Copyright: No part of this should be transmitted to an unknown source without prior consent and allowance by the author or acknowledgement. This was written by Richie of Chatinent.
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In most countries, sixty-one percent of married women bring in house helps into their home. There is good in bringing house help to your home, however, there is more harm than good. Let's point out some of the sour part of bringing house helps into your matrimonial home, to perhaps, escape your rightful duties as mother, and inversely, a wife.
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1. Whose kids. Most mothers will use subterfuges that they are the working-class and have less time to care for their children and that was what arose the need for a house help. As a mother, your job should not be a hindrance to your upbringing of a (your) child. If the job becomes too disturbing, find a better one that may spare you time. At least, you may work during school hours or better still, be self employed. These children at tender age need more of mum.
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2. Kids on market. Yes, I liken it to putting your kids for sale and when the best bidder rides by, you will be sorry for yourself. Go into the internet and see what house helps do to their boss' kids and how they ruin the family. So far, they are the ones responsible feeding the kids while you are away, and even your husband, maybe. I wonder, how do you think sb would feel seeing another as superior over her when the keys to unlock superiority over the latter lies awake in her hands?
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3. My husband, your husband. Ha ha, it's not funny but you may already be thinking what I'm thinking; you are away for about nineteen hours in twenty-four hours and your house help is twenty-four hours with the kids and husband. What do you think wud happen when your husband needs you and.., he can't even find you around his every needs? Don't be surprise to return one day to notice that your house help is now the house wife (because that's what you made her) and you, become the house maid.
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4. Who mothers the children and murders the real motherhood. Truth has it that a child's bond to their mother starts from childhood, don't sell it because of a job you could retain when lose but can not recover that bond when unattended to.
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My advice to women is, they should drive steering clear of house helps and build their family as they want. The phrase 'had I known' is usually you knowing and hiding the truth afore now. Be wise, be discreet, be decisive, so you won't be chasing monkeys and lose the bananas.
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Origin: http://chatinent.com.ng/index.php?act=ST&f=17&t=334&st=0#entry614

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Views, questions, suggestions are all welcomed.

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Awo is a coward.

After reading your write up, I am more convinced than ever that I need a help

My mother almost killed me the day I was sent to go buy salt for a jollof rice that was already on fire, after 2hours of waiting for me, only for my mum to come out to see me in front of the street doing "change your style, yah!, Another style woooo!, be like that!!!"... I was still "being like that" when my mum landed thunder on my left ear.. For complete seven days, I was continuously hearing "mother in the kitchen cooking rice"...

i can never get a househelp no matter how busy i am.

motun2017:
i can never get a househelp no matter how busy i am.

still won't stop Oga from 'kpeshing' outside

The greatest reason is for him/her not to replace you in bed

motun2017:
i can never get a househelp no matter how busy i am.

laide said the same thing

Dis 1 na real talk

I personally don't like having house helps. Odikwa risky

motun2017:
i can never get a househelp no matter how busy i am.

Darling. You're really cute

I personally don't like having house helps. Odikwa risky!

You made it look like na only the woman get d pinkin

Wicked Nigerian women

True talk. You should never ever allow your housemaid assume the role of a mother to your children.

Mariinee:
Darling. You're really cute

aww thanks

peacettw:
After reading your write up, I am more convinced that I need a help

Yes please get one so that you can be chased out of your marriage....

motun2017:
aww thanks

You are welcome.

That one wey carry muscles na wa o

jashar:
Find a better job. Really? Like it's that easy in Nigeria. Be real abeg....

The whole post reads like you're not in support of mothers working....

No, I am however, I'm stressing 'care,' loveliest.

Nairalànd leave women alone.
If it isn't giving them rules and regulations. Its a thread bashing them

You made it look like na only the woman get d pinkin. A man who Will cheat will cheat. Both parents needs to bond with a child trust me it's not the sole responsibility of the mother. The only thing needed is prayers and your family moves forward. Even people in the bible had slaves who helps their mistress and master.
Shout out to all responsible hardworking mothers with househelps.

The worst these days are parents who patronize OLX to solicit for househelps. No matter how good a househelp may be, it can never be better off than the motherly role expected of every mother at home especially in nurturing the children.

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The op that wrote this trash is indeed sick


A misogynist fellow.


A mother should do whatever she wants to do.

It's not bad to have a househelp, I'd prefer a part time househelp, the problem arise when the mother allocates everything to the househelp.

Opinions in tuber. Thank you all for reading my article.

Evaberry:
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The op that wrote this trash is indeed sick


A misogynist fellow.


A mother should do whatever she wants to do.

Everyone has their discretion, I just happen to post mine. I was sick two minutes ago , now, I'm watchful.