dangotesmummy:
some women and they're in the minority

Chai, bros have you tried withdrawing 20k recently put it somewhere and spend small small and see what happens after three days...God forbid..

supersystemsng:


I won't say Lagos o... in Ikotun, Abaranje, Ijesha, Okoko, Sibiri, Ojo, life is cheap..I would say Island

but the bills are expensive
Transportation to work
Fuelling your gen
Foodstuffs
Gas
Etc

dangotesmummy:
if your wife has been struggling with you and has barely benefited 1k from you and has been supporting you without benefit, the only benefit she has gotten from you is sex and then someone is flashing 500k at her and is ready to open a big supermarket for her,money wey she never see for her life and the man says I'll give you if you're ready for me to fok you in the presence of your husband and she looks front, she looks back,she looks at how many years she has been in that marriage and the guy has never bought 150 naira pant for her and someone is flashing 500k,you think she will not willingly and happily fling her thighs open and give him different styles in the presence of the husband?

Don't you know its very easy to snatch a poor Mans wife and disrespect a poor man and also get away with it?

Any kind of egbin can tale a poor man.the nickname of poor married men in Yoruba is "oloriburuku" meaning an unfortunate man

Anybody has a right to call you that if you're poor.that's why you hear anybody calling okada men "oloriburuku" or touts

Most people don't realize that infidelity is more rampant in poor neighbourhoods. Its in neighbourhoods like that that someone would take advantage of your wife always coming to watch Telemundo to nack her, or your kids coming to charge phones to molest them. It is not uncommon for women in these hoods to have one or two bastards in their flock. An old school mate of mine, whose family were down on their luck, moved to one funny place in Ketu, where its normal for girls to have had 2 kids before 18. Dude was baiting girls with silly things, until he also got hooked impregnating a random girl. Long and short, he has been on the same spot in life since then.

Gerrard59:


Honestly, Sir, I'm surprised this is coming from you.

It's not sustainable and it further perpetuates poverty. Yes, things are hard in the country but people should not increase the "hardness".

It is not about coming from anybody.

Simple reality is many are having kids without any income at all. Hardly anything you or I can do to stop it.

Many cannot even afford condom. Because free WHO condoms end up in chemists for sale. I saw that as a kid in the chemist decades ago already. Some have no information (that you may have) on how to get free ones. Nor be today.

While I'd not dare start a family earning below 250K monthly if I was in 9ja environment, millions of people are not going to use yours or my ideal standard as theirs. If they did, there would we far less poverty today.

Now, how many people have you been able to dissuade from having kids in poverty?

In 9ja, we like to sit on the high horse postulating what is ideal & lofty. Meanwhile the opposite is happening all around us. That becomes sheer hypocrisy.

The man is here giving a practical solution on how to manage, not theory.

supersystemsng:



Lol... too much sauce dear, easy

Lol too much juice

supersystemsng:



Chai, bros have you tried withdrawing 20k recently put it somewhere and spend small small and see what happens after three days...God forbid..

of course na

I can relate

I've deposited 20k in the bank I con dey withdraw am small small till e finish.I no dey even check the account balance till the account enter 300 naira just between Monday-friday.I con dey wonder wetin I buy.to enter market sometimes dey fear person

dangotesmummy:
of course na

I can relate

I've deposited 20k in the bank I con dey withdraw am small small till e finish.I no dey even check the account balance till the account enter 300 naira just between Monday-friday.I con dey wonder wetin I buy.to enter market sometimes dey fear person

Lalas247:

Lol too much juice

bad girl

Lalas247:

lol it's just exchange rate here doesn't seem so much .. £50 if exchange rate still at #400 that's 20k no lie that how much I pay but seems lots when u convert it ...
Its Buhari fault £ to naira

currently that will be 23k....thanks to Buhari..and his cohort!u have gat a Nice Sense of humor.

dangotesmummy:
it is better,infact Its a better alternative to rely on your parents than enter a marriage when you're not financially stable

Until your parents get tired of you when you have more grey hair than them.

People do not have to do as he wrote. But at least he's proffering something practical, not idealistic or theoretical.

Each person can decide that's the standard he wants for himself.

To begin with, anyone in such a situation is already down. But it does not mean he's out.

His zeal, focus & determination will be crucial in years to come.

MansaHenry:
currently that will be 23k....thanks to Buhari..and his cohort!u have gat a Nice Sense of humor.

