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bro i nor badt oooo..truth be told..diz religion crisis is worse than politics oooo...do u have any idea wat goes on in the churches now?recently i heard 2 despicable stories about pastors ..a pastor poisoned the church member with acid in so called holy water so he wouldnt return the car he borrowed from the member...another Nigerian pastor again gave fake revelation to the member not to bang the wife for 2years because GOD said that is the only he will bless the guy...meanwhile the guy should be drinking the pisss of the wife once a week ..later it was discovered that the pastor only said all this so there will be no clash of preeks as he was the one enjoying the honey pot of the woman...if the ediot of a man was reading his bible as he was supposed to and not believe in pastors but the bible and GOD ..he wouldnt have fallen prey to such fuckery...as we speak now many other bad things is going on now to gullible people because of their foolishness...2days ago it was discovered in Regensburg germany monastry that for the last 60years there has been 5,546 cases of child abuse and molestation in the monastry and that pope benedict brother knew about it..in poland there was a time they exhumed skeletons of babies in a covet because Nuns will get pregnant and abort or give birth secretly and bury..tell me abeg me and them who bad pass?

mapist:
U bad abeg

first person to be informed is not your pastor but God as regards your intention to marry a sister and if God says go ahead then tell Him to guide you and how to go about it - Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding (Proverbs 3:5)

sammykess:
Dear Landers, is it morally right first to inform your pastor as regards your intention to marry a sister in the church before you approach the lady for marriage, am saying this because Most churches see it as offensive, I want sample opinion nairalanders

Livefreeordieha:
bro i nor badt oooo..truth be told..diz religion crisis is worse than politics oooo...do u have any idea wat goes on in the churches now?recently i heard 2 despicable stories about pastors ..a pastor poisoned the church member with acid in so called holy water so he wouldnt return the car he borrowed from the member...another Nigerian pastor again gave fake revelation to the member not to bang the wife for 2years because GOD said that is the only he will bless the guy...meanwhile the guy should be drinking the pisss of the wife once a week ..later it was discovered that the pastor only said all this so there will be no clash of preeks as he was the one enjoying the honey pot of the woman...if the ediot of a man was reading his bible as he was supposed to and not believe in pastors but the bible and GOD ..he wouldnt have fallen prey to such fuckery...as we speak now many other bad things is going on now to gullible people because of their foolishness...2days ago it was discovered in Regensburg germany monastry that for the last 60years there has been 5,546 cases of child abuse and molestation in the monastry and that pope benedict brother knew about it..in poland there was a time they exhumed skeletons of babies in a covet because Nuns will get pregnant and abort or give birth secretly and bury..tell me abeg me and them who bad pass?

I learnt of the Catholic gist..Tho, I'm a Catholic but nobody holy pass. We ought to give 2face an award for coining dat phrase. A classic example of gullibility na d OP's Q na..sheer MADNESS.

As for the one whose wife had been dickkkeeddd all along 2 years ..smh...i just wish people could understand that, religion is more of your actions, heart and how you treat your neighbour and NOT ur religious leader's opinion. Africa has been blighted by political cum religious backwardness. Oyibo wey give us religion no even carry am for head like us. By the way, why would i lend out my car to my priest or pastor?

It is okay. It depends who your pastor is. If he's a 'Shepherd', it is okay but if he's a 'shipwreck' pls don't.

Collyno82:
for ur mind ni. if na the one wey pastor they bleep, u sure say him go approvam

I'm speaking based on what I know

Odegbami1:
You are all mad and annoying. You people have turn man of God to God themselves. I feel like slapping you all

Hey calm down bros. We no dey fight now

Is it because I mentioned baba Adeboye?

Collyno82:
who are the pastors self? is it all those failures in their home front?. No regard for them.

