Anugod:
I appreciate her more today, and I'm truly happy she did not spare the rod on me.

Anugod, I am with you on this one o. I used to think my Dad was too strict when I was little, but just like you...today I really really thank God that he didn't spare the rod for me. Those days, the 'fear' of Dad was the beginning of wisdom. You dare not misbehave when he is around. Who born you? Sometimes sef, all Mom needed to say was 'I will report you to Daddy o' and we will start telling her sorry and kukuma respect ourselves.
Today, we are pallies. He stopped flogging after Junior secondary sha. I think after this stage, a child is already moulded. If u want to flog or discipline at this stage, you may be wasting your time.
To each his own. I believe in moderation even in disciplining kids. You mustn't cane for all offences. Sometimes then, when I started crying useless cry for nothing as a toddler (tantrums), my parents will remove every harmful thing in a room and lock me up there. I will cry and cry till I am tired. Then I will start telling them to open the door and tell me sorry. Lolz. I could cry for Africa then ehh. All na discipline.
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Seen ma.

imurboss:


Good morning mama,you can drop your details at rossy2005ng@yahoo.com.Let me know when you get my email add so i can take it out.....Thanks.

Anak123:
Awww...... Wat a lovely baby suremum, God bless him big!

Hmmmm this children can stretch ones patience ehn? My boy of 1yr5mnts is really something....I've started tapping him small small but I don't think he understands Y yet..
When people come into my shop with children(even ones older than him) he will try bullying them, then when he sees the child is tryn to run from him,power don come! He will so pull n push till the child start cryn....(abeg make e now pursue customer for me o), but when he sees the one that can give him back, uncle will just gentle...... now he has started slapping people,,me, dad, grandma, uncle, sales girl, customer, nobody is exempted. I have this small phone that he just like to see in pieces on the floor.....one he sees m not holding it he picks it n throw it on the floor like this where it's supposed to be.....abeg.....let him grow out of it I b4 I start spanking

hahahahahaha are you sure Ekene is not your son? Cos you just described him here o! My phone looks like trailer ran over it from constant massacre from him. My son will target your bumbum once you scold him and give you a good bite! Omg now we shield our yansh from him whenever he is yelled at.

Sisters come to my aid o, I was admitted yesterday cos of spotting though it stopped in the evening. Primolut injection and diazepam tab were given to me and I was placed on bedrest but just now I see drops of brown spot again, honestly I'm getting worried.

I surely know I'll carry my children to term.

Goldenheart002:





OMG!
I feel like hugging him for real.
Such a cute and big baby. God will protect him and make him a source of joy to d family......... Mamas take note, na so B.A's suppose dey come with pics. I heard it was so in d days of our fore-mothers

Good morning gbogbo ile

You are correct Na so we dey am before but now most moms are shy of sharing their baby's pictures with us.

Naomi14:
Yes so true! That's why today I hardly communicate with my dad. I still remember all the beatings sometimes, the flogging only make the child more stubborn because they have gotten used to the beatings. I won't bring up my children in such way.

Exactly.

Bloomingbud:
Sisters come to my aid o, I was admitted yesterday cos of spotting though it stopped in the evening. Primolut injection and diazepam tab were given to me and I was placed on bedrest but just now I see drops of brown spot again, honestly I'm getting worried.

I surely know I'll carry my children to term.

Brown spots may be old blood trying to find its way out! Observe the bedrest strictly for now. Don't hesitate to inform your doctor should the spot persist or becomes bright. All the best ma'am.

Bloomingbud:
Sisters come to my aid o, I was admitted yesterday cos of spotting though it stopped in the evening. Primolut injection and diazepam tab were given to me and I was placed on bedrest but just now I see drops of brown spot again, honestly I'm getting worried.

I surely know I'll carry my children to term.

Brown spot isn't really a cause for concern unless it is accompanied by stomach ache. It's when it's bright red that you should really panic. But for now, pls observe bed rest ok. Also the fact that you are carry multiple can cause some bububuhahaha in your system. You definitely will carry your children to term. It is God's promise to you. It is well with you.

