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ZarZar:
What the difference between what the fuckboy & the so-called guy with a good heart is doing? From where I'm standing both are no good.

lefulefu:
after the drinking and smoking..u now develop diabetes,hypertension,thickning of ur arteries in the later part of ur life who will u now blame?

kumulus:
Something must kill man....

•••No different form of death is superior!!!

kumulus:
Comprehension my dear....my bad tho, I guess you missed it where there's the full stop instead of a comma.... They both are one and same and as regards your stance, you might want to consider moving away from where you're standing and have a different view lol. It's all in the head dear...the so called fûckboys (aka alpha males) also have tendencies of getting hooked or do you think any man was born Alpha Don't try to find a guys mumu button if you're seeking commitment, just stand out...it's the same rule that drives you bonkers when you meet them and you start thinking "Oh he's so unique..." Burst his brain.... When a MAN see true qualities in a WOMAN, he knows....

••• I'd rather advise you stand out than move from your position

ZarZar:
LMAO @ pimping uncles. Abo are desperados for marriage. Nam I'm not too fond of them because most of them have a backwards way of thinking. It's marriage by all means, even if umntu akafundanga. Talk about misplaced priorities & just plain dumbassery. If she's truly from there, then I feel sorry for your brother because ngamaqaba & only champion in gqwirhy things. I hope he hears word, shame. But it won't be that much loss because your family will pay one bucket yamasonja tops

lefulefu:
ok ooo

ZarZar:
Lol, OK

Lionessza:
Lol, those EC uncles don't play trust me they are advanced pimps . I lived around many of them when I was in pta and I found them to be very difficult to relate to, too traditional , rigid and religious. Lol@ champion in gqwirhy things. You sound like my sister she's like "hay hay lomntu angasiziseli ngamagqwirha ase limps sizipholele" . Lmfao @ one bucket yamasonja. Eish , hope he listens.


I have a feeling though that this is some bs to spite the former GF. He recently bought himself his first car and now lives alone and the first thing he did was to go over to her place with the new GF who is 4 years older than him and an aspiring model . Guess to do what ? . Pick up a damn old cd

ZarZar:
Hmmm, he should tread carefully.

Mna Lioness I just don't understand them at all. I've known a handful yabo & what I've noticed is that, they're not ambitious or driven. I can't relate to that. As a person you gotta have goals & aspirations, otherwise what's the point of living? Umntu have only standard five but is doing nothing about it, that's my BFF btw. Indoda yakhe tried sending her to college to finish school, but she dropped out. That's the thing that bores me ngabo. Abafuni skolo. How far are you gonna go in life with that mindset? All they know ngaxhwele when someone is searching for a job, but they don't wanna put in any hard work to improve things. The one that's now living in the suburbs, I was avoiding her for the same reasons. It's like talking to a brick wall because caba independence doesn't come easy.

Lionessza:
Uyabona why aba they always think onke amantombaza ase mzantsi avalekile coz they date people like your friend. Yeah I've noticed they all want to be wives and be taken care of instead of putting in the work. I don't understand that mentality myself especially when you have a chance to change your life, I always say I'd rather live in peace in a bachelor flat that I can afford than live in a mansion under some dude who thinks he owns me sies. I remember I lived next door to some kwenye I flat epta central, anytime they had an interview they would go komnye umama in marabastad to give them some muthi to put phantsi kolwimi funny thing is none of them got the jobs lol.


I'm chatting with my younger cousin brother who's friends with him, and he's like ilahlile strongo lena coz the chick didn't even finish school she went straight for the modeling thing and now she's old for bookings she's looking for a meal ticket . And I hear she's my age .

ZarZar:
Oh OK, I get it.

Lol, you did the right thing. It's not a nice habit. Do you drink?

WORLDPEACE:
Yeah, I drink. I have since I've been an adult, and I've done it regularly the last 3-4 years.

ZarZar:
Yho wena!!!!! Smh. That's too bad but it's his choice, what can we say? Lol, I get jealous & protective of Xhosa guys. I want them to marry only the best, not every vobe with a skirt

WORLDPEACE:
Black American girls ish.

ZarZar:
Yho wena!!!!! Smh. That's too bad but it's his choice, what can we say? Lol, I get jealous & protective of Xhosa guys. I want them to marry only the best, not every vobe with a skirt

Lionessza:
Exactly , phofu. Lol , like most of us . Kuthwa we are biased and crazy coz we become uncomfortable when good Xhosa men date or marry elsewhere but si good ekujoleni nabani na

ZarZar:
What do you mean? Don't you feel the same way about your people?

WORLDPEACE:
No, I don't. Two of my sisters are married to Igbo people and I wish the rest will be taken by whoever. I think that feeling is a result of women thinking that eligible men are not enough.

ZarZar:
Lol, I never looked at it that way but I guess it's true. I still remember when people got angry when Mandela married Graca. Xhosa men are for Xhosa women but Xhosa women are for everyone End of story! Kikikiki.

ZarZar:
I'm not thinking about eligibility here though. I don't even know her brother, he could be a bum for all I know but I still can't help but feel protective of him

Lionessza:
Lol, I remember I was pissed too . Exactly, but there's more of us and less of them so when another woman from outside marries one of them , she's taking away from one of our sisters .


I remember when I was still a student in pta , we had this Xhosa group where we would all hangout on weekends. Funny thing is even though some of these guys were not our men , when some " other " girl joined in, the funny looks and use of deep Xhosa language would start childish I know lol. I think the attitude was more when it came to Tswana women coz they tend to look more like us and in some cases better . It was a silent turf war and we were the selfish ones coz we were busy up and down with their guys

WORLDPEACE:
Yeah, I understand. The other reason is a strong group identity. How would your Xhosa guys feel, though?

ZarZar:
About the women marrying out? I'm not sure. IDK.

ZarZar:
LMAO. That's funny. Must be a women issue then, to be so territorial of what we perceive as "ours", even though we don't live by the same rule. Kinda selfish indeed but they're still OUR men

WORLDPEACE:
Yeah, about the women marrying out.

Lionessza:
LMFAO, but in our case I think the fact that the guys rarely date other groups of women has given us big heads coz Ive noticed out of all groups of women we seem to think we should have monopoly on Xhosa guys but the reverse is not possible I blame them for spoiling us . It's like colored girls when you start dating their guys , you will be met with some fake smiles and questions about culture and religion

ZarZar:
Hahaha. Riiiight. Last week I was watching Our Perfect Wedding & this Xhosa guy was marrying a Sotho girl. I was so jealous lol. I didn't like the mix of cultures. I felt like our culture was being diluted & bastardized. But on the other hand, I don't want them lol. Confusion

ZarZar:
I'm not sure, like I said. But what most of them are fond of saying is, men that aren't Xhosa are boys Manhood is a big thing with them because they believe they're the manliest men lol

Lionessza:
Lol , I watched that too and thought there must be something wrong with that nigga why is he taking a wife from Jace . You are really confused and sick samething with a friend of mine and my cousin they claim they would never date Xhosa guys again but when they see an eligible Xhosa guy with someone else they will have some shyt to say about her lol or call him really psycho behavior.

Lionessza:
Lol , I watched that too and thought there must be something wrong with that nigga why is he taking a wife from Jace . You are really confused and sick samething with a friend of mine and my cousin they claim they would never date Xhosa guys again but when they see an eligible Xhosa guy with someone else they will have some shyt to say about her lol or call him really psycho behavior.

ZarZar:
I'm not sure, like I said. But what most of them are fond of saying is, men that aren't Xhosa are boys Manhood is a big thing with them because they believe they're the manliest men lol