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ChelseaDr Good morning. How's work and the family.

when I saw the milk I thought he suk a boob.anyway everyone HV advice d niqqa so go back ya villa n hustle. no food go lazy man.to become a man is not sharing milk with some one.so they were planing yo send you out for long apart from the milk matter.
you as they are rich.unless you go n do house hop fo them.you say uiu senior the man.then why did he HV money more tha n you?.age is nothing. age can't favor you.

so go n hustle.
#hustle
#loyalty
#respect

goodmorning ppl.

when I saw the milk I thought he suk a boob.anyway everyone HV advice d niqqa so go back ya villa n hustle. no food go lazy man.to become a man is not sharing milk with some one.so they were planing yo send you out for long apart from the milk matter.
you say they are rich.unless you go n do house help fo them.you say you senior the man.then why did he HV money more tha n you?.age is nothing. age can't favor you.

so go n hustle.
#hustle
#loyalty
#respect

goodmorning ppl.

You are giving shelter and all you know how to do is take three spoonful of milk to drink tea abi? Even sachet milk is not upto three spoonful.
Wobia..
You think say you be sharp guy...

stressedout:
Pls nairalanders, I am in deep mess right now. I have been living in my compound for 6 yrs now but due to some money issues I was evicted and my friend/fellow tenant was kind enough to take me in for the time being. It is him the wife and their small baby son that stays.

The problem started when the wife start complaining that am wasteful. i have never remained food they give me. from then they reduced quantity of food they give me and i dont complain.

Now just this morning am making tea and take 3 spoons of milk in her presence and all hell break loose. she starts shouting and call her husband that even them dont take more than 2 spoons. the man called me later and said it is time for us to part ways.

Am devastated now. i even used my last cash to buy a tin of milk for them. what do i do now? i have no where to go.

Three spoons?

You're a glutton.

Having them give you a roof over your head was generous enough.

Why live off their food too?

You're freeloading, bro.

MChaze25:
Women hate it when they feed another man in their matrimonial home.. Are you a learner?

Not only another man, even woman sef. I'm not blaming his friends wife o. But most women don't like to accommodate...and accommodating another woman who is not your husband's relative might be dangerous, I get.
But a man? she for chill small...

and the husband should have advised him to get a job instead of saying they should part ways. although, he might av advised him and got tired of him because he isn't doing anything.

the truth is, living with someone is not easy, u will pay house rent one way or the other.

you will definitely pay.

happened to.me...and I was even working and earning a decent amount o, was saving for accommodation sef.

I'll drop money for food for the children (the family is broke). I'll feed myself too. I was even happy to do these things cos I really pitied their conditions...

See,

I still paid house rent.

And this people know that I'm not broke.. and my parents have accommodated the wife before. We gave her a whole room, bathroom and toilet in our house.

in their house I sleep on the floor when they told me to stop sleeping in the sitting room - because their sofa will get old quick.

still, I paid my own house rent o.

That's like for you, OP. deal with it. Work hard and this will become history. And don't ever fight them. Never!




find something to do, stop living off their food.

You needed a shelter not food bro! wake up! set out for something you may not have time for tea if you get by!

stressedout:
Pls nairalanders, I am in deep mess right now. I have been living in my compound for 6 yrs now but due to some money issues I was evicted and my friend/fellow tenant was kind enough to take me in for the time being. It is him the wife and their small baby son that stays.

The problem started when the wife start complaining that am wasteful. i have never remained food they give me. from then they reduced quantity of food they give me and i dont complain.

Now just this morning am making tea and take 3 spoons of milk in her presence and all hell break loose. she starts shouting and call her husband that even them dont take more than 2 spoons. the man called me later and said it is time for us to part ways.

Am devastated now. i even used my last cash to buy a tin of milk for them. what do i do now? i have no where to go.

I don't blame d woman or her husband, how can u b living with a married couple and totally depend on them for food. assuming it's only once a day they feed u it probably wouldn't have gotten to this extent. house wey no b person own, person no dey do like king for there. what happened to your job?

StevensJojo:
Lol.I saw your first response.When you waited for a while and didnt get a reply you came to edit it to see if youl get a rise from me.
Well sir iv noticed you.You can now enjoy the rest of your holidays.

Lmao see finishing

Lalas247:
Imagine ... ontop say them let am stay
He has guts to take 3 heaps
And came here to cry

He better take bus to Calabar tonight

why are you laidis? is this how they bury people in bum-nation?

It's funny how every single female in here screams at the OP for being a leach and tell him to go hustle, while their own version of hustling is leaching off some man (or men) somewhere.

Hypocritical bloodsuckers.

ExInferis:
Three spoons?

You're a glutton.

Having them give you a roof over your head was generous enough.

Why live off their food too?