So it even cost more lol u see my pant na 23k 3 k change remain seff
It's not my fault o .. blame exchange rate .. one day sha naira will carry small weight

Bagehot:


Most people don't realize that infidelity is more rampant in poor neighbourhoods. Its in neighbourhoods like that that someone would take advantage of your wife always coming to watch Telemundo to nack her, or your kids coming to charge phones to molest them. It is not uncommon for women in these hoods to have one or two bastards in their flock. An old school mate of mine, whose family were down on their luck, moved to one funny place in Ketu, where its normal for girls to have had 2 kids before 18. Dude was baiting girls with silly things, until he also got hooked impregnating a random girl. Long and short, he has been on the same spot in life since then.

of course na.wives and children of poor men are easy to deceive and take advantage of.

How much you wan take use deceive daughter of a big man?

AreaFada2:


Until your parents get tiredof you when you have more grey hair than them.

People do not have to do as he wrote. But at least he's proffering something practical, not idealistic or theoretical.

Each person can decide that's the standard he wants for himself.

To begin with, anyone in such a situation is already down. But it does not mean he's out.

His zeal, focus & determination will be crucial in years to come.

then when you see you're getting old get yourself an apartment and a job. No one Should tell you when to leave your Fathers house

Bagehot:


Most people don't realize that infidelity is more rampant in poor neighbourhoods. Its in neighbourhoods like that that someone would take advantage of your wife always coming to watch Telemundo to nack her, or your kids coming to charge phones to molest them. It is not uncommon for women in these hoods to have one or two bastards in their flock. An old school mate of mine, whose family were down on their luck, moved to one funny place in Ketu, where its normal for girls to have had 2 kids before 18. Dude was baiting girls with silly things, until he also got hooked impregnating a random girl. Long and short, he has been on the same spot in life since then.

Yep! cases of "married woman died during marathon sex with married lover in a hotel" happen mostly in those places.

25k can be enough to turn the head of some married women whose hubby has very little income.

What 1diot human pays tithe of 10% in this century to a god that is unproven and religions run by 419 criminal pastors!

Are you people mad in that useless country?

win2kwire:
What 1diot human pays tithe of 10% in this century to a god that is unproven and religions run by 419 criminal pastors!

Are you people mad in that useless country?

don't start please

alexialin:






Don't mind the op.

That's why u see husband killing wife over 50naira
Wife killing husband over 100naira.

Is that marriage not cursed already from day one?

When no food to eat, everyone at home is angry. And the man will still want to fucvk his hungry looking bonga fish wife.

Mentality of some men never cease to amaze me.

I see some hungry looking married women and children. I just shake my head in wonder.

Those who are not hungry looking, some u see them going to hotels or coming to their married male friends or neighbor office to have short time and the yeye married man will dole out some cash to another mans wife wey hunger one nearly kill for house.

At the end, everyone come back home to deceive each other.

Before I use to be like, I wan marry O... I want marry!

But looking at the betrayals, hunger and shameless attitudes of some married people. Marriage sef no hungry me again. The whole feeling has been squashed down completely.

I Just focus on making my life and my business better, simple!

The worst evil I can do to myself is living in denial and abject poverty cause I want to bear Mrs?

God forbid

We haven't even talked about feeding. Garri is 350 for a derica, rice is 280. Bottle of oil is about 500. And this kind of man will want to eat well o. If he drops 2k every week for food; what will it buy?

That is 8k out of 20k. That one is okro and omi obe everytime with eja kika and lafun because black amala is double the price of white. He should forget soups like edikaikong and kill afang in his mind completely.

Please men think twice...it is a trap

Lalas247:

So it even cost more lol u see my pant na 23k 3 k change remain seff
It's not my fault o .. blame exchange rate .. one day sha naira will carry small weight

lool,funny u,we pray d naira eats some protein by the next time our beloved Bubu returns to London.Naira only fattens up in his absence

AreaFada2:


It is not about coming from anybody.

Simple reality is many are having kids without any income at all. Hardly anything you or I can do to stop it.

Many cannot even afford condom. Because free WHO condoms end up in chemists for sale. I saw that as a kid in the chemist decades ago already. Some have no information (that you may have) on how to get free ones. Nor be today.

I while I'd not dare start a family earning below 250K monthly if I was in 9ja environment, millions of people are not going to use yours or my ideal standard as theirs. If they did, there would we far less poverty today.

Now, how many people have you been able to dissuade from having kids in poverty?

In 9ja, we like to sit on the high horse postulating what is ideal & lofty. Meanwhile the opposite is happening all around us. That becomes sheer hypocrisy.

