@hopeonGod, this is serious ohh!!! For a man to be in a woman's bondage it's not always physical. What I will advise you is to go on your kneel and pray. PLEASE PRAY that God should free your husband from the bondage of the woman he's in. If you have the strength you can fast for 3 days like say break by 12pm because you are breastfeeding. MIDNIGHT PRAYERS DO WONDERS TOO.I pray God will give you back your husband. Please don't fight the woman ohh!!! This is a spiritual battle and it's only God that can help you. You are in my prayer sis.

thank you everyone...
@alphahandmaiden,,na naija we dey, I just start my own life, the thing that will expose them is near, I doubt if the establishment can last...
@tinutunde,,I don't know how to send pm..

jazzyjazz,,dis woman is saucy ehn,,,she once told me that"ehn u hv not seen the other side of me ooo" without any prior discussion...

I was telling her about the roster and trying to explain things to her since it is a new place,,,she said if I can't do it is not by force...
me dat am managing before..

U ain't going anywhere o..As the mama above me said yes its not ordinary. please pray hard esp at midnight where everywhere is quiet, give out charity with this intention in ur mind. As ur monika says continue to put ur hope, faith and trust in God he will definitely bring ur dh back home where he belongs.. Stay strong 4 ur lo

cc hopeonGod

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just made potatoes puree with titus fish and egg yolks together and she is eating it oooooo. but it's taking hours to finish . but she enjoys it anyway. thanks to all mamas. pls if u av another kind of food for Babies pls tell me . let me try it too

Giddyperson:
Hope you give her water cuz I was told at the hospital that once you are giving formula you must also give water to avoid constipation. Don't know about aptamil but I'd help you mention mamas that have experience with premies. Cc Yesitsme liftedhands

My pediatrician advised we used NaN other than any other formula but I used sma. keep giving her enough water, I mean enough to avoid constipation. That's the only solution I know. Don't make it too tick

suzy:
just made potatoes puree with titus fish and egg yolks together and she is eating it oooooo. but it's taking hours to finish . but she enjoys it anyway. thanks to all mamas. pls if u av another kind of food for Babies pls tell me . let me try it too

How many month is she? Please let her take her time ohh. No rushing when feeding babies. Sometimes you take more than an hour sef.
I have some new recipe alert. Full of protein. Let me try it first then I will come and share

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@hopeongod, park your load and do wetin? No way dear Sis, that's your home and you would go no where. Now is the time to drop any pity party, now isn't the time to ask what went wrong and fight for your home spiritually. Is there anything to hard for God to do? Your answer should be your drive. My dear, fortify yourself with prayers, prayers and more prayers. Pray without ceasing. Pray with forgiveness in your heart, pray with the achievement of your goal in mind. Pray my Sister PRAY. God bless you.

hopeonGod it is well,him going back is enough to tell you it's not physical ,prayer is the only solution cos he doesn't know himself now. It will end well in Jesus name,Amen.

Akorkor:


How many month is she? Please let her take her time ohh. No rushing when feeding babies. Sometimes you take more than an hour sef.
I have some new recipe alert. Full of protein. Let me try it first then I will come and share

my dear we are 7months .she does not like baby formulas .

Hopeongod, so sorry for what you are passing through. You brought me out grom my peeping mode.
For how long has this been on?
I will say give it time, if not for anything to satisfy your conscience that you did try to keep your home. While at it, pray and involve close christian sisters to uphold you in prayers. Then try to have a talk with him to tell you what he really wants. If possible let this be done in the presense of family members. After this, you can take it from there.

Guten abend. Wie gehts?

jazzyjazz:


I'd say you should ignore

I worked with a woman once. And I had to resign after 3 months. She was great at paying salaries early but she knew how to abuse ones generation and you will never close on time and you dare not resume late for work!

We used to resume at 8am and closing time that should be 6pm used to be between 8 and 9pm! I used to get home at midnight as I was living in nasarawa and working in Abuja. Every morning I have to leave my house at 5.30am to beat the traffic.

