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IamLovely:
oga you wanna trust we ladies right

Keep the relationship then, until she poo on your face..




She is changing cos she doesn't want you any more and someone better is already around..


Or is that how her attitude was before now

indeed you are a lady

Hv passed that stage that op is right now

beetown:
Hello Guys.

This will be the first time I'll be asking for relationship advice on here since I've been on Nairaland

I've been dating this girl for some months now,I really love her a lot but she has some issues

Lemme explain, when we started dating she was the perfect girl until after about a month, I noticed any time she was with my phone she would go through my WhatsApp. Any time I confront her about it she'll accuse of me of cheating and hiding things from her and because of the that we had a big fight, I tried calling her to apologize but she avoided my calls,it was not until she got into a fight with one of her friends because she was checking his WhatsApp that she apologized and we settled.
Now to the latest,I observed that she loved reporting every little issue we have to my friends,which I don't like (I like my privacy) she actually reported our relationship to a friend of mine who I'm not in talking terms with, in the course of the guy trying to intervene, he insulted me so much, he called me a liar so many times and I couldn't do anything cos my girlfriend was the one who involved him. After the chat I got in touch with my girlfriend and told her politely that I didn't like the way she carried our relationship issues to my friends, that my friends' girlfriends never reported their issues to me they way she did to them and she exploded, she called names,she started crying saying I should give her space because I'm making her regret getting into the relationship. Now she hasn't answered my calls since then.
She doesn't respect me at all,she makes me feel as if I'm maltreating her, she doesnt take anything i say and does anything she sees fit. please should I continue with the relationship or not.

PS: she's the only daughter of her family, could it be the reason she acts like this?

Here's your answer

beetown:
Hello Guys.

This will be the first time I'll be asking for relationship advice on here since I've been on Nairaland

I've been dating this girl for some months now,I really love her a lot but she has some issues

Lemme explain, when we started dating she was the perfect girl until after about a month, I noticed any time she was with my phone she would go through my WhatsApp. Any time I confront her about it she'll accuse of me of cheating and hiding things from her and because of the that we had a big fight, I tried calling her to apologize but she avoided my calls,it was not until she got into a fight with one of her friends because she was checking his WhatsApp that she apologized and we settled.
Now to the latest,I observed that she loved reporting every little issue we have to my friends,which I don't like (I like my privacy) she actually reported our relationship to a friend of mine who I'm not in talking terms with, in the course of the guy trying to intervene, he insulted me so much, he called me a liar so many times and I couldn't do anything cos my girlfriend was the one who involved him. After the chat I got in touch with my girlfriend and told her politely that I didn't like the way she carried our relationship issues to my friends, that my friends' girlfriends never reported their issues to me they way she did to them and she exploded, she called names,she started crying saying I should give her space because I'm making her regret getting into the relationship. Now she hasn't answered my calls since then.
She doesn't respect me at all,she makes me feel as if I'm maltreating her, she doesnt take anything i say and does anything she sees fit. please should I continue with the relationship or not.

PS: she's the only daughter of her family, could it be the reason she acts like this?

It's either you are a female hiding under a male monicker or you aren't man enough.

Real men don't keep malice.

They settle their misunderstanding with a bottle of bear or woman

Draei:

Is this even a relationship? mtcheeeew!

Can you ever be nice a Lil with your comments
Dra it's a relationship

beetown:
She's 22

if you're dating between 22-25 expect this...try to pamper her contiously...she wants to be pampered...stop being logical...stop trying to be right and just keep pampering her...she will stop later

NeeKlaus:
You are dating an insecure little Bitçh!

From the way she behaves, it's obvious she's a spoilt Daddy's girl. She's used to people intervening for her in whatever she does. Can't handle matters on her own because she wasn't brought up to do that.

End that relationship before you die of High Blood Pressure. I hate drama.

The bolded is the gospel truth.

concho:
your problem is from the foundation. ansa ds 3 questns n i wl tell u wat to do
1. how old z she
2.where\how did you meet her
3.wia you in any relationship when you met her

Funny but can be true, little details like the above is often ignored but could have a huge influence

beetown:
Hello Guys.

