave, be strong 4 yor boy, start working on a plan

Hmmmm...you would rather kill yourself and leave your son who is your world behind? You would rather mess his life forever with the stanch of a self fitted noose around your neck? You would rather continue to wallow in self pity rather than choosing to live your life for yourself and your son? How weak are you babes? Did you court that guy before marrying him? I can't believe any sensible woman would write what you wrote.


It is well with you...continue!

justwant2bhappy:
Hmmmmm. I realized I made the worst and gravest mistake of my life by marrying a man who neither care or value me. To him am just one of his acquired property. He doesn't share opinions with me. I am just married but living a lonely and miserable life, honestly I have been good to this man but I discovered recently that he's after other women(not one but plenty) I wouldn't mind if he's showing my own affection and respect but he don't just care if I exist. I already have a son for him so I can't leave my son and walk away. That's the only thing holding me back. My son is my world, he's the only thing I have on Earth. But am dying slowly each day, thinking to finish off the life. What is life without affection, what is life without who you can share your thought with, what is life with living with the wrong man, what is life if all I do everyday is cry myself to sleep, what is life with a serial cheating husband who don't care about me? What is life with a man who only come to me any time he need sex and will just raise my gown and dip his di.ck like he's fvcking a prostitute? Does the life really worth it? No it doesn't. I will end it soon
If this is what marriage is all about then in my next world I want to remain single forever

Please help me understand this.

1. You don't want to walk out of your marriage because of your son
2. You want to commit suicide and leave that same son you are talking about

In Summary You won't leave an unhappy marriage because of your son but would gladly kill yourself and abandon that same son

Does this make sense to you? @justwant2bhappy

justwant2bhappy:

Hmmmmm. Funny enough, he has nothing. He's just a man living a normal life. Some people ask why I married him, It was because of some prophecy from fake prophets and prophetess (now I know they are fake). I listened to them instead of following my mind. Though we courted for just 5months and I was busy with work (I worked in bank then)
So there was no time for me to know him. He was putting pressure on me for marriage and when I contacted those prophet and prophetess they told me to go ahead that the future is OK. Why are you now blaming me? If you are in my shoe, won't you do the same?

Don't you have any friends or family, did you abandon all these other relationships after marriage?

mployer:
You married him for his money.

Leave him for your own safety, and that of your son.

@ bolden, that's the sad fact. And after waltzing into his life, she expected to automatically assume the position of a queen and shareholder of some sort.

The husband is not silly and knows why she agreed to marry him. He might not be acting this way deliberately too, but he simply doesn't know how to connect (emotionally) with a lady who married him for the wrong reason. He acts like someone who got dumped previously by a lady he would have truly appreciated (due to his once inadequate financial status). So women are like a conquest now for him.

Like we keep advocating, the best defence a woman (in marriage) has, is a little money of her own. So the truth is she can't/won't leave him, because she has nothing. And would only use her son as excuse.

justwant2bhappy:

God bless you my sister

Haf you kee yourself?

Dyt:



Haf you kee yourself?

Silkmoth33:

Abi na
Wetin remainder

@Op; Huh! What can I say; well, first of all it’s really sad that you are contemplating to take your life; very very sad indeed.

Have you confronted your husband about his cheating ways? Is he remorseful or is he justifying himself with the analogy of “Men are polygamous in nature therefore they will cheat” One thing to note here is that a man cheats only because he wants to and not because he has to. There is something called self-control; and if you resolve in your heart that you would not cheat on your spouse no matter what; then you certainly would not and this analogy applies to both men and women.

The environment that one finds themselves in sometimes may make it hard for one to walk away; but that does not mean that one cannot avoid the temptation to cheat. It is simply a silly excuse to say I want to explore out of the marital bond as “The marriage bed should be without defilement”.

Now listen up gurl; if you kill yourself because of a philandering husband; I PITY YOU; as I will only give your husband 3 months max; and there would be another Mrs somebody by his side. And if I may ask you this question, what makes you think that the new wife would look after your son the way you look after him currently if you kill yourself?

In all, there are only 2 options here;

1) Either you leave him and let him carry on with his philandering ways and have a less stressful life along with peace of mind or;
2) If he is remorseful, you can forgive him and stay but also let him show by his action(s) that he would not continuously cheat on you again.

The choice is totally yours; you are the one wearing the shoes and only you know how it pinches. No one else can tell you if to leave or stay.

Not sure if you depend on him entirely financially and if you do, then that might be part of the problem and that might give him the freelance to cheat as he knows you would always need money for you and your son’s upkeep from him. If you are not currently working; then please do get a job or set up a business to have something in hand doing.

At this moment in time, the most important thing here is your kid; stick around to care for him whether you decide to stay with your husband or not. Also HAVE PITY FOR YOUR OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS ESPECIALLY YOUR MUM AND DAD as it may distress them if you kill yourself.

