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Don't know if I should call the attention of lalasticlala so that we can have more contributions.

Omo this one na abroad question o, all these naija olosho no go understand. Still recovering from the stupid ex that I left on top the shopping money she collect from my hand, na socks and shoe polish she buy for me. I no mind Eastern European or Australian babe to settle down with now.

[color=#004400] The mmoment he is in a life threatening situation and he says: "Aya ati omo wa Nile".>> "wife and kids are at home".
The feeling of responsibility. Not plastered but laid bare for a total stranger. [/color]

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greatgod2012:
Sexual fidelity is also a choice for women.
Women may not release more than one egg in a month but they can give sexual satisfaction to as many men as they want even in a day, any woman who wishes not to tow that line chooses not to, it's a choice my brother. The truth is that anyone who can't stick to the vow he made on his wedding day do not have business getting married, for both men and women alike!


Like I said up there, toto no get meter o, it's a choice for man and woman to have sexual fidelity not based on that senseless analysis up there!




#evenlifeisachoice!

" toto no get meter " ehn. couldn't you be more discreet? banana fall on ya head !

Excuses.


A woman that needs a man to make her happy will always be unhappy no matter the type or amount of men around her.


From your theory if Adam could stay faithful to eve and he didn't die then every other man can it's a matter of choice, Just stop giving yourself lame excuses.

The question shud b "how can a man truly please a woman"?.the answer is dat u can't please a woman

Young03:
For a Nigerian woman

just give her money always


that's all

BT for a Cameroonian woman

just be real to her


I don't care if u support my opinion or not

o eziokwu, just that they dont understand.

saasala:
This OP is a mad man. Follow his advice and ruin your marriage. Once I find the right woman I will stay true to her and once we get married I will never cheat.

Let me repeat again, follow this demented man's advice and have your marriage hit Olumo rock.

Mumu person.

If only your PENls will concur with your promise.

Even pastors are finding it difficult, its you mere mortal. Taa!

For me love will always be free and a comfortable. These days people think money is what brings love but the reverse is the case when you are passionate about someone you will express your love regardless of your wallet.

Most guys think romance is a sign of weakness so they harden their heart through life searching for that one not knowing she might be in front of you all along.

Sex should never be confused for love

Experience has taught me that we all know the kind of person we want to spend the rest of our lives with so there's no point settling till you do meet that person who is willing to express that love over again till death

Attention, Care and Gifts.

1. spending and providing for her which is caring and 2. being available whenever she needs you.

O.P you are on point some daft sentimental people just don't understand what you wrote. ....

Ladies always av their own ways of thinking o dey might nt reason d way dis article envisage

saasala:
This OP is a mad man. Follow his advice and ruin your marriage. Once I find the right woman I will stay true to her and once we get married I will never cheat.

Let me repeat again, follow this demented man's advice and have your marriage hit Olumo rock.

Mumu person.

oga o
But before you find the right one
You will cheat
And if you find her
You will cheat
But once you get married to her you won't cheat
Was it the marriage vow that stopped you from cheating or you felt its not right
Cause your feeling may differ from that of your brother

BiafraBushBoy:
I think the only visible way to show that you really love a lady is by doing two things.

1) Spending and supporting her financially

2) Being available for her all the time.

Dating is not for broke guys. I wonder why some guys would want to date a very classy girl... but when she request for money... they start calling her a Gold digger. lol..

If you don't want a girl that will stress your pocket... I advise you to visit your village an pick up that girl that sells food in the village square.

This is one mistake some guys make, and if they eventually get married without correcting it they start facing financial crisis which mite lead to EVANSISM.
Bro, you shouldn't let your girl think its ur duty to provide for her. You might feel obliged but it shouldn't be by force on her own part. Instead you should groom ur woman to be independent and capable of supporting you any time any how. If eventually she has a phobia for independence, then she has parents. Remember you'll still pay bride price even if you dash her your two kidneys. A lady should help her man invest, though he shud spend on her but she shud be wise. This is wat a girl who loves you will do.

If he's truly in love with you, the ordinary teasings from him will show it 100%

Augustap:
This is one mistake some guys make, and if they eventually get married without correcting it they start facing financial crisis which mite lead to EVANSISM.
Bro, you shouldn't let your girl think its ur duty to provide for her. You might feel obliged but it shouldn't be by force on her own part. Instead you should groom ur woman to be independent and capable of supporting you any time any how. If eventually she has a phobia for independence, then she has parents. Remember you'll still pay bride price even if you dash her your two kidneys. A lady should help her man invest, though he shud spend on her but she shud be wise. This is wat a girl who loves you will do.