Not of them are like that bro

mapist:
U have said it all.. oro oshi....i just weak for all these kind of posts sef, a swear

The thing sef weak me jawe bro

By the way, why would i lend out my car to my priest or pastor?u will do so to reap wat u did not sow in the form of miracle ...today wives respect pastors more than husbands...they call them spiritual fathers...i wonder what will happen if we start getting our own spiritual mothers ...its really sad looking for favors where its not necessary,in most churches u cant marry anyhow because the pastor man of god has turned into a constituted authority that must ok it or u will be suspended or probed

mapist:
I learnt of the Catholic gist..Tho, I'm a Catholic but nobody holy pass. We ought to give 2face an award for coining dat phrase. A classic example of gullibility na d OP's Q na..sheer MADNESS.

As for the one whose wife had been dickkkeeddd all along 2 years ..smh...i just wish people could understand that, religion is more of your actions, heart and how you treat your neighbour and NOT ur religious leader's opinion. Africa has been blighted by political cum religious backwardness. Oyibo wey give us religion no even carry am for head like us. By the way, why would i lend out my car to my priest or pastor?

mapist:
Tiri Gbosa + my bae for one week for you...pastor fire.

Guy, you no well o. Just tiri gbosa go dey okay for your guy na. Adding your bae on top goes against the guys code.

It baffles me when some people go to meet pastors to check if the lady is the right future partner. Is it d pastor that will live with her or you. some pastors have broken many homes and relationships all in the name of "I hear from God" or God said".If you go on your knees and pray God will direct you.

That will be a child getting married, no mind of your own. Most ardently religious people are childlike in thinking anyway,that is why they are the way they are.

Benita27:
Is it the pastor you want to marry or the girl?.

dont mind the clown, he needs deliverance

Benita27:
Is it the pastor you want to marry or the girl?.

If you are a genuine christian who wants to remain in God's will,it is necessary.Younmust also be of the pastor.If marriage is like a car that you can abandon and buy another one,then no necessary but as a life time commitment, very important.

SlayQueenSlayer:
Guy, you no well o. Just tiri gbosa go dey okay for your guy na. Adding your bae on top goes against the guys code.

Na over joy do me o

Livefreeordieha:
By the way, why would i lend out my car to my priest or pastor?u will do so to reap wat u did not sow in the form of miracle ...today wives respect pastors more than husbands...they call them spiritual fathers...i wonder what will happen if we start getting our own spiritual mothers ...its really sad looking for favors where its not necessary,in most churches u cant marry anyhow because the pastor man of god has turned into a constituted authority that must ok it or u will be suspended or probed

Lmao @ spiritual mother . I ll reap spoilt maize like that man who reaped a used wife .

You are right bro. We are too centred around unconventional ways of providing solutions to our challenges, hence the quick way out - pastors telling them what they want to hear and not what they need to hear. God knows, a week b4 my marriage by His grace, i ll personally counsel bae all over again especially against these evil men called prophets of doom.

MissRaine69:
OP looks behind
Yep that's all me

You try oo

Inform pasor before informing your partner? Ok, go ahead inform your pastor and maybe when you ask her, she will say no, then what will you do? Guy, propose to your chick and if she say yes, make arrangement to see the family. All these pastors are glorified men of God who should only be informed when you are fixing a date for the wedding.

sammykess:
Nice One, I don't know if it's biblical, because they will tel you that you must follow biblical standards. It's like this, the pastor will confront the sister with a mask identify of the brother and see if God has reveal the name of the brother to the sister

I'm sorry but there's no place in the bible where law of marriage is given as doctrine ... God made it a cultural thing as long as it does not violate the standards of God. no pastor has right to tell you to follow any laid down principle or rules like you mentioned above. most people REVERENCE pastor more than God. have you checked your Bible to find out what God says about marriage abi you think your pastor knows better.
if you like her tell her straight if she likes you great...plan together then for courtesy's sake tell your pastor. if he gets annoyed that you should have told him before making a move then you know its out of selfish reasons he's doing so. he can't make law for God where God has not made any!

jaszplus12:
I'm sorry but there's no place in the bible where law of marriage is given as doctrine ... God made it a cultural thing as long as it does not violate the standards of God. no pastor has right to tell you to follow any laid down principle or rules like you mentioned above. most people REVERENCE pastor more than God. have you checked your Bible to find out what God says about marriage abi you think your pastor knows better.
if you like her tell her straight if she likes you great...plan together then for courtesy's sake tell your pastor. if he gets annoyed that you should have told him before making a move then you know its out of selfish reasons he's doing so. he can't make law for God where God has not made any!