Go for an STD test IMMEDIATELY and check to make sure that you are not carrying any disease(s). I will also ADVICE that your husband should do the same. ALL THE BEST.


PS: I read a thread on NL where a woman died of a heartbreak because her husband was a chronic philanderer and now her children are without a mother all because she was fighting hard to stop the husband from cheating on her with different women.

I just mentioned this for you to be aware that a person can indeed die from a heartbreak. So please beware and be wise.

I rest my case

justwant2bhappy:
Hmmmmm. I realized I made the worst and gravest mistake of my life by marrying a man who neither care or value me. To him am just one of his acquired property. He doesn't share opinions with me. I am just married but living a lonely and miserable life, honestly I have been good to this man but I discovered recently that he's after other women(not one but plenty) I wouldn't mind if he's showing my own affection and respect but he don't just care if I exist. I already have a son for him so I can't leave my son and walk away. That's the only thing holding me back. My son is my world, he's the only thing I have on Earth. But am dying slowly each day, thinking to finish off the life. What is life without affection, what is life without who you can share your thought with, what is life with living with the wrong man, what is life if all I do everyday is cry myself to sleep, what is life with a serial cheating husband who don't care about me? What is life with a man who only come to me any time he need sex and will just raise my gown and dip his di.ck like he's fvcking a prostitute? Does the life really worth it? No it doesn't. I will end it soon
If this is what marriage is all about then in my next world I want to remain single forever

Hmmm staying there and killing your self doesn't show you love your son. It is during the period you are being moaned he will marry another woman who will start sending him on errands and beating the hell out if him. Then they will cook up a story on how you died. (remember you will not be there to counter it). He can even say you were wayward and was caught and committed suicide. Don't try men ooo. Please Aunty me leave the marriage and live for the child you love.

justwant2bhappy:

Hmmmmm. Funny enough, he has nothing. He's just a man living a normal life. Some people ask why I married him, It was because of some prophecy from fake prophets and prophetess (now I know they are fake). I listened to them instead of following my mind. Though we courted for just 5months and I was busy with work (I worked in bank then)
So there was no time for me to know him. He was putting pressure on me for marriage and when I contacted those prophet and prophetess they told me to go ahead that the future is OK. Why are you now blaming me? If you are in my shoe, won't you do the same?

I am not judging you but as I used to say we are mini Gods and God has made us like that to decide little things for ourselves. When acting the Lord said that the Lord said this, use your own God's giving sense. Just walk out of the marriage.

Shelloween:
You need an affection? Tell him

You need attention? Tell Him


You need love? Tell him



You need care? Tell him




Are you unhappy? Tell him

Speak up Woman!! Or forever remain silent.

If you kill yourself, you'll leave your son behind. Your husband remarries and only God knows what the new wifey would do to your son.

P.S. Don't bring your sh!t to Nairaland. I don't care about you and believe me, Nobody here does.

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You think she has not told him constantly until she has been tag a nag? Instead such men get angry and call you names for troubling them. They don't want to be bothered. They just come and go, eat your food And Bleep you. No jist, love, laughter in the home.

justwant2bhappy:
Hmmmmm. I realized I made the worst and gravest mistake of my life by marrying a man who neither care or value me. To him am just one of his acquired property. He doesn't share opinions with me. I am just married but living a lonely and miserable life, honestly I have been good to this man but I discovered recently that he's after other women(not one but plenty) I wouldn't mind if he's showing my own affection and respect but he don't just care if I exist. I already have a son for him so I can't leave my son and walk away. That's the only thing holding me back. My son is my world, he's the only thing I have on Earth. But am dying slowly each day, thinking to finish off the life. What is life without affection, what is life without who you can share your thought with, what is life with living with the wrong man, what is life if all I do everyday is cry myself to sleep, what is life with a serial cheating husband who don't care about me? What is life with a man who only come to me any time he need sex and will just raise my gown and dip his di.ck like he's fvcking a prostitute? Does the life really worth it? No it doesn't. I will end it soon
If this is what marriage is all about then in my next world I want to remain single forever

Are you still with him because of son or because you don't have a job?? I am not advocating divorce but get a job pls! Stop the victim game.

Are you still alive? If yes.
No try am ooooo....

Because na me go be the first to type RIP.

Sis don't.
If you do, THAT will be the greatest mistake you will ever make...
That said, if you can think of leaving, then you can also think of taking your boy with you

He may not be hitting you, but he is abusing you emotionally, try and mend fences, try talking to him, showing him love and stuff
If it doesn't work, biko pack your stuff and go

Just try and be smart
Gather money
Rent a house, maybe one room or self contain b4 leaving
Don't put up with family, you will regret it
Try and stay on your own
Please, I hope you have a good job
If you don't, please find something to do
Don't allow depression set in
Because whether you choose to leave or stay sis, things will likely get worse, that is why you can't be thinking of suicide now
This is a battle, you have to be strong, you have to be selfish for your son if I can put it like that

Please, I'm begging you to not only stay, but make your life meaningful, your boy is watching, he is seeing everything, don't kill his spirit please.