The man is here giving a practical solution on how to manage, not theory.

area fada excuse me please

There's a poor family I met in my church. A family with 8 children and the wife is a full time housewife relying on the father for everything. The man is a bike man and on a good favourable day he comes home with 2k or 2,500

I talked to him about family planning and tried dissuading him from having more kids, eventually all my talking yielded nothing. Recently his wife called me they have a son now,making 9 children all of them relying on 2k per day.


When I told him about the dangers inherent in having more kids before he had the 9th that he cannot take Care of ,his response was "it's God that takes care of children"


Many of them refuse to listen that's the problem and if you keep talking about it it will look as if you're prying into their business or private lives

When he told me that he had his 9th child and 2 of his kids were sent out of school and I should give him money, I hung up the phone on him and didn't say anything. Since then after church he refuses to greet me and even me no send him again. His wife though still greets me then a Sunday she stylishly said it in a play play manner that its you and my husband that are fighting abi are you quarrelling with me too and I replied her immediately that I'm not fighting with anybody o.I only came to church to worship God and I've achieved that.odabo.na so I walked out if her immediately

ImaIma1:


We haven't even talked about feeding. Garri is 350 for a derica, rice is 280. Bottle of oil is about 500. And this kind of man will want to eat well o. If he drops 2k every week for food; what will it buy?

That is 8k out of 20k. That one is okro and omi obe everytime with eja kika and lafun because black amala is double the price of white. He should forget soups like edikaikong and kill afang in his mind completely.

Please men think twice...it is a trap

Abi?

The men are the ones trapping themselves. Thinking they are trapping the women.

The op is a guy, with his poverty mentality

He dey find who he go Carry join body suffer for life!

Ladies think twice o, before one guy sweet talk una into never ending suffering.

supersystemsng:


bros i'm 30 and not married... don't mind the f00ls, let them jump in and see if marriage is a joke.

When I was about to get married, the first thing my pastor asked was if I had a place of my own, and I had a stable reasonable income. The next thing was an assignment for my wife and I to write a detailed life-plan of where we see ourselves at every stage of our life, our aspirations, and a plan on how to get there.

If you have ever heard stories of how Mr X, a wretched fellow was class-mates with, or grew up with Mr Y, an uber-successful person, and you wondered why their paths diverged in life, its from their individual choices. I know people that got girls pregnant during NYSC, and got stagnated badly in life - one married a deeper-life type girl - today they are divorced: she started screwing for money, got tired of the marriage, and absconded with the kids. A couple of guys I know got married immediately they got jobs cos they were now 'adults' - a few years later, they are stuck cos they didnt get professional certifications, and certainly cant afford them right now - family obligations and all.

I refused to marry until I had attained a bit of professional standing, and married 7 years after a lot of my peers. My son came a month ago, and a lot of crazy un-budgeted expenses came up due to medicals. To the glory of God, I have been able to meet them. I'm cuddling him now while my wife sleeps, and I'm filled with pride that I can provide at least the basics of life, and set my son up for a bright future (amen). Every bank executive I knew married fairly late, and today, they can provide incredible opportunities for their kids, that most of us can only dream of.

God created everyone for a purpose; this life of misery and lack is not for anyone, but too few jump into life with a plan, and instead follow a template that a mediocre society has set for them, and end up miserable. If you think life is about going to school, coming out to get any random job, and getting married as soon as possible cos you want to do everything early without having a plan for the rest of your life, you would come short of your true potential. As your kids grow, what would you even teach them? How to endure suffering? Or how to achieve their true potential? Would you be the one to break the cycle of want in your bloodline? Or the one to perpetuate it? Would you let yourself be an object of ridicule for a starving wife? Or would you be the object of her admiration? Be wise.

Op u have not talked about the wedding itself including bride price, ABI u just carry the woman put for house give am belle ni?

That's not realistic at all.....op forget that thing

Bagehot:


When I was about to get married, the first thing my pastor asked was if I had a place of my own, and I had a stable reasonable income. The next thing was an assignment for my wife and I to write a detailed life-plan of where we see ourselves at every stage of our life, our aspirations, and a plan on how to get there.

If you have ever heard stories of how Mr X, a wretched fellow was class-mates with, or grew up with Mr Y, an uber-successful person, and you wondered why their paths diverged in life, its from their individual choices. I know people that got girls pregnant during NYSC, and got stagnated badly in life - one married a deeper-life type girl - today they are divorced: she started screwing for money, got tired of the marriage, and absconded with the kids. A couple of guys I know got married immediately they got jobs cos they were now 'adults' - a few years later, they are stuck cos they didnt get professional certifications, and certainly cant afford them right now - family obligations and all.

