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Papiikush:
Did you read the story of that banker who got sacked and start facing serious problems when his wife took responsibilities?

That's the kindda situation that awaits you when you wife a lady wealthier

PaperLace:
Like I said on that thread, that's what happens to you when you marry a wife that doesn't love and respect you.

When I see men ranting on how they can never marry a woman who earns more _because she won't respect then, I just know they are yet to experience true respect. Sadly, that's the mentality of the average man, using money to earn respect and love. Nigerians know nothing about true respect.

A woman who truly loves and respect you won't insult you because she is richer. Don't be deceived into thinking it's normal with very single woman. Some Nigerian men are only respected (pseudo-respect) by their wives and kids because of that provisional role. That's why once they lose it, the respect goes down the drain and they start blaming it on women. It's not women, you were never respected. You can't lose what you never had.

My husband's colleague was asked to resign and she started crying, you would think someone died. She was the breadwinner of her home, no one knew till that day. There are so many women like that, they love and respect their husbands _ in riches or not.

You guys will never learn. You keep using finance to lord over your wives. Some act like pharaoh when they are sole earners, that's another reason their wives deal with them once power changes hands. Women can be very patient in waiting for the perfect time to revenge. The men won't tell you how they handled power when it was in their hands, they rather play victim.

The remaining men are just unlucky to marry wives that can't withstand tough times : sometimes they are not aware _other times they are aware, but like you, they think they will forever be RICHER and the woman will forever remain in money induced servitude.

So what is the summary of the whole story?

We should go ahead and marry her hoping she wouldn't turn out negative? Pass!

I have seen cases (now I am talking about reality) where a wife take the heat on her husband because she is richer.

Love or not, a woman will remind you about her hardworks to make things work for the family and so many other bullshìt during heated moment.

My landlady back in the university owns the house and he keeps reminding her husband he can't dictate how she runs it. That doesn't feel right to me. I don't even want to end up in that kindda situation.

Yeah she might get a well paying job when during marriage and levels change FINE but I'll be dammed if some random lady become Lord over me just because she has got better financial stands.

By the way ma'am, Men don't turn themselves to lords because they take care of the family. It is their responsibility stop trying to divert from the point.

Papiikush:
So what is the summary of the whole story?

We should go ahead and marry her hoping she wouldn't turn out negative? Pass!

I have seen cases (now I am talking about reality) where the wife take the heat on her husband because she is richer.

My landlady back in the university owns the house and he keeps reminding her husband he can't dictate how she runs it. That doesn't feel right to me. I don't even want to end up in that kindda situation.

Yeah she might get a well paying job when during marriage and levels change FINE but I'll be dammed if some random lady become Lord over me just because she has got better financial stands.

By the way ma'am, Men don't turn themselves to lords because they take care of the family. It is their responsibility stop trying to divert from the point.

PaperLace:
The summary of the story is , a woman can act like she respects you because she doesn't have the financial strength to rebel. She would remain meek for years and the day she gets her financial liberation, she would rebel. Then you say it's money, not knowing she has been marking time and dishing out pseudo-respect for years.

For your landlady illustration, I can give you 10 men that treat their wives same way. Threatening to throw her out of the house at the slightest provocation. It all revolves around lack of love and respect for one's spouse.

Some men turn themselves to lords when they are sole earners, claiming it doesn't happen would be you deceiving yourself. Not when several threads on NL confirms that.

If you still don't get the summary, Lord help us.

First and foremost why will you marry a woman who isn't financially liberated? That is more like a liability to me.

You are being fallacious here ma'am.

Face the truth, women don't do well when they are financially in-charge keep trying to paint the truth to favour your gender.

Papiikush:
First and foremost why will you marry a woman who isn't financially liberated? That is more like a liability to me.

You are being fallacious here ma'am.

Face the truth, women don't do well when they are financially in-charge keep trying to paint the truth to favour your gender.

PaperLace:
People will always seen gender bias even when there is no need for it. Life must be truly difficult living with such mindset.