Wipe the pastor sef if he gets vexed

Abeg, i remember one time my friend who was about to wed (now married) was attending marriage counselling sessions with hz wife to be, counseled by an "unmarried and single brother in church".

Now, tell me how that adds up.

sammykess:
You know quiet well churches are guided by laws, some are biblical and others are self driven...

see Rom14:23 says whatever is not of faith is sin...what does ROM 17:10 say? faith comes by hearing the word of God. that means any law made by any church that's not found in the Bible is wrong and only made to accommodate the desire of the founders of that church. that's the reason you hear pastors telling you God "told" them...you will be too scared to question that won't you? that's how they trap people! do a survey and see.

Arccangel:
You try oo

Op shrugs

So you will not propose if you don't have a pastor.

Proposing to a church can be exasperating.

Which pastor did Abraham consult before taking a wife for his son Isaac? The marriage in Cana, Jesus was invited to and he
changed water to wine, was he consulted before the groom picked his bride? Finally, how many pastor approved partners have landed in divorce, adultery, domestic violence and couple incompatibility?

jaszplus12:
I'm sorry but there's no place in the bible where law of marriage is given as doctrine ... God made it a cultural thing as long as it does not violate the standards of God. no pastor has right to tell you to follow any laid down principle or rules like you mentioned above. most people REVERENCE pastor more than God. have you checked your Bible to find out what God says about marriage abi you think your pastor knows better.
if you like her tell her straight if she likes you great...plan together then for courtesy's sake tell your pastor. if he gets annoyed that you should have told him before making a move then you know its out of selfish reasons he's doing so. he can't make law for God where God has not made any!

Thank you Brother!

mapist:
Lmao @ spiritual mother . I ll reap spoilt maze like that man who reaped a used wife .

You are right bro. We are to centred around unconventional ways of providing solutions to our challenges, hence the quick way out - pastors telling them what dey want to hear and not what they need to hear. God knows, a week b4 my marriage by His grace, i ll personally counsel bae all over again especially against these evil men called prophets of doom.

terrible.. But Bro I wish all the best ooo... The day my wife will try it.. May God save the queen..

@sammykess I guess where many are getting it wrong is that every "man" ought to have people they are accountable to. This people may be prayer partners, pastors, mentors or discipliers. Marriage is not just a child's play and in the multitude of counselor there is safety. After you must have prayed, it's good people around you confirm as marriage is more than seeing a beautiful girl. So many people have been saved from disaster through counseling where it was discovered the man was married with two kids in another state.

tosyne2much:
All this "I need my Pastor's validation before I propose a woman" is bullcrap. And I see that only people with insecurity issues are usually fond of involving their pastors in things that can practically be solved with common sense

Some will even tell you according to their doctrine, your pastor is responsible for wooing a lady on your behalf. Soro niyen?

Baba Adeboye said, shine your eyes when picking a wife and never let any pastor recommend a wife for you. He said the highest a pastor can do is to counsel you. Finish!!!

I feel it's guys that are close to the pastor that decide to tell him first. Because i don't see any reason telling the pastor that you are interested in a sister.
In my church, after you propose, u register for marriage counselling. That is where they get to know the couple and counsel them.
The only reason the pastor can kick against it at that point is if the man does not have a job or he feels they do not know each other well enough. In that case, they can postpone.

what has pastor got to do with the relationship of two grown up adults?
only in backward Nigeria

Organs:
I can swear your money is in MMM cos by their mumuness we shall identify them, praise thy lord...

I forgive you, for you know not, neither do you understand.
Your speech reflects your level of knowledge.

May God bring you to the point of an encounter.

You think it's by beauty, brain, money or sensual wisdom that a home is built. Except the Lord build a house, they labour in vain that build it. Except the Lord watches over a city, the watchmen stay awake in vain. Beauty is vain, money without direction leads to penury.

Bible says, follow those whom through faith and patience, obtained the promise.