[quote author=Bloomingbud post=59367824]Sisters come to my aid o, I was admitted yesterday cos of spotting though it stopped in the evening. Primolut injection and diazepam tab were given to me and I was placed on bedrest but just now I see drops of brown spot again, honestly I'm getting worried.

I surely know I'll carry my children to term.[/uote]


It is well with u n ur lo ijn.

Dazzle86:

My point exactly. I don't have a child but when I do, the child has no choice but to be disciplined, and the fear of cain is what puts them in check. How do you think these teachers cope and why do you think the kids coordinate when they are in school.

My son is going to a school that don't support beating but he's going there because the standard of the school is good, come and see how his teachers complain cos they don't support them to beat, teachers dont have control over them most times that they just let them be.I specifically told his teacher I don't support it , beat him. To me that's why most children are so bold and spoilt these days. In our days even if teacher beat you for doing something wrong in school you dare not come home&report cos you will get another round of it. How can a small child have the boldness to be throwing things anyhow to the extent of slapping an adult? Ko Jo for my side. To me it all depends on how you beat & the love you show even when you beat, am very open and close to my parents yet they beat us.

Talking about beating, just like some mamas said to each what's best for her. I can beat for Africa but whenever i beat i make sure i leave no mark on d child. Though someone shouldn't beat a child for everything there are some offences that needs talking, some small shout, some, big shout and some, real spanking.


I can't even remember being beaten by my mum but she can talk to you and you will feel like jumping into a flowing river. My dad beats only when we are reported and sometimes sef he will tell us to kneel down and face wall till everyone forgets you and you sneakily stand up. So to each his own tent.

Phlakkeys and fozarush I believe you girls are fine but please pop in to let us know. I know how it feels to go past your due date! I did and avoided this thread for days cos I felt miserable reading others BA and was still waddling with no sign of labor.

Please don't be like me come online biko we are worried.

God be with you girls and every other mama due! Safe delivery to you all.

Katchy you came online but didn't acknowledge anybody? Hope you are good sis.

I worked in a school where only the head teacher is permitted to beat but biko will i be reporting every issue to the head teacher? I beat and to the glory of God i haven't injured anyone and i won't by God's grace.

mydreams25:

How can a small child have the boldness to be throwing things to the extent of slapping an adult?

^^ Hmm. Still trying to undastand what's happening with our kids nowadays. God help me o cos I won't take this from my child. I must slap you back and make sure you don't ever repeat it inside or outside. God abeg o.

beyedew:

Brown spot isn't really a cause for concern unless it is accompanied by stomach ache. It's when it's bright red that you should really panic. But for now, pls observe bed rest ok. Also the fact that you are carry multiple can cause some bububuhahaha in your system. You definitely will carry your children to term. It is God's promise to you. It is well with you.

Stomach ache or cramp?

No cramping at all but I feel little aches in my tummy. It will end in praise thanks for your time. Liftedhands and proudmum38 God bless you dearly mums.

mydreams25:

My son is going to a school that don't support beating but he's going there because the standard of the school is good, come and see how his teachers complain cos they don't support them to beat, teachers dont have control over them most times that they just let them be.I specifically told his teacher I don't support it , beat him. To me that's why most children are so bold and spoilt these days. In our days even if teacher beat you for doing something wrong in school you dare not come home&report cos you will get another round of it. How can a small child have the boldness to be throwing things to be extent of slapping an adult? Ko Jo for my side. To me it all depends on how you beat & the love you show even when you beat, am very open and close to my parents yet they beat us.

Please don't give any body permission to beat your kids. That's how physical and sometimes sexual abuse creeps in. If you have to beat then do it yourself. I was reading some stories of abused kids on facebook and it surprised me that many kids would live in that unbearable pain just cuz uncle said he would beat them if they told anyone. Your child should be able to tell you everything that went on in school including the reason he was beaten without getting a beating from you. Beating is one of the easiest ways of punishing kids but it's definitely far from being the best especially at that early age. I'm not completely discouraging spanking but not to the extent that the kids are now scared of you or their teacher or their house helps.