Papiikush:
First and foremost why will you marry a woman who isn't financially liberated? That is more like a liability to me.

You are being fallacious here ma'am.

Face the truth, women don't do well when they are financially in-charge keep trying to paint the truth to favour your gender.

Sterope:
It s natural to act arrogant when you feel powerfu whether you are a man or a woman. I don't see gender when people act like assholes because they have money. Stop trying to sound like men don't act like assholes, threatening to send a woman's back to her husband, telling her to look the other way when you cheat etc are also abuses of power.

It is human. It is nature. Deal with it, sir!

Sterope:
It s natural to act arrogant when you feel powerful whether you are a man or a woman. I don't see gender when people act like assholes because they have money. Stop trying to sound like men don't act like assholes, threatening to send a woman's back to her husband, telling her to look the other way when you cheat etc are also abuses of power.

It is also normal for people to feel insecure and see issues when there are not any when they realise that someone is richer than they are. Which basically means that some/most independent women may not be assholes but men actibg insecure.

It is human. It is nature. It is the liabilities that come with power for either man or woman. You and the OP should deal with it.

PaperLace:
My point to him was simple.
1. Lack of respect and love is what leads to abuse of power when rich, and both gender are guilty of it.

2. Some women act that way because their men were tyrannical when power was in his hands. Let's call it payback time.

3. Some women are plain wicked and materialistic.

4. Marrying a woman that he is richer than doesn't guarantee long-term (true) respect.

He couldn't get this simple point. He wouldn't get yours either.
What he saw is that I am supporting my gender. Yet he claims to be the one with understanding .

Sterope:
He is already contradicting himself. It is always a woman's fault for everything wrong with another human being.

PaperLace:
Like I said on that thread, that's what happens to you when you marry a wife that doesn't love and respect you.

When I see men ranting on how they can never marry a woman who earns more _because she won't respect then, I just know they are yet to experience true respect. Sadly, that's the mentality of the average man, using money to earn respect and love. Nigerians know nothing about true respect and love.

A woman who truly loves and respect you won't insult you because she is richer. Don't be deceived into thinking it's normal with very single woman. Some Nigerian men are only respected (pseudo-respect) by their wives and kids because of that provisional role. That's why once they lose it, the respect goes down the drain and they start blaming it on women. It's not women, you were never respected. You can't lose what you never had.

My husband's colleague was asked to resign and she started crying, you would think someone died. She was the breadwinner of her home, no one knew till that day. There are so many women like that, they love and respect their husbands _ in riches or not.

You guys will never learn. You keep using finance to lord over your wives. Some act like pharaoh when they are sole earners, that's another reason their wives deal with them once power changes hands. Women can be very patient in waiting for the perfect time to revenge. The men won't tell you how they handled power when it was in their hands, they rather play victim.

The remaining men are just unlucky to marry wives that can't withstand tough times : sometimes they are not aware _other times they are aware, but like you, they think they will forever be RICHER and the woman will forever remain in money induced servitude.

There are very rude poor women, anyone can be disrespectful _ riches is most times just a reason to exhibit those nasty traits without remorse. The rich men are not left out.

FortuneTeller:
Marriage is no longer a man lording over his wife, treating her as his property and slave. Mutual respect and compromise is the order of the day. It's best you let those old ideas go, before you end up like Lanre Gentry.

Papiikush:
Did you read the story of that banker who got sacked and started facing serious problems when his wife took responsibilities?

That's the kindda situation that awaits you when you wife a lady wealthier

Sterope:
It s natural to act arrogant when you feel powerful whether you are a man or a woman. I don't see gender when people act like assholes because they have money. Stop trying to sound like men don't act like assholes, threatening to send a woman's back to her husband, telling her to look the other way when you cheat etc are also abuses of power.

It is also normal for people to feel insecure and see issues when there are not any when they realise that someone is richer than they are. Which basically means that some/most independent women may not be assholes but men actibg insecure.

It is human. It is nature. It is the liabilities that come with power for either man or woman. You and the OP should deal with it.

PaperLace:
Hehehehe _ very typical.