Just forgive your 'husband' and focus on living a happy life. Keyword :happy
Everyone deserves happiness

I hope you decide to stay and fight
God loves you vigorously
He knows you even if I don't
Don't give up on God

Hurry up and die... too many ppl dey dis country

MrOdyssey:
You claim you can't walk away from the marriage cos you already have a son for him, giving us the impression that you are a caring and loving mother who cannot afford to abandon her own child but at the same time you can afford to take ur own life hence (still) abandoning ur son and at the same time making what is left of his life miserable forever.

Honestly your reasoning and thinking is terribly warped.

Get a divorce ma'am if you can't cope with the marriage any longer while making sure you claim custody of your son.

A dead man feels no pain,only the living (which in these case is your son ) does.

Pls do not destroy that young boys life by leaving him with such a stigma. He isn't responsible for your pain and shouldn't b made to suffer for it.

Peace

This is Africa divorce is never d best option.
She should talk things over with her husband if he doesn't listen let her involve her people.

Cleopatra4:

This is Africa divorce is never d best option.
She should talk things over with her husband if he doesn't listen let her involve her people.

Said who?

Why do people always assume that women get married for money?
Y'all don't even know her and you're already sure she's married because of money.
If she stays single, y'all will still be the ones creating nonsense threads up and down about single women. Smh

Cleopatra4:

This is Africa divorce is never d best option.
She should talk things over with her husband if he doesn't listen let her involve her people.

Yes death is definitely a better option.
Because in Africa, we are forbidden to use common sense.

cococandy:

Yes death is definitely a better option.
Because in Africa, we are forbidden to use common sense.

dis africa if u cant respect out culture den get out u lived in America yet try to spoil our women mind

justwant2bhappy:
Hmmmmm. I realized I made the worst and gravest mistake of my life by marrying a man who neither care or value me. To him am just one of his acquired property. He doesn't share opinions with me. I am just married but living a lonely and miserable life, honestly I have been good to this man but I discovered recently that he's after other women(not one but plenty) I wouldn't mind if he's showing my own affection and respect but he don't just care if I exist. I already have a son for him so I can't leave my son and walk away. That's the only thing holding me back. My son is my world, he's the only thing I have on Earth. But am dying slowly each day, thinking to finish off the life. What is life without affection, what is life without who you can share your thought with, what is life with living with the wrong man, what is life if all I do everyday is cry myself to sleep, what is life with a serial cheating husband who don't care about me? What is life with a man who only come to me any time he need sex and will just raise my gown and dip his di.ck like he's fvcking a prostitute? Does the life really worth it? No it doesn't. I will end it soon
If this is what marriage is all about then in my next world I want to remain single forever

Do you have a handwork? Do you have a source of income? My dear its time to tighten up your seatbelts and become a wonderwoman.Work hard till you have enough money to sustain your lifestyle.Then leave.
Life is too short to let a man ruin it for you.
But please don't take rash steps.Gather yourself together first.And forget suicide.You will only be shortchanging yourself and your child.

Would you shut up?
Such idiotic nonsense

Aquariann:


@ bolden, that's the sad fact. And after waltzing into his life, she expected to automatically assume the position of a queen and shareholder of some sort.

The husband is not silly and knows why she agreed to marry him. He might not be acting this way deliberately too, but he simply doesn't know how to connect (emotionally) with a lady who married him for the wrong reason. He acts like someone who got dumped previously by a lady he would have truly appreciated (due to his once inadequate financial status). So women are like a conquest now for him.

Like we keep advocating, the best defence a woman (in marriage) has, is a little money of her own. So the truth is she can't/won't leave him, because she has nothing. And would only use her son as excuse.

jakandeola:
dis africa if u cant respect out culture den get out u lived in America yet try to spoil our women mind

Find a cliff very close by and jump off

WellEndowed:


Find a cliff very close by and jump off

if I descend on u u will regret ur existent

jakandeola:
dis africa if u cant respect out culture den get out u lived in America yet try to spoil our women mind

Respect your culture of female disrespect?
No thank you.
I love myself enough not to respect a culture whose sole foundation is dependent on and thrives on disrespecting me.

You're stupid. Get off my mentions.

jakandeola:
if I descend on u u will regret ur existent

Yea you are right. I will indeed regret my existence. Infact I am already regretting it. Can you imagine knowing that I am from a continent that breeds you ilk? you are damn right I regret my existence.

your problem is that, u are mentally, psychologically and emotionally not matured enough to get married, marriage is for matured mind not for kids, there are so many women who are living in an unhappy marriage yet they are hopeful that God will intervene becos of their kids, some have divorced becos of same reason., no normal human being will kill herself for such useless reason.
if u can't pray for ur marriage then get divorced

you claim u love ur son yet u are stupid enough to abandon him