Forzarush is fine. Just spoke to her. The same thing happened to me and it's frustrating. Hope Phlakkeys is fine too

Liftedhands:
Phlakkeys and fozarush I believe you girls are fine but please pop in to let us know. I know how it feels to go past your due date! I did and avoided this thread for days cos I felt miserable reading others BA and was still waddling with no sign of labor.

Please don't be like me come online biko we are worried.

God be with you girls and every other mama due! Safe delivery to you all.

Katchy you came online but didn't acknowledge anybody? Hope you are good sis.

proudmom38:
Hmmmmm! Talking about being beating by parents as a child I went through hell in the hands of my dad as a military man.. Not only me o my siblings inclusive. It gotten to a point that me n my elder sis was praying that our dad should just die so that we can have peace . There was a day our mom went to visit her brother (we no know wether her husband no permit her to go) when our dad came back n asked of our mom n we told him that she has gone to badagry, holy moly d kind beating wey we receive ehn only God knows how we survived it we where beaten like criminals with army belt, tiny wire n even knife my elder sis was d one who suffer most, her skin practically peeled off when my dad hit her with the knife cos she's very fair in complexion oh lawd we weep for her dat faithful day. It was a very nasty day for us, no body to plead for us. And that was d last day we where beaten by our dad cos when he saw blood gushing out of my sis body he quickly threw d knife away n held my sis closed . But today he's my best friend. I love him so much for making me who I am today. ...


Ps. Who say beating dey make pikin stubborn? The pikin never see better beating wey go put him brain for auto reset be dat.

Haaa, this your dad's beating na something else ooo, I can't support that beat but I support beating because you love a child and wants a change. @ your last sentence, I support 100%. Pikin wey see better beating will get a reset brain sharp sharp

Abiagirl777:
mbula ,I'm experiencing same here.on top all that ,when mine wants to cry he speedily falls back with his head hitting the floor or should I talk about how many water bottles he has broken cos as soon as he's through with drinking water,he flings them away or do I talk about him refusing potty training uptill 2 yrs even when I've bought different potty designs. If you refuse to wear him diaper the whole day hed refuse to poop and keep farting anyhow.I bought a#100 plastic cup and that is what he has been using for the past 8 mths,I can't be wasting my money.

Everyday I call my mum to hail her,just one child and the whole world is hearing my voice.she tells me to ignore him sometimes and also put my feet down where necessary.

lol at plastic cup, this kids behaviour is kind of frustrating at times but I still count it as part of joy of motherhood, mine will not poop if u wear d diaper for him o unless I remove it, how is my 9/9 and his little bro. kisses to them

Liftedhands:
hahahahahaha are you sure Ekene is not your son? Cos you just described him here o! My phone looks like trailer ran over it from constant massacre from him. My son will target your bumbum once you scold him and give you a good bite! Omg now we shield our yansh from him whenever he is yelled at.

Hahahahahahha!

mbula:
RANT TIME....
good evening beautiful mothers pls I have a serious issue that is disturbing me.I need advice/suggestion on how to handle this.my 1year 10months son is making me go crazy.he is the first child that I have.recently I notice he is in the habit of throwing anything in his possession at people and at objects.even when you warn him not to throe he will still do that.this attitude of his has turned me into a nagging and militant mother which I hate so much.I beat him so hard when he does that depending on my mood.some mins ago he threw a cell phone on my house help's eyes.I gave him serious beating that lead to him vomiting. why I tend to react this way is because he will be starting school in September. I'm scared of him exhibiting such attitude in school.I'm scared of him injuring someone's child with this attitude of his or while playing.this fear has made me not excited that he is starting school.pls sabi mamas don't just read and pass.help calm a sister down and assure me that all will be well.I'm so worried.thank you

