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Don't run away from a good fight.

Yea, don't shy away from disagreeing and demanding that you are heard before you are shouted down. It pays everybody, when you get the burden off your heart and save your heart from the poison of malice.

Also, the other party benefits from that honest outburst, because genuine feelings are well understood. The understanding sets the tone for effective management of misunderstandings and strengthening of the bond of relationships.

So, sometimes when you feel aggrieved, let out the steam but don't fail to listen to reasons and accept apologies. Every quarrel is an opportunity to talk frankly about concealed disappointments and frustrations in a relationship. And it's also an opportunity to make the relationship stronger by taking advantage of the reconciliation window. https://ayietim./2017/07/16/sometimes-in-a-relationship-a-good-fight-is-necessary/

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It would be u realistic to assume that regardless of how deeply in love you are , he/she won't do anything to make you upset or angry it's how you argue in a relationship not what you are arguing about. Not every disagreement leads to a fight it's how you handle the fact someone has a different opinion to you, and above all leave the personalisation out. Something most women are guilty off. That and carrying a grudge longer than a pregnancy!

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The mistake a lot of people make in relationships is, sweeping pains and discomforts under the carpet. They do this because they want peace, which could best be described as a graveyard peace.

A graveyard peace filled with scary bones which are giving partners nightmares, no real peace and no security. This attitude puts relationships on a time bomb, which often explodes when one partner decides not to be the fool any more. But this could be avoided. How?

By talking about everything beautiful and everything ugly, even when the ugly stuff could make someone angry. Don't you think it's okay for someone to get angry, then know the truth, apologize where appropriate and reconcile?

I believe that sorting out differences strengthens relationships but running away from it weakens relationships. What do you think?