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Ladies! Pls Give Us Answers: Why Do Most Of You Gradually Become Rude? by tommychow(op): 10:31pm On Jul 12, 2017

My colleagues and I were talking today about how a lot of Nigerian females gradually become rude whether you're in a relationship, you're close friends or colleagues. We talked about how we guys can be free, crack jokes about each other constantly, be generous AND still maintain that respect for each other especially when there is clear age difference.

As a guy who wants to enjoy his friendship/relationship without unnecessary tension, you try to make her laugh, you're generous to her, you don't hold a grudge and let her wrong actions slide for peace of mind etc. With all of these acts they slowly start becoming disrespectful and verbally abusive, they start challenging your decisions and commands to form "equality", they stop becoming as helpful as before, they start giving unnecessary attitude as if they wanna see how mad you can get. They'll basically corrupt the relationship/rapport themselves and leave the guy cracking his brain, wondering how they got there.

I am not here to ask for solutions to this problem e.g. Confront her aggressively, Stop being nice to her, Buy her gifts blah blah blah. All I want to know is why girls spoil a good thing going for no OBVIOUS reason. Y'all ladies should give reasons for this come change in attitude.

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Re: Ladies! Pls Give Us Answers: Why Do Most Of You Gradually Become Rude? by professorfal: 10:32pm On Jul 12, 2017

HOEmones

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Re: Ladies! Pls Give Us Answers: Why Do Most Of You Gradually Become Rude? by ikp120(m): 10:36pm On Jul 12, 2017

professorfal:
HOEmones

My nigga

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Re: Ladies! Pls Give Us Answers: Why Do Most Of You Gradually Become Rude? by dollytino4real(f): 10:40pm On Jul 12, 2017

rude has different categories. insultive or careless talkers

Re: Ladies! Pls Give Us Answers: Why Do Most Of You Gradually Become Rude? by ikp120(m): 10:42pm On Jul 12, 2017

That's woman nature.

Once they're comfortable around you, they will just feel like the world dey revolve around their bum bum. sad

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Re: Ladies! Pls Give Us Answers: Why Do Most Of You Gradually Become Rude? by RealHaute: 10:44pm On Jul 12, 2017

Yesso. Can you believe I said "are you mad?" to pocohantas and she said "ahan...why?" back to me; instead of "yes sir. I am mad if you say so. Who am I to disagree anyway?". Girls of nowadays sef. Smh!

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Re: Ladies! Pls Give Us Answers: Why Do Most Of You Gradually Become Rude? by phintohlar(f): 10:54pm On Jul 12, 2017

ikp120:
That's woman nature.

Once they're comfortable around you, they will just feel like the world dey revolve around their bum bum.

mr eazi said so

Re: Ladies! Pls Give Us Answers: Why Do Most Of You Gradually Become Rude? by Goodlyhrt(m): 10:56pm On Jul 12, 2017

When they see your buttcrack often

Re: Ladies! Pls Give Us Answers: Why Do Most Of You Gradually Become Rude? by ikp120(m): 10:58pm On Jul 12, 2017

phintohlar:
mr eazi said so

Yeah, he did. He just put it in the simplest way possible.

Re: Ladies! Pls Give Us Answers: Why Do Most Of You Gradually Become Rude? by Ever8054: 11:09pm On Jul 12, 2017

Nigeria girls are only humble to the akant...

Re: Ladies! Pls Give Us Answers: Why Do Most Of You Gradually Become Rude? by Nobody: 11:14pm On Jul 12, 2017

If it's a relationship, you are doing something that is making her lose respect for you. If it is a platonic relationship, she probably sees him as her brother and thinks him as close, it also depends on how the man carries himself around. But what do i know, let me park and sip coffee

tommychow:
My colleagues and I were talking today about how a lot of Nigerian females gradually become rude whether you're in a relationship, you're close friends or colleagues. We talked about how we guys can be free, crack jokes about each other constantly, be generous AND still maintain that respect for each other especially when there is clear age difference.

As a guy who wants to enjoy his friendship/relationship without unnecessary tension, you try to make her laugh, you're generous to her, you don't hold a grudge and let her wrong actions slide for peace of mind etc. With all of these acts they slowly start becoming disrespectful and verbally abusive, they start challenging your decisions and commands to form "equality", they stop becoming as helpful as before, they start giving unnecessary attitude as if they wanna see how mad you can get. They'll basically corrupt the relationship/rapport themselves and leave the guy cracking his brain, wondering how they got there.

I am not here to ask for solutions to this problem e.g. Confront her aggressively, Stop being nice to her, Buy her gifts blah blah blah. All I want to know is why girls spoil a good thing going for no OBVIOUS reason. Y'all ladies should give reasons for this come change in attitude.

but op just direct the question at the women that did this to you.