Thanks for your opinion. I really appreciate it.

I wasn't writing about spending recklessly for her. Those special moments...

Her birthdays

and other things... you should make it memorable for her.

That was what I meant tho.

Thanks all the same.

Sacluxpaint:
If only your PENls will concur with your promise.

Even pastors are finding it difficult, its you mere mortal. Taa!

You can end up cheating but don't go into marriage with that mentality. If you cheat, let it be because the situation is beyond your control, not you wittingly doing it and robbing it on your wife's face. Thats shitty. On what foundation are you building your marriage?

Toks2008:
Are you really a free thinker?

I don't think so...and this is exactly my stands...being a logical person rather than allow dogmatism to blind me....
when I write I don't consider the right or wrong side of the subject matter but I approach it objectively

You kept making refrence to my religious philosophy which was clearly pointed out in my write up but then talking about religion please is there any passage in the bible or even the Quran that points to polygamy as a sinful act? why are we so quick to use religion as a cover up?

Whoever brought that one man one woman doctrine has really caused more harm than good to that wonderful institution called marriage cos the modern women have been totally disillusioned that they are quick to run out of their marriage because their hubby cheats on them just to end up living an adulterous life with other women's husbands or as s.x toys to randy single men.

Ladies really need to get their facts right....that I can't cope with two women does not mean another guy can't handle 5 wives..Ladies must be prepared for this...let's stop this deceit.

Asking me to preach against polygamy as if it's a sin..smh!

I'd love to maintain my oblivion for some obscure reasons but i think it's exigent, i right some of your fallacy's, misconceptions and misinformation as pertinent to Christian precept on marriage.
Please note; I'm not interested in embroiling myself in any otiose back and forth, so, I'll drop apt verses and let you make your choice.

Hebrews 13:4
4 Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.

(Genesis 2:23,24)
“a man is to leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife.” God did NOT say that man was to be joined to his “wives.”  He said that man was to be joined to his “wife.”

Ephesians 5:22
“For the husband is the head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church...”[b]  In (Ephesians 1:22,23) we are told that the church is the body of Christ.  There is only one body (Ephesians 4:4) so there is only one church.  A man can have as many wives as Christ has churches.  Christ has only one church so a man can have only one wife.  Nowhere does the Bible speak of a man (one) being over wives (many) and that being right with God. 


1 Thessalonians 4:3-5

3 It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; 4 that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, 5 not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God;

1 Corinthians 7

1 Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” 2 But since sexual immorality is occurring,[b] each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. 3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. 5 Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

saasala:
You can end up cheating but don't go into marriage with that mentality. If you cheat, let it be because the situation is beyond your control, not you wittingly doing it and robbing it on your wife's face. Thats shitty. On what foundation are you building your marriage?

Bro, if devoted and faithful men open their cupboards, you will know staying faithful is not a child's play. The best thing is just love your wife as much as you can to the extent that when that disadvantage occurs, she will look beyond it.

Toks2008:
Do you know that in the romance dictionary of women,a man's love expression is defined as "an act of care and sexual faithfulness towards his woman" and I guess I personally don't have issues with this but the question is "for how long shall we continue to lie to ourselves just to create an artificial happiness?

I watched a video file where a lady was trying to outsmart her co-debaters and she reiterated what i have always maintained that men are natural polygamist.

According to her and also n my candid opinion,monogamy and fidelity for men are unnatural situations forced down our throats by religious beliefs and societal pressures and once you take out these two factors,all men will cheat because by nature,men are polygamous and that definition of love expression above is for the women expecially that part of sexual faithfulness.

Before the ladies ask for my head,I want to point out that this write up has nothing to do with sexism,mysoginy or gender superiority but it is a fact every reasonable lady must calmly accept or be forced to accept and I will explain...

By God's grand design,sex is mainly for procreation and every other reason is Jara. Now a man can produce over 300million sperm cells in one healthy drop each time he makes love and each of these sperm cells could ferterlize 300 million female eggs but here is the catch....in most cases,a woman can only produce ONE EGG in one whole month during her ovulation period.

Frankly put,Men ovulate everyday and can conviniently ferterlize over 90 random ladies in one month if he makes love to 3 different healthy ovulating ladies each day of the month and in most cases,a lady can only get pregnant during her ovulation period and by just that one man whose sperm fertilizes that one egg or even eggs as the case may be...This means just about 40men can impregnate all the women in the world if each of the over 300million sperm cells per drop of semen is innoculated each day into different ovulating ladies.