You're freeloading, bro.

exactly! it is very bad. people hardly buy provisions because they feel its expensive and those who buy usually mince it. the guy now has d guts to take 3 spoons of milk. you dey make tea for the whole family? its a bad idea that u live with them, its a worse idea that they feed u

StevensJojo:
What is with the servile beggarly attitude?Mtchew.I hate it when i see men who can't hustle.
Look at the way you are even talking.You cant even ask for a job.You cant list things you can do in exchange for money, you just want someone to take you in.You are even an ingrate complaining about food and milk.If you want to rise above you need think of the value you can add to society and provide it.The world will beat a part to. Your door.And don't be too proud to do anything.
Here is coming from someone who has been broke, hungru and trekked unholy distances before.And im a woman so please-as they say-be a man

My sister, can you imagine the guts on the guy, taking 3 spoons of milk and calling it ordinary. And to make it even more annoying, he is asking for someone else to accommodate him rather than either moving to his village or going to hustle.

This silly attitude is what made some guy without no dime to his name, come on nairaland begging for 50,000 to celebrate naming ceremony of his child from a girl friend. Seems nairaland is gradually becoming a begging land.

judgedredd22:

why are you laidis? is this how they bury people in bum-nation?

the matter taya mi, e dey make me vex sef

Jackeeh:
Relocate to calabar. I'll accommodate you.

This your offer is too direct and suspicious o. I hope you are not an adultnapper

with most replies here blasting and bashing the guy i never knew nairaland was so full of perfect people.
I hail una o.

@op don't let all this comments frustrate you, just let it make you stronger.
Kick start up your life and hit the road to hustle.
Restrict your eating and being in the house to night only. There are some jobs you can do out there that will help u get a place @least a room.
u need to man up now my man. Don't just leave and go back to your village. Stay back and work out things. please with them for a lil time and work your way back to being a man that came to lagos, saw and conquered.
God bless u man.

overlord77:
My sister, can you imagine the guts on the guy, taking 3 spoons of milk and calling it ordinary. And to make it even more annoying, he is asking for someone else to accommodate him rather than either moving to his village or going to hustle.

This silly attitude is what made some guy without no dime to his name, come on nairaland begging for 50,000 to celebrate naming ceremony of his child from a girl friend. Seems nairaland is gradually becoming a begging land.

he's looking for who will accommodate him so he can come and finish their food too.

hisMrs:
exactly! it is very bad. people hardly buy provisions because they feel its expensive and those who buy usually mince it. the guy now has d guts to take 3 spoons of milk. you dey make tea for the whole family? its a bad idea that u live with them, its a worse idea that they feed u

You take 3 spoons of milk in my house and you get kicked the fukk out.

Three spoons in this economy?

What, you making tea or a milkshake?

And I'm sure it was TABLEspoon, not TEAspoon.

With this mileage that's 90 tablespoonfuls of milk a month, or an entire tin.

As a non-contributory parasite I'd expect him to take his tea black, just to prove a point that he's considerate.

I won't say "go get a job" cos it ain't ever that easy....but dude, slow it down.

stressedout:
my closest relative is in calabar. i am in lagos

Lagos is an horrible place for someone struggling go back home

sukkot:
lmao bros, those types of people can get on your last nerve if they stay with you. you want someone staying with you to have a tiny bit of self awareness and able to feel the temperature of the atmosphere and not someone just completely lost in his own world living life as if he stays alone lmao. heaping 3 solid spoons of milk in front of the mans wife lmao. shyttt if that was me and the mans wife was there I would not even eat sef lmao talk less of heap 3 giant spoons of peak powdered milk

gee!!!

if in such, at most, I will eat only at night(drink garri to join if not enough ) but only at night, that's once a day

if they invite me for any other meal, no matter how kind the smile, I will say I am not hungry

will go find something to do, even bring some of my work home, so they see I am hustling, even when I finish my job early I will only come in at 7pm (unless I am ill ) you have to use your head, and show u are also uncomfortable staying with them but its just due to circumstances.
my opinion

The problem started when the wife start complaining that am wasteful.

Quite a lot of married ladies detest staying with their husband's family members or friends. To make things bad, the husband had already taken side with his wife so, there is little or nothing that you can do than move out.

I wish I can see you right now, I could kiss you... tho I dont know your gender. You summerise every truth here and in generality. These days, Men dont know what it takes to be a man...They all complain like cats being drag out of the house. my mum, my dad, my brother, my uncle, my friend, the government, this that......wat have they done...Nothing..

Fadamant:
I wish I saw this post on time.


I will be bold to say my mind here. These days, it has become common for a man to say "I stayed in a rented house for 4 years, 6years, etc, without paying the landlord his rent. At the end of the period the landlord got fed up and throw me out". Rubbish. It is impossible for a trully responsible man to be jobless, doing nothing for a long time and consequently not be able to meet up with is responsilities. Haba. I don't just get these folks. How can you wait until you are thrown out of your house before you begin to sort yourself out. Even more shameful is going to put up with a fellow tenant. God forbid. I just wonder that many men these donn't know what being a man is.

