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I met this cute girl in University while i was in my final level to graduation, and she was in just 100 level. i am totally in love with her, but... While am in University we had fun almost everyday of our life. We're madly in-love with each other, but i am 28 years old while she's just 18 years... Now the problem is that her Dad and Mum seem not to want us to be dating and i really want to marry this girl when she graduates too.

I introduced her to my parents, family, relations and they're pretty cool with her, but her own parents seems not to want me to come around, know me or even have anything to do with me. We have already sourced out to Rev. Fathers and Sisters to help the both us talk to her own parent but it seems after the whole thing they still don't want to let me know them personally.

I just graduated and still yet to have something doing, though her Dad is in USA and seem to be wealthy, while my parents are retired and are just comfortable to an extent of training me and my brother in the University. I have so many talents and still thinking of which to follow and establish life to make money fast because i know that her father might be looking at my family background.

Right now i am confused because i am totally in love with this girl and she is in love with me too, and i can't also don't want to leave because of what their parents are making us pass through. So please Nairalanders, what do you guys suggest i do to get her parents to like me or appreciate me as their daughter's (future-husband) boyfriend?

Suggest what i need to do first and how to go about it... I am open to anything, it doesn't how attacking it my be to me, but for the fact that it will link to help or suggestion i will like to hear it.

Can we ever pass through this at all? Do we still have a chance of getting to marry each other at all? What do i do to prove to them that i will take care of the girl?

Source: Discrete Lover

Brother forget her parents, you can't force someone to accept or love you, if dem no want but tge babe say na u and u alone , if you're sure you love her sincerely, do Court marriage or give am belle, case solved.

NEXT!

Her parents obviously think she's too young to make decisions on her own. You may both be dating but seeing her parents on marriage is funny when you're not even doing anything at the moment beside some talents you claim to have.

@18, she's too young to be discussing marriage. she should focus on her books for now.

izzou:
You are 28 and she is 18

You have graduated without a job while she is still in school

Her parents are in the US while yours are retired

And you are still asking us what you can do? To slap you just dey hungry me


Love is never enough for marriage. Marriage needs to be planned for or prepared for. You need to find a direction for yourself and show it as a proof to the world. How can a man give out his 18-year old daughter to an unemployed 28-year old man, simply because he loves her?

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You know her father is looking at your background and you won't do something about it...
Go and get something doing for yourself young Man..the man doesn't want his daughter to suffer, because the love you have for her won't pay the bills....

Pls leave that girl yo concentrate on her life n education
she's still a little girl

Let me the you
Ur preventing that girl from enjoying school life

Let her be

OMG

An 18 year old

WTF

have you ever sat down and thought about your life!
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No African parent will allow their 18 year old daughter be involve with a 28 year old.

dude she's barely legal

Benita27:
Her parents obviously think she's too young to make decisions on her own. You may both be dating but seeing her parents on marriage is funny when you're not even doing anything at the moment beside some talents you claim to have.

@18, she's too young to be discussing marriage. she should focus on her books for now.

Nice 1...And also please forget about seeing her parents for now.Give it more time and concentrate on building up yourself first and All will be well.

Dis tin call love eh, make i close my mouth jare

KINGSP:
Nice 1...And also please forget about seeing her parents for now.Give it more time and concentrate on building up yourself first and All will be well.

If he were in her parent's shoes would he allow the relationship?. "I love you" is never enough to venture on that marriage journey. Again, in a year or more her desires may be fully formed.

Divay22:
You know her father is looking at your background and you won't do something about it...
Go and get something doing for yourself young Man..the man doesn't want his daughter to suffer, because the love you have for her won't pay the bills....

I concur

Lol......it's too early for such discussions now till she's a bit more ready and mature for marriage...get something doing with your life first bro.....love don't pay bills

I might be wrong that the love between the two of you might not stand the test of time hence the girl in question is still at a tender youthful age. She might not have come to real awareness of what she actually wants in love/a relationship.And you on the other hand might be influenced unconciously of the girl's background hence the desperation of your love.
Now my advice is for you to let TIME dictates the course of your relationship with the girl. Time will tell wheather both of you really love each other, wheather her parent will find cause to approve you for their daughter or wheather FATE has something more better than her instore for you.
Never Force it so that it won't break.