Re: Ladies! Pls Give Us Answers: Why Do Most Of You Gradually Become Rude? by phintohlar(f): 11:15pm On Jul 12, 2017

If only u can give me 1 reasonable answer as to why u guys cheat even after marriage, den i'll ans ur qustn

Re: Ladies! Pls Give Us Answers: Why Do Most Of You Gradually Become Rude? by sainty2k3(m): 11:24pm On Jul 12, 2017

phintohlar:
If only u can give me 1 reasonable answer as to why u guys cheat even after marriage, den i'll ans ur qustn

Is someone cheating on you already?

Re: Ladies! Pls Give Us Answers: Why Do Most Of You Gradually Become Rude? by phintohlar(f): 11:26pm On Jul 12, 2017

sainty2k3:
Is someone cheating on you already?

na 2day already?

Re: Ladies! Pls Give Us Answers: Why Do Most Of You Gradually Become Rude? by dnoable08: 11:42pm On Jul 12, 2017

Once banana start falling on them they think they have arrived

Re: Ladies! Pls Give Us Answers: Why Do Most Of You Gradually Become Rude? by tommychow(op): 12:08am On Jul 13, 2017

dollytino4real:
rude has different categories. insultive or careless talkers

Different categories ke?

I'll combine both: Why do girls gradually become insultive careless talkers?

Re: Ladies! Pls Give Us Answers: Why Do Most Of You Gradually Become Rude? by tommychow(op): 12:14am On Jul 13, 2017

dnoable08:
Once banana start falling on them they think they have arrived

Especially when the banana is too small and cant fill her tummy...na one chance be dat.

Re: Ladies! Pls Give Us Answers: Why Do Most Of You Gradually Become Rude? by mikolo80: 10:31am On Jul 13, 2017

phintohlar:
If only u can give me 1 reasonable answer as to why u guys cheat even after marriage, den i'll ans ur qustn

cos you wanted to marry a cheater

Re: Ladies! Pls Give Us Answers: Why Do Most Of You Gradually Become Rude? by TheRealestGuy(m): 12:52pm On Jul 13, 2017

tommychow:
My colleagues and I were talking today about how a lot of Nigerian females gradually become rude whether you're in a relationship, you're close friends or colleagues. We talked about how we guys can be free, crack jokes about each other constantly, be generous AND still maintain that respect for each other especially when there is clear age difference.

As a guy who wants to enjoy his friendship/relationship without unnecessary tension, you try to make her laugh, you're generous to her, you don't hold a grudge and let her wrong actions slide for peace of mind etc. With all of these acts they slowly start becoming disrespectful and verbally abusive, they start challenging your decisions and commands to form "equality", they stop becoming as helpful as before, they start giving unnecessary attitude as if they wanna see how mad you can get. They'll basically corrupt the relationship/rapport themselves and leave the guy cracking his brain, wondering how they got there.

I am not here to ask for solutions to this problem e.g. Confront her aggressively, Stop being nice to her, Buy her gifts blah blah blah. All I want to know is why girls spoil a good thing going for no OBVIOUS reason. Y'all ladies should give reasons for this come change in attitude.

The reality is that women are like kids.

You know how kids taunt you an adult sometimes to see your reaction? It's just the same way with most females.

Once you guys have become close, they begin to test the waters to see see your reactions, though I have to admit that they may not be doing it consciously.

So it's up to the man to handle the situation as well as possible. Scold her if you have to, warn her seriously and even raise your voice if you have to. That is the only way they will respect you fully.

If you fail to man up and stand up to the occasion but always letting her get away with the little disrespects as they start, believe me it will get worse. With time she will no longer see you as man enough to be firm with her.

In as much as women want to be pampered and loved, they also subconsciously want you to be firm and scold her when you need to.

My two cents.

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Re: Ladies! Pls Give Us Answers: Why Do Most Of You Gradually Become Rude? by phintohlar(f): 2:11pm On Jul 13, 2017

mikolo80:
cos you wanted to marry a cheater

cos una write am 4 forehead right

Re: Ladies! Pls Give Us Answers: Why Do Most Of You Gradually Become Rude? by mikolo80: 2:24pm On Jul 13, 2017

phintohlar:
cos una write am 4 forehead right

yes.not our fault you choose to bury your head in the sand

Re: Ladies! Pls Give Us Answers: Why Do Most Of You Gradually Become Rude? by pocohantas(f): 2:25pm On Jul 13, 2017*

When a man changes after marriage or in a relationship.
People come out with microphones asking women why they didn't notice those qualities before accepting or asking her what changed about her. When women change, you all act clueless.

...Check yourself first, what changed about you?
She could be trying to communicate, albeit the wrong way.

