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yhemster:
Finally and finally, Mercy pulled a #Tiwasavage on her husband.
Personally, I've been following the trends of Nigeria ladies in a bad relationship/marriage from personal experience and the news out there. At this juncture, I'll say that Yoruba ladies are bad losers. Breakup with them while dating they automatically hate you more than the devil himself, not to even mention divorce.
For example, we all know what Tiwa savage said during her marriage saga abt her husband using class 1 illegal drugs. Mercy Aigbe too have done her own. She just informed the world that her husband was locked up for 7 months. Also, y'all should go back to read all what the ex-wife of Freeze (CoolFM) told the world abt her husband etc.
On the contrary, Tonto Dike just her swing of the marriage saga going on. I never read anywhere she blackmailed her husband or his business (I believe the guy na scammer, let leave that for another day) beyond what is known already by the public. Same for the ex-wife of Franklin Ubi (MMMG), I didn't read anywhere she blackmailed her husband despite the turmoil in the marriage etc.

My point is this, the children of Mercy Aigbe are known by the world as "kids of ex convict" likewise the children of Tiwa Savage are now "kids of Drug users" etc. The truth is that the world doesn't forget and they use everything to bring one down when they can, I hope these kids get lucky and they don't have to bear this burden in the future. Nigeria ladies and gentlemen, please be careful of what you put out there, none of it can get deleted permanently.

Please, feel free to prove me wrong. Your opinions are important too.

Mercy Aigbe is not Yoruba. She's Edo. No need to tribalise this.
Meanwhile, Tonto's interviews are also everywhere with claims of being assaulted, constantly treating STIs given to her by her STI infested husband, oh and how he was broke always who spent her money. Not that I believe most of her interview anyway because she is also known to love her ganja.
So need to tribalise this please

myking95:
Reminds me of one of your kind. Was faithful to this dam throughout the whole relationship only to be repaid by being infected with an std. And because she knew I loved her deeply... She tried to dismiss it like she doesn't know....two slaps and she adjusted. Wasnt proud about it tho, didnt go to church for a whole month..guilt no gree me, but then. That was the first day I hit a woman....and the day I learnt to never let them into my life. Some of u females have nothing to do in life other than to mess up yourselves and anyone whonis not smart to keep his distance. Some of you are quite amazing too. I didn't know whether to gt hurt at being cheated on, lied to or just realizing that this dam doesn't even care if she destroy's me.
I'm against domestic violence or even hurting another human, but somethings people (both male and female, especially females) do to bring out the devil in a good person..

Just as I said.
SmartMugu

FortuneTeller:
Just as I said.
SmartMugu

@FortuneTeller, what have I done again this time?

martyns303:
This is going to be long, I hope you endure to the end.

I know what I am about to say will be controversial and not "politically correct", mostly for the feminist and others. I expect a lot of backlash, abuse and calling of names, it is a burden I am willing to take on.

I expect everybody to come here and call this man names, he's an animal, a coward (I agree on this), woman beater and all sort just to be accepted. But I have decided to share a different opinion.

First, people don't just go about attacking other people, not a woman you are married to, not the mother of your children, even mad people don't frequently attack people at random.

The thing is everybody have a breaking point, no matter how much you try to endure and try to be the better person, there comes that point you just can't take it.

Have I hit a woman b4? Yes, twice. It is not something I am proud of, I feel ashamed of myself afterwards. Now I have had my fair share of relationships but one stands out and I pray no man finds himself with a woman like that. This girl's words are venom, she rain abuses at the slightest provocation. If anyone knows me outside NL will know that I am extremely quite, an introvert and avoids confrontation at all cost.

If we agree to meet somewhere and she gets there before, am dead. No matter the reason, she will call me and start abusing me, in fact if you are to hear her, you will call me a fool for staying with that kind of person. But she is not always like that, when she's not angry, she's one of the nicest person ever. Well educated and from a decent home so there's no indication that she will be like that.

The first time I hit her, we went to buy something together at the market. We ended up having a different opinion about an item and that was when she got angry, she started abusing me right there in public. It was as if the ground should open and swallow me, I was so embarrassed I decided to leave and go home. When she got back, she started yelling at me for leaving her behind at the market and the abuses begin. At that point I lost it, already am fuming from the market incident and now this, she has said worst things to me before and I simply walk away but this time I don't know what happened and I slapped her. Of course I apologized and begged and we got back to being normal, I noticed the abuses even stopped for sometime.

Now I don't want to mention what happened the second time, because not even a pope would have been able to handle the situation. At that point I ended the relationship.

Am i going to mention the times she gets angry and begin to damage my properties? Anything she gets her hands on she will destroy it. We all heard about Tonto Dikeh damaging properties worth millions of Churchill's.

The ultimate question is, why didn't I just leave the relationship, answer is, beside her bad moments she's a nice person. Plus I had to endure to keep up the relationship. Now it would be even more difficult for married people.

I am no way encouraging physical abuses by men, but before you crucify the man, have you considered what the man has been through?

No man should raise his hands on a woman, however we shouldn't be quick to throw the men under the bus either. This man is languishing in prison, some of us wouldn't have been able to walk half a mile in his shoes.

May God give us all compatible partners.

Your story is very touching and I can attempt to put myself in your shoes.
About you hitting her or beating her up, that's wrong in my opinion. Females are delicate beings, they may frustrate you to a point where you'll feel like strangling them, but what you need is to apply some level of your maturity and understand youre dealing with a woman.

I understand how guilty you feel for ever hitting a woman, I have the same guilt till this day. Over 20 years ago, I got in an argument with this lady I was messing with, she slapped me first and I slapped her next. Till date, whenever people talk about how they haven't hit a woman before thier entire lives, I just stay silent because I slapped that lady back real hard after she slapped me first. I guess I'm gonna just deal with that guilt till I die because I can't take the slap back. I just regret doing it and it's been more than 20 years ago. I wish I could find her again to just apologize for my actions back then even though I know she triggered me into doing that.

What you're going through is not new. Start off by focussing on yourself. Focus first on if you think you have issues with controlling your temper. If you don't have any problems with that, then let's look at the next steps.

Some women have this mentality that make them want to reduce you to a point where they're not with you anymore, they don't want you to be useful to any other woman. They'll be glad to watch while you lose everything you're worth. Is that what you want for yourself? I'm sure not. My advice to you is to stay strong, rebuild yourself, prove her wrong with your achievements, and replace her with someone that will stick with you through thick and thin. Then she'll realize she lost a gem. It's hard because that's someone you love, but it takes two to tango, it's no point loving someone that doesn't love you back.

Just my 2 cents.

FortuneTeller:
Just as I said.
SmartMugu

That wasn't about you. It was about the person I quoted. I said he was likely a woman beater and what he wrote proves that he is.