Vivipop:
Engineering. My test is scheduled for the 7th of this month. Hopefully I'll be there.

Ok.

johnson232:

Hmmm....Easy with this your over confidence building...because i am not really understanding the essence of it...overdose of confidence can be destructive for a lady if not well managed...

Easy easy ooo.....& u seriously need to forget about ur past relationships....it will do u no good...trust me....

This is not my business but errrm, any downside overconfidence has is not gender specific. So just say 'overdose of confidence can be destructive for ANYONE if not well managed...'
Thanks.

Don't think am included as am just 26 and partially jobless�

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Hello folks

SPEEDEPITOME:


This is not my business but errrm, any downside overconfidence has is not gender specific. So just say 'overdose of confidence can be destructive for ANYONE if not well managed...'
Thanks.

The bold is wrong. Men & women weren't wired to share same level of confidence, else the world would ve failed. Lets approach this issue from a realistic perspective. What actually do a woman need confidence for to make it her most top priority even after NYSC? I believe after NYSC a woman should have been able to acquire the basic confidence needed to live a normal life. Now lets start with wooing, u will agree with me that 95% of guys does the wooing in every relationship that has led to marriage. I once read in this same thread how a lady was making a mountain out of mole hill because she sent a pm to only one guy & he didn't respond well....she vowed she would never send pm to guys again all because of that & a lot of people were encouraging her not to generalize....i just laughed, because this is what guys face on daily basis, & it never deters them to woo another. Sex, most guys initiate the sex in relationship at initial stage, some women do this only at the later stage. Anything u can think of, guys take the risk, & the ladies follow. So when i say a lady shouldn't make confidence building a do or die affair, i know what i m saying. What will she be using it for? We know she isn't gonna use it to woo any guy....which is the least thing any guy can do with confidence. Or do u ladies also need too much of confidence to say no to a guy's advances? i really don't think so....

Overdose of confidence for ladies is destructive because there is a thin line between overdose of confidence & pride. Imagine the instance she gave; someone tell's u how beautiful u are, courtsey demands u reciprocate with a thank u, not saying u know u are beautiful....it is just like saying he should keep his compliment to himself. Ladies should focus on building manners & character...not confidence. Because every lady will be needing much of character & manners than confidence....

johnson232:

The bold is wrong. Men & women weren't wired to share same level of confidence, else the world would ve failed. Lets approach this issue from a realistic perspective. What actually do a woman need confidence for to make it her most top priority even after NYSC? I believe after NYSC a woman should have been able to acquire the basic confidence needed to live a normal life. Now lets start with wooing, u will agree with me that 95% of guys does the wooing in every relationship that has led to marriage. I once read in this same thread how a lady was making a mountain out of mole hill because she sent a pm to only one guy & he didn't respond well....she vowed she would never send pm to guys again all because of that & a lot of people were encouraging her not to generalize....i just laughed, because this is what guys face on daily basis, & it never deters them to woo another. Sex, most guys initiate the sex in relationship at initial stage, some women do this only at the later stage. Anything u can think of, guys take the risk, & the ladies follow. So when i say a lady shouldn't make confidence building a do or die affair, i know what i m saying. What will she be using it for? We know she isn't gonna use it to woo any guy....which is the least thing any guy can do with confidence. Or do u ladies also need too much of confidence to say no to a guy's advances? i really don't think so....

Overdose of confidence for ladies is destructive because there is a thin line between overdose of confidence & pride. Imagine the instance she gave; someone tell's u how beautiful u are, courtsey demands u reciprocate with a thank u, not saying u know u are beautiful....it is just like saying he should keep his compliment to himself. Ladies should focus on building manners & character...not confidence. Because every lady will be needing much of character & manners than confidence....

So confidence is only needed for relationships? Because that's what I deduced here. Your point was centered around wooing and making advances on the opposite sex.
There's more to life than that.

SPEEDEPITOME:


So confidence is only needed for relationships? Because that's what I deduced here. Your point was centered around wooing and making advances on the opposite sex.
There's more to life than that.

Lol...I saw this coming....I had to use relationship because we are discusing this on romance section...If it were to be in politics section, i would have used a political scenerio. Likewise any other circumstance...

johnson232:

Lol...I saw this coming....I had to use relationship because we are discussing this on romance section...If it were to be in politics section, i would have used a political scenario. Likewise any other circumstance...

Now there's no such thing as political or romantic confidence, is there?
Your confidence, or lack of it, affects all aspects of your life.

SPEEDEPITOME:

Now there's no such thing as political or romantic confidence, is there?
Your confidence, or lack of it, affects all aspects of your life.

OMG! Likewise any other circumstance…didn't u read the bold part in my comment...

johnson232:

OMG! Likewise any other circumstance…didn't u read the bold part in my comment...

I want to disagree that a political confidence might not be enough to combat romance or other circumstances, they vary, one might have the confidence to rule and direct armies, but find it hard to get balanced in front of a 19yrs old Lady you in deep love with.. I think you are right.