Why are you people misquoting this man? He said, he intends to marry the girl when she graduates. The girl won't be 18 anymore at the time of her graduation.

My guy my advise for you is,just let the young girl know that you truly love her,but don't go close to her parents with the issue of marriage yet,because they might think you're an agent of distraction to their daughter.

Introducing her to your people is not a bad idea at all. But I can tell you that,you can nurture her and be there for her until she graduate by then God would have answer your prayers by giving you a good job then you guys can tie the knot.

Don't forget,now that you've graduated you will definitely face competition from students in school,competition that is strong that you might begin to doubt her initial love for you but you have to remain resilient if truly you love her as you profess.... She will put up some annoying attitude considering her age,that's normal anyways, if there is maturity and understand on your path because you will be the one to hold the relationship till its grown you will pull through.

don't be hasty in making money just because you love or want to marry someone. know what you want in life first. There are some people after having the money and marrying their dream girl, they still waant more and always drive them to the edge.

Noww, to the main issue. make a plan for yourself, execute it, make money, give the lady time to be more matured and her parent will come crawling at your door to marry their daughter.


But don't make decisions on mere love. At times its good better to think with your head than your heart, because you my brother are surely thinking with your heart.

The relationship will not survive, not because of her parents.

The reason is, she is just 18, she is yet to explore life to the fullest.

All it takes is for one girlfriend of hers to influence her and you will be on the back burner.

My advice is that, you develop yourself.

You guys may end up together but now, NO FUTURE!

I don't know of any parents/father/mother who has welcomed the prospect of their daughter focusing on relationships while in full time education. Any parent with their full capacity intact will bulk at the idea my parents were no different. They want what's best for their daughter which is to get an education and get a career and so should you. Date by all means but don't antagonise them by insisting on meeting them. Prove that you also have ambition and can be a good match for thier daughter not whatever it is you are trying to do. Marriage will come but first walk before you can run.

very useless op, what has sex got to do with this. the energy u shud be using to plan ur life na woman matter u dey reason. the parents are right u no get hope

is this the nigerian version of kylie and tyga??

sorry to say buh this relationship wont last. she's just 18, myt be infactuation she's feeling. she has 3 more years b4 she finishes uni. she myt get tired along the line.

so get a job, house and start living comfortably instead of trying to please her parents

izzou:
You are 28 and she is 18

You have graduated without a job while she is still in school

Her parents are in the US while yours are retired

And you are still asking us what you can do? To slap you just dey hungry me


Love is never enough for marriage. Marriage needs to be planned for or prepared for. You need to find a direction for yourself and show it as a proof to the world. How can a man give out his 18-year old daughter to an unemployed 28-year old man, simply because he loves her?

i crave your indulgence to please allow me to faint

Four years to graduation...
Chick is 18 and still desires to explore (this is innate...
She is 18...
Again, she is 18...

Stop deluding with "I want to marry her". There's four for a lot to change, Bro. You think you love her enough to marry her? No! You feel like "Big Brother" who has to protect kid Sis, ba?

Keep an open mind, and fvcking let this 18-year old live a little without breathing down her neck with marriage ish!

#sighs..
First, does she love you and are you sure of it?. If Yes, then just relax and keep a close eye on her, she might find someone wealthier and sorry becomes your name, trust me, she's just very naive and probably a JJC in the game..
You on the other hand may find her too young and immature for your liken later in the future ,you don't expect her not to have childish attributes and if you try acting weird, she might commit suicide cause teenagers can be so vulnerable when it comes to love..

My candid advice is... Let her grow/Help her grow, nurture her into the woman you'd be comfortable with, get yourself a nice job, gift her family once in a while and let them see the best of you... If after all these, they're still against your intentions, impregnate her .

Benita27:
Her parents obviously think she's too young to make decisions on her own. You may both be dating but seeing her parents on marriage is funny when you're not even doing anything at the moment beside some talents you claim to have.

@18, she's too young to be discussing marriage. she should focus on her books for now.

whch book?is it d one we read wey we no use to anything? i hate hearing dat pls

shege45:
whch book?is it d one we read wey we no use to anything? i hate hearing dat pls

That you're not using it now doesn't mean opportunity won't present itself where it'll be needed. Don't hate hearing it.