Hello Doctors in the house. I have a pressing issue that I want the advise of qualified medical practitioners on this great forum on. please, I really need your candid advise on this issue. For the sake of being anonymous, I had to created a new account to post this.

I'm married to the best woman in the world and we are blessed with a baby boy almost 4 years ago. I left the country and didn't return until after 3 years. We are trying to have another baby but it seems not working. We tried everything we could, yet, she cant get pregnant. My wife is very good at calculating her ovulation period and I'm not a 1-minute man either.

Now to what I need the advise on. Since the very first month after I returned, she was having some signs of pregnancy. She gets tired easily, her breasts were tender and each time she wore bra, she complained of discomfort. These are some of the symptoms she had when she was pregnant with our first child. We were happy and waiting on conducting preggy test, hoping for a positive result. Lo and behold, it was negative. We thought maybe it was too early for such test, we did the test again 4 days later, it was still negative. A couple of days later, her menstrual period came. We were devastated but we didn't lose hope.

After her period, we seek a medical advise on how to boost our chances of conceiving and we carried them (advise) out to the letter. Mind you she was still having the symptoms that I described earlier and it even got worse that she started having mild morning sickness. Fast forward, the day she was suppose to see her period came and she didn't see it. We were happy that maybe, God has finally answered our prayer only for her to see blood the following day. The period was heavy and it lasted 7 days, 3 more days than what she normally had. We became worried about the prolonged menstruation and didn't know what to do. Prior to her having the period, for about 3 days, she was having difficulties urinating. Each time she was to urinate, she experiences an excruciating pain inside her vagina for the whole period the urine is coming out and once she's done urinating, the pain stops. It went on like that until the period came and the pains stopped.

Just this month, while the pregnancy symptoms persisted, she had her period again. But this time around, the period was delayed for about 3 days. It came heavy for 2 and half day and then stopped only to return 2 days later with another round of heavy flow which lasted for 1 day. All this period, we kept on carrying out preggy tests, thinking maybe she was pregnant. We just did blood test for pregnancy today and it came out negative as well.

Doctors, please what should we do at this stage?. Its getting out of hand and I just want my wife to be OK. Even if the baby(ies) do(es) not want to come now, all I need right now is to have my wife healthy and confident again.

I know some people will say Nairaland is not a hospital, yes I know but I still want to seek opinion of different people on the issue.

Thanks.

Sorry for the epistle and please pardon my blunders.

She needs check up by a gynecologist.

Before I give my diverse suggestions,

Have you asked yourself the question I want to ask you?
For the 3years you were away from her...who serviced her?
Are you trying to tell me for the 3years nobody treated her sores?
I really doubt that.

Some tribe's deities frown against wife-adultery and offenders are punished with childlessness.
This could be the spiritual cause.

Anxiety could also be a factor....when you are so eager for something; it rarely happens and once you take it off your mind, it comes naturally.
This could be the psychological cause.

It could also be the Lord seeing your future and helping you plan. The country is in a recession, don't you think one child is good enough?
Some people don't even have any. You have one yet you are complaining.
This could be the economical cause.

When you were away from the country were you promiscuous? It's possibly you were and contracted an STI that has made you sterile.
Or you were very rough and have used up your own 15litres of Semen.
This could be the biological and physiological cause.

You can only be sure via one way.
Get a sidechick and see if you are still fertile.
Or get a trusted ally to sleep with your wife when she is most fertile..(the day her 'egg white' is transparent and most stretchy)
Either way, you'd have another child.

What's the fuss anyway? If you're so desperate, you can go to an orphanage and adopt a baby or ask your wife to visit a baby factory at Umungasi in Abia.
This is the logical option.

NwaAmaikpe:

Say it now or forever keep silent.


mrhubby, what's your wife's blood group? If your wife is having any -ve blood group, that's the cause. If Yes, PM pls I will direct you to a medical doctor who will treat her.

Also you both need to take anxiety away. Just remove getting pregnant form your mind, and enjoy yourselves during sex, it will happen.

Oga, Go and pay for consultation in the hospital for a proper check up for your wife. You might not get the right information in nairaland. Most times, doctors need to see the patient.

Good luck.

Let me engage my Dr. friends, brb

Nairaland na hospital?

polycystic ovarian syndrome. pcos

Ok

U no knw road to hospital...

Pls visit a Gynaecologist to conduct a complete checkup on her.

Meanwhile you both should keep the pregnancy plans aside for now. She's becoming too conscious of herself because she wants to get pregnant. Once happened to my friend/colleague when she had sex with her hubby who got back to the country after a 6months training.
This happened around her ovulation period and she had pregnancy symptoms; headache, increased appetite, dizziness, tiredness, no morning sickness tho and alas, it turned negative and thereafter, her period was very heavy according to her.

Could be her mind and body playing tricks on her.

1st of all wetin concern "ONE MINUTE MAN" and pregnancy



Men and Ego, SMH





BACK TO THE TOPIC......




I AV NTIN TO SAY SO LEMME JUST READ COMMENTS

ill ask google... ill be back



pple tend to come to nairaland when they feel their case is spiritual.. when ordinary google can epp u hout

All is well

Go and see a Doctor. Shikenan

Hmn. I'm sure nairalanders will provide help, but In case u did not get the answer here, go to google and type "Symptoms of pregnancy but not pregnant"

good luck.

Ain't nothing wrong with your wife. Provided you both have gone for tests and certified ok, then you have only one thing to worry about: KEEPING YOUR ANXIETY IN CHECK.

Trust me, I've been down this route before. Fact is, it seemed you were narrating my own experiences. The pains and unusually heavy flow your wife got was due to abstinence for a long period.
Her body is now getting used to regular sex, and she may not take in if you guys are so focused on the her getting pregnant, instead of enjoying intimacy with each other.
I am talking from first hand experience, bro. Most times, when a couple are so fixated on getting pregnant, it doesn't happen. But once you decide to let pregnancy be at the back burner, and rather get down to enjoy passionate and regular sex, boom! Pregnancy will happen.

Take this from a brother who learned this the hard way. And, if you plan on leaving your wife for a couple more years without sex, it could mean starting this process afresh.
Stay with your wife for at least a whole year, making love a minimum of twice weekly, and she will most definitely take in. Its not a matter of being a one minute or hundred minutes man. Your wife's hormones just needs to be juiced up with regular, old fashioned loving!

All the best. Be at rest. Ain't nothing wrong with your wifey.

Go and see your gynaecologist.

Medical profession prefers you meet a doctor privately let him examine her. It's not Nairaland issue please

She needs to go back and see her doctor for a thorough test.

Booked. Since he no concern preek or the opposite..... I gat nothing to say.

Seek professional medical help. There is so much you can get here.

The anxiety to get pregnant is too much on her that why she is seeing those symptoms in her head help her take her mind off pregnancy and her body will come back to normal