This will be the first time I'll be asking for relationship advice on here since I've been on Nairaland

I've been dating this girl for some months now,I really love her a lot but she has some issues

Lemme explain, when we started dating she was the perfect girl until after about a month, I noticed any time she was with my phone she would go through my WhatsApp. Any time I confront her about it she'll accuse of me of cheating and hiding things from her and because of the that we had a big fight, I tried calling her to apologize but she avoided my calls,it was not until she got into a fight with one of her friends because she was checking his WhatsApp that she apologized and we settled.
Now to the latest,I observed that she loved reporting every little issue we have to my friends,which I don't like (I like my privacy) she actually reported our relationship to a friend of mine who I'm not in talking terms with, in the course of the guy trying to intervene, he insulted me so much, he called me a liar so many times and I couldn't do anything cos my girlfriend was the one who involved him. After the chat I got in touch with my girlfriend and told her politely that I didn't like the way she carried our relationship issues to my friends, that my friends' girlfriends never reported their issues to me they way she did to them and she exploded, she called names,she started crying saying I should give her space because I'm making her regret getting into the relationship. Now she hasn't answered my calls since then.
She doesn't respect me at all,she makes me feel as if I'm maltreating her, she doesnt take anything i say and does anything she sees fit. please should I continue with the relationship or not.

PS: she's the only daughter of her family, could it be the reason she acts like this?

Break up with her immediately. Every relationship is not worth saving! Look for a mature girl.

beetown:
She's 22

And how old are you? Are you ready to settle down or just dating her ?

She is still a child at heart and I wouldn't advise you go further no matter her tantrums and accusations ..if you do you won't have rest at home .....if I were her friend ,I would actually ask her to take a break from e lationships and develop her self and self esteem... She isn't ready to even settle down and will justvend up harming herself
A
@ rat she is going she might attempt to physically hurt herself just to get noticed .

To be frank and sincere with you ,drop her in a very kind way ...

Nma27:
Cheating is not the only ish in relationships.. Abandon whatever that doesn't give u happiness. Your God has shown u red flag.

I guess you are right.
let him give up on her b4 he dies of heartbroke

supersystemsng:
if you're dating between 22-25 expect this...try to pamper her contiously...she wants to be pampered...stop being logical...stop trying to be right and just keep pampering her...she will stop later

No ...you should indulge in pampering spoilt kids...so all his life he should v pampering her ?when will she grow older up then?when will she see. Straight and act right?
Tue best thing is to drop her shi kenan

nurshah:
And how old are you? Are you ready to settle down or just dating her ?

She is still a child at heart and I wouldn't advise you go further no matter her tantrums and accusations ..if you do you won't have rest at home .....if I were her friend ,I would actually ask her to take a break from e lationships and develop her self and self esteem... She isn't ready to even settle down and will justvend up harming herself
A
@ rat she is going she might attempt to physically hurt herself just to get noticed .

To be frank and sincere with you ,drop her in a very kind way ...

I'm 25 and I'm ready to settle down with her...her attitude is just a turn off

kalvoken:
It's either you are a female hiding under a male monicker or you aren't man enough.

Real men don't keep malice.

They settle their misunderstanding with a bottle of bear or woman

At least you used the word,"Real" coz I know some men that do

concho:
your problem is from the foundation. ansa ds 3 questns n i wl tell u wat to do
1. how old z she
2.where\how did you meet her
3.wia you in any relationship when you met her

1. 22
2. 25
3. No

nurshah:
No ...you should indulge in pampering spoilt kids...so all his life he should v pampering her ?when will she grow older up then?when will she see. Straight and act right?
Tue best thing is to drop her shi kenan

She's not spoilt...

beetown:
Haha so you're saying I should end it all?

I love her tho'

I'm guessing this is your first real relationship if not you'd know that when you have these many issues with one person then it's probably time to move on. BTW a relationship cannot work because of love alone, many other factors must be present before a relationship can work out.

My advise to you is to dump her and move on, I'm saying this out of experience. I left a relationship similar to this not too long ago; and believe me I haven't regretted that decision till date.

Mind you there's no perfect time to leave a relationship, just make up your mind that you're tired all the drama and then do the needful. Before you die of high blood pressure. Relationships are to be enjoyed not endured.

beetown:
I'm 25 and I'm ready to settle down with her...her attitude is just a turn off

Don't break up with her please. It is normal for females in her age gap to act the way she is. I like to suggest that you don't break up with her as her actions does not warrant too much issues yet, trust me every girl has an issue to deal with and you can't keep flipping chicks because of inconsistencies...Just like how you did before you won her heart initially, i urge you to :

1. Delete your so-called friends you are not to hooked on, but still have their contacts on your phone, if they are not really friends, why keep their contacts or throw away your relationships to please people who aren't worth it?

2. Try to find someone she listens to that she'll listen to without defiance to try to pass your message across..

3. Spend more time and find out how she communicates so you can discuss with her in a language she understands..


4. It's natural for girls to act spoil, its actually a cry for love..find ways to spice up your relationships...try short walks and open talks with one another, in fact suggest to her on occasions, come see the chat i had with a colleague, give her your phone to read...if the demon is slayed, you'll be secured...I won't believe there's a single chic that feels secure at 22...secured and healthy sense of self is impossible with that age...so take your time and work things out bro..


