I am not a marriage counselor,neither have i been married before,but i take offence when men are singled out as the cardinal culprits in infidelity.
i want to believe every human being is susceptible to infidelity,not just men alone.some try as much as possible to suppress it,others just cant.its a case for discipline.
in a generic perspective,humans cheat on their spouses for the following reasons

1]sex- this is the most reason people shy away from,it plays a very important role in any relationship.performance counts a great deal in relationships.
if [a] is a Hot dog and [b] is as warm as my morning bath water then there is bound to be problems.

2]hygiene- most people ignore this when in matrimony,thinking that the rules don't apply anymore. and of course there is a case for infections and all.i have seen a girl who thinks that her vaginal odor is normal,and i have seen a boy whose pubic hairs is as brown as the sands in the Sahara,and he thinks its normal.

3]impatience- staying committed for one person for a lifetime is one of the hardest pretense there is,people forget easily that marriage and high school romance are two different things entirely.
love fades at a point in every marriage[especially when the things that used to give you kicks in the other person is no more there].
but what sustains marriage in those instance is patience and faith in the marriage..

4]lack of faith in the marriage institution- in this age and time,where every one wants to be free,spouses still want to run their marriages as that boyfriend/girlfriend thing they had while still playing in the sands.
where,once you don't feel those butterflies again,you look out the window.
the idea of having sex with one person their whole life seems like a sentence worse than death.
[probably one of the reasons why the rate of divorce is high now].

4]lack of communication- absence of communication in marriage makes the heart grow apart. that is when the serpent usually sneaks in wrapping his tongues around the most challenging of syllables,with apples and that enchanting smiles that blossom...you get the picture.
i can go on and on and on.this crime is not restricted to men alone.its human nature,its probably the one reason why love has such a strong scent

What shud we now do

ednut1:
What shud we now do

Op is trying to tell us not to get married

ednut1:
What shud we now do

mesef, i stil dey find answers too

antieverything:

Op is trying to tell us not to get married

na for your mouth i hear am o!