I studied linguistics/german and I worked as her office admin. She needed me to handle her accounts and I stated clearly to her on the interview day that I have no background in accounting. She said she'll teach me she it won't be an issue. The first month she did the balancing of accounts at the end of the month. The second month I did the balancing but with her husband pointing to what I should do
The third month, I tried on my own, everything added up but I had mixed up the calculations somewhere and I tried to get it right for 2 hours. When I wasn't making any progress, I went to ask her for help and she exploded on me saying "you're useless, you're very useless. I'm just wasting money on you. You have made me loose lots of money. All my customers are complaining about you. Common balancing of account you can't do"

All these she said in front of her 3 year old daughter and junior staff.
I kept quiet, dropped her laptop, picked my bag and left the office that day. I got home and cried my eyes out!

The next day I dropped my resignation letter and I dropped 2k which she claimed was missing from the account!

4 months later after I'd gotten a better job, she called me and was like "jazzyjazz, why did you leave us? Did we offend you? I politely said no as I was in no mood for long gist" then the husband calls me few days after and asks the same question. And was like I'm sure you've gotten a job now, I know you're a bright girl and you no de dull".

Just ignore her. And pretend like you don't know
She's vexed that she's lost the only experienced and intelligent nurse that she employed

@hopeonGod This is really a sad story, and I pray you find the strength and it ends with what will be beneficial for you.

However I need to say, because she is older and he moved in with her doesn't necessarily mean it's spiritual, I know as Nigerians we like to believe most things are spiritual but that's not always the case. It could just be what it is.

He might have met her and fell in love with her etc, and truth is prayer is needed, also proactive step is needed.

Divorce and leaving him alone MIGHT be better for you, it might not be and things work out at the end. However the sad truth is not all marriages work. So while you pray and talk to his family to talk to him, also have a conversation with him and see what he says and his body language it might help point out if he is under the influence or not, let him explain to you etc, also prepare yourself that that might be the end of the marriage, as we don't know if your husband as being faithful to you from day 1, or if has always cheated and just decided to move in with this one. And am sorry but even having a newborn baby doesn't stop some men or make them stay etc. especially if he has checked out of the marriage emotionally before the baby was born.

Start to plan for the future without him incase it doesn't work and move on with your other life, you have just 1 daughter so remarrying won't be too difficult.

Pray that if he is better for you and it's spiritual he comes back, and if he isn't better for you, God gives you the strength to heal and move forward.

Am sorry but it's not always spiritual.

I must say again, this is a really sad story, being abandoned with a new baby and no explanation nothing nothing. I can't even begin to imagine your emotional state.

I won't be surprised if you are depressed. To start praying doesn't have to be long, it could be a sincere deep one sentence prayer for a start or a cry etc. or just starting with God help me, Or God give me the strength and you gradually improve the prayer.

The importance of prayer can't be overemphasized

HopeonGod, I'll jst say my mind. If he was a gd father that is, providing upkeep and helping b4 he decided to elope, ahnnnn, I'll remove wrapper and bra n pray better mid nite prayer buh if he's a nagging husband, flirts and does not perform his fatherly duties, omo, I go jst use toothpick dey Comot meat from my teeth. But, I must table d matter b4 his n my family members dt he must provide upkeep ( I don talk my own).

It might not be love but he is gaining from her. Ie finance etc and finance is a great motivating factor. And he doesn't have worry about responsibilities etc

How about you write to nursing council, then make a copy to medical and dental council. Let the doctor in charge explain his malpractice to both councils. Better still, weite lagos state hospital management board, its beside lagoon hospital at cms, they regulate hospitals in lagos (im assuming this is in Lagos.

portable4real:
let me come and rant here please.. Am feeling upset and feeling like confronting my boss.

I was offered a job at a private hospital last month...on getting dia I realized am d only nurse cos dos people d MD called nurses are actually not Registered nurse,,,and is one of them that is d head.. see my life after 9 good years in the university..

I realized our pay is just a chicken change difference... see my life outside on top am tired of staying indoor....
The practice there sef am not comfortable with it cos I was not trained to practice like a substandard Nurse. This people have been tot various methods of doing things that is not standard....if I talk they will tell me that is how they run dia own thing....

if am doing things d way I was taught D boss will say am wasting resources... I pity d px...

so many things to mention but few....

I managed to finished d One months, collect my salary and left...naso d woman started saying all sort about me,,, In short she was hurt that the only registered nurse she has Left. but why is she saying things that are not true about me

she was saying she regret paying me salary,, dat fresh graduate thing is still running in me, I don't know what labor market is saying,, before I left one of d staff committed a blunder and she didn't even make enquiry on how it went,,now I left d place she was screaming I was d one,,,have been hearing all sort she was saying from her doc and other staff....