...See finish is common in humans, it's why a man would be chyking you and call every second, once you accept...he won't call for 1wk.

...Lots of formalities are also cut off in a relationship. It's natural anyone would want more. I rarely hear guys telling their gfs to submit, but they request it from their wives.

...If it's none of the above, you probably got hooked with someone that hid her bad sides well. Because you and your friends experiences, doesn't account for most women i.e billions of women in the world

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Re: Ladies! Pls Give Us Answers: Why Do Most Of You Gradually Become Rude? by akaahs(m): 3:15pm On Jul 13, 2017

TheRealestGuy:
The reality is that women are like kids.

You know how kids taunt you an adult sometimes to see your reaction? It's just the same way with most females.

Once you guys have become close, they begin to test the waters to see see your reactions, though I have to admit that they may not be doing it consciously.

So it's up to the man to handle the situation as well as possible. Scold her if you have to, warn her seriously and even raise your voice if you have to. That is the only way they will respect you fully.

If you fail to man up and stand up to the occasion but always letting her get away with the little disrespects as they start, believe me it will get worse. With time she will no longer see you as man enough to be firm with her.

In as much as women want to be pampered and loved, they also subconsciously want you to be firm and scold her when you need to.

My two cents.

I can corelate with this with what happened between me ND gf, I didn't handle it well I must confess.

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Re: Ladies! Pls Give Us Answers: Why Do Most Of You Gradually Become Rude? by TheRealestGuy(m): 3:41pm On Jul 13, 2017

akaahs:
I can corelate with this with what happened between me ND gf, I didn't handle it well I must confess.

Okay bro.

You need to be firm and never let her get away with any form of disrespect.

Scold her, shout on her and make her understand that you will not tolerate any nonsense. She will feel sad but it's normal, just cuddle her afterwards and make her understand that you will not allow it no matter what.

I promise you, the make up sex no go be here o wink

But hey, on no account should you ever raise a finger on her, if you want to hit something make sure it's not her, hit the wall or ground cheesy

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Re: Ladies! Pls Give Us Answers: Why Do Most Of You Gradually Become Rude? by Nobody: 4:09pm On Jul 13, 2017

tommychow:
My colleagues and I were talking today about how a lot of Nigerian females gradually become rude whether you're in a relationship, you're close friends or colleagues. We talked about how we guys can be free, crack jokes about each other constantly, be generous AND still maintain that respect for each other especially when there is clear age difference.

As a guy who wants to enjoy his friendship/relationship without unnecessary tension, you try to make her laugh, you're generous to her, you don't hold a grudge and let her wrong actions slide for peace of mind etc. With all of these acts they slowly start becoming disrespectful and verbally abusive, they start challenging your decisions and commands to form "equality", they stop becoming as helpful as before, they start giving unnecessary attitude as if they wanna see how mad you can get. They'll basically corrupt the relationship/rapport themselves and leave the guy cracking his brain, wondering how they got there.

I am not here to ask for solutions to this problem e.g. Confront her aggressively, Stop being nice to her, Buy her gifts blah blah blah. All I want to know is why girls spoil a good thing going for no OBVIOUS reason. Y'all ladies should give reasons for this come change in attitude.

stop generalizing ..besides,respect is earned not given...have you asked yourself why she suddenly acts that way

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Re: Ladies! Pls Give Us Answers: Why Do Most Of You Gradually Become Rude? by tommychow(op): 9:22pm On Jul 13, 2017

TheRealestGuy:
The reality is that women are like kids.

You know how kids taunt you an adult sometimes to see your reaction? It's just the same way with most females.

Once you guys have become close, they begin to test the waters to see see your reactions, though I have to admit that they may not be doing it consciously.

So it's up to the man to handle the situation as well as possible. Scold her if you have to, warn her seriously and even raise your voice if you have to. That is the only way they will respect you fully.

If you fail to man up and stand up to the occasion but always letting her get away with the little disrespects as they start, believe me it will get worse. With time she will no longer see you as man enough to be firm with her.

In as much as women want to be pampered and loved, they also subconsciously want you to be firm and scold her when you need to.

My two cents.

You put it well. They're basically little girls inside meaning they naturally have that tendency to become disrespectful if given the room to be.

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Re: Ladies! Pls Give Us Answers: Why Do Most Of You Gradually Become Rude? by Nobody: 9:29pm On Jul 13, 2017

dnoable08:
Once banana start falling on them they think they have arrived

..badt nigga grin

Re: Ladies! Pls Give Us Answers: Why Do Most Of You Gradually Become Rude? by cbkingbeatz(m): 8:00pm On Jul 14, 2017

dnoable08:
Once banana start falling on them they think they have arrived

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