Fkhalifa:
I want to disagree that a political confidence might not be enough to combat romance or other circumstances, they vary one might have the confidence to rule and direct armies, but find it hard to get balanced in front of a 19yrs old Lady you in deep love with.. I think you are right.

the bold is true....It varies...

Toks2008:


Don't be scared .the truth is that mist responsible and purposeful ladies of 25 and above are usually not cut out for regberegbe life...they are either engaged,busy with their life or mostly indoors which makes it even more difficult for them to mix up with great minds so this thread is basically for interaction among fairly mature minds so be free.

I agree with you

soberdrunk:
The truth is in this era of 'slay queens' and 'instagram celebs', it is very hard to find a 'single', 'beautiful', 'intelligent', 'mature' lady that is worth settling down with, 'almost' every fine girl now has the 'runs girl' mentality and even our musicians like Yemi Alade are not helping matters, what type of song is "If you love me you go buy me ferrari, if you love me, you go pay me salary"! Gone are the days when ladies used to pick their partners based on 'prospects', now its based on 'wallet', the annoying part is that even the 'working class' ladies too have also developed this 'runs girl' mentality that my man must reward me financially, as if relationship is now 'employment'

It's a pity because most ladies are not that way. Men wants slay queens, one who will walk semi naked on the road.... They fall in love with that one and then leave the unslay ones saying they have Zero social life. I have had lots of guys like that... It's very frustrating but I am living my life regardless

This relationship thing is tiring. Guys prefer slay queens and miss tourism snapping pinchure Upadan.A girl that keeps requesting for money for everything including pad, but when they find the one that isn't demanding they think she isn't exposed per say. I have just resolve to praying hoping I will meet MR RIGHT, the way it happens in Nollywood.


Pray for me

OME:

Now there's no such thing as political or romantic confidence, is there?
Your confidence, or lack of it, affects all aspects of your life.

True

reminiscing:

It's a pity because most ladies are not that way. Men wants slay queens, one who will walk semi naked on the road.... They fall in love with that one and then leave the unslay ones saying they have Zero social life. I have had lots of guys like that... It's very frustrating but I am living my life regardless

Wait o...what is your age bracket sef?

If you are below 25 then you have no reason under the sun to be worried but I would advice you focus on developing yourself and the right man will come in due time.

Let me extend a hand of FRIENDSHIP so add me to your wattsup on o8otwo3146o46

oga Toks2008 I hail o

rane06:
oga Toks2008 I hail o

Rane how u dey? oya make you sef add that number make we relate on a gentro level.

Do have a profitable day.

Someone with a kind and beautiful heart should pls show me love with a birthday cake oo. My birthday is tomorrow and my nephew's first birthday is Sunday and I've only got cake for him.
Pls help a nairalander smile on her day. Thank you

Oga toks, sharp guy. Lolsss.
How's everyone doing? I hope to get a wedding invitation from people that met on this thread o. As everybody don quiet so, e bi like say things dey go well behind the scenes.

reminiscing:
This relationship thing is tiring. Guys prefer slay queens and miss tourism snapping pinchure Upadan.A girl that keeps requesting for money for everything including pad, but when they find the one that isn't demanding they think she isn't exposed per say. I have just resolve to praying hoping I will meet MR RIGHT, the way it happens in Nollywood.


Pray for me

hmmmmmm I will pray 4 you

@ reminiscing not all prefer slay queen/peper dem gang

WenysAD:
Someone with a kind and beautiful heart should pls show me love with a birthday cake oo. My birthday is tomorrow and my nephew's first birthday is Sunday and I've only got cake for him.
Pls help a nairalander smile on her day. Thank you

Happy born day swerrie

Neroski:
Oga toks, sharp guy. Lolsss.
How's everyone doing? I hope to get a wedding invitation from people that met on this thread o. As everybody don quiet so, e bi like say things dey go well behind the scenes.

lol! don't mind these people o....be be nlo for background...and I hope so too.

Toks2008:


Happy born day swerrie

Thanks darl. Means alot

WenysAD:



Thanks darl. Means alot

You should know how to cook very well cos many ladies born within this period are natural born chef.

reminiscing:
This relationship thing is tiring. Guys prefer slay queens and miss tourism snapping pinchure Upadan.A girl that keeps requesting for money for everything including pad, but when they find the one that isn't demanding they think she isn't exposed per say. I have just resolve to praying hoping I will meet MR RIGHT, the way it happens in Nollywood.


Pray for me

young girl generally if a man wants to settle than they go for well cultured ladies .Men only go after slay queen for the fun they derive, am absolutely and 100 percent sure of what am saying .infact to really know if a man wants to settle down immediately he start discharging those slay queen for wife material.

Toks2008:


You should know how to cook very well cos many ladies born within this period are natural born chef.

Really cos that theory seems to be true
Not to blow my trumpet, I cook extremely well

Thread is coming back alive

busybeei5:
Thread is coming back alive

It was never dead but some of you are just tooooooo anti social.

Ladies forming voltron.