This simple natural biological grand design of GOD is a strong pointer to the fact that men are indeed polygamous by nature and any lady who frowns at this fact is either naive,immature or simply looking for ways to remain unhappy.

So this brings me to the subject matter..."how does a man truly express his love for his woman"?

The answer is very simple...BY CARING AND PROVIDING FOR HER WITHIN HIS AFFORDABLE RESOURCES...anything else is an aberation. ..little wonder why most mature ladies of marriageable age naturally prefer men who can conviniently provide their needs regardless of their marital status over poor dudes who are sexually faithful to them

The act of sexual faithfulness from a man to a woman is a choice and yes many men including myself may choose to be but it must never be expected as a status quo or norm for everyman in love meaning if a man decides to be polygamous,the woman in his life should take fate or leave to remain unmarried and not foolishly seek for a faithful man cos by nature....there is hardly one sexually faithful man out there.

So as a lady,when next you are asked if you man loves you,don't ever judge his love by his sexual faithfulness to you but by how deep he cares for you within his affordable resources cos a man can deeply love you and still marry another lady let alone cheat on you..

This write up is not in support of sexual recklessness. A real man and a responsible one should have sexual discipline but this is one fact our ladies need to know and must be prepared for.

I definitely know this makes sense.

In Nigeria? Basically just treat her like a partner and not property.

iphunanya:
Just be real with me and we'll be fine

When you say real, you mean me having like 3 others ladies and being honest about it? Lol

there is hardly one sexually faithful man out there.

@toks2008 carnally minded sure but spiritually minded no. essense of self control i gal 5:22-23

Toks2008:
I'm sorry to break your heart.....YES THE BIBLE HAS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING AGAINST POLYGAMY....

1st Timothy 3:2 says
T"herefore an overseer must be above reproach, the husband of one wife, sober-minded, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach"....

The scripture above us where many bible scholars quote as opposing polygamy but a closer look will make it clear that it was not stated as a sin but an advise FOR GENERAL OVERSEERS but there was never a place in the bible where polygamy was forbidding and in fact many great friends of God were polygamous (Not adulterers)

The problem is that polygamy has its own complications which makes it unsuitable for some people but it is not a sin to marry as many wives as you can cater for.

*sigh*Thank you very much..Y'all religious folks won't kill me-I really never thought I'd live to see the day christians will claim that Polygamy isn't wrong
FYI,You didn't break my heart--you made mockery of your religion

Op you made a lot of sense abeg.

I don't know why lot of ladies or NLers on this thread lack understanding when they read? Just look at their comments.

Hannysmilez:
*sigh*Thank you very much..Y'all religious folks won't kill me-I really never thought I'd live to see the day christians will claim that Polygamy isn't wrong
FYI,You didn't break my heart--you made mockery of your religion

The problem with many people is their lazy act of studying the bible but would rather depend on "my pastor said"

Many people keep twisting this issue of polygamy. It is no longer news that most scriptures that refer to marriage were in singular form which depicts the original design of GOD to be one man one woman but the question is "does the bible condemn polygamy"? NO
Does God permit polygamy? YES

The question of polygamy is an interesting one in that most people today view polygamy as immoral while the Bible nowhere explicitly condemns it.

The first instance of polygamy/bigamy in the Bible was that of Lamech in Genesis 4:19: “Lamech married two women.” Several prominent men in the Old Testament were polygamists. Abraham, Jacob, David, Solomon, and others all had multiple wives. Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines (essentially wives of a lower status), according to 1 Kings 11:3.

What are we to do with these instances of polygamy in the Old Testament?

The question that needs to be answered: "Why did God allow polygamy"?

The Bible does not specifically say why God allowed polygamy. As we speculate about God’s silence, there are a few key factors to consider. First, while there are slightly more male babies than female babies, due to women having longer lifespans, there have always been more women in the world than men.

Current statistics show that approximately 50.5 percent of the world population are women. Assuming the same percentages in ancient times, and multiplied by millions of people, there would be tens of thousands more women than men.

Second, warfare in ancient times and even in present day are especially brutal, with an incredibly high rate of fatality. This would have resulted in an even greater percentage of women to men.

