Hannysmilez:

I'm not sure if you wrote this as a deliberate attempt to be controversial or you really believe it.
This is a dissapointing thread coming from the OP,I know you to make sense-unfortunately,today isn't your day.
Firstly,I assumed you were a Christian from your previous posts,really shocked that you're out here justifying promiscousness-I don't care bout the fancy ass name you gave to it.
Men generate millions of sperm so they should impregnate women with it? Are you aware that women also produce eggs which they shed monthly while enduring cramps?
Polygamy isn't my problem,neither is promiscousity-my problem is with you,who is supposed to be a Godly fellow,excusing it-to the point of including God in your weak and silly argument. The same God who asked men to love their spouses as Christ loved the Church. An important part of Christ's love is faithfulness,he turned down bread even after fasting for 40days just for the church.

If you're going to be a Christian,be one with your posts as well and represent God well.
From a free-thinker,Hanny

shinarlaura:


Exactly.

Toks2008:


Are you really a free thinker?

I don't think so...and this is exactly my stands...being a logical person rather than allow dogmatism to blind me....

You kept making refrence to my religious philosophy which was clearly pointed out in my write up but then talking about religion please was there any passage in the bible or even the Quran that points to polygamy as a sinful act? why are we so quick to use religion as a cover up?

Whoever brought that one man one woman doctrine has really caused more arm than good to that wonderful institution called marriage cos the modern women have been totally disillusioned that they are quick to run out of their marriage because their hubby cheats on them just to end up living an adulterous life with other women's husbands or as intimacy gadgets to randy single men.

Ladies really need to get their facts right....that I can cope with two women does not mean another guy can't handle 5 wives..Ladies must be prepared for this...let's stop this deceit.

Asking me to preach against polygamy as if it's a sin..smh!

pabostt:
.little wonder why most ladies naturally prefer polygamous men who can conviniently provide their needs over poor dudes who are sexually faithful to them

Op, is there any empirical evidence to back up the above claim aside the one you have watched in Nollywood?

jhudit:
Yes, there is love in sharing gonorrhoea, HIV and AIDS.
We are supposed to forget about every other thing and strive to satisfy man's libido

Toks2008:
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There are faithful men no doubt but it will be foolish for any woman to start looking for sexual faithful man upandan.

Many ladies are regretting today after leaving a man because he cheated on them just to end up with a worse man.

Lalas247:

My dear .. it's an insult to say we don't have real men who stay faithful when they are eventually married ..
So are you saying you will also cheat?
Too bad for the ladies .. too bad

pocohantas:

Very very bad. Imagine saying it's foolish for a lady to desire a faithful man, if it were me that said it now...they will use mentions to finish me. They'll tell me to change my circle.

I guess it's okay as long as it comes from a man.

Toks2008:


Are you really a free thinker?

I don't think so...and this is exactly my stands...being a logical person rather than allow dogmatism to blind me....
when I write I don't consider the right or wrong side of the subject matter but I approach it objectively

You kept making refrence to my religious philosophy which was clearly pointed out in my write up but then talking about religion please is there any passage in the bible or even the Quran that points to polygamy as a sinful act? why are we so quick to use religion as a cover up?

Whoever brought that one man one woman doctrine has really caused more harm than good to that wonderful institution called marriage cos the modern women have been totally disillusioned that they are quick to run out of their marriage because their hubby cheats on them just to end up living an adulterous life with other women's husbands or as s.x toys to randy single men.

Ladies really need to get their facts right....that I can't cope with two women does not mean another guy can't handle 5 wives..Ladies must be prepared for this...let's stop this deceit.

Asking me to preach against polygamy as if it's a sin..smh!

Benita27:
If this rubbish is coming out of you @40, then I wonder when you'll grow up.

Arrant nonsense!.

Lalas247:

My dear .. it's an insult to say we don't have real men who stay faithful when they are eventually married ..
So are you saying you will also cheat?
Too bad for the ladies .. too bad

DanXplore:
Toks2008
This is error. Trust me

pocohantas:

Very very bad. Imagine saying it's foolish for a lady to desire a faithful man, if it were me that said it now...they will use mentions to finish me. They'll tell me to change my circle.

I guess it's okay as long as it comes from a man.

Lalas247:

It is not ok .. that's why you tell the Op and be firm to hell with whoever !
It's is your opinion and we are entitled to faithful men .. nairaland is where iranu ends .. real life all these guys do not practice what they preach anyway ..
they complain about everything ! And try to force cheating as a way of life down our throats but KOLEWERK .. Toks I hope you have heard .. hopefully your wife cheats(since it's a norm) on you like er day till someone gets the dreaded HIV

pocohantas:

Leave him, he will be claiming free thinker with high IQ. That's how he keeps reiterating that rubbish that it's foolish to seek a faithful man. Endtime marriage counsellor.

