Dear all, please I need your advice at this point in time.
I lost my job sometimes last, and it has been from one issue to another between me and my wife ever since. We had little argument last month end, and she has since then left the house with our son to her sisters place. I don't have problem with her leaving, it's one of those things... My problem is my son she withhold since then I've not been seeing my son and I don't want to go to her sister's place to make any trouble. Please I need a mature advice on what to do to get my son back home, I'm missing him seriously.

Thanks

How old is your son and can you personally take care of him like his mom would do or are you planning to leave him for someone else while you go hussling? Thrse are the questions you would need to answer first. My sugestion is that you try to make your wife agree to allow you see your son as often as you can while you guys are in the process of deciding what steps to take concerning settling your marriage dispute.

delishpot:
Hoe old is your son and can you personally take care of him?

I can't personally take care of him, but she isn't taking my calls to see him, the boy is 9month old and its not save to be carrying him about

Tenny05:
I can't personally take care of him, but she isn't taking my calls to see him, the boy is 9month old and its not save to be carrying him about

So you want him back home to drop him with someone else? Doesnt make much sense to me. Why not get her family involved? Or get those agencies who help spouses esp women get access to their kids? You also deserve to see your son. Yes at his age he is best left with mom not you but, you also have a right to see and spend time with him. Maybe she is afraid you may take him from her by force should she allow you have him? Be honest, would you take him from her and keep him if she allows you to have access to him?

If you want to see your son,try to make arrangements with your wife(maybe get her parents involved).
You can't have your son stay with you now,his mother has to nurse him

I hope you guys can resolve your differences quickly.

delishpot:


So you want him back home to drop him with someone else? Doesnt make much sense to me. Why not get her family involved? Or get those agencies who help spouses esp women get access to their kids? You also deserve to see your son. Yes at his age he is best left with mom not you but, you also have a right to see and spend time with him. Maybe she is afraid you may take him from her by force should she allow you have him? Be honest, would you take him from her and keep him if she allows you to have access to him?

she doesn't have time for the boy either, she works with bank.

Tenny05:
she doesn't have time for the boy either, she works with bank.

Then she prolly is scared that you would sieze him from her?

thorpido:
If you want to see your son,try to make arrangements with your wife(maybe get her parents involved).
You can't have your son stay with you now,his mother has to nurse him

I hope you guys can resolve your differences quickly.

Thank you very much

delishpot:


Then she prolly is scared that you would sieze him from her?

can't seize the baby from her, anger is that she has no right to withhold the boy from me, though I've informed her dad about it. I don't want it to get to legal practitioner because what she's doing is parental kidnapping and it ll be used against her that's why I'm seeking advice here.

Tenny05:
can't seize the baby from her, anger is that she has no right to withhold the boy from me, though I've informed her dad about it. I don't want it to get to legal practitioner because what she's doing is parental kidnapping and it ll be used against her that's why I'm seeking advice here.

Hmn.... she no try sha. Well, keep talking to her parents and lets see where it leads since you dont want to go the legal way which I understand why(you dont want to complicate an already dicey issue) your son needs you too. She is clearly not thinking things straight. Wait a while and see what her parents would do about it. If you offended her too, biko appologise and make up. I know losing ones job may cause a man to read meaning into things and being at home may mean the wife expects some extra suport and help at home which would make the man feel insulted. At times like this ego helps no one as long as you doing it for the joy and comfort of your spouse who is also putting in effort for the family to stand. You guys need to adjust, she needs to understand how to support you at this moment while you also need to appteciate her efforts at this moment too. Its unfortunate what has happened and I trully wish you guys jump tgis hurdle safe and united as a family. Pkele

delishpot:


Hmn.... she no try sha. Well, keep talking to her parents and lets see where it leads since you dont want to go the legal way which I understand why(you dont want to complicate an already dicey issue) your son needs you too. She is clearly not thinking things straight. Wait a while and see what her parents would do about it. If you offended her too, biko appologise and make up. I know losing ones job may cause a man to read meaning into things and being at home may mean the wife expects some extra suport and help at home which would make the man feel insulted. At times like this ego helps no one as long as you doing it for the joy and comfort of your spouse who is also putting in effort for the family to stand. You guys need to adjust, she needs to understand how to support you at this moment while you also need to appteciate her efforts at this moment too. Its unfortunate what has happened and I trully wish you guys jump tgis hurdle safe and united as a family. Pkele

Thank you very much for this advice, I appreciate.

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What exactly made her to leave. Did you beat her during one of your quarrels, because i can't understand how a woman can just leave like that.

Tenny05:
she doesn't have time for the boy either, she works with bank.

She at least has money to take care of him.. She is not broke and jobless.
Bro, forget your son for now.. start hustling. Start a business and stop looking for a job.. When you can take care of a family, your wife will listen to you..

Coldplay007:


She at least has money to take care of him.. She is not broke and jobless.
Bro, forget your son for now.. start hustling. Start a business and stop looking for a job.. When you can take care of a family, your wife will listen to you..

And is it suppose to be so?

i feel ur pain bro, its not easy to lose one's job as a man especially if u av a wife dat doesn't understand life. Secondly u didnt say what d issues were, is it financial, domestic violence, etc. Ur wife can't just go like dat so i can't judge frm ur write up. I pray God gives u a job ASAP so u can re-unite wt ur family