I refused to marry until I had attained a bit of professional standing, and married 7 years after a lot of my peers. My son came a month ago, and a lot of crazy un-budgeted expenses came up due to medicals. To the glory of God, I have been able to meet them. I'm cuddling him now while my wife sleeps, and I'm filled with pride that I can provide at least the basics of life, and set my son up for a bright future (amen). Every bank executive I knew married fairly late, and today, they can provide incredible opportunities for their kids, that most of us can only dream of.

God created everyone for a purpose; this life of misery and lack is not for anyone, but too few jump into life with a plan, and instead follow a template that a mediocre society has set for them, and end up miserable. If you think life is about going to school, coming out to get any random job, and getting married as soon as possible cos you want to do everything early without having a plan for the rest of your life, you would come short of your true potential. As your kids grow, what would you even teach them? How to endure suffering? Or how to achieve their true potential? Would you be the one to break the cycle of want in your bloodline? Or the one to perpetuate it? Would you let yourself be an object of ridicule for a starving wife? Or would you be the object of her admiration? Be wise.

May God bless you for this post...

Very enlightening..

Na wa sha

supersystemsng:


I still haven't recovered fully..No enemy in life like old time friends...I change address easily thesedays, phone numbers, social media accounts...they can rot in hell for all i care

And I thought old friends are the best na was o

Lalas247:

lol it's just exchange rate here doesn't seem so much .. £50 if exchange rate still at #400 that's 20k no lie that how much I pay but seems lots when u convert it ...
Its Buhari fault £ to naira

And where do you shop that a pair of knickers is 50 quid?

AreaFada2:
Fact is millions of Nigerians have no steady legit 20k per month.

So the write up is very useful. Even many NLers talking still rely on parents, siblings, bfs, sugar daddies for 5 or 10k. Nor be 9ja.
In difficult times, managing the little you have is as important as looking for avenues to increase income.

You think unemployed men in their 30s & 40s are not shagging women, getting them preggy & living together/marrying?

Of course they are. It might not be what we deem as ideal. But it is simple reality.

God bless you. The op only gave a perspective on how those with low income can get married and ppl are castigating him. What is the ratio of people earning steady 20k sef? All those people criticizing him are only doing so because they have rich parents.

Habeyy:
u dey mind them
The thing is nobody wants to below standard
But that isn't a justification to flex muscle online
When Npower was announced, many guys including me said a lot of trash about it
Like and behold I was surprised to see millions of Nigerians apply
The question is, if all instagram pictures and snapchat post are to be believed. Where are the unemployed or underemployed coming froM
Everybody forming banana island
Smh

Hehehehe well people are naturally critics of good thing i shared a topic with some of my friends it was about n power, several thousands of you know who condemned the program calling it a ready made cake for Hausas


One of the critics was the first person to open a thread about not receiving salaries even though it wasn't a month yet


Point is these ladies have turned slaying into olosho business, young and old but majority of them don't want to work,


I met a female student once, she learnt catering used to do cakes for environmental department in an institution she didn't have much but she was people's envy when she launched her slay queen career she was dating a Yahoo boy, that one carries her around in his muscle, shops for her this and that,


She still dated a student, that one was a bricklayer / Mason very diligent and makes average monies

. This same biatch is dating Okada boy that one too gives her money,


While the puszzy was selling she abandoned catering, contrary to what everybody thought one shopping is about 200k, an amount more than enough to open shop and establish that amount is different from pocket money from bricklayer and Okada


Eventually all three guys met at her house, fought maturely and left her she's back to square - 5 now , story spread like wild fire she can't buy flower let alone buy pants, her shop is gone, nobody wants to sponsor her, what do you think of that?

tunary:
And I thought old friends are the best na was o

trust me...run from those retards. they're only the best whne you're on the same financial level not when you're better off, or they're better off

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Lalas247:

lol it's just exchange rate here doesn't seem so much .. £50 if exchange rate still at #400 that's 20k no lie that how much I pay but seems lots when u convert it ...
Its Buhari fault £ to naira

"...hi lalas247,i must say the lord is truely wonderful in his ways...if you know what i mean by your profile pic.

Lalas247:
Lefulefu can you imagine
Even my pant cost more but nice sha for ppl with low funds

What are you feeling like? SMH!