I learnt she was cursing her children and not me...
This life sef....let me stop here for tonight.sorrh for the long epistle

onegai, alphahandmaiden, zaynie, liftedhand, enque, jazzyjazz, chanbaby, and all sabi mama please help out...

Wonderful mothers. Please what other diaper can I get for my baby a part from molfix. Please pampers is out of it. I will to try another type because just noticed like a patch on my baby's upper thigh.

Giddyperson:
Hope you give her water cuz I was told at the hospital that once you are giving formula you must also give water to avoid constipation. Don't know about aptamil but I'd help you mention mamas that have experience with premies. Cc Yesitsme liftedhands

I do give water in between meals....i got the aptamil today...she seems to like it. Let me watch her stool.

Liftedhands:
Continue on the pre nan! I hope you are not making it too thick? Follow the instructions on the can.

Give small water after every feed.

I'd also like to know your feeding routine if you don't mind.

I followed the instructions....30mls to one level spoon. And I give little water after feedng. I bought the aptamil though. Thnnkng of usng 40-50mls for one spoon.
I feed every 3hrs

BlackFTM, infact I noticed some bad rashes on both sides of my son's thighs too, infact molfix leaks so badly now in just a few hours, one mama talked about babyhugg, anoda Nigerian Pampers. I would try babyhugg when this molfix finishes.

drcynthia:

I followed the instructions....30mls to one level spoon. And I give little water after feedng. I bought the aptamil though. Thnnkng of usng 40-50mls for one spoon.
I feed every 3hrs

Please use one scoop of Aptamil to 30ml, you'll be amazed at how your baby will be glowing. What I do is make the food on demand ( i make 120ml, if she finishes it, then make an additional 30 - 60 mls for her). My baby is 10 weeks now and only on formula. She finishes one aptamil in 6 - 7 days max. She takes water only when having hiccups. Even though aptamil is a bit expensive, we are impressed with her growth. She poops once a day or every other day and she is super active and smart.

hunniesuzie:
Guten abend. Wie gehts?

Es geht mir gut. Un dir?

blackFTM:
Wonderful mothers. Please what other diaper can I get for my baby a part from molfix. Please pampers is out of it. I will to try another type because just noticed like a patch on my baby's upper thigh.

Try little angel

Abiagirl777:


It is subsidized by shell/Mobil oil companies not free.It'd better to use their health scheme which almost everybody uses which makes it cheaper,its #10k for one person though you'll pay for one other person of your choice(mandatory),which means you pay #20k which covers your(2ppl) health bill for one Yr in whatever issue including childbirth.
The downside is the crowd but you get to meet qualified personnel at a cheap rate.
If you live around Eleme,Eneka,oil mill,Rumukwurushi area,they have their 2nd branch at Rumukwurushi roundabout just beside Genesis fastfoods which a lot of ppl are unaware of but there's less crowd there.

Ok. Thank u. I will check them out

jazzyjazz:


I do the old school type of sterilizing which is to boil the feeding bottles for 5 mins

Lol. Nice one. Not sure I'm that efficient [quote][/quote]

blackFTM:


I use milton sterilising tablets which is a cold water sterilization method. I discovered and was told that boiling or using boiled water for bottle spoil the teats. They change colour and they become weak ovee time.

Thanks!

Liftedhands:
Chai the day my son will sit down and eat from a plate like this ehn? I'm sure I'll do double back flip.

We either run around the whole house both of us covered in food or he flings the plate to sambisa.

Good job you've done with Pristine weldone mama.

Thank u mama.the spirit of the lord was with us today.hahahahaha.other days na 1hour we dey carry chop.
I understand perfectly.ekene na my baby elder brother.

It is well with us mothers

hotmomma:
BlackFTM, infact I noticed some bad rashes on both sides of my son's thighs too, infact molfix leaks so badly now in just a few hours, one mama talked about babyhugg, anoda Nigerian Pampers. I would try babyhugg when this molfix finishes.

i would have recommended Babyland, it's superb but it's very scarce now, but u can check to see if u can find it
Babyhugg is great too, that's what we are using presently.

cc BlackFTM

hunniesuzie:
Guten abend. Wie gehts?

me sef can 'spoke' german o

Your last update is scary Jina24 hope u guys have changed your doors