Toks2008:


Which post of mine warranted this comment of yours?

pocohantas:

Leave him, he will be claiming free thinker with high IQ. That's how he keeps reiterating that rubbish that it's foolish to seek a faithful man. Endtime marriage counsellor.

Lalas247:

The whole post .. just accept you are wrong here biko
Make u no go fall finish

Toks2008:


OK please calm down and understand this.

I will only be foolish if I promote infidelity but you just have to understand this very clearly.

There are many faithful guys out there who will never imagine cheating on their wives and I have been in that shoes for freaking 12years so YES there are faithful guys out there but what if that faithful guy for one crazy reason or the other becomes unfaithful? what if a lady finds herself married to a serial cheat? what is she suppose to do?

This is the angle I want you to see my threads from and not the way you are interpreting it.

If I use the whole naira land pages to preach against sexual unfaithfulness it will not stop any man who wants to cheat from doing so and that is why I chose to write about the parliatives rather than waste my time preaching to a recalcitrant and cruel world of men.

If this does not make sense to you then I give up.

Lalas247:

It's better to give up

BiafraBushBoy:
I think the only visible way to show that you really love a lady is by doing two things.

1) Spending and supporting her financially

2) Being available for her all the time.

Dating is not for broke guys. I wonder why some guys would want to date a very classy girl... but when she request for money... they start calling her a Gold digger. lol..

If you don't want a girl that will stress your pocket... I advise you to visit your village an pick up that girl that sells food in the village square.

Toks2008:
Do you know that in the romance dictionary of women,a man's love expression is defined as "an act of care and sexual faithfulness towards his woman" and I guess I personally don't have issues with this but the question is "for how long shall we continue to lie to ourselves just to create an artificial happiness?

I watched a video file where a lady was trying to outsmart her co-debaters and she reiterated what i have always maintained that men are natural polygamist.

According to her and also n my candid opinion,monogamy and fidelity for men are unnatural situations forced down our throats by religious beliefs and societal pressures and once you take out these two factors,all men will cheat because by nature,men are polygamous and that definition of love expression above is for the women expecially that part of sexual faithfulness.

Before the ladies ask for my head,I want to point out that this write up has nothing to do with sexism,mysoginy or gender superiority but it is a fact every reasonable lady must calmly accept or be forced to accept and I will explain...

By God's grand design,sex is mainly for procreation and every other reason is Jara. Now a man can produce over 300million sperm cells in one healthy drop each time he makes love and each of these sperm cells could ferterlize 300 million female eggs but here is the catch....in most cases,a woman can only produce ONE EGG in one whole month during her ovulation period.

Frankly put,Men ovulate everyday and can conviniently ferterlize over 90 random ladies in one month if he makes love to 3 different healthy ovulating ladies each day of the month and in most cases,a lady can only get pregnant during her ovulation period and by just that one man whose sperm fertilizes that one egg or even eggs as the case may be...This means just about 40men can impregnate all the women in the world if each of the over 300million sperm cells per drop of semen is innoculated each day into different ovulating ladies.

This simple natural biological grand design of GOD is a strong pointer to the fact that men are indeed polygamous by nature and any lady who frowns at this fact is either naive,immature or simply looking for ways to remain unhappy.

So this brings me to the subject matter..."how does a man truly express his love for his woman"?

The answer is very simple...BY CARING AND PROVIDING FOR HER WITHIN HIS AFFORDABLE RESOURCES...anything else is an aberation. ..little wonder why most mature ladies of marriageable age naturally prefer men who can conviniently provide their needs regardless of their marital status over poor dudes who are sexually faithful to them

The act of sexual faithfulness from a man to a woman is a choice and yes many men including myself may choose to be but it must never be expected as a status quo or norm for everyman in love meaning if a man decides to be polygamous,the woman in his life should take fate or leave to remain unmarried and not foolishly seek for a faithful man cos by nature....there is hardly one sexually faithful man out there.

So as a lady,when next you are asked if you man loves you,don't ever judge his love by his sexual faithfulness to you but by how deep he cares for you within his affordable resources cos a man can deeply love you and still marry another lady let alone cheat on you..

This write up is not in support of sexual recklessness. A real man and a responsible one should have sexual discipline but this is one fact our ladies need to know and must be prepared for.

I definitely know this makes sense.

odinga1of:



Boss I always enjoy your write up.................kudos to you...............more elbow to your grease.

Hannysmilez:
Okay,so I don't care about what the OP is advising females to do-that's their problem,I just have one question:"Are you saying that the Bible has nothing against polygamy?" Islam doesn't,and I sure as hell don-t care either,but what you claim to be a Christian and it's funny what you're implying