@op, go out and hustle. Leave your pride behind and do whatever it takes to take good care of yourself and reclaim your self respect if that is important to you. Then, go and rent a shack and start all over again. Can't just word up all my thoughts now.

this matter is just irritating. from d day d woman started complaining about food u should have decoded that you have overstayed your welcome, its bad that u had to wait to b told in plain language b4 ur head will boot. the head still never boot. if Lagos no pay u, go calabar

3 spoons of milk in this buhari time and u call it ordinary. Bros u re lucky. If na me, I go tear you better slap.

luminouz:
Ishilovuuuuuuu!!!!
Haba!!!!! Read d posts well o....he has relatives in calabar!!!!!
U guys are not friendly at all.....
Imagine what if I was d one who came with this story..naso u go dey bash me

We are still saying the same thing. Will he go there to start living off his relatives too? They will eventually get tired of catering for him if he doesn't pull his weight, and then what next?

StevensJojo:
What is with the servile beggarly attitude?Mtchew.I hate it when i see men who can't hustle.
Look at the way you are even talking.You cant even ask for a job.You cant list things you can do in exchange for money, you just want someone to take you in.You are even an ingrate complaining about food and milk.If you want to rise above you need think of the value you can add to society and provide it.The world will beat a part to. Your door.And don't be too proud to do anything.
Here is coming from someone who has been broke, hungru and trekked unholy distances before.And im a woman so please-as they say-be a man

lol @ unholy distances

stressedout:
thanks for the advice. it is clear. i have to leave that house. i will pack my things today and leave for calabar first things tomorrow. Why i say ordinary is because these people are not suffering at all, they live well. i did not live there free. i did various jobs for the man and even stayed in the wifes store where she sells provisions. This is someone i senior with over 5 yrs. such behaviour was not so at the beginning now i am almost treated as if i came to do househelp. so i will never rely on anyone again as man can fail, but God never fails.

I might be wrong but u sound like a lazy person. Stop being vindictive. The family has tried by accommodating u if u don't like the treatment get ur own place full stop. The way u sound makes me wanna puke.

To be frank with you, That your friend have tried for you. I wont even be so comfortable sharing the same roof with my wife and a friend (guy). So, man up. Look for a menial job, hustle, find a single guy like u and share the rent with.

Mind you, I use just 2 spoons of milk for my breakfast.

They have given you accommodation and you still rested on them for food, can't you hustle to get your basic needs?, you have given us your own side of the story the couple is not here to state theirs I can't judge them knowing fully well that you can never indict yourself even if you are wrong ,I once accommodated someone like you who turned privileges to rights and even tried to hijack my business. who knows what will happen between you and your next host, you can depend on people for life.

hisMrs:
he's looking for who will accommodate him so he can come and finish their food too.

Ya wicked... lmao... don't mind the guy jare.

KingGBsky:
with most replies here blasting and bashing the guy i never knew nairaland was so full of perfect people.
I hail una o.

@op don't let all this comments frustrate you, just let it make you stronger.
Kick start up your life and hit the road to hustle.
Restrict your eating and being in the house to night only. There are some jobs you can do out there that will help u get a place @least a room.
u need to man up now my man. Don't just leave and go back to your village. Stay back and work out things. please with them for a lil time and work your way back to being a man that came to lagos, saw and conquered.
Gud bless u man.

nobody is perfect but d situation is bad already, he even feels its OK to wash his dirty linen in public

stressedout:
Pls nairalanders, I am in deep mess right now. I have been living in my compound for 6 yrs now but due to some money issues I was evicted and my friend/fellow tenant was kind enough to take me in for the time being. It is him the wife and their small baby son that stays.

The problem started when the wife start complaining that am wasteful. i have never remained food they give me. from then they reduced quantity of food they give me and i dont complain.

Now just this morning am making tea and take 3 spoons of milk in her presence and all hell break loose. she starts shouting and call her husband that even them dont take more than 2 spoons. the man called me later and said it is time for us to part ways.

Am devastated now. i even used my last cash to buy a tin of milk for them. what do i do now? i have no where to go.

3 Spoons of milk? Even in her presence? Bros u no get conscience at all ooo.... Even if you wanted to drink milk I guess u should have buy your own provisions and use it... Things are hard bro!! You shouldn't expect the wife to smile and Pat you at the back for that action...

Not funny at all... The best way is to relocate to closest relative house till you get your feet back on the ground

They ain't your family so you shouldn't expect presidential treat from them... You are just staying there temporarily.

The husband might be all cool with you..but I bet you that the wife has zero chills for you even though she might be smiling with you... Deep inside of her she ain't happy at all

Relocate!!! Move out!!! Before she accuse you of anything that might land you in Kirikiri

Go get a job too!!! No food for lazy man

Note: Don't be so desperate too to take up an offer that looks so good to be true.. remember how some Evan's gang ended up? Use your head!!