Hmmm! I hope you're not reporting my LO on my behalf, the boy mata tire me o. He will just carry our fone and the next place to smatch it is on cement. Carry remote and throw it and he will make sure the remote scattered before he will now pack it and give it to you. you don't dare TL sleep while he is awake, he will kneel at where ur head is and be putting hand in ur nose, eyes, ears, or carry object like rechargeable lamp and hit ur head. The kind of slap he slaps everyone no be here, and whenever am discussing or chatting with the father, and he noticed we are laughing, the next thing he will give is uppercut on ur jaw, sometimes when u r playing with him, the next thing he will do is to move back and hit you with forehead. There was a day we were about finishing morning devotion, as we were sharii the grace, I just heard gbangan on my ear, he hit me with my fone and he did it with force. The kind of beating His father gave him that day no be here o.

I'm really scared now, cos he will be starting school by September and I pray he doesn't exhibit that attitude. Cos we have beaten him, talked to him and now, its prayer matter.

But one thing about him, he doesn't do that whenever we go out.

The boy mata taya me o.

Giddyperson:
Please don't give any body permission to beat your kids. That's how physical and sometimes sexual abuse creep in. If you have to beat then do it yourself. I was reading some stories of abused kids on facebook and it surprised me that many kids would live in that unbearable pain just cuz uncle said he would beat them if they told anyone. Your child should be able to tell you everything that went on in school including the reason he was beaten without getting a beating from you. Beating is one of the easiest ways of punishing kids but it's definitely far from being the best especially at that early age. I'm not completely discouraging spanking but not to the extent that the kids are now scared of you or their teacher or their house helps.

I understand dear but I specifically told the teacher to do so when ever he does a particular thing( biting) and the teacher too understands. I Said it in away she won't take it for granted, they also pamper kids in the school too.
I can't stand my kid throwing phones, destroying things anyhow or beating and biting anyhow.

olalayo1710:
lol at plastic cup, this kids behaviour is kind of frustrating at times but I still count it as part of joy of motherhood, mine will not poop if u wear d diaper for him o unless I remove it, how is my 9/9 and his little bro. kisses to them

hmmm,he'll even go to bring wipes and diaper to change him without asking him to.we r bouncing my sis.l,greet my son's twinnie

suremum:
BA BA
Alhamdulilah, i welcomed my prince charming to this world weighing like 4.2kg through emergency CS yday 10/8/17. Baby, mama and dad are doing great.
Cappo Phlakkeys how are u doing?
BS later

congrats mama, may Allah make him a source of joy to u and ur family

Liftedhands:
hahahahahaha are you sure Ekene is not your son? Cos you just described him here o! My phone looks like trailer ran over it from constant massacre from him. My son will target your bumbum once you scold him and give you a good bite! Omg now we shield our yansh from him whenever he is yelled at.

Your son is a funny boy,any time my son bites i usually slap his cheeks so he doesn't think it's good thing then go outside and do same. Try and correct him from bitting your bums when yelled at cos he may take it as fun then goes outside to do that.....may God help us all.


Congratulations @suremum......may God provide all resources needed to take good care of him

ToyosiR:
OUR BIRTH STORY

This thread has been so helpful to me since my first pregnancy.
My first BA is on page 39
https://www.nairaland.com/889053/pregnancy-pregnant-going-through-high/39 indicating i am one of the oldest mama on this thread.


My second BA/ BS is also on page 293
https://www.nairaland.com/889053/pregnancy-pregnant-going-through-high/293


Now i am here for my third BS.

Last Saturday, 05th of August, 2017, i saw my care-giver who told me to go for a scan and it came out normal giving me 20th as EDD and 3.4 as EFW.

She said all is normal that she knows i'll deliver sooner.

I couldn't sleep well on that Saturday night. On sunday, i couldn't sit upright. I was feeling so uncomfortable. At around 9.pm i noticed i was having mild contraction. I went to her and she said i should take castor oil if i could. I bought a bottle but couldnt take it.