Best of love

beetown:
Hello Guys.

This will be the first time I'll be asking for relationship advice on here since I've been on Nairaland

I've been dating this girl for some months now,I really love her a lot but she has some issues

Lemme explain, when we started dating she was the perfect girl until after about a month, I noticed any time she was with my phone she would go through my WhatsApp. Any time I confront her about it she'll accuse of me of cheating and hiding things from her and because of the that we had a big fight, I tried calling her to apologize but she avoided my calls,it was not until she got into a fight with one of her friends because she was checking his WhatsApp that she apologized and we settled.
Now to the latest,I observed that she loved reporting every little issue we have to my friends,which I don't like (I like my privacy) she actually reported our relationship to a friend of mine who I'm not in talking terms with, in the course of the guy trying to intervene, he insulted me so much, he called me a liar so many times and I couldn't do anything cos my girlfriend was the one who involved him. After the chat I got in touch with my girlfriend and told her politely that I didn't like the way she carried our relationship issues to my friends, that my friends' girlfriends never reported their issues to me they way she did to them and she exploded, she called names,she started crying saying I should give her space because I'm making her regret getting into the relationship. Now she hasn't answered my calls since then.
She doesn't respect me at all,she makes me feel as if I'm maltreating her, she doesnt take anything i say and does anything she sees fit. please should I continue with the relationship or not.

PS: she's the only daughter of her family, could it be the reason she acts like this?

Take the advice of the guy that said you are dating an insecured bitch..I know because I am a woman,she will drain you emotionally and mentally!!

I made FP
wow... I wasn't looking for this kind of exposure but it's more advice

beetown:
1. 22 2. 25 3. No

u didnt ansa no 2, which is the main question. how did u meet her?

Peacefullove:
Funny but can be true, little details like the above is often ignored but could have a huge influence

sure

concho:
u didnt ansa no 2, which is the main question. how did u meet her?

We met while we were in school

supersystemsng:
She's not spoilt...

So such attitudes are matured right ?
Spoilt or not ..no one needs such a person in his/ her life .let her go and work on her self and I wouldn't advise she goesn into another relationship yet.she isn't at peace with her self

Nma27:
Cheating is not the only ish in relationships.. Abandon whatever that doesn't give u happiness. Your God has shown u red flag.

pls don't bring religion into this... It's a simple logic to try and understand ur woman's personality.. If she is an obstinate lady... Then it's a red card for me.. Personally I think she does not respect the Op..

supersystemsng:
Don't break up with her please. It is normal for females in her age gap to act the way she is. I like to suggest that you don't break up with her as her actions does not warrant too much issues yet, trust me every girl has an issue to deal with and you can't keep flipping chicks because of inconsistencies...Just like how you did before you won her heart initially, i urge you to :

1. Delete your so-called friends you are not to hooked on, but still have their contacts on your phone, if they are not really friends, why keep their contacts or throw away your relationships to please people who aren't worth it?

2. Try to find someone she listens to that she'll listen to without defiance to try to pass your message across..

3. Spend more time and find out how she communicates so you can discuss with her in a language she understands..


4. It's natural for girls to act spoil, its actually a cry for love..find ways to spice up your relationships...try short walks and open talks with one another, in fact suggest to her on occasions, come see the chat i had with a colleague, give her your phone to read...if the demon is slayed, you'll be secured...I won't believe there's a single chic that feels secure at 22...secured and healthy sense of self is impossible with that age...so take your time and work things out bro..


Best of love

This isn't a good advise at all.....

My bro..
If the story is as u v painted it here then . u r seeing all the red flags.. Just move on oo.. it takes time for people like that to mature.
Relationships are to be enjoyed and not to be endured.
Let her be n enjoy ur life...

beetown:
She's 22

You better find your way out of that relationship before you injure yourself. control yourself and find your square root

beetown:
We met while we were in school

you dnt want to ansa my qustn bro..........eg , on d road, in a bar, in d church, in the class ............while in skl is a random ansa

Typical of my ex, dropped her like a rag, she came back begging....so many fishes in the ocean for a bitch to start giving you problem...Think like a Man!

nurshah:
So such attitudes are matured right ?
Spoilt or not ..no one needs such a person in his/ her life .let her go and work on her self and I wouldn't advise she goesn into another relationship yet.she isn't at peace with her self

No woman is matured at 22, no guy is... every chic at that age has issues... few ladies are ready for marriage at 25, they need to sort things out..I've been an advocate of break it and move on, however, every relationship needs to be propagated to how both parties needs it...they need to try first before they say it's a mistake...mind you, they both love each other...it's the doubt demon that needs dealing with,or you rather throw away the kid with the bath water away?

She wants to be left alone then let her be