So I have this girl who gave birth a year. Now we not dating even before she gave birth. Now there are challenges and she can no longer cater for rhe child. Her mom came to my house a week ago, teary eyed, saying her daughter left the baby with a woman who agreed to take care of her for a monthly payment of N10,000.

Now of course I am the father, I was stunned. Cos all along she told me the baby was with her sister in Owerri. I transferred N400,000 to her account and offered her to bring the baby here, rather than languish with some local foster care.

Two days later there they were. The mom and baby..the effect of poor nutrition was evident. I was beyond pissed.

Now it so happened that I was painting my house on that very day. So I lodged them in a Hotel close by while we allow the paints to dry. After paying the bills I have her N10k. The next day she complained bout money I sent her N20k. In three days I sent her 45k. Without asking her she brought some list as evidence of how she spent the money.

So today I was rudely awakened from sleep by the girl. She said my number was switched off, hence she came. The paints are dry. So we got into the car to the Hotel to get the baby. All this while shes been with her sister of maybe 15 to 17 years.

I live in a one bedroom duplex with my room upstairs and living room downstairs. Soon as we got home she and her little house help went straight to my room
To watch DSTV. An hour later she came downstairs saying shes is hungry. So I drove out to buy fast food.

1 hour, 2 hours, 3 hours......little House help will not leave my bed. I needed to shower and was furious I had to tell my girl to tell her House help to get d Bleep off my bed, I wanna shower.

I drove out for an appointment, came in late (40 minutes ago as of this writing). She opened the door for me while I turned on the generator. So I walk into my house. Kitchen empty. Disappointed I decided to go to bed. But guess what. Her House help is on my bed. In a nutshell I have to sleep on my couch.

Now I know what to do, but in the event I might be overreacting, I need your input on this

She's the mother of your child

nothing can change that

but be nice and firm with her.

learn to also say no to her demands and try not to spoil her with too much money

Evaberry:
She's the mother of your child

nothing can change that

but be nice and firm with her.

learn to also say no to her demands and try not to spoil her with too much money

Thanks..but you gotta understand. We are not dating. Everything I do is on humanitarian ground. But since she is the mother it a fair to say I just mind end up marrying her. But she is exhibiting the very same reason that made me dump her. A sensible girl will have the House help get off my bed and not let me sleep on the couch in my own house.

Get rid of the house help. There is no room for her. Why is this one treating house help better than you?

Useless girls dont know how to treat a good man!

Chelseafan99:


Thanks..but you gotta understand. We are not dating. Everything I do is on humanitarian ground. But since she is the mother it a fair to say I just mind end up marrying her. But she is exhibiting the very same reason that made me dump her. A sensible girl will have the House help get off my bed and not let me sleep on the couch in my own house.

have u talked to her about it?

I guess you should try to communicate with her.

and no don't marry her just because she's the mother of your child.

Evaberry:


have u talked to her about it?

I guess you should try to communicate with her.

and no don't marry her just because she's the mother of your child.

Precisely. If i have to talk to my girl about her House help on my bed...then you know there's no point. This girl is stupid.

Hahahahahahaha. I felt sorry after reading this . nah 2x4 plank i go use beat devil comot that house help body.

Op, you got yourself into this mess, and you don't know it. When dem chop you finish, and you're now broke, please remember to mention me. Niggas vexing me this days. Why can't all guys have my kind of OT