I started purging around 12 mid night and my tummy wasn't settled. The contraction started coming but wasn't closer with much pain.

I took the castor oil at around 4:40 am but all i was eating/taking wasnt staying. I was vomitting everything.

I went back to my caregiver around 6.30 am to complain. She did VE and said i am just 2cm dilated. I shouted and called on God to help me and aid this delivery.

She said i should go home and return by 8.00am.

Continuation later...

Mama, i envy you o.You don buy plenty lands on this thread and even know their various numbers . Don't worry, we'll soon form the association of landladies here.......abeg come back and complete your BS

Loisemm:

Anugod, I am with you on this one o. I used to think my Dad was too strict when I was little, but just like you...today I really really thank God that he didn't spare the rod for me. Those days, the 'fear' of Dad was the beginning of wisdom. You dare not misbehave when he is around. Who born you? Sometimes sef, all Mom needed to say was 'I will report you to Daddy o' and we will start telling her sorry and kukuma respect ourselves.
Today, we are pallies. He stopped flogging after Junior secondary sha. I think after this stage, a child is already moulded. If u want to flog or discipline at this stage, you may be wasting your time.
To each his own. I believe in moderation even in disciplining kids. You mustn't cane for all offences. Sometimes then, when I started crying useless cry for nothing as a toddler (tantrums), my parents will remove every harmful thing in a room and lock me up there. I will cry and cry till I am tired. Then I will start telling them to open the door and tell me sorry. Lolz. I could cry for Africa then ehh. All na discipline.
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mama u just reminded me of my sister-in-law's daughter she cries for Africa just for nothing and she will ask her mummy to tell her sorry if not she won't stop crying imagine lolz and my sis-inlaw will say no I wont lolzz she will cry cry and sleep there lolzzz

comtem2011:
Hmmm! I hope you're not reporting my LO on my behalf, the boy mata tire me o. He will just carry our fone and the next place to smatch it is on cement. Carry remote and throw it and he will make sure the remote scattered before he will now pack it and give it to you. you don't dare TL sleep while he is awake, he will kneel at where ur head is and be putting hand in ur nose, eyes, ears, or carry object like rechargeable lamp and hit ur head. The kind of slap he slaps everyone no be here, and whenever am discussing or chatting with the father, and he noticed we are laughing, the next thing he will give is uppercut on ur jaw, sometimes when u r playing with him, the next thing he will do is to move back and hit you with forehead. There was a day we were about finishing morning devotion, as we were sharii the grace, I just heard gbangan on my ear, he hit me with my fone and he did it with force. The kind of beating His father gave him that day no be here o.

I'm really scared now, cos he will be starting school by September and I pray he doesn't exhibit that attitude. Cos we have beaten him, talked to him and now, its prayer matter.

But one thing about him, he doesn't do that whenever we go out.

The boy mata taya me o.

Please don't kill me with laugh my stomach hurts from this your description. Just when I thought I have a terror in the house I didn't know he is still a learner hahahahahahahahahahaha oh my goodness.

imurboss:


Your son is a funny boy,any time my son bites i usually slap his cheeks so he doesn't think it's good thing then go outside and do same. Try and correct him from bitting your bums when yelled at cos he may take it as fun then goes outside to do that.....may God help us all.


Congratulations @su.remum......may God provide all resources needed to take good care of him

I do tap his mouth whenever he does that seriously praying he drops the behaviour soon thanks .

Liftedhands:
You are correct Na so we dey am before but now most moms are shy of sharing their baby's pictures with us.

No mind mamas of today, they can shy for Africa ehn! Or maybe they are afraid of internet trolls

Toyo baby @cappo ToyosiR, biko come and complete d sweet B.S oh

@Bloomingbud, ndo, it is well with u dearie. All dis are just threats, none shall consume ur LOs

Bless me

Congratz suremum, God bless him.

Bloomingbud, it is well with you. Rest, Rest, Rest. Don't worry, God is in control.

Wishing us all a wonderful weekend ahead and looking forward to more BAs.