Third, due to patriarchal societies, it was nearly impossible for an unmarried woman to provide for herself. Women were often uneducated and untrained. Women relied on their fathers, brothers, and husbands for provision and protection. Unmarried women were often subjected to prostitution and slavery. The significant difference between the number of women and men would have left many, many women in an undesirable situation.

So, it seems that God may have allowed polygamy to protect and provide for the women who could not find a husband otherwise. A man would take multiple wives and serve as the provider and protector of all of them. While definitely not ideal, living in a polygamist household was far better than the alternatives: prostitution, slavery, or starvation.

In addition to the protection/provision factor, polygamy enabled a much faster expansion of humanity, fulfilling God’s command to “be fruitful and increase in number; multiply on the earth” (Genesis 9:7). Men are capable of impregnating multiple women in the same time period, causing humanity to grow much faster than if each man was only producing one child each year.

So conclusively,I'm not saying polygamy is good or bad but the point still remains that GOD does not call it a sin but permitted it for a reason just like GOD never intended for any couple to divorce e but latter permitted it due to the hardness of man's heart.

I repeat...polygamy may not be the original design of God for marriage just as divorce was never a plan but GOD permits these two for good reasons.

Polygamy is not for everyone due to its complications and it remains a choice for any man to make.

Godless generation promoting godless ideas. smh...

God, we were told created one man, one woman. How then is man polygamous by nature?

Hannysmilez:
I'm not sure if you wrote this as a deliberate attempt to be controversial or you really believe it.
This is a dissapointing thread coming from the OP,I know you to make sense-unfortunately,today isn't your day.
Firstly,I assumed you were a Christian from your previous posts,really shocked that you're out here justifying promiscousness-I don't care bout the fancy ass name you gave to it.
Men generate millions of sperm so they should impregnate women with it? Are you aware that women also produce eggs which they shed monthly while enduring cramps?
Polygamy isn't my problem,neither is promiscousity-my problem is with you,who is supposed to be a Godly fellow,excusing it-to the point of including God in your weak and silly argument. The same God who asked men to love their spouses as Christ loved the Church. An important part of Christ's love is faithfulness,he turned down bread even after fasting for 40days just for the church.

If you're going to be a Christian,be one with your posts as well and represent God well.
From a free-thinker,Hanny

Abeg for where in the Bible is polygamy not allowed?

BiafraBushBoy:
I think the only visible way to show that you really love a lady is by doing two things.

1) Spending and supporting her financially

2) Being available for her all the time.

Dating is not for broke guys. I wonder why some guys would want to date a very classy girl... but when she request for money... they start calling her a Gold digger. lol..

If you don't want a girl that will stress your pocket... I advise you to visit your village an pick up that girl that sells food in the village square.

The girls saling food in the village are all human.They sale the food because they have need to meet up.The classy lady,what kind of business are they doing to keep them classy? or is it the money,men keep spending on them to maintain the high class?. If we all human believe that relationship is mainly for the rich and wealthy people then some of of great-grand parent wouldn't have been a father to anyone of us.Nobody was born classy but opportune to use the resources at disposal.What can you say about a rich man with one wife and one child?and a poor man with four wife and fifty children?

Ereolamide:
You don't know if it makes sense but it's what you want ladies to know, how does that resonate with common sense.

What makes human different from animals is 'reason' or intellect, if human can use reason to better themselves: organise complex society, make laws, form religions, invent technology, adopts better lifestyle above their base nature compared to animals whose lives are brutish, fierce, and act according to caprices of their emotions without reason, then why can't man especially 21century man hold up to marital vows of marriage and remain in complete fidelity to one woman.

Wise you are not - Master Yoda.

Smart thinking

seguntijan:
Abeg for where in the Bible is polygamy not allowed?

From the creation story, God created one man, one woman. That is his ideal picture of a family. Don't tell me you doubt God's ability to create multiple women for Adam.
The fallen man, one tempted and seduced by the devil is one that embraced polygamy. Sadly while man dwelled in ignorance and darkness, God overlooked this error but light has come in form of Christ to bring us to perfect truth and henceforth those who chose to remain in darkness will no longer be condoned.
Perfection is what a christian is called to,perfection he must strive to achieve. Perfection is what was at the beginning before man fell. Perfection is that a man takes a wife, from then on they are no longer two but one (Matthew 19:6). Jesus says 'Be perfect as your heavenly father is perfect' and in another place gave a succinct warning 'Unless your righteousness surpasses that of the pharises, you shall not enter the kingdom of God'. Righteousness that foreclosed polygamy.